Theres 3 things that every relationship needs; Communication, trust, and Honesty.
TALK TO HIM!! don't be scared, tell him straight up that you saw what he posted on facebook before he set it to private, ask him why he set it to private moments after you asked him if he was hiding anything from you! obvoiusly, he knows your suspicious, and he doesn't want you seeing what's going on on his facebook. If he continues to deny it breakup with him. Nobody likes liars :)
Be strong, and Don't cry. Boys, they come and go, but you'll always have your friends as a support system. eventually, you'll come to realise that you don't need a guy to be happy! Honestly, if I was you I would just dump him. Who knows, He could be cheating, and you'd never know! He shouldn't hide things from you. Tell him that you want him to take his facebook off private, if he can't do that then he doesn't deserve you.
Hope I helped! and, sorry it took me so long to reply, I barely ever get on here. Let me know how things go with you two!

Tell her that she'll probably start between the ages of 9-16, and that when she does start to make sure she keeps a pad/tampon in her purse at all times! Tell her that having a period is a part of puberty, her body is changing, and it's completely normal, it's just part of her growing up. I am 15 and I didn't start until this year!
my mom waited to have "the talk" with me until I did start.

When you talk to your daughter tomorrow just RELAX, sit her down at the dining room table or somewhere you're comfortable, just you and her!
Tell her exactly what you're going to be talking about. Tell her about vaginal discharge, and how every girl gets it, tell her whats normal and whats not normal, Tell her about pads and tampons, and how if she uses tampons not to keep them in for more then 8 hours because she could go into toxic shock syndrome, after you're done talking to her do something fun with her!

I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out!

first things first, buy a pregnancy test, since yall had sex unprotected theres a chance of you getting pregnant, don't start freaking out until you know forsure though.

second, tell your aunt! she'd be the best person to help you through it, since it is her friend.

third, sounds to me he took advantage of you.
he asked "lets go back to my place and have a few drinks there" i'm guessing ya'll were alone? he probably knew that since you were drunk you weren't in the right state of mind to say no, and since you're 18 you're now legal, if you were 17 he could get in trouble because it would've been against the law.

The whole fact he got you drunk, took you to his place, had you drink MORE, then had sex with you was wrong on his behalf, i'd go to the doctor also, to make sure you don't have an STD or anything like that. I don't know his history or anything when it comes to how many girls he's had sex with, and I doubt you do either, so it wouldn't be a bad thing to get checked.

Tell your aunt, i'm sure she'll help you through it, maybe even talk to the guy for you?

Hope I helped:)
If you need anything else feel free to ask me.

Whoever told you your boobs grow from having sex is an idiot. your boobs grow from puberty, you're thirteen, give it some time. I didn't start getting boobs until I was 14 almost 15. everyones body is different. Theres ZERO connection between body growth, and sexual activity. It is true that some people start having sex around the time those changes take place. So they may think that having sex causes the changes, but it is just coincidence. However, pregnancy (which results from having sex) does cause changes in a womans body.
You can still get pregnant, from ovulation, which occurs BEFORE you start your period. Being as you've never had one, you wouldn't know when you're ovulating.
Just think the bigger boobs you have the bigger the back problems. So dont worry about the size of them. They are just boobs, im sure there is so much more better features about you then your boobs. Honestly, guys don't care what size your boobs are they seriously love all boobs. lol Hope i Helped :)

Moms worry all the time!
you have to remind her that you'll be okay.
if you have a cell phone, try telling her that you'll have that with you at all times & that you'll check in with her every few hours.

Also, you could suggest helping your mom pay for the airline tickets.(like she pays half, and you pay the other half) They can be pretty expensive & that's probably the number one reason she's not letting you go.

another thing you could do is get your boyfriends mom to call your mom & remind her that you're going to be okay, & that she'll be there the whole time to make sure nothing happens.

Hope I helped:)

don't message him anymore, just leave him alone.
he'll come around sooner or later, especially since yall were THAT close! just give it time.

he's mad because you defended yourself, and probably embaressed him infront of yalls classmates, but all in all he was wrong, if you attacked him for no reason then I could see why he's mad. he had it coming! and he should have thought about that.

apologizing is all you can do, and proves that YOU'RE the bigger man, because you're fessing up to your mistake if he's just sitting there continuing to cuss at you even though you apoligizing then that proves he has ALOOOT of growing up to do.

Hope I helped:)
and I hope everything works out between you two!

They should be fine as long as you introduce them slowly.

Keep them in separate rooms for the first few weeks. Keep the initial introductions short and supervised.

Hissing, spitting, and posturing are normal. They may even give each other a swat. Don't worry about that. They will work it it out. They may or may not become best friends, but should learn to tolerate each other.

I had two male cats, and they seemed to get along alright! I had a cat who I had named cricket, I wanted to get him a friend so we found this stray cat in our apartment complex who had just had kittens so we took one of her kittens (we had named it BooBoo), we let BooBoo grow up around cricket, and of course since BooBoo was a kitten he wasn't old enough to get in a fight with Cricket, Cricket eventually got used to him, and when BooBoo got older they got along perfectly , never once did they get in a fight!

my advice to you is if you're going to get a male cat, get it as a kitten! it has more time to adjust to it's surroundings and other animals around it.

Hope I helped :)

Don't do it! I am also fifteen. Lets just say guys at are age are immature, they don't know what love is. and they don't mature until they're in there late twenties. Once a girl loses her virginity they get emotionally and physically attatched to that guy. if he's texting you saying sexual things and yall aren't even dating that just proves he doesn't care, and thats all he wants, and once he gets that he won't talk to you anymore sounds harsh but it's true it's happened to alot of my friends. think of it this way,most of the girls you talk too that aren't virgins are they still with the guy they lost there virginity too? I mean some of them might be but most of them aren't.
Don't do it unless you're ready, don't let him pressure you into doing anything you're not ready for! wait until you find the right person, and yall fall inlove believe me it will be alot more special! I am also a virgin, but I want to wait until I find that special person. I believe 15 years old is just waaay to young! Just think before you do it, think about the rumors that will go around school, what people will call you, and how he will treat you afterwards. in the end it's your decision! if you haven't even kissed a guy you're definitely not ready for sex, just saying!

I didn't get mine until this year, i'm 15.
it's completely normal everybodys body is different. my sister started when she was 12, some of my friends started as early as 3rd grade.

Be lucky you haven't gotten it yet! it sucks.
when you're on your period you can't go swimming
and your constantly having to check to make sure you haven't bleed through.

first couple months it's irregular. so you never know when youre going to start. Always keep either a pad or a tampon with you at all times just incase. What sucks more than anything is starting during school or when you're out in public and everyone seeing blood on the back of your pants.

moms and doctors have all been in your same situation and often have more factual info than friends or the internet. But remember, this happens to everyone. As long as you don't have any warning signs such as itching and odor than you have nothing to stress about, sistah :)


Period or not, girls get discharge and continue to have it for the rest of their lives. Depending on the time of the month and even your age, discharge will change. It can be a variety of colors yellow, white, clear and consistencies thick, runny. These types of changes are normal.


Discharge is just another part of puberty and it can come in all different textures and colors. The only time you should be worried is if your discharge comes with a burning or itching sensation (and you'll know it!) or if it smells unusually fishy and strong. When you've got discharge like this, don't freak but please see a doc ASAP so you can fix the prob. You might have a yeast infection, which is easily cured by meds.

Your body is developing and changing, so new things are happening.

Hope I helped!
if you have any questions feel free to message me.

Dear danger nerd,
since we have become good friends
I felt I should share part of my life with you.
well, I woke up this morning had breakfast took a shower got dressed had a cup of coffee read the morning paper took my dog for a walk came back home cleaned house vacuumed the floors had another cup of coffee then I took a nap woke up took another shower walked my dog again came home drank a beer had another beer then I had just one more.. wait I had one more after that. felt pretty good. so i got in my car went to the nail place had my nails done had my feet done drank another beer with the nail lady came back home and now im talking to you.

I wanted to let you know, that I feel sooo great sharing my feelings with you! so next time I have a question i'm just going to email you. so forget the small people I want your advice.
it seems to me you've been around the block a few times so the question is.
my dog has a problem she loves to eat poop and her breath really stinks when my friends come over they notice my dog has bad breath sometimes she doesnt eat her dog food because she is filled up on poop we gave her a thing of alpo and sbe wont eat it. she has a really bad complex if she hears the word "poop" used in any sentence she gets really sad. and starts licking her lips.
what should i do and how should I go about getting her off the poop shes a really cute dog shes very loveable what should I do?

what happened to considering other peoples feelings? that wasn't very nice danger nerd!
haaaa.

it's hysterical how your THINK you know me,
you've never met me a day in your life and yet you sit there and judge me!

i'm actually really nice, but when it comes to stupid people I have no respect! sorrrry :)

I have alot of accounts because I would make one, forget my passwords, and then make a new one. I actually don't have that many I have two! feel dumb!

and yeah while i'm looking for a "professional" to talk too why don't you start looking for a life? because you reallllly need one!

why even put one as a choice to rate if you're just going to email me everytime? you know what? I think from now on i'm just going to start rating people ones just to piss you off :p

this whole thing is making me laugh.
and I went to your little website, yeah I don't have that. people actually consider me nice!
you're the ONLY person I have drama with which is sad because you're an owner of a website.

I personally wouldn't care if someone rated me a one! my life doesn't revolve around advicenators,
and if someone wanted to rate me badly for giving SUCKY ass advice then that's there choice.

I've rated people one's before on a different account and you NEVER said anything, so who's fault is it that I didn't know? YOURS!

You make it seem like on every question I ask
when I get a response, I rate them a one. if you were to get into my account and veiw all my questions you would see I have rated everyone that has answered my questions a 5 except for those two people.

you personally need to get over yourself.
you're starting to piss me off.
i've never had the owner of a website email me for the way i've done shit! Grow up, Danger nerd.

Go ahead delete my account I don't care!
I'll just tell people not to create one of these.
usually on websites you have the freedom to do whatever, but I guess NOT on this one.

I have a myspace, i'll just get on that.
and I won't actually have to worry about TOM emailing me, because unlike you he has a life outside of his website.

Sorry, but I don't think that person I rated a one deserved any higher. This is a website where you're supposed to answer questions but also explain it. it took the guy what, two seconds to answer my question? why should I give him a 5,4,3 or even 2?

it's my question and if I didn't like how he answered I should be able to rate him what I think he deserves.

Please tell me why I should give a person who took 2 seconds to answer my question a high rating?
if somebody sucks at advice i'm sorry but i'm not going to give him the same rating I would to someone who is good at giving advice?

when I ask a question on here I want people to not only answer it but explain!
it's not like I said "I rate high" and then gave him a one. I would see what you're getting mad about if I did that.

Go ahead suspend my account! I don't care I barely get on here anyways and i'll just tell my friends not to create one of these because the requirements are stupid.

I think he likes you he's just to scared to admit it because he's shy! if he smiles at the sound of your name that's definately a sign! Keep talking to him don't give up, try harder to get him to open up to you. don't get your friend to message him, you should do that. Get to know him better first. maybe he's not that into you because he barely knows you! shy people are always scared to make the first move, so you gotta do it first,
I personally am shy and I like this guy but if anybody was to come up to me and ask me if I liked him I would say no, as on the other hand if he was to come up to me or message me I would tell him the truth.
I hope the best of luck to you.
and I hope my advice helped :)
and if you need anything feel free to message me!

Working late, secretive phone calls, and spending a large amount of time on the computer are all signs of cheating and your dad seems to be doing all of those things!
going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that your dad is cheating.
In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.
Emotionsl affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your dad hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it is another sign he's cheating.

My advice is try talking to your dad about it first sit down with him and tell him exactly what you put on here, see what he says.
If he denies is TELL your mom, talking to a half naked woman isn't something a normal married man does unless they're cheating. and in my opinion your mom doesn't deserve it.
Don't stay out of it, because then your dad is going to just continue to keep doing it and your mom is just going to think he's working late or something, and he's never going to get caught.
ANY kid would tell there parents, trust me!
Hope my advice helps:)
and if you EVER need anymore help feel free to message me.

Tell him straight up that you're not ready!
and if he doesn't understand then he obviously has no respect for you, every guy wants sex, and most of them will leave you as soon as they get it, Most girls don't end up marrying the guy they lose there virginity too, so be careful on making your decision if you're one of those people who wants to save it.
if he breaks up with you because of that then you know that's all he wanted!
second when a guy says he "wants to bang you, and is really looking forward to it"
that just gives you clues that that's ALL he wants from you, exspecially if he's pressuring you into it.
You have morals and I really respect that about you, because most girls don't.
I hope you make the right decision.
my advice is to NOT have sex with him.
I promise you'll regret it..
Hope my advice helped :)

I'm Brittany, i'm 16 years old and if theirs not one thing I love more it's helping people.
I've been told i'm a great listener and an even better advice giver so ask me anything! :)

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