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17/f.
i've been talking to my ex (from middle school) lately. Now, its totally different..which is gooD! It's not an akward relationship from the 6th grade anymore haha, we actually talk. Unfortunately, the other night he texted me saying "sorry i'm under the influence CANT TALK.ttyl" and it pissed me off because i hate when people drunk text and ..idk. i haven't had a good experience with people texting me drunnk. ANYWAYS, the next day he texted me saying guesswhat. and i was like oh are you hungover. he got pissed and since friday we've been akward.
Two days ago i texted him , saying hi and asking how he was. it was so akward!! i want to talk to him, i miss him. but...i don't want to bother him or whatever. should i wait for him to text me?
i feel like he doesn't care...so why bother.

I don't think you should wait for him to text you
he should do it by himself without you having to wait if you feel like he doesn't care then don't go through with texting him and possiblity wasting your
time it's not worth it it's his loss he got pissed at you moving on is your best option him texting you might not happen and you shouldn't have to wait around hoping it will happen when it might not if it felt strange for you then it probably will still be if you try texting him again you don't deserve to be treated that way you deserve to be treated way better(:

i am a 16 year old female. he is a 16 year old male. okay so on sunday night my boyfriends mom made all these new rules and stuff and i couldn't handle it so i broke up with him. (i regret it and i did not mean it. i said it bc i was pissed.) he went insane that night and i found out the next morning he spent the night in the hospital because he threatened to commit suicide. we hung out that day for 2 hours to talk bout the break up. he said he did not mean it when he said he wanted to commit suicide. he asked his mother if we could hang out longer and she said no. he went insane again and went back to the hospital. i havent heard from his since. i called his cell 3 times yesterday and on the third call, his mom answered. this is our convo.
Me: hey is ****** there?
her: no he is at the hospital, you can't visit him
me: okay well can u have him call me back when he gets out:
her: no, you guys aren't allowed to talk anymore or see each other.
me: ok.
there was a little bit more. but yeah. so now we are not alllowed to see each other or talk ever again. it's hard because he completes me. i am not sure if this is a test to see if our love is really this strong. but i am scared that he is gonna come back and not have any feelings for me anymore. so i don't know what to do at this point. She is controlling him and has the whole relationship. I have talked to a lot of people and all i can do is blame the mother. She makes him uncomfortable which makes me get uncomfortable which then makes him freak out. i really dont know what to do.. please help. i need imput and advice

I think you should call his mother up try and
to explain yourself to her tell her you'd like another chance you regret breaking up with her son and you didn't mean it you made a mistake and overreacted seeing as you were angry people say things they don't mean sometimes especially when their angry it doesn't make sense first she said you could visit him in the hospital then said you two weren't allowed to see or speak to one another she shouldn't of said you could visit him if she was going to not allow you to see him or talk to him like i said it doesn't make sense if you trying to explain herself to her doesn't work then i don't think there's much you can do you've got to respect her wishes and what she wanted she can control him seeing as he's her son and not a stranger things weren't meant to be between you
two you can't make something work that isn't meant
to be everything happens for a reason you can't change what has happened even though you'd probably like to(:

Ok well i like this kid, but i dunno hes a year older than me, im 13 hes 14.. i know that doesnt matter cuz ive went out with ppl b4 that were that age n i had no problem with it. But hes goin to the high school.. n im still gunna be in middle school.. n i duno he might find new girls. N i think now he kinda wants to be friends w/benefits for now or maybe he wants to go out with me.. but i dunno?! He seems like a player tho, n hes gotten alot farther than me.. i've only got til like makeing out n hes done like everything but sex. Im afraid he might use me, even tho it doesnt seem like it. Shud i give em a chance? Thanks i rate good! x0x confused babe

I think you should give him a chance he deserves at least one right now your jumping to conclusions thinking that he'll use you but you don't know that for a fact that..that's what he's planning on doing plus your judging him before getting to know him thinking he's a player when you don't know if he is or not if you give him a chance he'll be able to prove to you that he isn't planning on just using you the age difference doesn't matter seeing as your age is a number nothing more plus he's one year older then you which isn't a big difference at all if you think he doesn't seem like a player then go for it give him a chance it's worth a shot if for some reason things don't work out the way you would of liked you'll still know you tried instead of not doing anything at all plus if you do end up giving him a chance you'll be able to find out what his intentions are(:

I'm an indirect victim of racism. People (or few guys, always GUYS) in my class are always making jokes regarding to my race and it's really hurtful and they act as if I'm/we're not even in the same room as them! And some people laugh as well!

I understand that some people are kinda ify about it and they laugh kind of as a defense system but if they feel that it's wrong, they should at least not laugh!

I want to just tell them/him off; I fele anger radiating throughout my body. But I don't know why, tears just seem so come out as my first adrenaline reaction or something so I can't expect to say stop with tears! What can I do?

You need to confront them and make them aware of what they are doing they won't know unless you tell them make them realize that what they are saying to you is really hurtful tell them what they are doing isn't right and you'd like for them to stop seeing as their words are hurting you..you should never allow anyone to be mean to you or push you around that includes them you've got to defend and stick up for yourself especially when it comes to racist comments being said the way you are reacting is normal you've got to pull yourself together even though it won't be easy and tell them to stop otherwise they will continue to do what they've been doing you don't deserve to have that being said to you that goes for anyone elese as well if you can't get them to stop tell your teacher what's happening i'm sure they'll be able to make it stop for good(:

I'm 18, and I just graduated high school six months ago. This past weekend we had my graduation party. After the party I went to my aunts house to hang out with her and her husband, and my other aunt, and their friend. He's 32. I had a few drinks and they asked me to drive their friend home. Well he was drunk, and I was a little buzzed, but we left the house and decided to crash a party across the street. We had a drink there, but the party was pretty boring so we decided to go to a different party. Well he suggested we have a few drinks at his place so I wouldn't risk getting in trouble with the police. So he and I were sitting at his place drinking and one thing led to another and we had sex. I'm feeling so guilty because he's my aunt's friend. And because he didn't use protection. I just want to cry and I don't know what to do!

You need to sit your aunt down and tell her that what happened that night happened unexpectly it's
not like you purposely meant to have sex with him it was simply a accident it wasn't like it was planned or you meant for it to happen you made a mistake your not perfect and only human i'm sure the fact that you both were drinking played some role in the both of you having sex seeing as you weren't fully in control of your actions make your aunt realize that you feel gulity about you what you did and tell her that everyone makes mistakes including yourself and what you did was simply a mistake it wasn't like you knew he only wanted you there for sex seeing as he said he wanted to have a few drinks with you it just happened you need to take a pregnancy test & get yourself tested for STD's just to be on the safe side it's better to be safe then sorry talk to your aunt about what happened keeping everything to yourself isn't good to do(:

i love singing and i sing 24/7 i love it. but one problam i get scared to sing in front of people. im good too. i wanted to sing at the talent show in a little i guess youd say fair for my town. wat do i do

You've got to be confident and believe in yourself have confidence you can't allow your fear of being scared stop you from singing in the fair you've got to face your fear and go through with singing you can't allow your nerves to get the best of you we've all got fears that's normal so you aren't alone if for some reason you don't do well or things don't go like you would of liked them to you'll still know you tried and faced your fear instead of not doing anything at all if you think negatively and you think you'll do bad then your performance won't be as good but if you think the opposite positively then you'll do good i think you should go through with singing it's worth a shot you might be surprised at how things turn out and surprise yourself take a few deep breaths before you sing that way you'll calm yourself down & be ready be energetic and confident(:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. He just graduated from college and I'm going into my sophomore year of college. Our relationship is long distance and we see each other whenever we possibly can but lately something isn't right. We use to have great conversation and a great relationship but suddenly I feel like everything's gone downhill. We fight constantly, about pointless and meaningless things. We're miserable when we're apart and I think that is taking it's effect on the both of us. I just can't seem to get through to him anymore. Whenever I try to fix and salvage our relationship, he seems to just leave the fixing up to me and never puts in any effort or input even when I beg him too. I just don't know what else to do. It scares me how things can go to being so great to being so terrible. Please help!

I think you need to make him realize that you and him need to try and fix your relationship together you doing it alone isn't going to get you anywhere you won't make any progress if you do it alone by yourself it has to be a team effort both of you have to try in order to make things change there's room for improvement it's not like all hope is lost which is a good thing tell him in order to make things change he has to be willing to he can't sit back and watch you save the relationship by yourself he's got to put forth effort seeing as he's your boyfriend and not some stranger he's got to be in control of the realationship and take charge not allow it to go downhill also mention to him that it's scaring you that things went from being great to terrible hopefully that will make him realize what he's doing wrong and the mistakes he's been making and he'll change once he see's how it's been affecting you(:

I'm a female in my late 20's. Ive been friends with this guy since i was 16 years old. We lost contact of each other for a few years since i went to college we got back in contact about 4 years ago after he found me on face book. I found out that he just got out of a relationship which resulted in him having three children. I thought it was great he had kids they were cute. But i was no way ready for children. He revealed to me that he always had a crush on me but did not know how to tell me. I was shoked. He began flirting with me from time to time and i told him if we were to have a relationship i don't think it would work out because he has kids. its not that i did not like the fact that he had kids is just that i feel if you are with someone then you have to accept everthing about them and the kids was too much for me i felt that i would have to be apart of thier lives too and i was not ready for that type of responsility. He said that he understood my concern but wanted to be frieds with benefits I said no because friends with benefits never work. For two years he flirted and kept asking me to be frieds with benefits. After a while i broke and decided to be friends with benefits. Considering that i have needs and did not have much of a love life myself. at first it was great. we were good friends and better lovers.I thought we would not be able to handle it but it was fine and it was not all the time aside from seing each other casually and hanging out with friends. maybe every 6 months or so we'll have sex. then one day recently i sent him and e-mail on face book and noticed i was no longer his friend i tried AIM on aol and he was gone from my friends list. I sent him a text asking him what going on and he replied with a text that read WHO IS THIS? Which can only mean one thing. He ereased my number out of his phone and did not recognize me when i called. It texted back hey its me. (I stated my name) and he text back.........Time is up for me on alot of things we are still friends always but we cant do the things we did i just want to focus on my career. and that was it just like that. The thing is if he wanted to end our physical relationship i was fine with as a matter fact i was against it. I warned him that this type of thing never works and he acted like he was fine with it. he claims that we are still friends but there is no form of communication between us he erased my number i'm not on any of his online profiles so that means that he's mad that i did something to him. but i don't know what i did i tried calling he does not pick up i tried e-mailing him he does not answer back this whole thing was his idea why is he mad at me?

I don't think he was mad at you i think he wanted to
focus on his career like he said he wouldn't of said
it if it wasn't true he should of warned you before removing you instead of taking it upon himself and doing so or he could of gave you a better explaination to why he did it everything happens for a reason things weren't meant to be between you two you can't make something work that isn't meant to be and you can't change what has happened i think you should move on it's his loss he lied saying you'd always be friends but did what he did you don't deserve to be treated that way you deserve to be treated way better don't try contacting him again move on so you don't stress over this it isn't worth it(:

My parents and I had an argument when I got home from the movies around 9:20. It wasn't different from any other trip with my friends, and I already let her know I was leaving at 8:40. The problem was that my dad usually picks me up, but this time I took the subway home. While I already let my mom know this, she's very overprotective. I had my friend's dad drive me to school, and then took the subway to my house(one station). Most people from where I live take public transportation, and it was filled with people. I got home, and my parents started yelling at me. While I was used to my mom, my dad was especially hurtful. He acknowledged that I didn't do anything wrong that day, but told me to get home by 8 in the future. Since I did nothing wrong, I was very upset. I felt that 8 was too early and I knew my mom wouldn't have cared if my dad had picked me up. I pointed this out, and he started yelling about house rules. (he was already yelling in the first place). The whole fight is too long to post, but basically he started yelling and interrogating me as soon as I walked in, even after it was established that I wasn't in the wrong. I was very calm at first, but I found that by the end I was getting very defensive. My mom told me to go to my room.(to get us to stop arguing) I was crying by that point. My dad followed me in, and he wouldn't stop. He asked me how much money I spent, and what I spent it on. (it was my money, and he never asked before). I asked why he was doing this, and he yelled at me to just answer. I said I didn't know, which was the truth. I hadn't spent much at all, and just bought a little food.He kept asking like he thought I was lying. The argument went on, and at one point he made a threatening advance towards me. He brought all sorts of things on, and told me I couldn't stay up late anymore and all that(while still on the subject, I hadn't said anything else). About half an hour later he came back in and told me not to be too upset(I was still crying) and that it wasn't a punishment or related to today, it was just for the future. Of course to me, it felt like a punishment since he yelled at me and made my curfew 8 and told me I couldn't go out on Sundays and everything. This was all while we had established that I hadn't done anything wrong. My mom and I worked it out quickly (she told me "fine, next time I'll go get you so I feel that you're safe) but my dad got involved for no reason and made everything worse. I'm still fuming about the curfew(which I doubt is going to stay 8). It's two days after, and my dad is trying to make it up to me. I won't speak to him. I just can't get over that day, and how hurt and attacked I felt(especially since I did nothing wrong). During the fight, one of his "suggestions" was that I go to the movies alone. He doesn't understand because he was very poor during his childhood, and never went out to meet friends. He was unreasonable and unfair(and extremely unkind), and I just can't seem to forgive him. His methods of making up are buying presents and things like that, but I don't want a present. I want an apology. Can I have some advice? 13/F

Even though your angry at your father you can't hold a grudge aganist him forever seeing as he's still your dad you'll have to forgive him at some point if i were you i'd wait for things to settle down between you and your dad and wait for him to
apologize you can't force him to do so it has to come from his heart he has to want to do it so he truely means it and apologizes i wouldn't rush or pressure him give him some time and hopefully he'll come around and give you the apology your wanting both of your parents were being strict with you because they love and care for you 13 is still a young age your still a minor talk to your father and tell him how you feel so he hears what your saying and you get everything all out in the open for him to hear(:

Hey, you answered my question on "which guy?"...
I liked what you said, so I was wondering if you could help me now.

I haven't even talked to that other guy much...
And my boyfriend is having even more troubles.
Guess what, he got off home detention about a week ago. I was so happy... but then let down to hear that his parole officer found out he was skipping school to really hang out with people. He now has to go to court tomorrow, and he's saying that he is going to juvie for 2 weeks now.

He was supposed to sneak over tonight, because it's his last night he can for 2 weeks, but his friend has his bike. We tired everything to get a way for him to... but we never found a way, we couldn't get a ride or anything.

I've been IMing him for the past 3 hours. He was going to steal his dad's car and come pick me up, but his dad caught him and he made an excuse. So he's okay. Then he said "oh shit hold on" and I was like ok.. and he logged off. He never got back on and it's been over 30 minutes.

I am so upset and depressed and this is killing me. What am I supposed to do for 2 weeks without any talking to him? It's summertime and two weeks from now is like July 10th. That is insane. Is it right for me to be this upset? I'm in tears...

Alright sure i'd love to help(:

Yes it's right for you to be that upset the way you are you've got to realize that he's your boyfriend the one you love and care about and not a stranger who you've never met before what your feeling is normal i'd give him some time i don't think he'd forget about your conversation seeing as he said hold on if he hadn't of said that and just signed off without giving you a warning he was going to do so or if he didn't say what he did then you'd have a reason to worry but seeing as it's been over 30 minutes that he hasn't signed back on i think you should call him and if another person answers that isn't him ask if you could speak to him and if you aren't able to then ask if the person can pass a message along to him and say what you want while he's gone you need to
try and be strong for both you and him even though
it won't be easy and will be tough to do right
now is when he needs you most he can't see you being upset so you've got to try your hardest to be strong for him and find strength also while he's gone find things for yourself to do keep yourself busy that way your mind isn't focused on
him and it's focused on other things time usually
flies and goes faster if your busy and aren't just
sitting around doing nothing also if you do happen
to speak to him i would tell him that his behavior
and the way he's acting is upsetting you maybe once he realizes what he's doing wrong and see's how it's affecting and hurting you he'll stop with the bad behavior and he'll start to be good(:

18/f

heres a little bit of my history: i dated a guy sam 2 years ago, we went out for a year and a half (breaking up once then getting back together). then i dated this new guy john for like 3 months. (i broke it off because he was more like a good guy friend, not really my type).

so last night i had a dream i was on that show the bachelor and my ex sam was the bachelor and he chose me. and i've been having alot of dreams with him in it recently. i think i'm starting to like him again:/ and he started talking to me again since i broke up with john and he said he wanted to hang out the next time i'm free. but the thing is he's hurt me twice before when we broke up. like i was absolutely devesteated, he was a dick. but you know how there's that one person you always keep coming back to? he's that one for me. my heart is telling me to go but my head is whats stopping me since he's hurt me twice. shoudl i listen to my head or ym heart?

I think you should listen to your heart even though
he's hurt you twice before he makes mistakes and is
only human he's not perfect i think you should give
him another chance you having dreams about him could
mean something it could be a sign for you if you give him another chance he could prove to you that
he's not going to hurt you again and he'll change how he acts towards you if for some reason things don't work out you'll know you did something instead of not doing anything at all then you can move on so i think you should give him another
chance see what happens when the two of you hang out together you maybe surprised at what happens(:

so i have this person who was kinda my best friend but she always pissed me off a little, like shes very uptight and like to put people down and say things just for the sake of making herself seen cool, and she thinks shes the shit and really words cant express my anger. but anyways, while we were friend no one else really liked her and would always ask me like "why do u hang out with her?" and now i just had enough of her and ive done a pretty good job of staying away from her, but now everyone likes her. like its crazy how popular shes become. but the thing is that now she just bothers me so much that i feel uncomfortable being around her because she always trys to put me down and w/e...but its killing me that people like her now. what do i do?

I think you need to tell the truth and be straight
forward with her say the way she is treating you is bothering you and you don't deserve to be treated that way much less anyone elese and if she's going to continue to treat you the way she does then you'd like it if she wasn't around you seeing as she's making you feel uncomfortable don't sugar coat what you say hopefully for your sake she'll get the hint and leave you alone stand up for yourself and defend yourself you should never allow anyone to push you around and that includes her make her realize your serious so she doesn't take what you say as a joke and for those people who like her they'll like her until she starts saying mean things about them and they see for themselves how she truely acts towards others and towards themselves they won't like her or want to be around her anymore after that happens(:

14/f

I love art! Thing is I totally suck at it. I wish I was better. But it's like all these kids I know who like art are also very good at drawing and stuff. Which kind of discourages me because I wasn't born with that talent. Is there hope for me? Because I want to join art classes but I don't want to be embarrassed because of my suck drawings. :/

You shouldn't compare yourself to other kids seeing
as your different then them even though your not
very good at drawing and art doesn't mean you should
become discouraged and give up you just need some practice once you practice you'll become
better there's a saying that goes practice makes perfect yes i think there's hope for you if you want
to join the art class you should it would probably be a good experience for you and you'll be able to learn how to draw like your wanting i'm sure there's other people who aren't very good at art like yourself so your not alone when it comes to that there's other things your talented at even though you may not be talented at art(:

I don't know how I feel about my boyfriend anymore.

We used to be so happy together. I still love him, but I don't know how he feels about me. Now I just feel like he only wants me around when there's nothing better to do (or if he needs me for something). We see each other at school and everything's fine. But that's just it. After school, we just go home and that's that.

I don't know if I sound extremely needy saying this, but nowadays he just hangs out with his friends ALL the time and never even bothers making plans with me. We haven't done anything together on the weekend in over a month. We hang out after school sometimes, but that's extremely rare now. We usually just end up going to his house or a fast food place, and half the time I have to suggest it. If I ask him to hang out on the weekend, he always says he already has plans. We don't even communicate on the weekends anymore; if I don't IM him, I won't hear from him until the next Monday at school.

It didn't use to be like this. When we first got together, we'd spend every Friday together. And this went on for months.

I'm finding myself really jealous of my friends' relationships.

To some extent, I feel like he's a kid and I'm like the kid's shiny new toy. When you first get the toy, it's exciting and you just want to play with it all the time. But after a while, it gets old and you seek other toys to play with.

I've considered breaking it off with him, but I care about him SO much and don't know if it's the right decision. I also don't know if I'm overreacting or not.

I haven't talked to him about it, either. I feel that if I do, he'll just start making plans with me not because he wants to, but because I bitched about it.

What should I do?

You've got to talk to him about it otherwise he won't know keeping what your feeling to yourself
isn't going to get you anywhere you've got to get it all out in the open so he hears everything even though you probably would rather not talk to him about it i wouldn't break up with him seeing as you care so much about him there's other ways to resolve the situation it doesn't have to lead to you ending it with him i don't think that'd be the right decision i also don't feel like your overreacting you have every right to feel the way you do seeing as he's not treating you nicely like he should be doing tell him you'd like it if the two of you spent more time together seeing as you haven't been doing so he's got to somehow balance you and his friends equally so nobody feels left out don't focus on your friends relationships just focus on your's that's the main one that truely matters(:

Ok there are these 2 guys. One is my ex's best friend that I'm not so close with, but I'm getting closer with now, and another is like my best friend and I've known him for a few years, we've been like brother/sister close.

Not too long ago I realized how much I like that guy that I've known for so long. I like him a lott and I'm quite comfortable around him. He lives closer to me than the other guy but I don't hang out with him outside of school. He really makes me feel incredible though.

The other guy I'm talking about lives a little farther but I sneak him over my house every few nights. We are dating right now and we've already had sex a few times. He's been on home detention for a while and he's going to jdc(juvenile detention center) this friday because he failed his drug test. He keeps violating his home detention but is promising he's getting off for me. To get off he'd have to pass his drug test. Marijuana is still in his system. Even when he gets off he's going to get right back into smoking and partying all the time though, I asked him.

Sorry this is long but I've got a little heartache problem.
It's summer break right now and the guy on home detention is the one I'm going to be hanging out with.. and I honestly think I need more time to get comfortable with him.. I don't feel on his level.
I really wish I could see the other guy.. he makes me really happy... He's half puerto rican/half dominican and I'm this little white guy. I'm pretty positive he likes me. I've been told and he acts like it.

What would you do? See if things get better with the guy I'm going out with or wait for school to come along to get closer to the other guy?
I've also done similar things the guy I'm dating has done... and the other guy is so innocent to that stuff. I don't really know what to think.

I think you should stay with your boyfriend and see if things get better with him you shouldn't jump to conclusions so quickly you should wait and see what happens first there's a possiblity that things could change you never know anything can happen i think you should believe your boyfriend when he promised you he'd stop with the drugs he wouldn't of said it if he didn't mean it and it wasn't true support your boyfriend seeing as he's going to the detention center and is going through a tough time right now it's not easy he needs your support and for you to be there for him i don't know when school
starts for you but i'm assuming it's not for a while so you'd probably have to wait a while to get closer to the other boy it's better to stay with your current boyfriend seeing as your already in a relationship ultimately in the end it's your decision and choice of what you'd like to do so do what makes you happy(:

Im a 17 year old female. I've been dating this guy for almost a year. He lives 3 hours away from me and the distance makes it hard but he says he wants to be with me and that it bothers him but its worth it basically. Well he's cheated on me twice, not physically. He's just traded dirty pictures and had phone sex (which to me is just as bad.HE also asked the gurl if shed like to hook up. Anyway the first time I kind of just blew it off but this time Ive taken it very seriously.(same gurl both times) I was going to break up with him but decided not to for some strange reason. I love him alot. Ive know him for two and half years and dated him for almost one of those like i said. Well he says he loves me and that he doesnt want to break up with me and that hed be really upset if we did. But then again he goes off and does that and since im not as close as her why doesnt he just end it and be with her. Ive tried talking to him about it and he just over and over again says he loves me and that he doesnt want to end it. I know he cant be using me for sex, because we don't do it that often seeing our distance situation. He cant be using me for money because i rarely buy him anything. so if he was using me i dont know what it would be for. I guess what im asking is, is it the distance that could be casuing him to turn to people closer to supply his needs? If he can't stay loyal why doesnt he break up with me? How should i approach the situation in a mature manner and let him know if it happens again im leaving without it causing a fight?

The distance could be causing him to turn to people
closer that's a possiblity i don't think he's using
you seeing as there's the distance issue i think you should believe him when he says he loves you and
that he doesn't want to break up with you he wouldn't of said it if it weren't true even though
he's done what he's done he deserves a second chance if you give him one he can prove to you that
he can be loyal and he could stop with the cheating
he's not perfect and makes mistakes he's only human
you need to tell him that if it happens again your leaving you were already cheated on twice and you aren't going to wait around for it to happen again three strikes & he's out you deserve to be treated better and not cheated on make him realize your serious so he doesn't take what you say as a joke(:

i'm a girl, 16. i have a friend, her name is Alexis, but lets call her "LEXIS" for short. Ok, so Lexis has been dateing this guy named Jim for about 4 and a 1/2 months. Well yesterday she found out that he's... he's not the sharpest tool in the shead. she found out that he get's a check for $700 dollars a month. Now she's not a gold digger, not a gold digger at all, she's more of a image person. so last night she called me and told me she was going to break up with him because, she "cant't be seen wit a slow person." I thought that was mean of her but befor i could tell her what i thought her uncle was calling and we hung up. So i talked to my other friend and 50% said that her reason for breaking up with him is shallow and the other 50% said that it was not.

my question is, is she shallow for breaking up with him for that reason, or is that a good reason to break up with a person?

Yes i do think she's shallow for saying what she did she could of worded it differently so it didn't sound so harsh or could of even avoided it entirely i agree with your friend that her reason for breaking up with him is shallow it almost seems
like she's making fun of people with disablities and
who are indeed slow i don't know the whole situation
but calling him slow just because he gets a check doesn't make sense she could of thought before she spoke so yes i think that she is shallow & no i don't think that's not a good enough
reason to break up someone(:

What do I need to do about liking two boys ?

I think you should sit down think long and hard
about who you'd be happiest with and who you'd get along with better and who you could see yourself being with write on a piece of paper the negative things about each boy and the positive things and see who you like better compare the two
boys that could make your decision easier ultimately in the end you've got to do what's best for you and what will make you happy because if
you aren't happy then being in a relationship probably isn't worth it(:

Hello, i am 15 and female. When i was in the 7th grade i was in a relationship with my best friend, she had a boyfrind at the time and he knew we were together, he even saw us kissing sometimes. we have only kissed, nothing too serious. In the 8th grade we were still going out and i didnt like other people thinking i was a lesbian or something so i broke up with her. We are both bisexual. Now we are both going into the 10th grade and i have these feelings where i want to make out with her and all that stuff. and its hard to control because we go to eachothers houses often and i always have the urge to kiss her but i never know how to go about it. The worse thing about this is she is in a comited relationship with a good guy friend of mine and they are happy together. What do i do? Do i tell her or should i keep it to my self?

I think you should keep it to yourself seeing as you don't want to come in between her and the relationship if you tell her it might cause problems
which you don't want to happen things weren't meant to be between you two you can't make something work
that isn't meant to be hope isn't lost though seeing
as your still young plus there's plenty of boys or girls out there for you to choose from so yes i think you should keep it to yourself and be happy for your friend seeing as that's what friend's do
and support her while she's in the relationship(:

I live with my grandparents. My friend and I have been friends since kindergarten. Well I promised her that I would go to summer school. But Then my grandpa died. My friend is like a part of the family my whole family knows her so it affected her too. Well when summer school came she asked me if I was going but I told her that I'm not going to summer school because then my grandma would be alone. She was like " But you promised!" Then she hung up. This was like a couple days ago. We just got over a fight too. Now every time I call she won't pick up and I leave messages but she still wont call. How do I get her to at least talk to me?

Yes i do think she cares i think you just caught her off guard with your news and you told her unexpectly she probably wasn't expecting you to say
what you did she's got to realize that there was a death in your family and even though you promised her you'd be going to summer school your grandpa's
death was your first priority give her some space
and wait she may call on her own without you having
to constantly call you don't want to start to become
annoying if you do happen to call and one of her family members answers the phone you could pass a message along to your friend that's a possiblity
that could work if she still doesn't call in the next few days then you try calling her i don't she
could hold a grudge aganist you forever she's got to
forgive you sometime(:

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