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I feel so guilty.
I'm 18, and I just graduated high school six months ago. This past weekend we had my graduation party. After the party I went to my aunts house to hang out with her and her husband, and my other aunt, and their friend. He's 32. I had a few drinks and they asked me to drive their friend home. Well he was drunk, and I was a little buzzed, but we left the house and decided to crash a party across the street. We had a drink there, but the party was pretty boring so we decided to go to a different party. Well he suggested we have a few drinks at his place so I wouldn't risk getting in trouble with the police. So he and I were sitting at his place drinking and one thing led to another and we had sex. I'm feeling so guilty because he's my aunt's friend. And because he didn't use protection. I just want to cry and I don't know what to do!
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You need to sit your aunt down and tell her that what happened that night happened unexpectly it's
not like you purposely meant to have sex with him it was simply a accident it wasn't like it was planned or you meant for it to happen you made a mistake your not perfect and only human i'm sure the fact that you both were drinking played some role in the both of you having sex seeing as you weren't fully in control of your actions make your aunt realize that you feel gulity about you what you did and tell her that everyone makes mistakes including yourself and what you did was simply a mistake it wasn't like you knew he only wanted you there for sex seeing as he said he wanted to have a few drinks with you it just happened you need to take a pregnancy test & get yourself tested for STD's just to be on the safe side it's better to be safe then sorry talk to your aunt about what happened keeping everything to yourself isn't good to do(:
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first things first, buy a pregnancy test, since yall had sex unprotected theres a chance of you getting pregnant, don't start freaking out until you know forsure though.
second, tell your aunt! she'd be the best person to help you through it, since it is her friend.
third, sounds to me he took advantage of you.
he asked "lets go back to my place and have a few drinks there" i'm guessing ya'll were alone? he probably knew that since you were drunk you weren't in the right state of mind to say no, and since you're 18 you're now legal, if you were 17 he could get in trouble because it would've been against the law.
The whole fact he got you drunk, took you to his place, had you drink MORE, then had sex with you was wrong on his behalf, i'd go to the doctor also, to make sure you don't have an STD or anything like that. I don't know his history or anything when it comes to how many girls he's had sex with, and I doubt you do either, so it wouldn't be a bad thing to get checked.
Tell your aunt, i'm sure she'll help you through it, maybe even talk to the guy for you?
Hope I helped:)
If you need anything else feel free to ask me.
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First of all, they shouldn't have let you drive a 32 year old drunk man back to his house, especially since you had also been drinking. I don't know how old or mature your aunts may be, but in this situation, there's a lack of responsibility on their part too. They aren't to blame for your actions or his though. What you should do is speak to your aunt or someone close to you for advice. Since he didn't use protection, you should consider getting a checkup.
(Tip: Take a breath, clear your mind, organize your thoughts and act)
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