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My best friend broke her promise to stay pure
Alright I know I need to talk to her about it, but help me out here. Okay so my friend, we'll call her "B", decided she was going to save herself for marriage. Her mom got her this really nice purity ring for christmas. Then B left it in the girls bathroom at school, so of course it's long gone. So her mom baught her another one. There's only one problem now. It's that she didnt keep her promise. Now she had talked about saving herself for marriage and everything for a while now. Then she goes off and does this, with a guy she met only like 2 weeks ago. Not to mention the fact that he didnt even ask her to be his girlfriend until like a couple days after they had sex. She's just going about like it wasnt even a big deal or anything. I dont know if I have a right to be even a little angry. And if I do, what do I do have a right to angry about? I dont know it just kind of upsets me that she did that. Whats your opinion? Am I overreacting? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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I don't think your overreacting i think your just scared that you might lose you friend. I mean doing what she did was her dissision and if thats what she wants to do then you need to support her as a friend. There is really no reason you should but upset. its not like she stabbed you in the back or anything. Maybe you could just talk to her and just say what you just said about the whole ring thing and how it sort of upsets you.
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i would be upset too, but it is her descision. im guessing you are saving yourself too because then you feel betrayed. i believe in saving yourself for marriage and i would feel betrayed and angry if my friend broke her promise because its a promise to God but its completely between her and God. be there for her and help her if she need sit but dont be mean to her about it or she will not open up to you. but sit down and nicely tell her your a little worried over her new descisionj especially because its with a guy she barely knows and they werent dating. explain that God forgives and loves her and that she doesnt need to give a guy sex to make him happy and all that. and that God will bless her with the perfect guy who will also want to save himself so there is no reason for her to have to have sex. if she realizes this as a mistake then help her. if not than still be friends but maybe step a way because she is starting to choose things against your beliefs. i really hope everything goes well.
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I understand why you're upset about it, but it's her personal issue. So no matter how you feel or what you say, nothing is going to change what she did or how she feels about making that decision. It sucks, but you probably shouldn't bring it up with her. I understand how you feel- I get really frustrated at the stupid decisions my friends make, but there's not anything I can do to change how someone lives their life. What you can do is lead by example- if you just do the right thing all the time then that example is better than telling someone how they should conduct themselves. For now, don't say anything to her about it- in a few weeks, you will probably have gotten over your frustration enough to think about it clearly and by then you won't care. I hope your friend quits screwing up her life.
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My opinion? It's none of your business. Having sex is a personal decision, and your friend changed her mind about it.
While I'm not saying I support having sex before marriage [because I don't], I'd leave her alone and if she wants to talk to you about it, let her come to you. And if not, then just let her be.
-Laura. (15-f)
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I personally think you are overreacting. It's her decision. You can be mad at her all you want, but that's not going to change what she did. So I guess just move on, you can tell her that you don't agree with what she did, but I don't think that'll get you anywhere.
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