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Boyfriend.. and sex.
I always see your answers, and have developed a lot of respect for you. You're smart and say it how it is. So here I am, asking you-- and hoping you can help me.
I'm a virgin. I've been in 2 serious relationships-- the rest have just been guys I was seeing. The two boyfriends I had respected it. They never made me feel that I owed them anything.. or in any way pressured me to have sex.
I feel like the older I get, the more interested boys are becoming in "conquering" the virgin. Since I'm a challenge, they want to see how far I'll go.
My current boyfriend seems to be a total sweetheart. Thing is, he tends to hit borderline with the jokes he cracks about me not having sex. He's a sarcastic guy, and I love that about him-- but when it comes to my virginity, I'm sensitive and take it very serious since I can't really differentiate between pressure and humor.
What are your suggestions on how I can find this difference? What are the signals I should look for on whether or not he's joking to see my reaction, or joking just because he wants to make me laugh and not be so uptight about my virginity?
Please give whatever advice you can. And beyond that, know that you are a kind, intelligent boy-- and you do help people very much on here. Thank you.
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Thanks for your kind words ;]
I'm not really an expert on things like this, as I haven't really been in any serious relationships, and I myself am a virgin.
I guess the only way to figure out is maybe to ask him to stop with the jokes. Make sure you tell him what you've told me; that you love that he's a sarcastic guy, but sometimes it goes a little too far.
If he stops, then it most likely was just trying to get you to lighten up about it. If he keeps doing it, maybe it wasn't just a joke.
Okay, I take that back. I think you should just ask him. If your relationship means anything to him, he'll be honest.
--Jack
(16/m)
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