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i lost my virginity and need to get myself out of the situation...but can't
15/f
I recently lost my virginity to a guy who I thought to be a good guy. Now I learn he's a tweaker, he's a stealer, he's a liar, and he's an asshole. All of this I gathered from other people and although some may see that as an inappropriate source, its from people who care about and so I don't doubt them. They've known him longer and have been his close friends. I believe them.
I know I should leave him. I know I need to leave him, but it's just...it doesn't feel that simple to me. He was my first and for some reason I feel attatched to him. Even though I have no real relationship with him, I'm afraid of losing him and I don't understand why.
I've never felt that vulnerable in my life and for some reason don't want to leave him after becoming that vulernable with him...becuase it was a hard thing to do, you know?
So, I was just wondering if you guys could give me some advice. I'm not really sure what my question is since I know I need to leave him for my well being but still..it's difficult...and I would honestly appreciate some friendly advice because when it comes to losing him bascially for some strange reason : it scares the fuck out of me.
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anything sextual you do with a guy is gonna make you attached in a way, its normal. if hes like that hun please leave him before he hurts you.
hope i helped. good luck:)
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You said it yourself: You need to leave him for your own well being. So you know the answer. I appreciate that it is difficult but since you have been put on notice that he is a tweaker (you risk getting arrested or catching a sexually transmitted disease or drug addiction yourself); he's a thief (you risk losing your property), he's a liar (you risk being lied to); he's an "asshole" (you risk losing your self respect, dignity, reputation and safety) I would say that you are just going to have to let go. Tell him that if he gets sober, cleans up his act and grows up that you might then talk to him. But don't make him any promises. In the mean time ask yourself how it was that you ended up surrendering your virginity to such a person. Your own judgment and maturity may need some serious work. Focus on yourself and your own life and dignity. You are very young and have plenty of time for boys and sex. Focus now on becoming the woman you want to be. You deserve to treat yourself better than this.
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Losing your virginity at your age probably wasn't the best decision, but it doesn't mean you need to stay unhappy and scared with that person. Before you did it you thought he was a good person; and now that you found out who he really is your not so happy right? Then there's no point in staying with him
I know how you feel. You got so close to him and now it feels like you cant leave because he's now a part of you. It's hard but when you know you deserve to be with someone who is like you (Honest, caring, etc); you keep that in mind when you start to think about them.
Even by doing that its still hard; so i recommend you keep yourself busy.
For me its learning how to play new songs, watching my favorite shows, and sometimes just taking the long way home with my favorite songs.
Gl on your decision hope i helped
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hey :) i know its hard and if you belive your friends thats ok too. but if you like him that much and he hasnt hurt you or done anything mean or hurtfull to you just stay with him. your 15. i dont want to ruin your dreams or anything because i dont know the future so dont get mad :) but honestly i dont think you will be with him all your life. you have a long way to go. so for now just have fun and be carefull and safe, and if you really like this guy then talk to him about it and try to get him out of these bad habits he has. that way you can help him and still be with him. hope i helped.
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