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sex life
I am engaged to this guy i have been with for almost 5 years. Everything I love him about him, but the sex life. That honestly gets me questioning this whole marriage thing. YES, I know sex life isn't everything, but it is a big something. I honestly think it's that he's too small. I haven't been with anyone else, so I can't fully say that thats it, but he is below the national average by a hair. (6 inches) Please, This is serious, but dumb, yet again a very serious issue. PLease give me any insight. Any is appreciated as long as its kind.
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Try doggy style, it will give you deeper penetration. You can also try male enhancement pills, they sell over the counter and they're organic.
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Figure out what you want in bed and then ask for it.
Size really isn't everything. Don't get me wrong, sure, it helps, but there are so many other ways to experience pleasure besides penetration.
Sex is important and it is serious. First things first: Stop seeing it as his responsibility to please you or as though magically, plain old sex is going to wildly enjoyable for you.
You have to take an active role in finding out what you enjoy, and asking for it. That takes a lot of confidence and a lot of trust in your partner, and it's not a magic bullet either. It won't make everything better all of a sudden. Sex is like any other skill, it takes some practice.
So, do some serious thinking about what you enjoy. Even what not-sex things you like the most. What kinds of kissing or making out really gets you in to the mood. You might also try exploring some steamy romance novels or erotic stories. Although they are a little over the top, they might give you some hints about what really turns you on as well.
Even before you do this, talk to your boyfriend. Changing to a couples sex life can be scary and confusing without lots of talk and trust. He deserves to know that you are interested in making your sex life better. He also deserves to be told that you are interested in HIS opinions about this as well. Let it be a two-way street and encourage him to come to the table with ideas as well.
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