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If he can't stay loyal why doesnt he break up with me?
Im a 17 year old female. I've been dating this guy for almost a year. He lives 3 hours away from me and the distance makes it hard but he says he wants to be with me and that it bothers him but its worth it basically. Well he's cheated on me twice, not physically. He's just traded dirty pictures and had phone sex (which to me is just as bad.HE also asked the gurl if shed like to hook up. Anyway the first time I kind of just blew it off but this time Ive taken it very seriously.(same gurl both times) I was going to break up with him but decided not to for some strange reason. I love him alot. Ive know him for two and half years and dated him for almost one of those like i said. Well he says he loves me and that he doesnt want to break up with me and that hed be really upset if we did. But then again he goes off and does that and since im not as close as her why doesnt he just end it and be with her. Ive tried talking to him about it and he just over and over again says he loves me and that he doesnt want to end it. I know he cant be using me for sex, because we don't do it that often seeing our distance situation. He cant be using me for money because i rarely buy him anything. so if he was using me i dont know what it would be for. I guess what im asking is, is it the distance that could be casuing him to turn to people closer to supply his needs? If he can't stay loyal why doesnt he break up with me? How should i approach the situation in a mature manner and let him know if it happens again im leaving without it causing a fight?
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I was in a relationship like this before but it wasn't long distance. If that guy is doing that to you he is not respecting you. So why you would you wanna be with someone that doesn't respect you. Also if he's actin like he can't break up with you but he doesn't wanna be with you. Your being to easy on him. He has done that to you twice meaning the first time that he did that to you and you blew it off so quickly and then he did it again is because he didn't learn any lesson. You need to move and be with someone that respects and only be with you cuz he wants you and not some other. Don't put any excuse on why he would do that to you. There's never an excuse it's always about respect
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well i think it is just time you ended it. if you love something set if free. enough with the second chances. once is enough! but good for you for giving him a second chance but babii when he does it again with the same girl i think it's time to end it.-cupcakequeen
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I think the real question is, if he can't stay loyal why don't YOU just break up with HIM? I'm sure he does have real feelings for you, but those feelings don't translate into commitment and loyalty, which is what you want and deserve. Not every choice you make in your life will be easy. If you stay with him knowing what he's doing, what does that say about you? What does that tell him about how he's allowed to treat you? It seems best to back off this one for a little while. Maybe when you're gone he'll realize how lucky he was to have you and he'll feel stronger about being faithful. I think if you stay now you're only giving him permission to keep doing what he's doing. It isn't right and you don't deserve it.
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The distance could be causing him to turn to people
closer that's a possiblity i don't think he's using
you seeing as there's the distance issue i think you should believe him when he says he loves you and
that he doesn't want to break up with you he wouldn't of said it if it weren't true even though
he's done what he's done he deserves a second chance if you give him one he can prove to you that
he can be loyal and he could stop with the cheating
he's not perfect and makes mistakes he's only human
you need to tell him that if it happens again your leaving you were already cheated on twice and you aren't going to wait around for it to happen again three strikes & he's out you deserve to be treated better and not cheated on make him realize your serious so he doesn't take what you say as a joke(:
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