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I'm Jack/Jamie.I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.
I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.
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--Jack
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I work in retail and I feel like my coworker has been flirting with me..and I may have been subconsciously doing it also.
He's an overall friendly/funny guy so he's nice to everyone but I feel like he approaches me and makes an effort to talk to me more.
He approached me today to tell me the DUMBEST joke...and I can't believe I started cracking up. He always seems to tease me and makes fun of me esp when I do something wrong (but he smiles while he says he...and it's not harsh; it actually makes me laugh). He doesnt tease anyone else as much. I didn't want to think that he was flirting with me but I started being observant to see if he was treating my other cute coworker females that way...and he doesn't..It seems like he puts more of an effort with me than with others. Also, whenever I'm talking and I think that he's not listening...He catches what I'm saying and may even interrupt or question me about it or bring it up at a later time. ---IS HE JUST HAVING FUN or is he flirting with me? I mean, am I WAY over my head or does he like me? It's driving me nuts because I can't figure out how he feels about me. Help me please. Any other signs that I should notice? Thanks for all your time!
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340
From there:
I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!
He's pretty much done all of these, it seems like. I think he likes you, and I think he's definitely flirting ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
what are the best most effective yet relatively subtly ways to flirt?? i kno to be myself and stuff but i want to get even better at flirting and expand my style/ways of flirting. ;) thanks!!
1. Smile! If you're not smiling, chances are the guy won't be interested.
2. Don't always talk about yourself, let him talk about himself, too! Balance the conversation. Yes, conversations are a HUGE way to flirt more indirectly ;].
3. Think about what you do. Don't just blindly go around flirting with everyone. Some people don't want to flirt, and you can tell by their body language, facial expressions, etc.
4. Be nice. I can't tell you how many times I've seen girls be complete bitches. It's SO irritating. If you're not nice, then it isn't worth the effort. Guys don't like bitches.
5. BE YOURSELF! I know you said not to say this, but as the above question told you, if you aren't yourself- who are you going to be? You aren't being truthful with the guy if you're making up things about yourself or you're doing things you normally wouldn't do. The guy will get the wrong impression and may like something about you that isn't even a part of you.
6. HAVE FUN! If you aren't at least doing that, I don't know what to tell you ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
I tend to give quite a lot of advice on this site, but I often find myself skimming the questions, and if there's one that I've had a question about, I read the answers.
So yeah, is it weird that even though I answer a lot of questions, I still have my own about some things?
Shouldn't the advice givers know most of the things they are answering about?
Sometimes I find myself looking up more information about a topic when answering a question...
Thank you.
Trust me, you're not alone. I often find myself getting advice I would have never dreamed I would find. Just because you're an advice giver doesn't mean you have to know everything. No one does, and if they claim to, well then they're lying.
It's kind of like, just because you may be the smartest kid in the class, it doesn't mean there won't be something along the line that confuses you or makes you ask questions. And that's okay! It's completely normal!
Keep on giving good advice and if you ever need advice, don't feel afraid to look- it's not like anyone will know anyway ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
myxertones.com doesnt work for verizon anymore.
and phonezoo doesnt have like music ringtones, is there any other websites that I can go to?
www.funformobile.com
www.mobile17.com
Enjoy =]
--Jack
(16/m)
hi . im 13 years old . and ima girl if you dont know . soo i like this guy .. :) and i want him to notice me and i have him on myspace as a friend and i wanna comment him but i think that would be a little strange because he dosent know me but he dose know my friend and she said she would hook me up with him and i wanna get to be friendly with him without being a wierdo (lmao) . so anways how do i approche him ?
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520
From there:
The best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.
I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.
Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].
The best way to approach him is to, like I said above, is to be yourself. Talk as if he were one of your friends. As in, just be calm and relaxed about it. Start a conversation with him like you would with your friends. And I don't think it's weird to talk to him over myspace. A lot of people break the ice in friendships over the internet, to be honest. =]
--Jack
(16/m)
Before you judge me, Ive had a hard life..And i dont think you need or care to know about who i wrote this for..I would like to know if it is a good song or not...theres no title yet.
youll be sorry.
about what you have done to me...
one day, your gonna regret doing it all.
your gonna try to apoligize,
and let me tell you..
it will be too late.
you try to tell me i control you and i know i dont
and everyone else thinks your crazy, sweetie,
dont give me lip, your makin yourself look foolish,
and by now you should know it..
but its pretty obvious your oblivious to the whole situation.
you tell me to forget and if you think i can then your stupid
you cant ever forget, maybe forgive but thats it, thats all.
its just how it goes, i guess.
and its not even funny that you cant admit that your wrong,
its sickening and i dont care what ANYONE says im done with you
and your damn child games, im not playing anymore,
and no, its not a forfit.
its me being the bigger person, even though ive been trampled on plenty of times.
one day, your gonna regret doing it all,
your gonna try to apoligize,
and let me tell you,
it will be too late.
maybe, just maybe youll wake up sometime and REALIZE what youve done to hurt me,
but most of how youve contributed to my personality,
youve left me here, youve kicked me out,
i dont even want to deal with you any more...
youve done so much to hurt me and its not even worth writing about anymore
i want you out the door hunny,
you can get out right now...
im DONE with you and your stupid games get outta my life
and well talk when you change.
one day, your gonna regret doing it all,
your gonna try to apoligize,
and let me tell you,
it will be too late.
too damn late.[fade out]
We don't normally do song reviews/poem reviews and such, but I read that, and I honestly felt your emotion.
Although it's obviously supposed to be mean [I didn't say that was wrong], it is good because I FEEL your pain. I think you could seriously have a career in poetry/song writing, because that was good.
--Jack
(16/m)
I'm married (have been for 5 years) and I recently ran into my old high school flame. I was crazy about him but it didn't work out because he moved away. He is married now as well (but not happily). We decided to secretly meet up and catch up on old times. Since then we have been talking a lot and he says he thinks he is falling in love with me and he wants to leave his wife. He asked me if I would leave my husband for him. Truthfully I have thought about it. He says he thinks it is meant to be, and in a way I do too. I'm just not sure what to do. I love my husband but I don't think I'm in love with him anymore. I'm just not sure if I would be making a mistake. I just need some advice without being judged.
I completely agree with Brandi below me.
If kids are involved, I would not do this. Kids going through a divorce end up emotionally scarred. It just is never good for the kids unless they were abused by one of the parents or something.
Was the marriage with your husband happy before this guy came back? Like Brandi said, if it was, it really isn't worth it to end your marriage to start another, just because some guy from high school came around doesn't mean you should drop what you already have for him.
But if you're honestly unhappy with your marriage right now, and it has NOTHING to do with this old flame, then I would say go for it. I am pretty much against divorce, but it's not my life, so I can't really hold you to my standards.
--Jack
(16/m)
For females:
Are you supposed to shave your bikini area?
I can't afford a bikini wax but when I shave I get stubble and all that. Plus,when you shave yourself you can't really get DOWN UNDER. Do you even have to shave at all? Help!!!
For Males:
Is a hairy or clean shaven vagina more attractive?
Honestly I would much rather a girl be comfortable with who she is than worry about shaving in that region, you know what I mean?
But, I'm still a virgin, and I have no idea if completely unshaven would be comfortable or not.
If you want to know for sure, ask your partner. After all, it's him that sees it, not us ;]
Please practice safe sex.
--Jack
(16/m)
hi, random question but what would you say is a good age for kissing (like on the lips...with a guy you love). plz don't say "any age, as long as your ready" caz that's not what i want. when did you kiss? what's a really common age?
You've already gotten many answers, but that's alright ;]
I had my first kiss actually around 8 or 9, but that's a different story. If you don't count that, because I was in elementary school, and I was quite the man whore =O, then my first kiss was at 14. I'm no longer dating her, and honestly, kissing and stuff should only be for people who are serious. Her and I weren't that serious, and pretty much we broke up because I felt we kissed too much and it was becoming habitual and routine. It was pretty much the same story with my last girlfriend.
But, to answer your question, the average age is from 12-15, at least from what I've experienced/heard. As the generations lose touch with morals, the age lessens. ;]
But don't judge yourself on what everyone else does. Have your first kiss when you're comfortable with it ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
my armpits sweat really, really, REALLY bad all the time. i've tried tons of different deodorants, & nothing seems to help. it's so embarrassing. any suggestions?
Have you tried Certain Dri?
http://www.instyle.com/instyle/products/productfinder/browse/0,,BrandsTax:CertainDry_1_8__8_1,00.html
My sister uses it and it works great =].
Also, ask your doctor, because they can give you a prescription for something that will work =].
--Jack
(16/m)
When someone has their details hidden on myspace, how can you read them?
If you have Firefox, go to "View" up top, then go to "Page Style", and then chose "No Style", and that shows all of their information.
I'm not sure about Internet Explorer, but I'm sure it's similar. ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
so, I really like this site and will continue using it, but sometimes I get tired of all the repeated questions of "does he like me?" "Boy problems" "am I pregnant" etc, etc. I am not a teenage girl, but I do understand the teens asking these questions though. Anyway, does anyone know of another site like this that is more adult oriented? thanks
You could always try Yahoo Answers, but this site is much more advanced.
I, too, get tired of those questions. I just learned to ignore them. When you look at questions, you can search for certain categories, which might help filter out the questions you don't like, that most of us don't like either ;]
Please stay =]
--Jack
(16/m)
lately i've been listening to alot of country music and i like it alot. i was just wondering what are some good songs or singers besides kenny chesney and taylor swift? thankyou.
http://www.countrymusicsuperstar.com/
From there:
Garth Brooks
Toby Keith
Alan Jackson
Trace Adkins
Rick Bass
Tim Mcgraw
Kenny Chesney
Shania Twain
Faith Hill
George Strait
Brooks and Dunn
Clint Black
Enjoy =]
--Jack
(16/m)
so...i like this boy..and argh...he goes to church...but this time..it's different..so we went camping together and it was great! we got a bit tighter as friends..yet there are times when he looks at me and i catch him glancing...yet we say were both bro and sis like yet why does he give the sense of the fact that he likes me?
and my friend from church..i asked her what she thought and she said if anything she thinks the boy likes me if anything a little at least.
WHAT DO I DO TO MAKE HIM LIKE ME..or like me more..or get the straight out answer if he does like me
and i'm really scared to confess because our friendship is so important to me.
Here's some tips about how to see if a guy likes you:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340
From there:
I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520
From there:
First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded.
Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks.
I myself like any type of girl. I honestly don't judge looks as much as I do personality. If a girl is absolutely stunningly beautiful, but she's a bitch- why would I like her? What would our relationship be? What would we talk about? Her latest hair extensions? Yeah- that would be REALLY nice *Sarcasm: Party of one!*...
If a girl has a really nice personality- and she's really outgoing and sweet and nice and smart- and she's not necessarily the best looking girl- but she's not super unattractive- then I'll most likely want to date her over the beautiful bitch.
Do you get what I'm saying? If you let guys see your personality more than your looks- you'll end up with someone great. Trust me- most guys prefer personality over looks- they just don't know it yet =].
Sometimes staying friends is the best thing to do ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
here's the deal. i'm turning 18 in a little less than two weeks. i just graduated high school with honors and i have some great friends that i love and an amazing boyfriend that loves me and is wonderful to me. my parents are my biggest fans in everything i do, and i'm so grateful for them (and the rest of my family). so far this summer has been phenomenal- i've had crazy late nights with my girls, my boyfriend is coming on vacation with me on my birthday, i recieved a large amount of money for graduation so i've been able to do whatever i want, and my family is perfect. my parents got me a laptop for graduation, a printer as an early birthday present, and i got an awesome cell phone for christmas. all this has got me thinking, everything is so perfect, there HAS to be something about to go wrong.
my younger sister's boyfriend broke up with her tonight. he was going on vacation with us too. they've been dating a year less than my boyfriend and i have, and seemed fine. i feel so guilty, that everything in my life is great and hers isn't as much. it's starting to hurt my relationship too, because i keep reading and watching these silly romance novels and movies and i see how they act, and i feel like my boyfriend should be like that too (even though he's not outgoing/the romantic type at all). i feel like i'm on the brink of something bad, and it scares me like hell. god has blessed me in so many ways, and i'm sure i haven't deserved it all. anyone have a similar situation or any advice? thank you so much.
I say just keep thinking positive. Just because everything is going well, it doesn't mean something HAS to be bad. God does work in mysterious ways, though =].
If you're really scared, I would try talking to your boyfriend about this all. He might understand and be able to offer you some comfort.
Just keep praying to God that He may continue to bless you and keep everything going smooth =]
--Jack
(16/m)
I recently saw the movie Charade on TV and it was so awesome! I love black and white thriller movies that have a bunch of twists. Sort of like the movie Sorry, Wrong Number. It's like once in a blue moon that I find awesome movies like this, does anyone know of anymore?
thanks so much =)
PS- not Psycho.
One of my friends loves that movie. But she's not here right now.. haha. So I'm relying on memory and the internet to help ;]
To Catch a Thief, Dementia 13, Buckets of Blood, Santa Claus Battles the Martians, Ed Wood films, etc.
If that doesn't help- I'll ask my friend tomorrow [I'll see her] and see what she says ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2 months now and I'm ready to take it another step further. She acts kinda like she would have sex... but I'm not sure. When were making out we get on eachother and she lets me take off her pants and stuff, but we never go any further. How do I ask her if she wants to have sex without making her making her mad? I'm afraid theres a possibility she will say no and get mad.
Thanks in Advance.
Communication, as with every problem on here, is KEY.
If you never let her know, she'll never know. You have to talk to her. Although 2 months isn't that long, if she's a special girl, she'll at least listen. If she is willing to go further, then she'll say so. But please don't be forceful, which it sounds like you wouldn't be anyway.
Please, use protection so you won't get STDs. I'm pretty against birth control methods, but I'm all for protecting yourself against STDs, because they can kill you ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
i need to find this bag,,,the only website i've found is this one and its on another languge and i need it in english since im buying that in dollars
the small one :) cause theres a large version of it
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
in black or pink! preferable in black!! ...but ALL the websites i've found it the bag is sold out!! please help!!
DO NOT say try ebay or amazon cause at least what i've look for is not in there , if you find it there ok but i've already checked!
http://cgi.ebay.com/GUESS-BERRY-PINK-AIRPORT-LARGE-TOTE-HANDBAG-MSRP-95_W0QQitemZ360066867940QQihZ023QQcategoryZ63852QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem
Someone from the other question you asked found it.
And so did I ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
What color should I paint my room? I wan't a warm color but nothing too young, but nothing i will get sick of either. Hope you have some great ideas!
Neutral colors tend to be very soothing and relaxing.
So that would be like gray or brown.. black, too- but that gets depressing.
My sister has her's like lime green, with shapes on the walls in purple, blue, pink, and orange. It's really cool. =]
The person below said orange OR brown, but how about orange AND brown? Like with stripes? ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
how did you go about your college essay? What kinds of things did you write about... if you cant give me that, then could you possibly give me advice on how to go about writing it?
I actually was reading "Chicken Soup for the College Soul", and it had someone's essay that they got accepted with. It was completely hilarious, and it was all a bunch of crap.
He claimed he did these amazing things, that were so outlandish, but it wasn't really bragging about it. He obviously didn't do any of these things, because they were impossible. He said he read Moby Dick, Paradise Lost, and a million other books in one day, and then he still had time to refurbish an entire room in the afternoon.
Then he ended with something like this:
"With all of these things, I have never once been to college."
You might not want to take that approach, but I'm assuming if you make the essay-readers laugh a bit, without being too out-of-line, you might get them to accept you.
But if you want to take the serious route, I suggest talking about an experience that changed you, but not something that is seen on the rest of your application, as the person below said. Write about something they wouldn't be able to tell from your application.
And of course, do many revisions ;]
--Jack
(16/m)