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14/f okay so i was supposed to get my period like a couple weeks ago, and i still haven't gotten it yet. im supposed to go to mexico for a week with my friend in 2 days, and im scared im going to get it when were there. what do i do if i get it? were outside the whole day and we cant take purses anywhere or any bags or anything. if i get it i get really bad cramps, so im not going to feel good either. We have been planning this trip for a long time and its with her whole family and everything, my family isn't going. so i cant tell her i cant go. what do i do? please help and fast because were leaving tomorrow!

Periods can take years to regulate. So if you've been having normal ones, you may get the odd time where it doesn't come at all or it's not on time. So you might get it and you might not - take some pads/tampons with you just to be prepared.
Why can't you take a bag? Can you carry anything at all? If not, slip one into your pocket.
If you happen to come on and you don't feel too great, keep active. Sitting and focusing on the pain etc will make you feel worse. Pack some painkillers or whatever you normally use/take (assuming you do).
Plenty of people have periods on their holidays - so don't let it ruin it for you.
Hope you have a great time.

There's this guy in my class, he's so stupid but i thought we were friends. In class he didn't know how to do anything that we were learning on the computer so i did half the work for him and then he told me to finish the whole thing up since i'd do it faster.

I finished the WHOLE thing for him and just as i was about to work on my computer, the teacher assigns more things to do on the computer.

I was starting to work on my computer and then he tells me to work on it and I'm like no and he called me a douche bag.

Are we friends?

Maybe he just said douche bag at the heat of the moment?

Maybe I'm looking in too much of this?

You do his work for him and he insults you? I wouldn't bother doing anything for him again if I were you!
and to be honest, there's no way of knowing whether he called you it in "the heat of the moment"
He was either joking, or he wasn't. You could ask him.. or see what he's like in future with you. Friends can tease one another and not realize it's quite hurtful at the time. Talk to him.

almost 16/female
this is kinda embarrassing..

but today, my guy friend caressed my shoulder and arm in a realllllyy smooth/sexy way...he was just playing around.

as soon as he did that, i felt this rush through my body...and it was mainly directed at my lower part (...) and just everywhere...it felt really nice. lol

I don't know whyy....

is this normal? :/

Totally. You obviously just liked the way he touched you and by the sounds of it, got a little turned on..

so im 20 my bf is 23 weve been together about 6 mos.. anyways i noticed that he left his xgf a picture comment on facebook saying ohh (name) lookin hot... they dated for like 4 mos. she was in love with him but he didnt feel the same way which is why he broke up with her. he always tells me he didnt really find her that attractive they just really got along and whatever. I know he isnt going to cheat on me. I cant bring it up to him because I only could see the comment while on his facebook because Im not friends with his xgf... I just dont think its right to leave comments on an exes page like that when you are in a relationship. I know if i tell him that just randomly he'll tell me he doesn't do that and etc. My question is if other people think its wrong too? and if I should just casually bring up the thing of telling his xgfs or any girls theyre hot or etc..?

It doesn't necessarily mean anything, but still, it's not nice and I doubt anyone would like it either if it happened to them.
He probably didn't set out to hurt you and obviously didn't expect you to see it.
You can ask him if you like, or try not to make it obvious so it doesn't get him annoyed about you being on his facebook (if he doesn't already know you go on it).
Ask him what he would think if you commented another guy saying he's hot etc. Then you can ask him about his ex girlfriends comment if necessary.

i want to know if anybody knows of a site to edit pictures on.

things that make pictures look nice && cool. thanks alot =]

www.lunapic.com
plus
MANY more here :)

Have fun

every picture i try to upload it says its too big and i did pictures as small as they'll go
what am i doing wrong??

It won't resize it if you upload your picture onto www.photobucket.com and just enter the URL in the space provided.

ok, so i\'m 16/f. i have a boyfriend who\'s 18 and we\'ve been dating for almost two months. we both love eachother. i don\'t know if we\'re getting too intimate b/c we made out the first week we started dating, he gave me a hickie our one month, and now he\'s been grabbing my boob, but i would grab his hand and just hold it.b/c idk if i like it or not haha... but last night, we were at his friend\'s house who were out of town and we were making out, then somehow he was laying on top of me (all clothes were on) and don\'t get me wrong, i enjoyed it... but i don\'t know if we\'re going too fast because i really don\'t want to loose my virginity to him b/c he\'s graduating this may and going to miami for college but i do love him and i just don\'t know whats gonna happen. give me some advice?? haha, thanks!!

I don't think you're moving too fast, but that's my personal opinion. Everyone will have different opinions on this. But the only persons who should matter is YOURS. If you don't want to get too intimate, then don't.
You seem to doubt it quite alot, so don't go any further until you're 100% sure.
Whatever you decide, he should respect your decisions. If he doesn't, he hardly "loves" you.

okay so one of my friends is always high they smoke all the time its so obvious
but my quesion is "is there anyway to hide the fact that you are high?" if there is a way you would think you would try to hide it right?
15 yrs. brianna

The only time you would want to hide it is if you shouldn't be doing it and don't want to get caught. Which brings me to say if you are high, you can't really hide it. Not doing it in the first place is the only answer.
You can try to disguise the smell with body sprays etc, but it's still pretty obvious.

can you wear grey skinnie jeans with brown ugg boots...

Why not?

I totally forgot how to like, edit my name on MSN. Can you please tell me how?

Click where your current name is and change it.
OR.
Go to Tools then Options and change it from there.

i know this is kinda weird... but it always feels like i have to go the bathroom, and when i do it burns and hurts my lower stomach. i have had sex before but i know 100% that they dont have an STD. is it possible that i have one or is it something else?

It's most probably an infection. Possibly a UTI. They're quite common. Go to the doctor for a proper diagnosis and treatment if it's necessary.
http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/Kudiseases/pubs/utiadult/

okay so i pierced my nose at home using an earring stud. i left it in for 12 hours, but hated it bc it was so big. so i went out and bought little plastic studs.

i was reading up on nosepiercings and all the sites say you need titanium, or something hypoallergenic. so instead of a metal i have a plastic in my nose.. is that dangerous, or does it not make any difference/make it better.

Having plastic in a healing piercing is a bad idea because they can interact with the skin surfaces, not to mention the chemicals the studs are made with can cause problems. Plastics can also crack and aren't really recommended for long time use.
Coming from someone who's had theirs done 3 times, titanium is your best bet. :)
Also, steer clear of silver whilst it's healing as it can make the hole look black and generally not very nice!

Would the primark in oxford street let you exchange a jacket if you do not have the reciept????
I lost my reciept and i need a bigger size :-(
thanx xx

I'm pretty sure you'll be able to exchange it for a bigger size. Stores normally give you "store credit" if you don't have a receipt - not your money back.
Go back and explain your situation to them, telling them when you bought it etc.
They may have a store account listing items which have been purchased on what dates. Good luck. :)

Can anyone explain to me why when I have sex it feels like I need the toilet but, when i go I don't pee??

I'm really worried!!

It's quite common. If you urinate before having sex, it can help reduce the feeling. It's most probably caused through pressure being put on the bladder. It can happen to men if pressure is put on their prostate, too.
It's nothing to really worry about.
If you have any other symptoms (such as pain/burning sensation whilst urinating and feeling the need to urinate when you actually don't, for example) you may want to get checked for any infections.

WHat are some unique reasons why public schools should have school uniforms?

*It's believed wearing uniforms helps students to behave better and work better overall, because dressing in uniforms gives a professional look and feel. I remember at school if someone turned up to a test without full uniform on, they weren't allowed to take it.
*It will help cut down forms of bullying if people are dressed the same. There is no need to dress up to impress your peers and show which "groups" you belong to. Everybody is equal. This doesn't mean you still can't be individual.
*It helps to show which school you belong to. and just say you went on a school trip and got lost, people would automatically know where you came from.
*If someone happens to trespass into the school, it will be easy to spot who doesn't belong there, generally making school that bit safer.
*Noone will have to worry about getting in trouble for dressing inappropriately (too short skirts etc)
*Uniforms can accommodate religious beliefs.
*You know what you are going to wear each morning!

My girlfriend and I were having anal sex in a hot tub the other night, and I was fingering her at the same time throughout. I was touching my penis but I dont remember if I ever touched the tip. I never entered her vagina and she is a virgin. I was wondering if there is any chance that she could be pregnant?

It's probably very unlikely from your situation, but you have to remember, there is always that chance. Even with protection, there's still a chance. It's just the risk people take.
Just be more careful in future. and try not to worry or have her worry, because that will most probably delay her period..

ok well me and my boyfriend of 3 months had our first kiss today when we were up in my room on my bed and we started making out right after the kiss and we had it goin on for a good hour and a half. and now we both seem to be addicted to it and we wanna see eachother and do it again because it was so special
do you think thats weird?

Not in the slightest. You're bound to want to do it more if you enjoyed it that much - especially since it was your first kiss.
Have fun!

(i only know her for 6-7mnths) my friend wrote:the reason why I'm writing this letter is because I'm leaving for a couple of months.I really don't know what to say but ill miss you and I love talking to you your crazy and becuz you make fun of me surprisingly I'm ok with that.none of my friends seems to get me like you do.its a good thing Ithink (hmmm).-what do she mean by this note? she know I got gf

Thanks for your question.
I think it's pretty straight forward. Basically, you're the only one who understands her and who she can really bond with and she felt the need to let you know before she goes away.
Now, noone apart from your friend will truly know if she means it in a friendly way, or in an "i like you" way. It does seem pretty friendly, although the last sentence kind of makes you think a little, especially the "hmmm" - if you read into it, it can sound like she wants to say more but isn't sure if she should. OR. She could just be wondering why it's a good thing you make fun of her.
Obviously only she knows, which is why if I were in your position, I'd definitely want to know what she meant by it. :) You should find a way to follow up the letter and simply ask what she meant by "it's a good thing I think. Hmmm" because personally, I think that's rather confusing.

Ok so i know this guy lets call him J. And me and him used to talk and flirt and stuff and i felt a really strong connection. Ok so months passed and he got a girl friend w.e so i stopped talking to him because i was hurt. It took me a really long time for me to get over him but i finally did. Now his brother is intrested in me but idk if i should flirt with him and stuff since its j's brother and i even told j i loved him once. i dont know what to do..= /

You are free to flirt with whoever you like. So what if it's his brother. What happened with you and J happened in the past. He has a girlfriend now, so no worries. If you like his brother, go for it.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 8 months and don't get me wrong i love him but sometimes he is just mean i barely see him anymore because we both work but when he talks to me he just acts like he doesn't care. it seems as if i'm only sometime to have sex with or have as a show piece. i know he loves me i really do but it's just kinda turned into a mess. but i met this kid at school and since the first time i talked to him he seriously fascinates me i don't know if it's just because he's really nice to me or what. he really likes me though it was one of those relationships where you can talk about anything right away and he knows i have a boyfriend and he really respects. i don't know what to do. i don't know who to pick. i know i'll be really sad if me and my boyfriend break up but at the same time i don't know if i'm fighting for a lost cause

Talk to your boyfriend. Explain everything you are feeling towards your relationship at the moment - Basically everything you've stated here. It should help you understand why things have gone a bit downhill lately. You never know, he could just be stressed and/or quite busy at the moment and you are taking things a little too personally. I'm not saying it's right of him to act the way he is, because it's definitely not - but he might not be aware how he's treating you at the moment and needs putting in the right direction.
You won't know what's going on inside his head unless you have a good talk. Either everything is okay and you have nothing to worry about.
OR:
*You both need to work on your relationship to save it.
*He tells you he doesn't want the relationship anymore.
It's not a matter of "picking" right now. You said you love your boyfriend so obviously you should try to make things work if they can. If not, it's not your fault - and you should do what makes you happy. Once you're out of the relationship, THEN you can go ahead and see what happens with the other person.
but for now, you have a right to know what's going on.. and reassuring everything is okay (assuming it is).
Best of luck.

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