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Lying
My dad is the most hnest peroson i know. But hes been lying to me:: He prommimsed me he doesnt smoke, when i see him do it! When hes going to bed, ill hear the slider door open to the porch, and look out the window.....and there he is smoking. Thats not the first time either. I catch him sometimes really eraly in th morning too sometimes, because i get up really early. Why is he lying?
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He's lying because he really doesn't want you to know he smokes. He thinks it will set a bad example for you, and that you may end up smoking too. Also, he's probably told you that smoking is bad, and he doesn't want to look like a hypocrite. He may even be embarrassed about it... he could be hiding it from other people, too, and is afraid you may tell someone if you find out.
Well, obviously you HAVE found out. But don't be too hard on him for lying. The fact that he's hiding it from you shows that he really cares about you. I think you should just keep it to yourself.
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Doesn't want to set a bad example.
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There are many possibilities for him lying.
1. Despite the tonnes of health risks, he may really enjoy smoking, but just doesn't want you to know and get hurt.
2. He wants you to think he is a strong person and not someone who can't stick to things. No father would want their daughter thinking they are weak.
3. He may be having a few troubles at the moment and he feels smoking relieves them.
4. It helps him to relax.
5. He hides it from you because he knows they are bad and doesn't want you to start smoking yourself.
Talk to him. Tell him you know he is still doing it and trying to keep it a secret from you. I'm sure he has his reasons. Don't get on his back all the time. Be there for him and listen to him. Don't forget breaking the habit is hard. He may just need extra support.
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There could be a number of reasons why he is lying. He may not want to quit or he could be trying to protect you from it in case it affects your health and well being. He quite possibly feels really bad about not being able to stop that he's too ashamed to admit it and does not want to appear weak to his daughter. This may be totally misplaced guilt, but an understandable parent thing, on his part as it is so hard to quit.
He sounds as though he needs your support and understanding with this problem. There are various products available now to assist him and maybe you could talk to him about it. Be careful to not sound accusatory as this may make him defensive and more difficult to help.
Let him know you're worried about him and his health and how badly it would affect the family if anything happened to him. Support goes a long way in helping anyone kick a habit.
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