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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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I am in love with this guitar

http://www.lunaguitars.com/acousticprodu…

But it is 3/4 size.. would it be a bad thing if I played it? would it be hard to transition to full size and/or electric guitar since its not full size? I'm 16 btw.

If you don't think I should get it, what other sites can I get interesting acoustic guitars from? I hate the kinds that are just a boring tan, and maybe with a strip of a darker wood on it. But I don't want something cheesy like Daisy Rock.

Thank you!

I cant see the guitar because of the link but if your 16 then you should start with a full size guitar, im sure it wont be too hard to find one you like.

Like the other guy said the sound of the guitar is more important than the looks. When i first started i only really knew the difference between the classical guitar sound and a acoustic guitar sound (In general). And for your first guitar thats all you really need to know. If you listen to rock than your probably looking for a acoustic guitar or acoustic- electric. All that means is that you can plug your acoustic into a amp to mess with the sound and make it louder.

So i suggests you find out what kind of guitar your looking for, than fall in love with what it looks like.

A little advice, I've heard that guys find it easier to play guitars with cut outs, so you might wanna pick one with one. Gl

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Hello 14 f


I was wondering if it was possible for me to learn piano on my own? I have one of those piano sets that the keys light up..well I really want to learn, I don't want to have to pay for lessons... would like to write a song for my bf and play it for him..Really I would like to know? is it really that hard?

I think you should atleast start out with lessons so you can know in which direction to go. Going by a book might not be all that beneficial.

I started the guitar about 2 years ago and first started off going by a book and learning to read normal sheet music. I soon started taking lessons and my teacher wanted me learning chord names which helped me out alot more. I dunno how the piano is but with the guitar you can find "guitar tabs" for pretty much any song, normal sheet music not so much. If i would have continued with the book then it would have taken me alot longer to learn the chords, develop the muscle memory (which took forever), and play off of tabs easier.

As for playing and writing a song for your boyfriend... Im sorry but it sounds so much easier than it actually is. Again im not too familiar with the piano but anybody whos played the guitar for a year or so can put together some basic chords and make a song like that. Don't expect to get it the first time.

Im sorry if i made you ify about whether or not learning to play but just know its gunna be tough, even though it is stick with it. Deciding to learn how to play the guitar was one of the best decisions i've made.

Gl

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Speaking about suicide, I am going through the same phase. I tried medication but made me feel worse, so I decided to quit and stick to god and some alternative ways to deal with depression. So far I am stuck in a situation that I don`t know where I am. I can`t do any job, my family needs me, but I feel so useless that the only solution that comes to my mind is getting rid of all this pain. Some people are good giving advice about not taking life away, but I think they have no clue how strong it can be what you have to bear inside, so it`s easy to say look for God, do this or that. I think I have given too many fights in this life, and If I choose at the end such a wrong election, It wouldn`t be because I just quit at the first attemp and decided to dye. It`s because I find no sense after trying almost everything. I know it`s selfish, stupid or bad, but every human being does his best to stand still against odds and overcome them, but sometimes they just simply make life miserable. What will happen after death, I think only God will be able to judge according to our individual conciousness. He knows the heart of everyone.

I don't know what your asking, is it for someone to give you the "ok" to end your life? Nobody's going to do that. Im not the best advice giver and what i have to say probably isnt going to change your mind. It seems like you've done a lot of thinking about this. But im still going to say it because i KNOW suicide isnt what you should do.

You've been given a life, you might believe it was from god or your parents or whatever but it doesn't matter which it really is. In this life you grow, mature, see things differently, and above all experience things and make relationships. Im 17 years old and i can't really say i've had a hard life. I'm the person who's parents believed in him no matter what it was he wanted to do, not once doubting him. I set out to do a lot of things and accomplished them, and now im facing what is suppose to be my toughest. Becoming a surgeon.
Im going to be a surgeon for so many reasons i cannot possibly list them here but these are what relate to your question.

.Things happen to people that don't deserve it (One of the reasons i don't believe in a god, thats a whole other conversation) and im going to do whatever it is that i can to give those people what they do deserve.
.You speak of pain, one of the things you would like to really no longer feel. I've felt pain and thats another reason, im going to do whatever i can to keep pain from happening. The pain of losing a loved one.
. And the most important. People die before they get to experience what they want and do what they've always wanted to do. Im going to spend every day doing my best to keep that from happening, because that is everything.

Living on this earth is everything because it is ALL that we know 100%. Just like me i want you to make the best out of it, just as if it was the only life you will ever have. To climb out of that hole you've been in for a while.

I really hope you decide to continue your life here, and if you have any more questions feel free to ask


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iv tried and iv tried but i cant figure out the strumming pattern for bored of your love by meg and dia. can anyone tell me??

Well its not so simple. The guy in this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o__rNEgAQZo
Is playing it with a basic strum pattern but he does add on to it which isn't that hard to play but would take a while to write down so im just gunna give you the chorus.
1= up
2= down
p= pause
X2= twice

1p121,1p121,1p121,121211 X2; 1p121,1p121,1p121, 121/121

The pause is kinda quick and when you strum down after, only hit a couple of the top strings (for the first "1" after the "p"). Where i put the (121/121) strum harder then normal.

Gl and if your having trouble with the rest of the song just go back to the 1p121 and add on to it till you get it right.

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i've been seeing this other guy for about a month, but we've only hung out once, which was yesterday. most of our "relationship" has been through text and facebook.

my boyfriend was neglecting me and i needed affection, which this other guy offered to me. i thought i could do it without feeling bad about it. but after hanging out with him yesterday, i realized i cant. all we did was kiss and stuff but it felt wrong, the whole time. i went home and felt shitty as hell. i couldnt sleep last night, which, if you know me that's really odd. usually i'm tired all the time. i was tired last night i just couldnt sleep, i was wracked to the roof with guilt.

my only problems now are leaving the other guy and coming clean to my boyfriend. i've NEVER been a good dumper, i've always been dumped.

someone please help me, i don't want to do this anymore and i don't want to lose my boyfriend. how do i dump the other guy? thanks for any help. (and please refrain from calling me a heartless whore or whatever else you can come up with. i'm plenty aware, i just need advice.)

I think you already know the answer. You need to dump the new guy, it may go bad it may go good. And even though it was only one date do the right thing and call him atleast (no texting).
Once your done with that call your boyfriend and ask him to meet you somewhere to talk; something like this you want to talk about in person, nomatter how hard you think it will be. It shows that he means a lot to you and your serious about making it up to him.
I think you did a heartless thing, but trust me your not a heartless person. Gl

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Ok, I love my boyfriend to death. He is so amazing except for one thing; he's TOO honest. I know, I know it sounds stupid but I don't know...sometimes we play this little question game like if we're bored or something and we just ask each other questions. I know I probably shouldn't ask questions if I'm so afraid of the answers but I don't know...I guess I just expect him to answer all of my questions nice and sweet for some reason. Ok, for example: The other day I asked him if he thought he would get tired of me if he hung out with me for too long and he said "yeah, probably...I have to have time for hobbies and stuff" and it's like I know that logically, what he's saying makes sense, but would it have really hurt for him to just say "No, of course not!" or something? :( It just seems that he doesn't really think about how sometimes his honesty can hurt me...I mean part of me feels ridiculous for even being upset about this because all anyone ever wants in a relationship is honesty right? But on the other hand, this isn't the first time he's done this...and then after he says it and I explain that it hurts me, he's just like "Yeah, I can see how that would have hurt you"...I don't think he understands how much it hurts me? I don't know...what do you guys think I should do? Or should I just drop it?

You shouldn't ignore a problem in your relationship, and it is a problem since he's hurting your feelings. So you address it.
The best thing to do is talk about it. You need to either get him to stop or see how it shouldn't hurt your feelings.

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okay. sooo i read your advice to this one girl and i really liked it and i\'m about to tell you the entire story of my relationship (7 months) (things i\'m too scared to tell my friends) and i just wanna see what you say.

alright. i am a fourteen year old girl (freshman) and the guy is a sixteen year old boy (sophomore). it all started about ten months ago when i met him. we\'ll call him jack. (not his real name) and i saw him playing baseball last summer and i thought he was cute. when school started we talked because of a mutual friend. one football game he looked at me and smiled and after the football game we went to bdubs and just talked. after another football game (i\'m a cheerleader) he talked to me and asked for my number. we texted and talked and hung out in groups for about three months and then he asked me out.

I was really really really happy. then one night about a month in he told me about a certain time with his ex girlfriend, and how he had fingered her. i was kinda upset by this but i don\'t really think i had a right to be. it\'s just before we started dating i had never kissed or done anything with a boy and i didn\'t want him to expect anything like that from me. he told me he didn\'t and that he valued our relathionship more than the physical stuff. and i believed him. thing is, i let him finger me. i wouldn\'t say he pressured me into it at all. he would try to slip his hand down there every once in a while and i would stop him, until one night i wanted him to do it and he did. things were fine. about anothere two months later, i gave him a handjob. he kind of asked for that... then we didn\'t go a lot farther for awhile but our relationship started to get really rocky. he would be a complete ass to me sometimes and it felt like all i ever did was annoy him or embarrass him and it sucked. when i went out of town he went out to lunch with this girl kacy. nothing happened, but i was still mad cuz he didn\'t wanna tell me about it. she was the one that asked him and there was anohter guy there but jack and kacy used to like eachother and she\'s constantly flirting with him. jack and i would just fight all the time and it sucked. we almost broke up but he said he was gonna try harder and he did. and things were slowly starting to get better. just four days before he broke up with me (he brok up with me on tuesday) he told me he felt so much happier and that he could tell things were better.

But i\'m skipping a part... a week before we broke up i gave him a blowjob. i didn\'t really wanna do it but i felt almost kind of guilted into it. let\'s just say i\'m really bad at handjobs and i stopped giving them. well he kept fingering me and he could make it feel sooo good. he told me we had been dating for six months and that i should be comfortable enough with him to give him a blowjob. that he felt like the physical part of our relationship was completely one sided. And that made sense to me so i did it... i trusted him when i did it and i wanted to make him happy and he broke up with me in a text message a week later. i don\'t even get why he did it when four days prior he told me how much happier he was...

well its been a few days since we broke up. and i found out that after we broke up on tuesday he alrady started talking to this new girl on thursday. that just hurt really bad... i thought i wanted him back but i don\'t think i do anymore. i just gave so much of myself to this guy and i\'m so hurt right noww because it seems like those seven months didn\'t mean anything to him at all.

i just don\'t know what to do... and i would really appreciate any advice you can give me. thing is i can\'t talk about this stuff with my friends because i\'m too ashamed to tell them that we did all that physical stuff... so please don\'t involve the advice doing that. i really don\'t want to.

I don't want you to tell your friends about the stuff you did with him, but i do want you to not be ashamed of what you did (I'll tell you why later).

Out of the whole story there was something missing. You talked about how you went from kissing to 2nd to 3rd (Base). "Love" is what was missing. You never told me about when you knew you loved him or that he loved you. I know what your thinking, "You don't have to love someone to do stuff with them". But i bring it up because it's so much safer, trusting someone is a big part of being in love with someone.
That is what you should go for in your future relationships. Before you get caught up in the physical part you should take time to think about where you think the relationship is going.

If your with a guy like Jack who is lying about hanging out with other girls and seems more interested in getting to the physical part than wanting to get to know you more and make you happy (In other ways). Then it wouldn't be the best thing to do right?

Now here's your answer: You need to start moving on. You were right you did give a lot to this guy, and that's why it's not going to be easy. He might come around and say it was a mistake and he wants to get back together; and it's going to be so easy to say yes but i suggest you say no. Why? For yourself. You need to get back up on your own and not let him who dropped you pick you up.

The first thing i told you was that i didn't want you to tell your friends about what you did with him. That's because your in high school and it doesn't exactly help that your a cheerleader. I say that because you probably have a lot of friends and what you say to one will find it's way to another and eventually to people you don't even know. Even though they're your friends it's none of they're business, so don't worry about it.

And last; Don't think any less of your self because of how far you went with your ex, nothing good will come of that. If you have any questions feel free to ask. Bye and Gl


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hey, well i've had my period for almost 2 years and i still get that discharge is that weird?? what should i do

There are different types of discharge and each tell what stage you are in your cycle or if something abnormal is going on.
I don't think you have anything to worry about if you've been getting the same type for 2 years. But just to make sure i'll let you know what is normal.
Watery, clear, white, or brownish. Anything different then that like green or yellow is not good and you need to go to a doctor.

I hope i helped; if you have any other "women" questions you should probably ask your mom

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see every day im home alone for about 10-11 hours and i get really bored have any ideas on how to make the time really fly i rate good!!!

Hmmm i keep myself pretty busy, especially during the week days. After school I'll watch my favorite show, maybe you should get one (Mines grey's anatomy). Then I'll listen to music, play some songs on the guitar and sing; im getting vocal lessons so im trying to get better at that. So i guess the second thing would be learn something you've always wanted to. And last i work out. So if you don't already and wanna get back into shape that can take up an hour or so a day.
. Get a favorite show
. Learn something you've always wanted to
. Workout

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Hello. I'm a girl whose 13 and my weight is 32. I checked my BMI and I am underweight. I really don't like hearing "Oh, you are so thin!" or "Don't you eat? Gosh, your so thin!" I know I'm thin. I still look sexy ;) but, I want to be a little fatter. My dad is thin. Maybe its because of genes. Ways to get fatter? NOT by eating junk food. I would like if you suggest me some food to eat. Thanks.

I'm gunna take it that you forgot the 1 in front of the 32?
I have the same problem when it comes to gaining weight but its a little different since im a guy.
The only way I've been able to put on weight is when its muscle (by keeping up with my workouts, not skipping meals, and eating more). There's really no healthy way to gain fat; but i suggest you eat more meals (instead of 3 more like 5 a day). Don't stick to one type of food its not healthy, Gl

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How much aproxamatley is medical school after college?

... It depends what medical school your going to. Just like some colleges could be 5k or 20k a sememster. You'll be able to find the costs on the website of the medical school your interested in.

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ok well i had sex like a week ago and now im all itchy but i dont have herpys or nothing and i have discharge wht could it be and how do i get rid of it help

You didn't give me enough infomation to tell you what it is; like the color, smell or thickness of the discharge. That would determine whether it's a STD or a infection. Either way you need a doctor to treat you. Stds are usually treated with penacillin, if your allergic they can find another antibiotic to treat you with. If it's a infection you have nothing to worry about; they are cured easily

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So down there i have these bumps, and there full of like, blood and puss. i also have them on the lining on where my leg and butt meet. iv had them for years and they only hurt when they get really big but i want to know:
What are they?
How can i get rid of them?
because i want to start getting intimate with guys and i think its gross to have like, bumps and scars from popping them.

With what you've told me it sounds like you have sebaceous cysts; im not a 100% positive but whether it is or not you still need to go to a doctor to get it treated.
Sebaceous cysts are treated with steroids or antibiotics and are easily diagnosed

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I just got a new iPod touch and now I need songs. I am 15 and a sophmore. I know of Justin bieber. I like pop some techno. Some rock. I usually always like the songs that are on the top at some point . Anyway, what are some good songs that you like but then please say what genre you tend to like more. Thanks!!!

I like rock and country that's about it
Fireflight
Goo Goo Dolls
Chris Daughtry
Some All Time Low
Nickelback
Metallica
Some RHCP
Incubus
Breaking Benjamin
Cartel
Evanescence
Lady Antebellum
Lifehouse
Mayday Parade
Paramore
Staind
Seether

Those are a couple, i didn't put songs because that would have been too much. And because some of the best songs don't get to the top

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i been with my man for 3 yrs. i love him still i think, but there is so much pain in our relationship no matter what i do i end up crying every day. i don't have any friends any more any rarly talk to my family.i don't no where to turn it scares me because my hole life i've never had any thing good, i loose it. i don't no if i'm happy any more, i dont know if i even still know myself. Everything i do is for him, why do i do so much with nothing but pain in return. He won't let me leave him and even if i did i always go right back. Why? I just want to be happy with my life again, I don't want to cry any more. But i don't have any one to turn to any more i lost everything and one for him, and i don't think i ca get them back. why do i stay when every time at the end i am alone with nothing. Every time it gets worse but i still love him and go back. what can i do

I don't think you saw it but you answered your own questions.
"He won't let me leave him and even if i did i always go right back. Why?" After that you went on to say you have nobody to turn to if you left him. It's pretty common for someone who's gotten out of a 3 year relationship to turn to friends and family members for comfort. Since you don't have those people you go back to him because your not use to being on your own or your no longer strong enough to do that.
Get out of the relationship i haven't heard one good enough reason to stay. The only things that can hold you back are lies that you make yourself and that you love him. Love has to be both ways for a healthy relationship; no matter how much you love him you won't be happy unless he feels the same way. And those lies might sound something like this "He does love me", "I don't deserve better because im not perfect either". The only thing that's true about the second lie is that you are not perfect, but you do deserve someone with the same values.
If there's so much pain in your relationship your not going to be happy. Yes there are mess ups in every relationship but when they happen on a regular bases whoever is making them will not change.

If you can't leave him with there being a chance that you won't have someone there to support you, then go to your family and ask for it. Tell them that your not happy and how you've lost everyone because of this relationship. If you've never been close enough to them then go to your ex friends.
Even if you don't have a actual person there to talk to its not your only option. For some people its doing what they like to do. Sports, work, projects, walks, trips, or even something new that you've always wanted to try.

"He won't let me leave him and even if i did i always go right back." Your boyfriend and hopefully soon to be ex boyfriend does not control you. If he's actually said that he won't let you leave and if you do he will hurt you or something; he doesn't have the right to do that. And with one phone call to the police or even less; you telling someone else about how he won't let you leave will make that a problem of the past.

Life is short you deserve to be happy, Gl

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15/f

I recently lost my virginity to a guy who I thought to be a good guy. Now I learn he's a tweaker, he's a stealer, he's a liar, and he's an asshole. All of this I gathered from other people and although some may see that as an inappropriate source, its from people who care about and so I don't doubt them. They've known him longer and have been his close friends. I believe them.

I know I should leave him. I know I need to leave him, but it's just...it doesn't feel that simple to me. He was my first and for some reason I feel attatched to him. Even though I have no real relationship with him, I'm afraid of losing him and I don't understand why.

I've never felt that vulnerable in my life and for some reason don't want to leave him after becoming that vulernable with him...becuase it was a hard thing to do, you know?

So, I was just wondering if you guys could give me some advice. I'm not really sure what my question is since I know I need to leave him for my well being but still..it's difficult...and I would honestly appreciate some friendly advice because when it comes to losing him bascially for some strange reason : it scares the fuck out of me.

Losing your virginity at your age probably wasn't the best decision, but it doesn't mean you need to stay unhappy and scared with that person. Before you did it you thought he was a good person; and now that you found out who he really is your not so happy right? Then there's no point in staying with him
I know how you feel. You got so close to him and now it feels like you cant leave because he's now a part of you. It's hard but when you know you deserve to be with someone who is like you (Honest, caring, etc); you keep that in mind when you start to think about them.
Even by doing that its still hard; so i recommend you keep yourself busy.
For me its learning how to play new songs, watching my favorite shows, and sometimes just taking the long way home with my favorite songs.
Gl on your decision hope i helped

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So I just started playing the guitar recently and learend 'Wonderwall' by Oasis. What are some other faily easy songs like that to learn on guitar? If you know any reggae songs that'd be great. Thanks! :)

The first full song i learned how to play was All time low- Remembering Sunday. Here are a couple of other easy songs and bands that have simple songs
Taylor Swift
Avril Lavigne
Dashboard confessionals- Don't Wait
Jason Aldean- Why
The chords on Jimmy Eat World- 23 (I say the chords because the single notes and solo's are going to be tough for a beginner)
You might be able to do The spill canvas- All over you; it has a few chords but its a fast song.
GL and if your having trouble finding tabs use Ultimate-guitar.com

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for christmas along with a present im gona try and make my boyfriend a cd. i can do singing, guitar and piano for it by just recording each seprately and overlapping them. i taught myself how to do all three and im not good but im not bad. he loves metal music and pink floyd and journey type music so i wont do too girly of a song but maybe like parachute or evanescence? im 15 and a girl with a lower but not to low girl voice. what are some bands and songs that my voice could better match?

Fireflight is the first band that comes to mind. There lead singer is a girl but they don't really sing any girly songs. I've looked up a couple and the only song that i've found that doesn't require a different tune on the guitar is "Wrapped in your arms". It's a very easy song to learn and has a good meaning.
Sorry i just noticed you wanted it as a Christmas present; well if you make another cd for him its a good song.

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i want to learn a song on acoustic as i sing it also. but i dont know which song would match my voice well and would be easy to play. first off im 15/f and my voice matches somewhat to amy lee from evanescence and then also to alter bridge and rise against?.. im average. but any ideas of easy guitar songs and or singing. thanks!

Hmmm Amy Lee? If you can sing like her you can sing anything.
Avril Lavigne- Nobodys home; Is a really simple song. All you need to know is the Em, D, G, C chords. Here's the link to the tab
http://www.ultimate-guitar.com/tabs/a/avril_lavigne/nobodys_home_ver2_crd.htm

Ultimate-guitar.com is the best site ive found for tabs. If you like Taylor swift you should look her up; pretty much all of her songs are basic.

I listen to alot of rock so if you could give me any band names i could tell you what songs are easy to learn by them.
Gl and for "Nobodys Home" i recommend you use a variation of the Em 022033 instead of 022030

Sorry about that; the numbers are for where to place your fingers. I know it's a little complicated but I'll give you a example.
The A chord would be 022200 right? You would put your fingers covering the 5th, 4th, and 3rd strings on the second fret (the thinnest string is the 1st string). So for the variation of the Em (E Minor) chord I was talking about it would be 022033; you covering the 5th and 4th strings on the second fret and the 2nd and 1st string on the 3rd fret.
Hope I cleared that up for you; if you don't understand pick up the guitar and go step by step. Gl

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I'm a 15 year old female and i've been playing guitar for many years. Do guys find it attractive/a turn on when they meet a girl that plays guitar/is very into music?

I don't think it would be a turn on. For those who are into music it would be plus. I haven't met a girl that's into music as much as i am. I've been playing the guitar for about a year and a half; and none of my friends play so i can't really talk to them about tabs, music, guitars and stuff.
So ya for me it would be a really really big plus

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