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I want two different things, love but not to be tied down.
Hi!
I am an 18 year old female.
I've had a few relationships, not a lot, but all lasted nearly a year and here's my ordeal. Well I dated a guy for about ten months last year, my best friend of 4 years, he dumped me in probably one of the worst ways possible and really broke my heart. I realized maybe I was a bit too young anyway. Well I gave myself a few months and mostly just dated around nothing serious until I met this guy, I fell head over heals for him, tall, sweet, handsome. Well It took a lot for me to trust someone again, I contemplated several weeks before taking it to the next level with him. I really liked his family and spent a lot of nights with him and we became very close. I met him through a mutual friend. Well one day out of the blue, I found out he was sleeping with someone that wasn't me. Well I ended it, and now those walls are back up twice as sturdy as before. I was really hurt, well now I am deciding to stay single until I can figure myself out and get everything I need in order. I work at a day care and I ref soccer. That's basically all I have going for me. I really want to pursue my dreams, I want to be an artist, I am really good, I've been told I am I have won awards and I am happy about that. I really want to pursue this however, I also would love to get more experience with kids and maybe become the head of a daycare instead of an assistant.
Here's my problem though. I really love being with someone, I want to go out and find someone but I know it will get in the way of my plans and maybe even stall them. I want to do my own thing but part of me wants someone. I am not really sure what to do. I have my whole life to find someone, but I could miss my career opportunities at any minute. I don't want to get married until I am at least 28. I know if I find someone now the odds of them dating me for ten years are pretty slim, and I don't want to fail and fail and fail at relationships again. I am just torn and confused. Stay single, do my own thing and advance in my personal life, or find someone special and try and not let that get in the way of my own personal journey.
Someone please help :/
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True love does not make you feel tied down, it elevates you. If you are in a relationship that makes you feel tied down, then get out and live your life. That's the mature thing to do, instead of wasting a guy's time when he could be with someone who wants to be in a relationship. If you are feeling tied down it means this isn't the one for you. Its ok to feel like that. I promise, when its right, you'll feel freer than you've ever felt in your life. Don't waste time with anything less.
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Right now I would focus on what you need to do, You are young and too young to be thinking about settling down with someone. If you enjoy working with kids and you are great at artwork then I would suggest looking into becoming an art teacher. Don't become so hung up on relationships right now, Give yourself a break until you are ready to date again. Maybe somewhere down the road of your journey you will end up meeting someone but in the meantime focus on you. Sometimes it is difficult to balance goals while dating so take the time to work on achieving what you want to do and something may open up for you on your way there.
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