about

I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


my forum
My FAQ






Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

Does anybody know the phone number to the wayne county health department?

Hey a fellow Michigander ;]


http://www.waynecounty.com/hhSvcs/public/


There's a lot of numbers on that page, but here's one that I think might be the closest to what you're looking for:

Wayne Health Center
734-727-7100



The person below gave two numbers that are helpful, too ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

im 15/M
i have a sevier acne problem can any one help me i already use proactive 2 times a day and its not helping

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

From there:


Hey. I know this sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what I'm about to say to you ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

From there:

Acne pretty much sucks ass and we all hate them.
I'll pretty much share what I know and my experiences.

So, I used to have really bad acne for like 2 freaking years. It sucked and I hated it. But now I'm better and here are my views on stuff:

Dermatologists are hard to get an appointment with and very pricey. They don't do much except look at you once, then they have their assistants take care of you after the dermatologist her/himself prescribes you acne medicine. It's usually Differin [sp?] and Benzaclin [sp?].

OTC Medicine:
Not all medication work effectively on all people. I've learn that it doesn't work for me or for anyone with sensitive skin. It may work for some people but as soon as they stop the use, acne comes back. Whether it's a cream, gel, or oral medication, they all suck! They dry out your skin, irritate it, increase sunburns/tans, and enlarge your pores. Not your dream skin, huh? And ironically, they sometimes make it worse. And you know what the 'best' part is? They're freakishly expensive! And once you stop the medication, acne comes back and parties like there's not tomorrow. Oral medication also makes your insides bad =/

Acne Products:
Acne face wash, gel, cream, whatever. Proactive seems to be a big one, too. Anywhos, as I've mentioned above, some work for some people while it makes everything worse for other people. It all depends. But most of the time, all those products dry your skin out, irritate it, and/or makes your acne worse. And it enlarges your pores too. Again, not very dreamy. And if they do work, as soon as you stop using them, they come back. Same line second verse.

So what the hell are you suppose to do?
Go the natural, cheap way.

Washing your face:
Wash your face gently only twice a day. Once is okay, I guess. But washing your face when you get up and before you go to bed is a good idea. More than twice a day could irritate your skin. Also, do not scrub your face, wash it gently as if you were washing a baby. Use face friendly products, too. I recommend a brand called Cetaphile. It's gentle on your skin and softens it. PAT your face dry with a clean towel.

Towels and pillow cases:
Try and change them as much as you can. Every day would be PERFECT but hard to do sometimes.

Squeezing:
Not only does that sound disgusting, it is. And it leaves nasty scars. Don't touch your face at all unless you have a slight itch. Don't rest your chin/cheeks in your hands or your arm. Just leave it alone as if it was a $10,000,000 mask that if you touch, you'll get arrested for. Oh, and try to keep your hair out of your face.

Sleeping:
Sleeping plays a big, huge role. Your body starts to renew its skin starting around 10PM and ending around 2AM. So be sure to be sleeping somewhere in between or the entire time. Sleeping early helps, and getting adequate sleep improves your skin and its tone.

Eating:
Milk makes acne worse. It's scientifically proven. Junk foods, sweet, sugars. ALL BAD FOR YOU PERIOD. Avoid/limit them along with sodas even if they're diet. Sports drink contain loads of sugar. Juices, too. Instead, eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits! I've noticed that my skin improve immensely when I turned vegetarian. So maybe give a shot to eating lots of veggies and fruits and other healthy stuff and cut down on meat? Also try and drink green tea [tea bag with no added sugar] or green tea with aloe [again, tea bag with no added sugar].

Masks:
Home made masks are probably the best. Here are few that work and softens your skin:

1. Red ginseng syrupy liquid thing mixed with warm water and a bit of all purpose flour. Make a mask thing with that.

2. Green tea [tea bag] cooled down to room temperature. Splash it on your face for 5min or so. I know it sounds weird but it helps. Or mix it with a little bit of all purpose flour and make a mask.

3. Mix warm milk, honey, and all purpose flour. Make a mask with that.

Only do the mask right after you washed your face. Make sure you don't put on any lotion and what not. Do not leave it on for more than 10-15min because bacteria will become attracted to the mask. Do not laugh, squint, whatever. Just keep your face neutral or you'll get wrinklies. Do not peel the mask off. Slowly wash it off GENTLY with LUKEWARM water. Keyword: GENTLY.

Lotions and make ups and what not:
Lotions/Sunblocks have products that won't clog pores, are fragrance and oil free. I suggest you buy from either Neutrogena or...some other renown company. I use Neutrogena's Oil Free Moisturizing Face Lotion and Neutrogena's Oil Free 55 SPF Sunblock. And Aveeno's 50 SPF Sunblcok [oil free] sometimes.

Make up should be limited to only eye and lip make up. No foundation, no concealer, not blush, no powder. Get my drift? Good. If you MUST wear make up, limit it down to special occasions [School does NOT count] and take it off as soon as you can. Whatever you do, do NOT go to bed with make up on!




Sorry if that was a lot to read. It's really helpful, though ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

To start out, I'm a 16 year old girl. My boyfriend of 1 week is also 16.
He invited me to come to his house tomorrow from 6-10 meaning that I will be eating dinner with him, his parents, and his 18 year old brother. They have not met me yet, and I desperately want to make a good impression. I'm naturally a shy person, and it comes off like I'm just polite but kind of boring. What things should I say/do to make the like me? As many tips as possible please... I'm desperate. Thank you all so much.!

Don't try too hard to impress them, because sometimes you can come off too strong and it gets to be over-bearing. Act natural and be yourself.

Like Laura said- shake their hands, thank them for having you over and be polite. There's nothing worse than a guest who is less-than-grateful. ;]

Parents won't mind if you're "boring", and I'm sure you're not. Just because you're shy doesn't mean you're boring. I'm sure they'd rather have you be shy than bouncing-off-the-walls. ;]

Just relax and you should be fine ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

17/f...mmk i met this dude at my familys 4th of july party. he was there because his dad was a long time friend of one of my family members. that day, me him and my cousins hung out the entire day. you know, pool, football, baseball..the usual party stuff. at the end of the day when it was time for the fireworks he was sitting far away. next thing i know, he moved to sit next to me. so throughout the night we just talked and watched the fireworks together. a couple days later i see a friend request from him on my myspace AND facebook. so we started talking to each other online and stuff. and now we just stopped talking. i know i probably sound pretty obsessive but its retarded. i just want to know if he likes me...i dont know what to think. sorry if its not a lot of info. thx in advance.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!






Other than those reason, I think he definitely might. I know that when I spend the time to talk to someone new I usually end up at least having a minor crush on them, and I don't think I'm the only guy like that.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

what is lactose and tolerant??

Here's an official definition:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=lactose+intolerant

1. lactose intolerant

Lactose intolerant is when someone can't eat dairy foods because of the lactose content. When someone who is lactose intolerant eats dairy without taking a pill, that person has horrible bellyaches.
Jillian is lactose intolerant; she can't drink milk.


Just thought that since no one had given it from a dictionary website yet, I would ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

What does the average broadway star make?
What are the odds of making it?

My director from my school has had some of her students go on to Broadway, and she actually said that they make less than Off-Broadway, meaning that the actors in shows not directly on Broadway, but are still high up in the theatre "line", I guess, make more than those who are on Broadway.

I don't really know how much, nor do I remember the reason, but maybe this search will help you:

only search advicenators.com



Generally the odds of making it are slim, but if you really dedicate yourself, you could make it ;]


--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

is it true that a male can be 10.5 in????

HIGHLY unlikely.

Like someone else said, the average is about 6 or so.


And if you're talking about height [which I know you're not, but let me have a laugh =)]... then it's not possible to be that short and have functioning organs, unless you were like a leprechaun ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

I love to act and I'm gooda t it.

I love to sing to, but i'm not that good.
**I think i'm bad, people think i'm good, siblings think bad

My big dream is to be on Broadway, but I don't know if i'm going to be able to do that.

I'm GOODD, at dancing, like REALLYYY good.

I have a deep voice, so its hard to hit high notes and to be on broadway, you have to be able to hit those.
What should I do?
Change my dream?
Keep practicing?

Any information on this would be EXTREAMLY helpful

14/f

Keep practicing! NEVER let any obstacles make you change your dreams ;]

Here's a website of my friend's that offers singing tips, since I know pretty much nothing about singing except that you need good diction and to do that, you need to open your mouth WIDE ;]

Here's the website:

http://www.geocities.com/singingtips/sing.html

She knows what she's talking about =]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

what is a good display name for myspace?

You could incorporate it into an inside joke with one of your friends or something and also have a nickname of yours.

Here's mine:

"J-Kub[eXtreme 16]"

J-Kub is a nickname I guess, though it's not often used, and "eXtreme" is an inside joke with my sister, her boyfriend, and my friend Rachel, and the 16 is my age, and it rhymed.

Just be creative ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

What are some good games that are kind of like the n hookup??? You know like love games. Thanx!!!!

Ciao Bella from addictinggames.com

The Virtual Hills from mtv.com

http://www.popomundo.com
http://www.battleon.com
http://www.vmk.com
http://www.mycoke.com


Enjoy.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

I have bruises all over my legs. Some are as small as a penny-- but then there's some which take 3 to 4 inches of my legs. It's disgusting, and humiliating to where shorts and show my legs to anyone, even my boyfriend. And it's summer, which definitely doesn't help.

It's been going on for about 2 months now on and off. Could this be a nutrition thing? I've had issues with a calcium deficiency in the past.. could that be it?

Any ideas on if/when I should see a doctor, or whether or not I should be concerned at all would really be helpful.

Thank you.

As Kate has already told you, the best thing you can do is visit your doctor, and please don't put it off.

If you haven't been actually causing the bruises by physical activity, then there is likely a reason to be worried, though I'm not a doctor.

Please see one ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

17/f
So I've given two guys hand jobs, but I've never made the guy come through it before. The first time I didn't care because I ended up giving the guy head that time anyway so that was how I finished it off, but this new guy's my boyfriend of 5 months and I really like him. What would've been a reason for him not to come? It was his first...would that have affected it? Or could he not have been hard enough? I'm just confused and I don't want to suck at this.

If it was his first time, that's probably the reason. Or maybe he wasn't hard enough. Maybe ask him what was up if you didn't already talk about it with him.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

I heard this song on a commercial for one tree hill and i've been looking it up for forever but still can't find it! It sounds like it is sung by maroon 5 or coldplay, but the lyrics go something like "goodbye, goodbye...not all things work out right"

Thanks!!

Are you sure it's not "Goodnight, Goodnight" by Maroon 5?


Here's the lyrics:


You left me hanging from a thread we once swung from together
I’ve lick my wounds but I can’t ever see them getting better
Something’s gotta change
Things cannot stay the same

Her hair was pressed against her face, her eyes were red with anger
Enraged by things unsaid and empty beds and bad behavior
Something’s gotta change
It must be rearranged, oh

I’m sorry, I did not mean to hurt my little girl
It's beyond me, I cannot carry the weight of the heavy world
So goodnight, goodnight, goodnight, goodnight
Goodnight, goodnight, goodnight, goodnight
Goodnight, hope that things work out all right, yeah
Whoa

The room was silent as we all tried so hard to remember
The way it feels to be alive
The day that he first met her
Something’s gotta change
Things cannot stay the same

You make me think of someone wonderful, but I can’t place her

I wake up every morning wishing one more time to face her
Something’s gotta change
It must be rearranged, oh

I’m sorry, I did not mean to hurt my little girl
It's beyond me, I cannot carry the weight of a heavy world
So goodnight, goodnight, goodnight, goodnight
Goodnight, goodnight, goodnight, goodnight
Goodnight, hope that things work out all right

So much to love
So much to learn
But I won’t be there to teach you, oh
I know I can be close
But I try my best to reach you

I’m so sorry, I did not mean to hurt my little girl
It's beyond me, I cannot carry the weight of a heavy world
So goodnight, goodnight, goodnight, goodnight
Goodnight, goodnight, goodnight, goodnight
Goodnight, goodnight, goodnight, goodnight
Goodnight, hope that things work out all right, yeah
Whoa, oh…
Yeah

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

I always see your answers, and have developed a lot of respect for you. You're smart and say it how it is. So here I am, asking you-- and hoping you can help me.

I'm a virgin. I've been in 2 serious relationships-- the rest have just been guys I was seeing. The two boyfriends I had respected it. They never made me feel that I owed them anything.. or in any way pressured me to have sex.

I feel like the older I get, the more interested boys are becoming in "conquering" the virgin. Since I'm a challenge, they want to see how far I'll go.

My current boyfriend seems to be a total sweetheart. Thing is, he tends to hit borderline with the jokes he cracks about me not having sex. He's a sarcastic guy, and I love that about him-- but when it comes to my virginity, I'm sensitive and take it very serious since I can't really differentiate between pressure and humor.

What are your suggestions on how I can find this difference? What are the signals I should look for on whether or not he's joking to see my reaction, or joking just because he wants to make me laugh and not be so uptight about my virginity?

Please give whatever advice you can. And beyond that, know that you are a kind, intelligent boy-- and you do help people very much on here. Thank you.

Thanks for your kind words ;]

I'm not really an expert on things like this, as I haven't really been in any serious relationships, and I myself am a virgin.

I guess the only way to figure out is maybe to ask him to stop with the jokes. Make sure you tell him what you've told me; that you love that he's a sarcastic guy, but sometimes it goes a little too far.

If he stops, then it most likely was just trying to get you to lighten up about it. If he keeps doing it, maybe it wasn't just a joke.


Okay, I take that back. I think you should just ask him. If your relationship means anything to him, he'll be honest.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

okay the guy i like has a gf but i think he likes me
you see i told him that i really liked him and he said well i know i have a girlfriend but i think i should let you know how i feel about you and he said that he thinks im absolutely gorgeous but he wishes we could have got to know each other better and talk more.......and we kept talking until it was almost 2 in the moring
and we havent stopped...
but im confused if he likes me than why would he still be with his girl?
or does he even like me at all?
help!!!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340

From there:

I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.



It's pretty common for a guy to like a girl outside of his relationship. As wrong as that may be, it's true. He seems to have done a few of the things above, so I would say he likes you.

Just lay low for awhile, especially since he has a girlfriend. You wouldn't want to steal him away and have a horrible reputation, would you? ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

what does it mean to "dip" and no not skinny dipping, i think it has something to do with smoking?

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dip

2. dip

Dip is a form of smokeless tobacco that is cut more fine than regualar chewing tobacco. It is bought in a round tin that is a little smaller than a hockey puck. It comes in fine cut(or snuff), mid cut, and long cut. Users take a pinch of tobacco and place it between their bottom lip and gums. Smokeless tobacco has much more nicotine than cigarettes (one tin has about the same amount of nicotine as 60 cigarettes). Large amounts of nicotine are absorbed through the gums and mouth tissue and goes directly to the blood stream, creating a buzz that lasts around 15 minutes. This buzz only lasts until you become tolerant to the drug; people who are heavy users only receive a state of satisfaction and relaxation.




There you go.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

i'm not sure if it's my contacts or not.. but yeah. okay, well i just put on my contacts.. and everything seems clear, like how it's supposed to. but then it's also kinda blurry at the same time. like it can't really focus real clearly. especially when i'm staring at the computer screen. what should i do? & what is going on?

Hmm.. Have you taken them out and cleaned them with solution and then put them back in, making sure you don't put them in until your hands have been washed?

If you've tried that and you've still got blurry vision, I would wear glasses [if you have them] for a day or two. Maybe your eyes are irritated.

Have your mom [or yourself] call your eye doctor. Maybe you need a new prescription.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

I want a good and fast camera that is easy to use. I have a camera and it takes forever to turn on and when I want to takea picture at one given moment, it takes forever for it to load and then I miss what I wanted to take. Also it sucks out the batteries like no other. It doesn't last long and I hate it. Does anyone know a good quality camera that fits my needs and is at a good price range? I prefer Kodak but I don't mind finding a new brand. Thanks!

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=540758

From there:

Hey. I am going to tell you about my wonderful camera I got two Christmases ago.

It does everything you want:
-Takes pictures
-Takes videos
-Has many different picture settings
-I have rechargeable batteries.. they were kind of on the pricey side, but they are definitely worth it.. you don't have to go out and buy new batteries every time they die.
-It is in your price range. You won't get too great of quality for under $150, so its good you have a larger range. But.. at the bottom of the page I give below- it has a certain website where it looks like you can find it at $119.99. That would probably be your best bet.

Here is a review of it that I found: www.imaging-resource.com/PRODS/A530/A530A.HTM

This camera has 5.0 megapixels, 4X Optical Zoom [You want optical zoom, not digital zoom- because digital screws up the pixels as you zoom and the picture looks really crappy], it has 18 different shooting modes, and if you have a larger memory card [I have 2GB] you can hold a lot of pictures/videos.

Now for my own review..
I love this camera a lot and it is a great investment. I take tons of pictures and videos.. and it is perfect for me. The picture quality is the best I've seen in many different digital cameras. My brother has one, and the pictures always come out having odd white spots on them. This camera doesn't do that, ever. I think you will love it.



The website I gave you can get a good discount =D.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

So, my family has a family plan from verizon wireless. We had texting, but my sister ended up going wayyy over her texting limit, and my mom got rid of her texting. But, she also got rid of mine, which is completely not fair. She said that with the family plan if you want to take away one person's texting privillages, you have to take it away for everyone? is this true, or was she lying to me? i was thinking maybe she was lying to me because she doesnt want me to go over my limit, but i know i wont. does anyone know of a plan from verizon that makes you do have to do that?

I don't know of a specific plan, but I'm almost certain your mother was lying, either that or she just didn't know.

I know my family has an unlimited texting plan for everyone on the phone bill, which works out well; we can text each other to let each other know where we are/what's happening/etc.

I also know that a few years ago I had an individual texting plan, and only my sister and I had it- not everyone on the phone bill.

Ask your mom if you could go to the Verizon store with her and check out texting plans. And maybe you could talk her into getting your entire family the unlimited texting plan so that your sister won't go over- and no one can really go over.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

ok i have a delema. I was planning on going to the chicagos market street days with my aunts. it is normally the first weekend in august (this year 2&3) but its the 2nd now. and that weekend is when me and my 4-H leader were going to celebrate our birthdays together by camping. She is getting he niece to come down and hang with me, and her neice is like... 20 something and im 14. We dont have anything in common.

well anyways, i wanted to go to the street fair b/c i have never been, and i go camping every year like 3 times a year with them. I dont want to make my 4-h leader sad, but i really was looking forward to the market street days, and i have $100 put toward savings, just to use at the market street days! so what do you think i should do? and if you say go the the market street days what should i say to del (my leader) and my mom and friend?

thanks alott!

I think you should go to the street fair. You've never been and it's something new for you to experience.

Yes, you already set up the camping trip with your 4H leader, but I think it's still far enough in advance to politely ask her if she wouldn't mind letting you go to the street fair.

Just ask her nicely and say that you've been saving up for the fair and you would really like to go. If she seems upset, maybe see if you can go again next year to the fair, since you said it's an every-year thing. If that isn't an option, let your leader know that.

Also, apologize to your leader if you decide to go to the street fair. Don't do it excessively, but maybe once or twice. Let her know you sincerely wanted to go but that you've been saving up for the fair.

--Jack
(16/m)

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker