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I'm fifteen and my boyfriend is fourteen.

we have been together for about eight monthes is that a long time?

It depends what you consider as a long time. Since you're both early teens, I'd say you're both doing a pretty damn good job :) Alot of relationships at that age are petty and don't last long.

(1) my boyfriend and i threw a party and he madeout with two gay guys and got a huge hicky from one. so i kissed (a little more than a peck) a gay guy to show my boyfriend how it hurts. So did i cheat or did he cheat?

People see cheating as different things. Personally, I think making out and going further is cheating. So in my eyes, you both cheated - even if you did it for revenge (which I feel is a poor excuse).

16/m
I am going out with my first girlfriend. And this weekend is her birthday, what should I get her? Something she would like, she will be 17.

You should have supplied more information, like how long you have been with her and how much you are willing to spend. Since I don't know what she personally likes, here's a list you can choose from:
Clothes
Something music related:Cd's/gig tickets/posters
Jewelry/jewelry box
Flowers
Perfume
Picture frame with a picture of you both inside
Make a scrap book
Cuddly toys
Whatever chocolates/sweets she likes
Something personalized with her name on
Bath/candle/oil sets
Books
If you know she has any hobbies or interests, get her something related to them.
Also, don't forget it's not about presents, so make sure she has a good day :)
Hope you have a nice time!

ok so im looking for some new songs.
the kind of music i like is rock aka
AFI
marilyn manson
three days grace
paramore

stuff like that
so im looking for some new bands and songs.
thanks so much!!!

http://musicsearch.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=music.search
Go to the menu on the right and then click "rock" or whatever genre you like. It will give you tonnes of bands.

how do you do this: http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa45/allie_perez0708/Photo106.jpg

You don't need any special editing program to do that. You can do it in MS Paint. Get your picture, copy another one into the same window and go to "Image", "Flip/Rotate" and then "Flip Horizontal"

My dad is the most hnest peroson i know. But hes been lying to me:: He prommimsed me he doesnt smoke, when i see him do it! When hes going to bed, ill hear the slider door open to the porch, and look out the window.....and there he is smoking. Thats not the first time either. I catch him sometimes really eraly in th morning too sometimes, because i get up really early. Why is he lying?

There are many possibilities for him lying.
1. Despite the tonnes of health risks, he may really enjoy smoking, but just doesn't want you to know and get hurt.
2. He wants you to think he is a strong person and not someone who can't stick to things. No father would want their daughter thinking they are weak.
3. He may be having a few troubles at the moment and he feels smoking relieves them.
4. It helps him to relax.
5. He hides it from you because he knows they are bad and doesn't want you to start smoking yourself.
Talk to him. Tell him you know he is still doing it and trying to keep it a secret from you. I'm sure he has his reasons. Don't get on his back all the time. Be there for him and listen to him. Don't forget breaking the habit is hard. He may just need extra support.

I started in a new school and I was really happy to make friends, and even though my friends are pretty nice (atleast to me...) they kind of take advantage of me. I buy lunch and they bring theirs, so they always ask for money and promise to give it back, but they usually don't. I was okay with it the first time, but a dollar every day adds up. How can I let them know that I want my money back, or how can I refuse to lend them money?

You need to be firm and stand up for yourself. Bring enough money for yourself. If they ask, say you spent it. If they ask on a regular basis, say your parents have lowered your allowance. It's that simple. They will soon stop.

What could it mean if a guy always wants you to flash him.. and he tells me things that he doesnt want anyone else knowing about? 16/f.

The word "user" springs to mind if he doesn't want anyone else knowing.

Attractive or not??????? answer?
http://img229.imageshack.us/my.php?image=170416hv0.jpg

shes my friend's friend do you think shes pretty?

This is an advice column, not a place to rate your friends.
It's a bit hard to see because of the excessive lighting, too. but I don't see any reason for her not to be pretty.

ok, yano when you shave your legs, how far are you suppose to shave? you dont shave past your knee do you? my mom alwys tells me not too.

If you have hair above your knees, there's no reason you can't shave it. People just generally shave where they have hair, or if noone will see it..

21/f

my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half. when ever i preform oral sex on him i have him tell me before he ejaculates so i can stop and finish with my hand. i get grossed out by the thought of it in my mouth. this coming weekend he wants me not to stop but he says he'll wear a condom so my question is:

1. will it feel as good 2 him?
2. will it not go in my mouth?
and 3. would that work?
thanks so much!

You should wear condoms to prevent STI's anyway.
Although if he does wear one, none will go in your mouth.
It will still feel good to him but obviously not as good without.
It's nice he respects your decisions of not wanting any in your mouth though :)

What do you think about sex before being married. I don't know if it's wrong or right so I'm asking you. Please voice opinions and experience.

As long as you're of age and are in a committed relationship, not to mention being ready physically and mentally, I don't see a problem with it, personally.

so yesterday, me and my boyfriend had sex. we used a condom, but i think it ripped. how can you tell if it ripped? i still have the condom in my trash.

-jenna 85/f

I'm guessing your age is a typo?
Look at it to see if there are any rips or holes. Or fill it up with water and see if there are any leaks. You should have done this yesterday though. No doubt a used, old condom would be weak now.

i was in the bathroom peeing and my underwear had this gob of white.. wtf is that?

Discharge. All girls get it.

Read this:

"What is discharge?
Prior to the start of your periods you may notice discharge in your underwear, this is a sign that menstruation will start soon. Vaginal discharge is normal and necessary for the normal function of the vagina. It is needed to provide moisture to the mucous membrane of the vagina and prevents the vagina from drying out. An increase in discharge naturally occurs during the time of ovulation, due to daily stress and due to hormonal treatments.

Normal discharge is clear, smooth, or creamy and has a very slight smell that can be described as sweet or soapy. Sometimes if it gets in your underwear and gets exposed to air it may turn a little crusty, but this is normal too. The only thing you should look out for is discharge that is itchy, irritating, discoloured or smelly, because this might be a sign of infection and a reason to see your Doctor.

Discharge begins a year or two before you start to menstruate and you will have it for most of your adult life.

If you don't like the way it feels or you want to protect your underwear, try wearing a pantyliner each day. The pantyliner will absorb the vaginal discharge and help you feel fresh and dry."

and don't worry about it. :)

if you made yourself throw up once and only once and do not think of doing it again, does this still make you bulimic?

No. Bulimia is a psychological condition which makes you binge eat then vomit - This reoccurs and doesn't happen just the once (from several times a week to several times a day).
The consequences of Bulimia are extremely bad and I urge anyone with any eating disorder to get help immediately.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bulimia
Read this for more info on Bulimia.

I am a 16 year old girl who has taken a babysitting course a few years ago and is certified in CPR. I don't have a lot of experience. I have only babysitted once before, not counting my younger sister. I babysat for a family that had a two year old and a ten year old.

Now I am babysitting for a family that has three kids: A three year old, and two 18 month olds. I only babysit for an hour or so, and the 18 month olds are napping, so unless they wake up, the only major responsiblility is the three-year-old.

My question is, is $10.00 an hour too much? I didn't ask for that much, the parents just gave it to me. I feel bad accepting it because even though I don't just watch TV when I'm babysitting, I play with the kids, it seems like a lot. But then again, I don't know much about babysitting rates, so any help would be appreciated. Thanks!

"Is your babysitter aged 15 or 16? Most likely, your teenage babysitter has some planned uses for cash, and at this age, is more apt to find jobs, so your pay may need to increase. A general guideline is to pay $5-$6 per hour, or a rate that matches what employers pay teens of this same age group. Again, the expectation is that the babysitter will remain at home with your child(ren) and not be expected to do much more than watch kids safely, prepare basic meals, and clean up after themselves. Some babysitters this age may help tutor kids or help them practice their dance steps. Some teens this age may command a higher rate of pay if they are able to drive themselves to your house and home afterward."

The majority of the sites I Googled for you say pretty much the same.

but you shouldn't feel bad for taking it. If it wasn't okay, they wouldn't give you that much in the first place. Or if you're a regular babysitter for this family and you really don't want to be taking that much, make up a new pay rate and tell them about it.

heard abt squirting,is it normal for girls 2 squirt????

Some do, some don't. but if you happen to "squirt", there's nothing wrong with the girl - so yes, it's normal.

ok so i have a boyfriend problem. (he just turned 19 and i'm 15 going on 16 in february.)(that's not the problem though) so anyway, he tries to control me too much. we threaten to break up with each other but we never really do. He has a court date in 2 days for "trespassing" into my house. (It was behind my dad's back and my dad caught him in my room). i really don't want to break up with him, but he said that if i say no to him one more time about something, he'll smash my head into the sidewalk. I don't know what to do...i say no to him when he asks me to not talk to any of my guys friends, not to see my friends on the weekend, or to call him twice a day, everyday. i just don't want to and i think i should get my freedom...

Are you crazy? This person is BAD NEWS.
You need to end it now and never see him again. It's not normal to threaten/hurt/control your girlfriend.
I can see he has you right where he wants you. "I really don't want to break up with him" - ANYONE in your position would.
End it before he does something else.
YOU should control yourself. Not him.
and you are perfectly right - you should get your freeedom. You are a 15 year old girl.
Please do the right thing.

just a strange thought a guy wearing underwear is understanble as his manhood gets excited seeing erotic...y do women wear panties n bras???

Thanks for your question!
The most obvious reason is for protection (to support your breasts) but there's lots more, for example:
For warmth, for comfort (stops your clothes from rubbing at your sensitive areas), for hygiene and for sanity reasons. Although if you don't want to wear it and you aren't exposing yourself to the public, that's fine.

is it normal to hav pussy n tits of same colour..i had heard universally girls go hav pink in colour, my friends is black in colour

I don't fully understand what you're asking me, but I'll have a shot.
Short answer:
Everyone comes in different shapes, sizes and colours. So yes, it's most probably normal, although if anyone is worried about it, they should get checked out just to be on the safe side..

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