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Oh kay so my boyfriend wants to like have sex with me and shit-i mean he already fingered me and i gave him a BJ but i don't know if i should have sex with him i am only 13 and i don't want it to get around my school! HELP!!
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The fact that you're asking this question tells me that you're not ready. By asking this question, you are showing me that you're hesitant on whether or not you should have sex, and any time you're hesitant with a decision like this, it's a clear sign that you shouldn't.
I say just wait. Most people who end up losing their virginities too early end up regretting it. Waiting for when you KNOW 100% that you're ready can make all of the difference. It will feel SO much more special. And heck, it will feel even more special if you're married and both of you waited and saved yourselves for each other. What is more romantic than that? ;]
Yeah, it probably would get around the school faster than you could say "Advicenators is my favorite website ever!", so it's probably best that you wait. =]
--Jack
(16/m)
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If you think your ready, Go for it.
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only do it if you think your ready
if your not, dont do it just because your boyfriend wants to you have to be ready to
as for it getting around the school, if you dont say anything and he doesnt say anything then.. nobody should find out but if you tell someone or he tells someone.. then your screwed
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Nooo.
Believe me, it will get around.
And when I sat it'll get around, I mean it'll get around to EVERYONE.
I knew a girl at my school who was thirteen and when she did it, the entire school knew within the next month. I don't know if the guy told, or if her 'friends' told. I actually think it was both of them. Seriously, even my teachers knew. I felt so bad for the girl, and I'd never wanna see anyone go through what she did. Just, please don't do it.
I hope you make the right decision. ;)
Good luck.
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ok hold up a minute here. your 13 like a one and a three put together and you already got fingered and gave your boyfriend a blowjob.??? k so that sounds good. i would have to say and its my own opinion that if you were my sister i would be verrrryy disapointed in you. you need to really think and especially at your age what would your parents think of you doing this your 13 its way to young to be getting fingered and giving blowjobs and yes handjobs. im guessing you dont even know what most of the affects it could have on you like. STD yes giving head can still pass an std and with sex duh u probally know that. and if you already had your period you can get pregnant but if you havnt or u still have because you are at such a young age your body hasnt really developed all that much so by having sex can really affect you. you could get a blatter infection you could be emotionally damaged. how long have you been going out with this boy? a month or two a year maybe but did you stay together not once broken up over him looking or talking to another girl. i mean i know that you think that what am i to say anything to you like this and it will probally make you angry because i have so been there at your age im 15 and a female and when i was 13 i just got my first kiss and it was a peck and my first boyfriend like you may be saying wow what a loser but do you really want to be in 9th grade and already not be a virgin and having guys think o its loosey goosey or she so easy and then no one will respect you and people will be calling you a hoe and its not good i see it everyday i have to say that i have never gave a guy a blow job i think for one you need to really connect with the guy he needs to really love you and really need to love him and there needs to be a lot of trust and my rule is if i have dated the guy for over a year and we didnt break up the whole year and no major problems then hes the rite one to have sex with. i havnt found the one yet im in a relationship now but we havnt done anything serious. taking it slow is the way to go rite now you should be enjoying the first time a guy holds your hand or asks you out or kisses you. not your first blowjob thats gross. in the future if your not ready wich seems your not becasue your having second thoughts on this then your not ready if he breaks up with you because you wont do stuff with him then so be it hes the pig and you wont have an awful name to you. and trust me he will say he wont tell any one but he will then that person will tell someoene and then next thing you know its all over school your sent to a councling office and they talk to you about it like its their business and its not! its annoying heart breaking its awful. you need to think before you act next time really think would you want to tell your mother that being thirteen you already had sex. how would she react. think about your future. think about you.
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If you DON'T WANT to have sex, then DON'T HAVE SEX. It's that easy! Just tell your boyfriend that you're not ready, and if he really cares about you, then he'll understand.
-Laura. (16-f)
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I don't think your ready. NOt beacuse of your age, because of the way you sound. Don't do it. First of all, It is illegal. Second of all, its going to get around school cuz your boyfriend is going to tell all his friends, because he "scored". You know? Well don't do it becuse i know its going to bite you in the back. Say no, and if he still pressures you, then thats when you need to question weather or not he is a good guy and if you want to be going out with him.
hope i helped
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-E
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Say no. If there is even the slightest doubt in your mind, then you do not want to. It doesn't matter how much you love your boyfriend. Sex is about love, but it is also about mutual respect for each other's values. If you don't want sex yet, your boyfriend needs to understand. It's your own personal decision, and clearly you want to stay a virgin. Don't let anyone manipulate you into thinking otherwise.
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