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I'm Jack/Jamie.I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.
I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.
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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!
--Jack
advice
Oh kay so my boyfriend wants to like have sex with me and shit-i mean he already fingered me and i gave him a BJ but i don't know if i should have sex with him i am only 13 and i don't want it to get around my school! HELP!!
The fact that you're asking this question tells me that you're not ready. By asking this question, you are showing me that you're hesitant on whether or not you should have sex, and any time you're hesitant with a decision like this, it's a clear sign that you shouldn't.
I say just wait. Most people who end up losing their virginities too early end up regretting it. Waiting for when you KNOW 100% that you're ready can make all of the difference. It will feel SO much more special. And heck, it will feel even more special if you're married and both of you waited and saved yourselves for each other. What is more romantic than that? ;]
Yeah, it probably would get around the school faster than you could say "Advicenators is my favorite website ever!", so it's probably best that you wait. =]
--Jack
(16/m)
whats da diff between annulment and divorce in your own words please
An annulment means complete elimination, like it's null or void.- whether it be for marriages or a number of other things. So the marriage is wiped out from existence, and it "never happened".
The divorce, as Kate said, means that both parties recognized the marriage happened, but it isn't happening anymore.
--Jack
(16/m)
Is it true that they all come in different shapes? Do guys love them no matter what? I'm kind of self conscious about mine..
Girls are all different and the only way to change your boobs is with plastic surgery.
Being a guy, I'm most attracted to a girl who isn't self-conscious about her boobs. By that I mean she doesn't freak out if she has the smallest boobs, and she doesn't freak out if she has larger boobs.
It's not so much the physical as it is the feelings behind the girl. Generally guys love girls no matter what ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
im going on airplane for the first time ever.are there certain restrictions of what you can bring and what ou cant. not only for your carry on but your luggage too. i tryed to google it but didnt find much help
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543876
That is a question asked before that can really help you.
From there:
http://www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/prohibited/permitted-prohibited-items.shtm
AND
You can bring a carry on bag,
that has activities to do
like an ipod, book .. etc.
You can't bring,
food, drinks, bombs
Safe travels ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
im going to ninth grade next year and im knida happy but i cant get over the horrer stories i heared of high school and i want to know is it really bad????thanxs
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504785
From there:
Hello.
I was a freshman two years ago- and I have to say.. it was one of the most scary things I've EVER experienced! I was thrown in the trash can on the first day and it was horrible. Some kid even had to go to the emergency room! It was the WORST first day of school of my entire life! I almost didn't go back!
Haha- so hopefully you didn't take that seriously- because it really wasn't like that at all. I always play that trick on people who ask this question. C'mon- I gotta have a little fun! High school is NOT scary. It actually is a lot more fun. You have more freedoms than middle school and you can take REALLY awesome classes. If you have to chance to take a Speech class- DO IT! You think it will be the dumbest class ever and you'll be really bored- but you get the chance to get really good at speeches- and you'll learn really awesome things! When you get to be a Junior/Senior- take AP and Honors classes- these will impress colleges and they will want you to go to their college if you do well enough on them.
People may tell you that Freshmen year doesn't count for anything- so slacking off won't matter until you're an upperclassmen. This is wrong. Colleges will look at your cumulative GPA- and that includes your freshmen year. Don't slack off; you'll regret it later.
Just to debunk the rumor- There is NOT a "Freshmen Friday". Sure, this used to exist back in the 60s and 70s, but it doesn't anymore. Any school that actually still does it will probably end up getting sued by a bunch of parents. So most don't do it. Chances are, your high school won't do it.
Here is my list of DOs and DON'Ts:
Do:
-Do all of your homework.
-Make new friends [some old ones will naturally just fade away] and do this by just starting up simple conversations with people- and it will eventually lead to a great friendship. Ask someone you may want to get to know for a pencil in class.. that's a classic. Sit with new people at lunch.
-Ask the teacher for help if you need it.
Don't:
-Don't talk to seniors.. they most likely DON'T like you. The won't give you any respect.
-Don't wear revealing clothing- seniors will automatically hate you.
All in all- if you just be yourself- you'll be fine. If you have upperclassmen in any classes- you'll get to know them over the course of the year- and you may end up meeting some really great people. I know that some of my best friends I met at school freshmen year- and most of them were 10th grade or older. Not all seniors hate you- some will be welcoming- but just assume the worst in them, at first. After awhile- you'll know who to avoid and who to warm up to. You'll be fine. Don't worry.
--Jack
(16/m/Junior)
I have this crush on this guy and everybody thinks he likes me back, like he acts all sweet around me and all my friends say that he acts like a jerk around them ok the thing is that he always acts like a jerk( he is always over sarcastic) but he acts like a normal guy around me! He is also really shy and i think that he is too shy too ask me anything so that is why my guy friend who has a crush on me so he asked me to dance. my crush got all jealous looking and i felt bad.before i started dancing i gave him chances like talking to hi on the dance floor and he was TOTALLY flirting he just didnt ask me... i gave him lots of chances but i really like him and i am too shy to make the first move. i dont want to hurt my guy friend either so if nothing happens betwen me and my crush soon i might have to give my guy friend a chance...
Alysonwilow f/14
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340
From there:
I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
Your crush may be shy, but maybe that means you could make a move?
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543173
From there:
Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:
1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.
I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!
Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...
As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?
--Jack
(16/m)
Hi, I'm kinda poor in studies, especially in languages and math. Could you please provide some advice on how I can do better? Especially in languages because I can't understand the darn questions. Any help will be appreciated. Thanks.
I'm in Spanish, going into Spanish 4 this coming year.
The main thing with a language is to keep repeating the words in anyway possible. Make flashcards, write vocabulary words 3 or 4 times each, conjugate verbs twice for each subject [you, me, we, etc.], have someone quiz you on your vocab/verbs/grammar the night before a test or quiz. Basically, do anything that will get the words stuck in your head by repetition. Making up a song, like Laura said, is a GREAT idea. We had a song for the irregular forms of certain verbs in the preterit tense, and it was like "Tener es tuve, Estar estuve!" and it was just really helpful.
Also if you have like house vocabulary, make little cards for each item, and put them around your house so that you can see them. So every time you go to the kitchen, you'll see the word for kitchen. Doing things like that is really helpful.
As for math, coming up with songs for equations and such is actually really helpful. Or coming up with hints for yourself about certain concepts.
So for Algebra 2 back two years ago, we had a song for the quadratic formula that went like this:
X is equal to the opposite of B, plus or minus the square root of B squared minus 4AC, all divided by 2A!
And it really helped. Then a few years before that, there was a song for the slope formula put to the words of YMCA:
"WHAT DOES Y EQUAL?!"
"M X PLUS B!"
And it seriously helped me out a bunch.
For other things this past year for Pre-Calc, my class and I came up with ways to remember certain concepts, like saying "Sine is the nice sibling, and Cosine is the bad sibling" so that we would know what changed signs or something. It was cool.
If you need conceptual help, don't be afraid to ask your teacher or sign up for a tutoring program through your school. Or ask a friend from your class who gets it.
In fact, when school starts, feel free to ask me any math questions. I can't five you the answers, but I can help you figure out how to get there =].
--Jack
(16/m)
Anyone know who this is?
http://youtube.com/watch?v=yLp0vopKYYo
The guy is named Kellin Quinn and he's from Oregon.
He's in a band called Closer 2 Closure, and honestly it's not half bad ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
I want to learn how to scream like Lacey in Flyleaf. Nothing like too hard core. Just enough to sing the whole song and be able to scream. Iv googled it and come up with nothing. Any tips?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070721090637AAWykg5
From there:
It's more a matter of making those screaming sounds at a normal singing volume, rather than actually screaming. Notice that Flyleaf's singer doesn't actually get louder when she's singing the "screamo" parts - what she's screaming is virtually at the same level as what she sings. It's a lot like whispering, in a way. It's the microphone that amplifies the sound of her voice, making it sound a lot more brutal than it really is.
Try to emulate her screamo parts in a low voice & you'll find it's not really that hard, but it doesn't have that brutality to it. Then go pick up a microphone and crank up the volume and that scream you make under your breath can sound like an absolute roar.
--Jack
(16/m)
Hey Jack, you have answered a ton of my questions (by the way you're amazing!) And you give good advice so here I go again.
Well my ex-bf is the boy that posted the question about flirting at the pool (the lifeguard) today. Scratch that, I THINK it's him. It could be his brother. But it's so grammatically correct that I believe it's him (his brother can never spell...) You've answered so many of my questions in the past few days that I'm not even going to count, including one today (it started with the number 16.)
Summary: we went out for a year and a half. Broke up a few weeks ago. We really did love eachother. Now he wants nothing to do with me. Anyway your advice was to stay away from him at all costs, ex. delete him from my phone and stuff. But I'm telling you, I just can't do that! That would be so impossible and I don't have the willpower! I was wondering if you had any smart things that I can tell myself when he signs on AIM or when I get the urge to call him. Things that will make me stay away from him.
Also, since you're a guy I thought you could answer this: Why would he want to go from very best friends and bf/gf to nothing at all after the break up? Maybe it's a guy thing... I really don't get it. Do guys move on easier? Or does that mean that our relationship wasn't as good as I thought it was? (the break up surprised me.)
Last thing I promise: WILL he ever come around, you think? Will he suddenly IM me someday and want to talk? And since you're a guy, do you have any idea of how long you would wait to IM your ex if you were in my situation?
Thank you so much Jack you're amazing!
I saw you live in the Midwest, I do too! It's been awful hot lately : /
Thank you so much!!
Hmm well if the things I said before about getting over him didn't help, I don't know that I have much of anything else to add.
Maybe when he logs on to AIM, sign off or go on a website like addictinggames.com or something. Maybe take him off of your buddy list so you won't know when he's on.
On to the other questions..
I guess it is a guy thing because I was never in a rush to be friends with my exes very soon. It was just too awkward and forced, I thought. Guys I think at least let on that they move on quicker, but sometimes they don't. If he was the one that broke up with you, which I'm assuming it was him, I'm sure he's going to have moved on faster.
I can't guarantee that he will come back and talk to you again, but eventually I started talking to my most recent ex, and we actually talked everything out maturely and came to an understanding. With my other ex it was just recently that I talked to her for the first time, and that was about a year and a half after we broke up. It really depends. You might never talk to him again or you could. Really it's all what he's comfortable with.
Like I said in my previous answer, don't IM him- have him IM you.
Yeah it was 92 where I live today! And it's going to be hot and muggy all week! =/
--Jack
(16/m)
my boyfriend and i are in love and we are perfect for eachother, we have so much in common and we agree on everthing.. well almost everything
the only thing we don't see eye to eye on is sex.
we both want to have it, we've been waiting a long time for eachother until we were both ready and everything. the only problem is i want him to use a condom and he refuses. he claims he can't keep the erection if he uses one. i want to protect myself from possible std's (he's had 7 partners in the past and obviously does'nt use protection) and from pregnacy because at this point in my life i am in no way ready to have a baby. his swares he doesn't have any diseses and claims he'll pull out ebfore he ejaculates.
what should i do?? thans so much
STICK to your stance.
You can get pregnant even if he "pulls out". That's the stupidest excuse a guy will use to get you to have unprotected sex with him. In fact, many people get pregnant despite that method. It just doesn't work. Plain and simple.
Let him know that. If he still refuses, tell him that he can shove it. Okay, don't be that rude, but he CANNOT force you to have sex with him- that's rape.
His stupid excuse for not wanting a condom really kills me. That's the lamest thing I've ever heard. And as far as STDs go, I wouldn't completely believe that until he's been tested. He's had SEVEN other partners. What if those seven people each had seven partners and then those other partners had seven partners each? My point is that at least one of them, statistically, has come into contact with some type of STD, and I wouldn't fully believe your boyfriend until he's tested.
Tell him no condom equals no sex. Giving an ultimatum is probably the best thing you can do.
--Jack
(16/m)
13/f
im an upcoming freshman going onto the varsity cheerleading team. and i absolutly love it!
i love the girls and everything. but they have a reputation i guess and i dont see it in all of them. but even the ones that do have a "whore" reputation are great people.
it doesnt really btoher me what people say but this did
my really great friend, he said well i really hope ur not known as a hoe in highskool beacuse i dont want that happening to you. and i dont think i will become that but i just HATE how people judge girls by what they hear.
i dont know is there anyone who can make me feel better about this?
My sister is a cheerleader and she isn't a whore. Yes, some of them are, but they give a bad name to cheerleaders.
If anyone calls you a whore, stand up to them. Tell them that generalizing about someone just because they are a cheerleader is wrong. It's just stupid. If they laugh and call you a whore again, shrug it off and don't let it affect you. When you show people that their nasty words hurt you, they'll keep doing it, I promise you that. But, if you show them that they don't affect you, they'll stop.
Who cares what they think anyway? As long as you know you're not a whore, that's all that matters =].
--Jack
(16/m)
16/f what are fun things to do when you hang out with friends at home.. when my friend comes over, my mind goes blank lol. [something besides video games, movies, make-overs, nails...]
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507084
From there:
www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html
Those are a lot of fun.
Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.
Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours.
I know a lot of those are really weird, but being random with your friends can make some really good memories and hilarious inside jokes. Some of the best memories I have with my friend Leah are just random things like things we see or say. I don't know how to explain it.
--Jack
(16/m)
16. we broke up a month ago and went out for a year and a half. he posted a question on here a few days ago about how to flirt with girls at his work. and of course i was reading thru advicenators and i found it. i am beyond upset. i knew the question was either asked by him or his brother, but it's too good of grammar to be his brother (i don't know this for sure though.)
the worst part is that he's saying he didn't ask the question. i don't know if i should believe him or not, because the grammar really is too good to be his brother. that's not my problem. my problem is that he's already flirting with girls after a month and it really hurts. on top of all of that, he's practically ignoring me. i still love him very much, in every way, but i really wish we could still be best friends. i know i can't control his mind though. my question is: should i let him be the one to initiate conversation? should he have to start working to keep the friendship together? i've tried "ignoring" him but everytime he gets online i end up IM-ing him. i just need some really good advice on if i should let him take the lead. and don't just tell me to, try to convince me. like i said earlier, i've already tried, but it's too hard.
it's so crushing to know he doesn't want anything to do with me... i need advice on how to keep myself sane as well. i really love him, i would never get back together with him, but i just want to be friends. i want him still to im me and go do fun stuff with me as a friend. we went from very best friends to nothing when he broke up with me. advice on how to handle this situation with him, and how to handle my heartbreak?
thank you.
He's your ex boyfriend for a reason, and as rude as this sounds, you have no real right to be upset about that. You aren't dating anymore and he isn't under your control. He can do as he pleases.
I suggest, for now, just letting him come to you. You've tried talking to him and he just rejects you. What's the point of putting yourself through that? It's unnecessary pain and it just isn't worth it.
Remember, he does not have to be friends with you if he doesn't want to be. You can't make him be your friend. Really, all you can do is stay patient and hope that maybe you can still be friends. But at this moment, bothering him about it isn't going to get you anywhere.
I don't mean to sound rude, I mean to help you realize that somethings are not under your control, and you just have to be patient with people and let them decide what they want. If he wants to be your friend, he will approach you.
For now, here's ideas of how to not think about him:
http://www.whatithinkabout.com/how-to-get-over-a-guy-girl/
That will help for a bit.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-a-Guy-You-Liked
From there:
1. Invite some friends over, and watch some chick flicks. Get fun and upbeat movies like "John Tucker Must Die"
2. Get some money, and get a new haircut that is fun and flirty, and invest in some new makeup! If you usually wear red, try coral!
3. Grab a good book, and some jelly beans (any candy/food works) and just get lost in the book
4. Spend a day with other single friends and spend the night rating cute (single) guys! Find a new crush! You never know!
5. Open your mind and realize that if he deserved you, he would be with you.
6. Throw a party.
7. Call your friends and have a good laugh!
8. Shop! Splurge!
9. Write down every single thing that annoyed you about him. Then read it and realize he is not only not perfect, but also not perfect for you.
10. Exercise! Work it, girlfriend! Over the weekend work out, eat great and when the weekend's over, he's going to take one look and say "Boy, she does look good."
11. Grab a bottle of soda, a cute cup, and a friend go one for one saluting all the good things in life.
12. Listen to funky music!
13. If you delete him from your buddylist, phonebook, and everything else. Completely stop messaging - texting - calling - IMing - spending time - with him all together and you will get over him. Trust me.
14. The more time you spend thinking about him, the harder it will be to get over him.
15. Remind yourself that he's just another guy.
16. If he flirts with you, then ignore him. He's like a mosquito; you have to swat him.
17. And if he's rude to you, you be rude to him.
18. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him...including his phone number
* You can always just cry and get it all out of your system so you don't have to worry about it.
* Remember that there are millions of other guys out there.
* Don't be mad at yourself if a guy ever turns you down. There always is a reason for something happening. You might never figure it out though.
* Accept that you're still attracted to that guy, but try to become interested in other guys.
* Chocolate is good, but don't overdo it.
* You have to try to stay optimistic.
* Try to avoid spending time with him if possible. It's harder to get over someone you're always thinking about.
* Know that there is someone perfect out there for you, not a jerk that broke your heart.
* Write a letter to him explaining how you feel but do not send it.
* Delete his number from your phone to avoid texting and calling him.
* Don't be fooled by his charm when you bump into him
* Get a pet. Play with it, take care of it. It's a much better replacement than dating another guy you don't really like.
* Start introducing yourself to other guys....then get their number and call and talk to them.....that's what my sister did and she fell in love with someone else.:)
* go out parting with friends.. TO AVOID SEEING HIM.. that doesn't mean go out to the same party you know hes going to be at.
* Secretly put your friend's favorite candy in their pocket and watch them wonder how it got there. If you focus your energy outwards to make someone happy, you'll forget all about ol' whatshisname!
* EXERCISE! it really helps. and leaves you feeling re- charged and gives you time to think and stuff :D
* Start looking extra hot so you get attention from other guys. It gives you confidence and it might help earn you someone else.
* If he starts being charming, think of it as a cheap way of comming on to you. That way he'll seem stupid and desprate. (the more turn offs the better.)
There you go =].
--Jack
(16/m)
i need help to lose 79 pound before september.the reson y is because my older sister like to make fun of me and she is coming to visit my family and it is very hard to lose it for some reson
Unfortunately, losing 79 pounds in only 6 weeks is not very do-able. A healthy weight loss is 2-3 pounds per week unless you're over 400 pounds [or something like that]. Then, it is healthy to lose maybe 10-15 pounds for the first few weeks. But that's not for a teenager looking to lose weight.
Based on the fact that you should only lose 2-3 pounds a week, you have 6 weeks and really should lose only about 18-20 pounds. Sorry.
The way to do this is to eat right and exercise daily. By eating right I mean to cut down the carbs, but not completely. Add more fruits and vegetables to your diet, along with proteins. I'm not an expert, so here's a search that can help you out:
As for your sister, if she were nice, she wouldn't make fun of you. And if she does, tell her that you're working on losing weight and that she should get off your back. Your weight is your business and you shouldn't let anyone tell you you're fat or anything. Stand up for yourself =].
--Jack
(16/m)
This question is for anyone in Laurens or Clinton South Carolina. I am a teenager in search of an afterschool job. If you are from this area or familiar with the area your suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank You!!!!
I'm not from that area, and I doubt you'll find someone from there unless you have friends on here.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543176
From there:
You don't need to get a job at a big chain. In fact, most of them don't hire until you're at least 16.
You can do simple jobs like babysitting for friends and family. [You can charge more for more kids the more troublesome they are]
Walk dogs of friends. [The more dogs at once the more money you get! ;)]
Mow lawns in the summer.
Rack leaves in the fall.
Shovel snow in the winter.
All jobs people hate. =]
Get homemade fliers and put them around the neighborhood.
For old people give them the fliers. They are old and can't go far =].
Use this search:
--Jack
(16/m)
the guy i like asked me to hang out with him....... and im pretty darn sure he likes me cuz he told me how he felt and everthing
but..............
he has a girlfriend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
so why would he ask me to hang out with him and just him if he has a girl friend!!!!
and its not like we have been friends i mean i wouldnt even consider him a friend really but i do like him a lot tho!!!!!!!
so does any one no why??????
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340
From there:
I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
It's pretty common for a guy to like a girl outside of his relationship. As wrong as that may be, it's true. He seems to have done a few of the things above, so I would say he likes you.
Just lay low for awhile, especially since he has a girlfriend. You wouldn't want to steal him away and have a horrible reputation, would you? ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
i dont know how to kiss my girlfreind canyou give me tips on how to kiss?
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542507
From there:
I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]
But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss, nor do I have experience with kissing at all! Can you say prude? ;]
Anyway- if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend- just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.
Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.
There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.
From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:
1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.
My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.
www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699
Honestly, you could read a book about it, and you'd probably forget everything once you went in for the kiss.
Explore. Do what feels right. Make it fun, playful, romantic, whatever you want it to be. Don't make it all about jamming your tongue down his throat, and try not to drool all over him, because it's generally less than desireable to do so.
If you come off as confident it'll be a lot more fun. If all evening you're thinking "Oh my gosh, this is going to be bad" you won't enjoy yourself. Follow his lead at first, if you're truly that nervous.
And really, it's almost impossible to find a truly bad kisser. If anything, they might do something you're not used to; give it a chance before you hate it. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing right now about you!
Over time, you'll develop your own personal style of kissing/making out, and that's not a bad thing. Do whatever feels good/right to you, and gets a positive reaction. For example, some people love a gentle, or less than gentle, bite of the lip, "necking", and other techniques. Like I already said, experiment & make it fun!
From personal experience I'd advise that you brush your teeth and floss, and have some mild mints with you, like TicTacs. Fruity is usually good, and less overpowering. If you're at a party, don't worry too much about what you're eating if you're both eating the same things, but a huge plate of hummus & extra garlic is a bad choice right before kissing =P. That's where mints come in handy for both of you. Casually offer him one if he's been gorging on something stinky.
--Jack
(16/m)
Hey i'm really excited for J.H. (junior high) but i'm afraid i'll make 1 little mistake and it will be the last time i even get looked at. Are there any tips in general? What should i stay away from, homework help, ext.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=544169
If you're going into middle school now, that means you're likely only 12 years old, but I'm not sure. Please let me know your age =].
Middle school is not as hard as people let on. Don't act like you own the school- no one wants that.
Just be polite to everyone and you should be fine. =]
http://www.wikihow.com/Survive-Middle-School
From there:
1. Make sure you go to all the student orientation days. It is very important because it will tell you your classes and you can discover which is one of the most important differences. In middle school you change classes, depending on your school you may have more classes per day, or have a different schedule every other day. Some people will be dealing with more people than others, so that means that you should be friendly (open). Do not have ONE group that you hang out with, if you can manage it, but have several. Remember that you should never be a clique.
2. Pick a locker that suits your needs (if your schools allows you to pick them). If you are shorter than some other kids, it would help to pick a bottom locker so that you can reach your locker. If you are tall, pick a top locker so that you don't have to bend over to get to your locker. Make sure that your locker is cool, clean, and correct to the school decorating rules.
3. Feel confident and be friendly on the first day of school. Smile at people and be open! Make sure before lunch you make some new friends. In class - well, it might be better if you're waiting outside class so your teachers don't get mad - talk to your fellow students! Look at their schedules see if you have any more classes with them, so you can have someone to walk with.
4. Make sure you arrive to class ON TIME. Teachers aren't very happy when you're late, but they might cut you some slack the first week. Always keep a map and your schedule with you!
5. Stay on Top of Homework. Now that you're in middle school you will have way more homework, and you will not have teachers help you as much in getting it done on time. Try not to get behind, stay organized. Keep a planner so that you'll remember homework assignments. Some schools will sell, or even give you one, others you have to get your own. Also if you don't have the same classes every day, do your homework the day you get it, don't wait until it's almost due. Participation is the most important part of school, after all.
6. Avoid pressure to date. In middle school, the social scene for romance gets more visible. But don't feel pressured into having a boyfriend or girlfriend until you're ready. Girls often mature eariler than boys at this age, so there's often a real gap between girls and boys developmentally.
7. Be Yourself. And have fun, those 2 or 3 years will fly by and next thing you know you'll be reading a how to on how to survive high school!
8. Treat everyone as you would like to be treated. It may be cliche, but that's due to its truth. Everyone wants to be important, liked and respected, so make them feel that way! Remember, there are some people who are bound to dislike you. From them you can learn what you're doing wrong, and cultivate yourself. Other than that, however, don't mind them! You're self-esteem should never be built on other people's opinions, because no matter how you act, someone always dislikes you.
* Place a premium not on looks, but on personality. Believe it or not, after a while, how attractive or unattractive you are begins to fade after people get to know you. Popular people are often facilitated by good looks, but it's their ability to make people feel comfortable and liked that really puts them on top. Smile, be respectful and kind. Be witty if you're witty, and artsy if you're artsy. Find people with similar interests, and above all, don't try to bend yourself to the will of others.
* Do not try to "nice" people into liking you. Rather, be genuinely caring. If it's not sincere, people will notice eventually, and they'll hate you for it. This, above all, is where most of the nasty games of middle school find their roots.
9. Welcome to Puberty. Middle school is the time of life where many children start becoming young adults. (Although you may have already hit this age, or will reach it in high school). You'll have a lot of changes to look forward to.
10. Don't take Middle School so seriously. Although it's a big step from the elementary grades to the middle school level, it's just one change out of many.
11. Forget What You See on TV or the Media. Middle school is only vaguely what you see on TV, movies, or the like. These are often played by actors much older than middle-school years, and with a writing staff. Your reality will likely be less glamorous, more complicated, but definitely more real.
--Jack
(16/m)
11 months ago this guy asked me out, we saw a movie and everything it was perfect...but it just faded away and I realized that we never really were actually bf/gf or that's just what I thought. Now, everyone thinks he still likes me by the hints he gives me..Like we were playing tennis on sunday and he dumped buckets of water on me and expected me to chase him..He laughs at everything I say, and my friend says that he kept trying to walk with me at the mall. I'm really confused because I still really like him, but I just don't know what to do anymore., I don't want to get my hopes up and think that he does like me and get crushed...I don't know...I just really need advice.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=506340
From there:
I'm going to give you a list of what guys tend to do when they like girls:
1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.
2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.
3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...
4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.
5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".
6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.
If you like this guy- and he does all or most of those things- my best bet is that he does like you. That means one and only one thing: Ask him to make sure, and then try the relationship out. Who knows- it could be great!
If that doesn't help, I'll add more information ;]
--Jack
(16/m)