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Losing virginity
Hello,
I'm 19 and i've been with my boyfriend almost 7 months, i'm not considering having sex as of now unless it's over a year. I never wanted to lose it unless I got married because I am religious. I've been in other relationships, however i've never had to think twice about whether I want to do it before or after marriage and this guy i've loved him for a while we knew each for about a year before we dating and i always liked him and when we began dating my feelings grew much stronger. Long story short would you guys have sex before marriage or do you think it's too big of a sin to? also because i'm relgious I was wondering can you still go church after having sex before marriage without it being wrong? sorry if it's complicated i'm so confused apart of me wants to do it but religion is holding me back.
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i think you should becausing if having sex is messing wit your nine out ten you gonna regret it later so just wait until you confortable sometimes love makes you do all kinds of things but this you can control :) let me know if you have any more questions dont be afraid to ask
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Religion and sex can be somewhat contradictory. In some regard the truly religious will say sex is strictly for procreation and not for recreation or pleasure. Not being all that religious myself I not only don't hold to that belief I don't see where it is written that way. I see that as man's interpretation of something that is not truly said.
Now to your question. A women to come to her marriage bed a virgin has been more of tradition that the women should be pure on her wedding night. There are still some societies that expect and do require that a women be pure on their wedding might. Some of these are old tribal traditions that have been brought with them to the new world. If the women is found not to be pure on her wedding night what can happen is not tolerated in our society.
A woman's virginity is still thought, by many men, to be a precious gift. If you wait to give your virginity to your husband, your husband to be or a long term lover he will be honored for receiving your gift. As to when and to whom to give this precious gift,is truly your choice.
Many women today chose to give their virginity away very early in their youth. They chose birth control and they still attend church and all the rights of the church. I would assume that includes confession as well. Birth control today, be it the pill or condoms or condoms and the pill are as much about conception prevention as it is about preventing STDs that can be prevented by condom usage. Not all STDs are preventable by condom usage.
So the answer to your question: Can you still go to church? I would say is yes.
You have a personal dilemma her that is really not whether you can go to church if you have premarital sex. What you are really fighting here is, are you ready to give in to your feelings and go against your personal beliefs. No one can answer that question for you. You are old enough now to have a sex life if you want one. The operative words being, "if you want one."
As my mother use to say just because Billy jumped of the bridge doesn't mean you have to as well. For you waiting until your wedding night to have your first sexual intercourse and allowing your husband to teach you about sex may be what is right for you.
You can only lose your virginity once. Make sure this is something you really want to do and it is with a man who will be loving and tender. Who will cherish the gift you are giving him.
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Well my opinion is that if your religion is holding you back and you hold strong to that, then just wait. If you really want to do it and you have thought about it long and hard and you feel like you're ready, then go ahead.
I feel like you can still go to church after you have had sex before marriage. Nobody is perfect and no one that goes to your church is perfect either.
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I'm not religious, Personally I believe it's okay to have sex with someone you truly care about and have been with for awhile. I think anyone can go to Church, Someone doesn't have to be a virgin to go and share their beliefs. If you feel that you love this man and are ready to be intimate with him then I don't see anything wrong with it but whatever you decide to do make sure you are ready because you don't want to regret anything. I am not looking to offend you but I really think some people are too caught up in what is a sin and what is not. I think someones actions should be more about what is right and what is wrong not based on what others believe.
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