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Hi! I'm 18/f & my boyfriend is 18/m; We have been together for a year, but it feels like so much longer. I'm in college, studying to be a NeoNatal Nurse; My boyfriend's mom left him homeless as soon as he turned 18, therefore he has been living with my parents and I since August.
Riley & I have both agreed that we shouldn't get married until I am done with college and have a stable job. I know we haven't been together long, but since we have been faced with a lot of adult problems, it seems like we work together well, and we have been together for years. I wouldn't mind if he proposed to me, because getting engaged doesn't mean you have to get married immediately. Right? My dad told him when he moved in, that he has 6 months to save up money from his job, and get his own place. So he moves out on Feb. 14th. He is really wanting me to move in with him; and I would, but the economy is so bad, I'd rather stay with my parents, because its free, and focuse on school and not have to worry about a job right now since I'm dealing with the toughest classes of the career at this moment.
But, what I'm trying to get at is, Riley says he doesn't want to get engaged until 3 or 4 more years, but he says that he knows I'm the one he will be with for the rest of his life. But why wait that long, if he supposively knows I the one for him? I'm not rushing him at all. I respect his decision; I'd rather him do it when he feels it right, instead of rushing, and regretting.
You both are young, Right now he may feel like you are the one but you also should know that if it was meant to be then what is the rush? A year is not long and despite someone feeling someone is the one for them anything can happen, Nobody truly knows if someone is their lifetime partner. You are right, The economy is really bad and this is exactly why I would wait. Enjoy one another's relationship for now and when you are done with College then see where you both are. You wouldn't want to become engaged and then have something happen in the course of 3-4 years. Sure, Nobody needs to get married right after engagement but at the same time you should have a plan to how long it will be before you marry as a few years being engaged can be a drag depending on exactly how long it is. I wouldn't even be talking about marriage until you both know that you can afford it and have a steady place of your own. Your boyfriend hasn't even moved out on his own yet, Wait and see if he is able to get his own place and then see if he can handle the finances afterward. Ride it out a few years and then see where it takes you because the last thing you want to do is be engaged when you still live at home with your parents. Getting engaged now will put a ton of stress on your relationship.
I've been dating my boyfriend for a year. Over the course of the relationship we've generally been happy, but have had our ups and downs. Sometimes (i guess due to being in contact 24/7) i feel as if i almost take him for granted in a way and start to get REALLY fed up with him. Lately i just feel like he says something that offends me every day, and he's kind of being insensitive towards me. I feel like I'm partially taking things too personally since I've just been annoyed with him in general. I think it's a little bit of both of us. This has happened before and it always goes away within a few weeks or less, but right now, Im not sure how to handle it. He's driving me up a wall and talking to him the last week has been less than pleasant. I've brought up so many things that have irked me in the last few days that I'm pretty sure he's done taking me seriously. How should i deal with this?
ps. we took a break a few months ago, and everything was AMAZING right after because of the whole "you want what you cant have". now its kind of settled out and i want to feel like he needs me the way i need him
I'm going to agree with Pumpkin
You've pretty much answered it, If you are not happy then there is no point in stressing it more then it already is. The very end of your question states that you were happy without him while you two took a break. If you can't stand to be around him then call it off and find someone else you will be able to relate more too. When you do, Try not to constantly be around each other all the time because relationships need to breathe.
I am trying to get back with my ex....problem is she wants to be with her ex she hasnt seen in years thats in the army in japan and not comming home anytime soon. What should i do i mean why be with someone you cant see? I am hurt and dont know what to do
Move on,
You don't want to date someone who is in love with someone else. If she wants to be with her ex the obviously she isn't ready to date anyone else as she still has feelings for him. Don't waste your time sticking around for a lost cause, Go and meet someone else.
Hey all, 24f here, my boyfriend is 23.
This is such a weird question for me to ask, but why not?
We haven't been together too long (a few months), but we've known each other for almost 10 years, so there's a lot of history and a lot of trust. Being that there's a lot of trust/openness and honesty, we've started talking about fulfilling sexual fantasies. I'm still trying to figure out what mine are, having never had the chance to explore that, but one of his is, as most guys, to have a threesome with another girl.
He wants me to pick the girl so it's someone I'm comfortable with. I tried to be open to a couple of his ideas, but when it came down to it I was uncomfortable, and told him so. So, it's on me.
I've actually talked to a couple of my girl friends about this, but one of them is on a different continent for who knows how long, and another is currently in a relationship, though she's not happy... Don't worry, I'd never encourage someone to cheat on their significant other.
I really actually WANT to do this with my boyfriend. My only stipulations were "she has to be clean and tested."
I'm just kind of wondering, has anyone had experience with this kind of stuff? Has anyone successfully had a threesome and had a good experience? Bad experience? How did you initiate? How did you set it all up? That kinda stuff. I need ideas. I've never done this before...
Thanks for your feedback!
One of the main things you should bare in mind are it's not just something you know you are okay with but mentally would you be able to handle it.
There are pros and cons
Are you okay with sharing your boyfriend with another women? I know you both stated that you trust one another but what would happened if he started to develop feelings for her too? or what if perhaps she started to develop feelings on her end? I have never experienced a threesome personally but from people I know who have it wasn't as great as they expected it too be. I'm not saying don't do it but in my personal opinion I think I would pass on this one and find something else to try out.
This Friday I stayed the night at my boyfriend's house, we had a conversation that really stuck with me. It has definitely inspired what I want to get him for Christmas, instead of getting him a video game that he wants I want to spend the same amount of money on a promise ring. After purchasing it, I plan on getting it engraved on the inside with our names, and 4/18/2011 – the day that I agreed to be with his girlfriend. I have seen a few nice ones that I like, and that I think would fit his masculine, clean-cut and athletic tastes.
Doing the math we have been together for almost seven months, this is my longest romantic and sexual relationship. However we have been talking for about a year now, although I did end up choosing another guy over him at first which ended up being a mistake. As far as talking like guys and girls tend to do before getting into a relationship, we started talking in January. Obviously you can tell that I have been talking to him for awhile and know several things about him.
He really is a great boyfriend and goes above and beyond for me, he takes really good care of me. We have discussed the potential of marriage and since I first started seeing him, I have always thought that he has the traits that I want for my future husband to have, and often when we're together, I find myself thinking, “Why don't you just marry me already?” I told him that when we were lying in bed together and he basically proposed to me, I said, “I want to marry you one day, I really don't think that we're ready though.”
And we're really not, I'm only 20, and he's only 22, I'm about to start college (I'm a bit behind) and he's almost in the middle of his junior year of college, and we're both still living at home. He's unemployed and not too long ago I started a job working at a retail store, in which I have only been getting two days a week. As you can tell, realistically, we're in no point in our lives to be considering getting married.
I told him to ask me again when he's done with college, has a job and can afford to buy me an engagement ring. I do plan on saying yes then, although we won't be getting married until I'm working a full time job and have my college degree, since I consider one of the aspects of marriage to be having a family one day and I would like to have a wedding. I don't really want to be tied down with a husband a baby, until I get my degree. I also told him that for now we should get each other promise rings, since they're usually much more affordable and they symbolize a special type of commitment to each other.
To me the promise ring symbolizes that I do love him, want to have a future with him, that I really don't think that I can do any better, and that when it's the proper time for us to get engaged I will say yes.
My only issue now is determining his ring size, I really don't want to out and out tell him about me getting him a promise ring for Christmas. I would love it if he got me one too, but I want him to get me a promise ring because he wants to get me one, not because I'm getting him one. We live a state away from each other, so it's difficult for me to find out his ring size. Is there a way for me to sneak it? Like maybe next time I'm staying over night, measure his ring size when he's fast asleep? Or ask him to go to a jeweler with me, and get our ring sizes measured together? Anyone go through a similar situation, any ideas?
Honestly, I wouldn't be discussing marriage until you are both out on your own and know what it's like to be independent. They say once a couple lives together it is the test of their relationship, If you can get past the first 6 months then you know you guys are able to successfully live with one another. If you want to get a promise ring you just simply ask him what his size is, If you don't want to be blunt about it then if you have any rings you could bring it up by staring at the ring and saying "Isn't my ring pretty?....Why don't you try it on to see if it fits on any fingers" Then of course it doesn't fit and you say "Oh, well I have small fingers...I think I wear a so and so size" then ask him what size he wears. (lol) odd but hey it might work. I wouldn't try and measure his size while he is sound asleep if he ever woke up that'd be really weird.
EDIT: Well good luck giving a ring to him, I think he'd like the video game much better anyway! You still live at home and aren't independent....I still stick by my word and if you don't want people making comments then don't put it in your question! ;)
Hi!
I am an 18 year old female.
I've had a few relationships, not a lot, but all lasted nearly a year and here's my ordeal. Well I dated a guy for about ten months last year, my best friend of 4 years, he dumped me in probably one of the worst ways possible and really broke my heart. I realized maybe I was a bit too young anyway. Well I gave myself a few months and mostly just dated around nothing serious until I met this guy, I fell head over heals for him, tall, sweet, handsome. Well It took a lot for me to trust someone again, I contemplated several weeks before taking it to the next level with him. I really liked his family and spent a lot of nights with him and we became very close. I met him through a mutual friend. Well one day out of the blue, I found out he was sleeping with someone that wasn't me. Well I ended it, and now those walls are back up twice as sturdy as before. I was really hurt, well now I am deciding to stay single until I can figure myself out and get everything I need in order. I work at a day care and I ref soccer. That's basically all I have going for me. I really want to pursue my dreams, I want to be an artist, I am really good, I've been told I am I have won awards and I am happy about that. I really want to pursue this however, I also would love to get more experience with kids and maybe become the head of a daycare instead of an assistant.
Here's my problem though. I really love being with someone, I want to go out and find someone but I know it will get in the way of my plans and maybe even stall them. I want to do my own thing but part of me wants someone. I am not really sure what to do. I have my whole life to find someone, but I could miss my career opportunities at any minute. I don't want to get married until I am at least 28. I know if I find someone now the odds of them dating me for ten years are pretty slim, and I don't want to fail and fail and fail at relationships again. I am just torn and confused. Stay single, do my own thing and advance in my personal life, or find someone special and try and not let that get in the way of my own personal journey.
Someone please help :/
Right now I would focus on what you need to do, You are young and too young to be thinking about settling down with someone. If you enjoy working with kids and you are great at artwork then I would suggest looking into becoming an art teacher. Don't become so hung up on relationships right now, Give yourself a break until you are ready to date again. Maybe somewhere down the road of your journey you will end up meeting someone but in the meantime focus on you. Sometimes it is difficult to balance goals while dating so take the time to work on achieving what you want to do and something may open up for you on your way there.
Hello,
I'm 19 and i've been with my boyfriend almost 7 months, i'm not considering having sex as of now unless it's over a year. I never wanted to lose it unless I got married because I am religious. I've been in other relationships, however i've never had to think twice about whether I want to do it before or after marriage and this guy i've loved him for a while we knew each for about a year before we dating and i always liked him and when we began dating my feelings grew much stronger. Long story short would you guys have sex before marriage or do you think it's too big of a sin to? also because i'm relgious I was wondering can you still go church after having sex before marriage without it being wrong? sorry if it's complicated i'm so confused apart of me wants to do it but religion is holding me back.
I'm not religious, Personally I believe it's okay to have sex with someone you truly care about and have been with for awhile. I think anyone can go to Church, Someone doesn't have to be a virgin to go and share their beliefs. If you feel that you love this man and are ready to be intimate with him then I don't see anything wrong with it but whatever you decide to do make sure you are ready because you don't want to regret anything. I am not looking to offend you but I really think some people are too caught up in what is a sin and what is not. I think someones actions should be more about what is right and what is wrong not based on what others believe.
18/f
I recently asked this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=599925
I am planning on breaking up with my current boyfriend soon, and thank you to all the people who gave great advice on how to go about doing that :)
My question revolves around the boy (who isn't my boyfriend). He was talking to one of my friends and apparently regrets not being with me when he had the chance. I really do like him but I'm not sure what I should do because my friend still likes him a lot.
I don't know how to go about this situation without hurting anybody.
If you want to be with the other guy, Go for it like I previously said. If you don't, You could miss something that could be a great opportunity. Sometimes there are choices in life that we need to make for ourselves, Not other people. You just can't please everyone, If the girl isn't dating him then if you were to date him you haven't done anything wrong and if she liked him then why hasn't she done anything about it?... This is up too you but don't let someone come between you making your own choices.
I'm a 14 year old female and I have terrible acne. Its all over my face and at random times. I have very pale skin so every little thing is very noticeable. By the end of the school day I look so oily its disgusting. Home remedies? Products? HELP pleasee I'm so embarrassed.
Proactive is supposed to be excellent, It's been advertised for a while now.
Looks like this:
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You can buy it here:
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and also i got cracks and bleeding on it what shoul i do?
Stop breast feeding your infant directly, You can buy breast pumps or formula.
so me and m boyfriend have been together for about a year. we dont live together. I'm in college and was using his laptop to catch up on some homework while he was at work when i was typing something into the top and it came up with past history of him looking at hot sex nude videos among other things. im not sure how i should respond. i feel like i should be upset and angry or am i just over reacting?
You are over reacting, This is typical guy behavior. Almost every guy you date will have his moments of porn, Getting all pissy about it isn't going to solve anything. As long as it doesn't effective your relationship then he isn't doing anything wrong.
I have a boyfriend, we've been going out for a year and I've been noticing he's been acting different like lets say one of his friends said something rude shit to me and he was there and he didn't say anything to him, but when someone is talking shit to him, he expects me to defend him. I always do defend him though. There was one time i didn't say anything when this guy said something insulting to him and i expected him to say something back, but no he didn't say anything O.o and he got mad at me I've also notice that he gets angry when i hang out with my brothers whom I'm very close with. I hang with him and his friends and he would pull me aside and tell me that he doesn't like a certain person in our group because he thinks he likes me or some bull shit. Then at the end of the day he is buddy buddy with him. O.o Isn't that what you call a two face? I don't know, like I don't think i should try to make this work. He pretty much went over the line when he gets mad at me for hanging with family? Think i should ditch the guy?
Yes, Your boyfriend is trying to control you, He is insecure to the point where he is becoming jealous and is taking it a bit too far. Anyone who comes between you and you family is obviously someone is is selfish and controlling. When you find a partner you want to try to find someone who makes you happy, This dude sounds like to much drama and stress.
Last year, I made a Facebook account and was proud of it, until now. I have about a hundred or so friends online but none offline. I feel kinda ashamed because people might wonder why an outcast like me would make an fb account. So should I delete my account or what?
This is odd because I think a few days ago I read an article about this on Yahoo and damn I should of saved the link...
It is a fact that most people on facebook have lots of friends but what you really should realize is those "friends" are half of the time just people they barley know or friends of friends. When you nail it down to "true" friends most people actually only have no more then 10.
Now, Why would you go and delete your facebook because you don't have many people on there? Do you enjoy facebook? Do you play games? Seriously, I wouldn't worry about the popularity of others and compare them with your facebook status. To be honest, I have a facebook and I probably have no more then 80 people because I personally choose to only add people that are close to me. Someone who would randomly go and friend random people or people they barley know would be facebooks way of calling it "Whoring" which means just adding random people to gain popularity. Doing so you are at high risk for being hacked and having the wrong person gain information etc. Be happy with the people you do have, If you find yourself bored try checking out some of their games. You do not have to have a million friends to have a facebook.
I have a crush on nine boys. They're all the playboy-kind, and really good-looking. So I'm like crazy about them. My parents were kinda cool about it for a while, but now they're acting like, "If you say another word about boys or boyfriends or jealousy or soft lips or whatever, we'll decide to just home-school you!" They say that it's unhealthy for a fourteen-year-old girl. Help, I don't know what to do with them! Shouldn't they be more understanding?
You are their daughter, They are looking out for you because whether you really want to hear it or not today's influence on the younger generation is in the shitter. You are 14, You are young and to expect someone to be understanding of your liking to 9 boys is a bit too much to ask. No offense but 9 boys?...Maybe if it was just one it'd be more understandable. Perhaps you constantly talk about boys and don't realize it? Your statement sounds like your parents may be worried and concerned about your terms of thinking and you seem to think it is normal to like so many boys at such a young age. I'd say their reaction is normal
People like my eyes, they say I talk, but not a lot, and really nice. My hair just gets in the way of everything though, poofy/wavyish. I just want more friends to hang out and talk with though.
I think you have the wrong idea here, Having friends isn't about how you look. It's about your personality. Assuming you are in High School most people have their own groups and trust me if you want good friends then find the ones that will except you for who you are. The real truth is, Your friends that stick by you are 99% of the time you true friends. When I was in High School some 7-8 years ago I had a lot of friends but after High School people move on with their lives, Go to College, etc. Those "friends" you thought were friends suddenly seem to magically disappear and the ones that stick by you are usually your childhood friends. Don't go all out on trying to make yourself look good to gain popularity because it's just not worth it.
So, I'm an exchange student from Brazil, living with a family in the U.S. in the family there are two kids, a girl my age, and a boy 2 years younger than me... well one of his older friends has come over a few times, and we've hooked up twice... but since the last time we hooked up he hasn't come over... he plays hockey and soccer everyday after school, and we also go to two different schools... the second time we hooked up we went a little bit further than I wanted too... after that we cuddled and he would stoke my cheek and brush my hair off my face, and from time to time he would kiss my forehead, or kiss my cheek, occasionally he would turn my head and kiss me on the lips.
some of my friends say he likes me and some say he doesn't... I don't know what to do, because he acts as if he likes me whenever he's around me... but when we were taking my host brother to school, my host mom said the guy I hooked up with has a crush on a girl, that hugs him all the time, that doesn't go to the same school as him... but then she told us her name, but a couple of weeks ago, my host parents asked me really weird questions involving him, and they're like oh I think he has a crush on you...
I need help! how can I find out if he likes me or not??
He may like you, You may also be a booty call there really isn't enough detail to really know for sure. Also fooling around in someone's house while you are considered a guest is extremely rude.
hi should I'm devastated, should I confront my lover and tell her how I feel? even then I know he love his wife?
I am going to assume that you are the same person that keeps asking about a married man when you were seeing him.
I am also going to give you my same answer that I've given you, Move on. This man is MARRIED as soon as you realize that then maybe life will be better for you.
hi, me and my boyfriend been dating for fourteen months and we live together. it's just that, sometimes when he sees me texting, he asks me, who's that? you texting your boyfriend? and i told him that's very mean thing to say as u r my boyfriend, and he goes and laugh, says he's only joking. he also says, he doesn't care who i text and he's not bothered but still keeps asking who am i texting. guys, so is he jealous or just winding me up? thank you all.
If it bothers you then tell him that it bothers you, If someone constantly asked who I was texting I'd probably get irritated after awhile as it'd begin to get annoying. Sounds like he is more insecure then jealous.
I was wondering if asking the price of someone's wedding dress is considered rude, as in to most people. I asked one of my friend how much her sister's wedding dress cost while we were watching "say yes to the dress" and she said she can't tell me because it's personal. I honestly don't get how it's personal but then that's just my opinion, if she asked me, I would've told her. So do most people consider it rude or is it just my friend who thinks that?
Yes, It's considered rude. I would not ask, That's insulting
Hey(: im 14/f 8th grade. Well for some reason I like boys younger then me and all shorter. I don;t know why. I kinda feel stalkerish or like its wrong but every boy i have dated except for one has been younger than me and shorter. Also today in my class there where these six graders int there for some reason and one was really cute! like attractive, and I just feel odd about liking someone that young. Even with this litle fifth grade boy who is like my best friend rhianons little brother is cute but you know just little boy cute, but people make fun of me saying aww Jenna your gonna marry michael and they make fun of me. I just wonder do you think im wrong for liking boys younger than me not like the little 5th grader i was talking about but likt 2 years younger? Please help Thanks!(:
Its okay but you should keep in mind that a boy who is 12 will be immature. You are likely not going to find a lasting relationship with someone that young either as most children do not know what a relationship is at that age.