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Should I try to get past it even though it's a major turn of
17/f
I just graduated high school and a couple of weeks ago I met this guy from my school at a party. I had seen him around before but never talked to him. Anyways I got his number and then he called me and stuff and we had a “date”. (He called it a date, but I would just call it hanging out.) We ate, saw a movie, and walked around for a bit. So there’s nothing really wrong with him. He’s really nice, and he seems to treat everyone the same. The only thing is, he’s a baby.
He’s a junior at the school I just graduated from. He’s actually a month older than me, because I started school early. But it’s not just about the age; he’s only like 4 inches taller than me and he only weighs like 15 lbs more.
The thing is, I know that his size will probably change. He’s one of those guys that was like 60 lbs his freshman year (you’ve all seen them), so I’m thinking that he’s just a little behind on the growing thing. And he’s cute now, it’s just the size thing is kind of a turn off. And I mean like I said, he’s nice, and I talked to someone that hung out with him after our “date” and they said that he wouldn’t stop talking about me. So I know he likes me, and I know he’s genuinely a good guy too, because even though I only went on one “date” with him, I’ve already gotten the “don’t hurt him” lecture from 3 of his friends. (so like I know he’s not just putting on a show for me, and that he’s actually nice to everyone).
My question is, should I give him a chance and try to get past the fact that he’s a baby?
Or should I just tell him I only want to be friends?
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This is simply a matter of personal preference, but let me tell you a story.
When I was a junior in high school, I had a crush on this guy I'd never seen before. Turns out he was a freshman. That was a real turn off so I let it go as much as I could. The next year, my senior year, he was even cuter. Well, I decided that since he was technically only a few months behind me in age (I started way early) that I would give him a chance. We dated for a while and it was a blast. He was totally perfect. We ended up breaking up because I graduated and I knew the playing field for him would be great, plus I thought I would have hot college guys to go after. Two years later I'm single and we still see each other a lot. He never found someone good, and neither did I.
The point is that he was one of the best relationships I've had, and we'll probably date again just because. He got bigger and hotter every year and now he's one hot man.
This guy will probably get hotter, and you'll regret not giving him a chance.
But, like I said, it's a matter of preference.
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I think that the personality should be a larger contributing factor than his appearance. I mean, you can be the ugliest person, but have an outstanding personality. You can be drop dead gorgeous, and have the worst personality out there. Get what I'm saying?
If he's nice, and you like him, go for it. Size shouldn't matter. If he's a good guy, you shouldn't pass him up. =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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Look, if you like this guy and he's nice and everything, why not give him a chance and stop judging him. It's not always about how they look and age and what not. And plus he's older than you, so you shouldn't put it against him that he's "scrawny". You need to look past all the flaws of him, he seems like a very sweet and loving guy. If you don't give him a chance, you might miss out on something good. If you don't end up liking him then let it go. It's not a big deal. Hope I helped.
- Lacey -
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how is he a baby when he is older than you? I think you should get over yourself
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I understand your concern. But if you like this guy, and he likes you, give him a chance. That doesnt mean it will really turn into anything big, but like you said, the size thing will change. If you like him, but dont go out with him because hes in a lower grade and not very big, then that makes you shallow. I believe that you should give him a chance and see how things go. If they dont work out,then they dont. But if they do, then...who know? =].
-jessicamarie.
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