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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.

I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.

ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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When you go to the doctor how confident is it???
Meaning if you dont want them to tell your parents something will they keep it between you an them???
Or do they have to tell your parents everything??

If you tell your doctor to keep your information confidential, they have to. It's an oath they take.

I believe the only exception to this, is is you are in serious or life threatening danger.

Laura. (15-f)

13/f
this might be in the wrong category, but 4give me if it is.

so i had my first period like a month ago or something like that. and i know, your supposed to get a period every month. but itsz like 30-40 days now and i still didnt get it. well ive been feeling rather horny after mii first period and started to masturbate like everyday. but nothing else. is my period just irregular or could it be something else? any advice would be very much appreciated. thankx!

The time between your first and second period is almostalways irregular. It's going to be irregular for about the first 2 years.

If you don't get it for a really long time, though, [I'm talking like over 5 months or more] then you might want to go to a doctor. But you most likely won't need to =]

-Laura. (15-f)

Is season five the last season for LOST the show? where can i get more info... i don't care about spoilers... bring'em on! i reallllly want to know what happening after last night's episode!

Oh man, I LOVE Lost like no other ;]

Seasons 5 is NOT going to be the last season. Season 6 is scheduled to be the last season. It starts in February 2010, I believe.

You can get some more info on these sites:
http://abc.go.com/primetime/lost/index?pn=index
http://www.oceanicflight815.com/
http://www.thetailsection.com/

-Laura. (15-f)

ok, so i know im not the only one, but i cant seem to bring myself to walk out of my house without eyeliner on. thing is, i wish/want to go without makeup since i am young (16) and i know i look good without it except for some pimples but i am working on clearing up my face completely, anyway thats besides the point. my question is how do you look amazing without makeup because i see girls doing it and i want to too! its healthier for skin and keeps you younger longer. also I tried not wearing any eyeliner once before and everyone commented on how tired i looked! so i need tips on looking good without makeup...thanks!!! =)

I used to be just like you. Up until recently [like 2 months ago] I never left the house without eyeliner on.

What I did, was start wearing less and less and soon, I just stopped wearing it altogether. I'd suggest trying this for yourself.

The only makeup I wear, is powder, blush, and occasionally mascara. I also wear eye shadows in enutral tones [aka light browns, tans, beige, etc.] I personally, think this look looks best, especially for summer. I know it's not wearing no makeup, but when you use minimal mamkeup like this, then it's really easy to go out without makeup and still feel comfortable if that makes sense?

Also, like somebody said, it's best to keep your skin moisterized. This prevents your skin from drying out, and looking flaky and gross.

For some more tips, try Google:

-Laura. (15-f)

17/f
I just graduated high school and a couple of weeks ago I met this guy from my school at a party. I had seen him around before but never talked to him. Anyways I got his number and then he called me and stuff and we had a “date”. (He called it a date, but I would just call it hanging out.) We ate, saw a movie, and walked around for a bit. So there’s nothing really wrong with him. He’s really nice, and he seems to treat everyone the same. The only thing is, he’s a baby.

He’s a junior at the school I just graduated from. He’s actually a month older than me, because I started school early. But it’s not just about the age; he’s only like 4 inches taller than me and he only weighs like 15 lbs more.

The thing is, I know that his size will probably change. He’s one of those guys that was like 60 lbs his freshman year (you’ve all seen them), so I’m thinking that he’s just a little behind on the growing thing. And he’s cute now, it’s just the size thing is kind of a turn off. And I mean like I said, he’s nice, and I talked to someone that hung out with him after our “date” and they said that he wouldn’t stop talking about me. So I know he likes me, and I know he’s genuinely a good guy too, because even though I only went on one “date” with him, I’ve already gotten the “don’t hurt him” lecture from 3 of his friends. (so like I know he’s not just putting on a show for me, and that he’s actually nice to everyone).

My question is, should I give him a chance and try to get past the fact that he’s a baby?
Or should I just tell him I only want to be friends?

I think that the personality should be a larger contributing factor than his appearance. I mean, you can be the ugliest person, but have an outstanding personality. You can be drop dead gorgeous, and have the worst personality out there. Get what I'm saying?

If he's nice, and you like him, go for it. Size shouldn't matter. If he's a good guy, you shouldn't pass him up. =]

-Laura. (15-f)

A good tip on keep your self busy with out being on compture

Read a book.
Write a book.
Draw.
Paint.
Listen to music.
Go for a walk.
Clean your room.
Bake.
Dance.
Roller blade.
Bike Ride.

That's all Icould think of =]

-Laura. (15-f)

My bf listens to nothing but rap music so i wanted to make some CDs with other genres. I got the country and techno CDs made and I moved on to making a pop rock CD but i can't think of any songs that would be good for it.

so far i only have
Beating Hearts Baby - Head Automatica
Goodnight, Goodnight - Hot Hot Heat

what else should i add? I want similar sounding songs. thanks!

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-Laura. (15-f)

16/f
my boyfriend has trouble trusting me. he says he trusts me but i know he doesn't. he freaks out anytime i even talk to another guy. i used to have so many guy friends now i don't anymore. i love my boyfriend to death and will not breakup with him i just need your help with a way to make things better.

this happens a lot about different things but i'll tell you what is going on now. he is constantly scared that if i talk to another guy i'll like him. my boyfriend is always asking me who i talk to in my gym class (meaning guys). i hardly talk to any of the guys, mostly just the girls. i told him that and he was like give me all of the names of the people you've had conversations with. and he started freaking out. then i told him that there is no way i could ever remember that and i'm crying so much and he thinks i'm hiding something. he always thinks i talk to guys behind his back.

like he always looks at my phone at my texts and calls. i know he just loves me so much and never wants to lose me but idk what to do to make all of this stop and just have him trust me!

thanks so much!

Thanks for inboxing!

Alright, you might not like what I have to say, but I'm going to say it anyways:
This entire situation is ridiculous. Not on your part, but your boyfriend's. You aren't doing anything wrong, but he is.

In my opinion, the best relationships are built on trust, and if he's not trusting you, something isn't right. I know you've tried talking to him, but you've got to put your foot down somewhere.

You have to tell him that there's nothing more you can do to make him trust you. Tell him you're not going to drop all your guy friends because he gets a little jealous. Tell him that if you wanted to date one of the other guys you talk to, you'd be with THEM and not HIM. Let him know you want to be with HIM and not one of the other guys, and stalking your texts and tracking who you have conversations with is not helping this relationship, but ultimately causing problems.

Don't say it in a mean way, but be firm and don't just nicely drop it in a conversation. If this keeps going on, it will only cause more and more tension. =/

Best of luck and let me know how things go!

-Laura. (15-f)

what are some good bands that are kind of simmilar to all time low, we the kings, powerspace....that kind of stuff.

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-Laura. (15-f)

Alright I know I need to talk to her about it, but help me out here. Okay so my friend, we'll call her "B", decided she was going to save herself for marriage. Her mom got her this really nice purity ring for christmas. Then B left it in the girls bathroom at school, so of course it's long gone. So her mom baught her another one. There's only one problem now. It's that she didnt keep her promise. Now she had talked about saving herself for marriage and everything for a while now. Then she goes off and does this, with a guy she met only like 2 weeks ago. Not to mention the fact that he didnt even ask her to be his girlfriend until like a couple days after they had sex. She's just going about like it wasnt even a big deal or anything. I dont know if I have a right to be even a little angry. And if I do, what do I do have a right to angry about? I dont know it just kind of upsets me that she did that. Whats your opinion? Am I overreacting? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

My opinion? It's none of your business. Having sex is a personal decision, and your friend changed her mind about it.

While I'm not saying I support having sex before marriage [because I don't], I'd leave her alone and if she wants to talk to you about it, let her come to you. And if not, then just let her be.

-Laura. (15-f)

I love listening to songs from incubus, snow patrol, lifehouse, coldplay...are these alternative bands? and could you temme more songs/bands like these?
f/19

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-Laura. (15-f)

good songs and bands ?

i like atl, wtk, ftsk, mayday parade, rocket summer, the spill canvas, dashboard confessional etc.

if you have anything like that its appretiated :]

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-Laura. (15-f)

For our project we have to present 8-10 senteces of any topic we want, memorized! And we must have something to show or pass around, whether it's an item or a picture. Any ideas on what i can do mine on? My friends from last semester said they did their's on sports but i don't do sports...

I'd do it on my friends, and pass around pictures of me and my friends for the class to look at.

Or you can do French food, and pass around a sample for them to eat?

My final idea is describing a pet and passing around a picture of your pet.

Good Luck!

-Laura. (15-f)

My friends wear it good but when it's on me, it's a different story o_o I have light olive skin, dark brown eyes and dark eyebrows. I was told that browns, greens and purples would look good but it doesn't. The browns are so light and wearing green eyeshadow alone is too plain. I don't know.. it just looks messy and that I have smaller eyes. Help? =\
Any good inexpensive makeup brands?
I have revlon, nyx and isadora =o

If I wear bright eyeshadow (like green), is there a certain shade of blush or lipstick to go along with it? -lost-

Your best bet when starting out with make up of any sort, is to use neutral tones. That being said, I'd start off with some light beige/brown shades.

I, personally, am not a huge fan of eye shadow in anything other than neutral tones, but it's a good starting point for anybody. Once you get used to this, then start expirimenting with actual colors.

Always remember, less is more =]

-Laura. (15-f)

can anyone give me any good indie bands.

i like stuff like death cab for cutie and bright eyes.

- Backseat Goodbye.
- Silversun Pickups.
- Jason Mraz.
- The Shins.
- Beck.
- Keane.

-Laura. (15-f)

to anyone who likes alterative music :

what are some good meaningful songs . favorite bands?

I like bands like mayday parade&all time low btw

thanks

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I've seen Mayday Parade 3 times, once WITH All Time Low! ;]

-Laura. (15-f)

I have to do a research paper for English class. It has to be at least 4-5 pages. The topic could be on whatever we want, but we have to prove a point in the paper. I was thinking school shootings, but I do not know what point I could prove. What topic could I do that would easily prove a point, or, what point could I prove in the topic of school shootings?

Thank you in advance.

Well, you could do gun control, in which you could include school shootings? the point you'd prove is whether or not we should in fact have gun control.

-Laura. (15-f)

What is the best advice anyone has ever given you in life? (mantras are great)

"Forget about the past, just keep going. Focusing on what's in front of you and doing what you're doing is the only way to get ahead."

And that is why I'm friends with my best friend ;]

I also know that while this isn't exactly advice, there's a line in a song by The Rocket Summer that I pretty much love:
"On dark and stormy days, somewhere it's glowing."

-Laura. (15-f)

Hello... I'm having boy troubles. I have a boyfriend and his bestfriend [who is a girl] likes him too. He is always hanging out with her more than with me. Should i ask him if he likes her or would that damage our relationship? Pleases help

Sincerely,
?LoVeStUcK?

If it bothers you, then yes, you should ask him. But don't immediately accuse her of being in love with him, because that might not even be the case.

Just talk to him about it. Tell him that you feel like he hangs out with this friend more than you, and it makes you somewhat uncomfortable. Then, ask him if she thinks of him as more than a friend, or if she really is just one of his friends.

-Laura. (15-f)

hi, pls can anyone help me? i am in relatioship with a girl which i dont love. she took it very serous. pls how can i come out of it.

So, you're in a relationship you don't even want to be in?

That's not good. You need to tell her the truth, and end things. The longer you wait, the more attatched she will get and the harder it will be for you. Tell her in a nice ay of course, but be honest with her.

-Laura. (15-f)

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