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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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this is crazy i knw..... i met this guy who considered me one of his best friends. we hung out all the time and did everything couples do together with out the kissing/makingout/sex part. we held hands hugged at one point walked with his shoulder around me and stuff.......

i thought he was gay so i never really considered that there would be anything there...

later though about 7 or 8 months after we met and right be4 we went our separate since he graduated (he's 22 i am 20).... i told him the truth about how in that past month i was a bit infatuated by him..... very very to say the least...... at somepoint i had doubts about him being bi... because his signs of flirting are always direct with both men and women.... and i figured since we're always together and he hasnt sed anything then maybe he was just gay.... anyway .... wen i told him i told him rite after that i hope this dsnt change or alter our friendship he said he was completly fine with and we even went out that night...

a month later:

i still like him a bit since he was honestly the funnest guy i'd been with.... plus he always makes me feel assured about myself....... but its summer and i am abroad and i met this other guy very very formally... and there may be sparks in the middle... i am still not sure i'm going to have to get to knw him.....he's cute and all but the problem is that i still keep thinking about the other guy since i feel its not over yet and since he has been IMing me constantly asking about this new guy.... he sounds pissed and he always says he'd "save " me and misses me and that he wants to elope with me and things..... i miss him too but i don't know what he's trying to get to....

i never asked hiim about his sexuality and i think its stupid to do so now.... what do i do?!

i just need ppls opinions on this situation...

I would ask him how he feels about you. Deffinitly try to stay away from the orientation thing...because, he might get upset with you if he isnt gay or bi. Maybe he does have feelings for you but he is confused about his sexuality. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!


As to your feedback, I'm not sure if this will work for you too see, but hopefully you'll get it. You just need to sit him down and ask him whats the deal, does he like you for real, or s he just into messing with peoples emotions. Hope I helped, I'm sure it'll be fine!!!
-Brina

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Wrong cat. Sorry.

So 2 days ago, I leaned over to smell the yummy food thing being cooked on the stove. I have long hair. Or I used to, at least. Anyway, I leaned over, 'mmm'ed for a sec, then screamed and put out the fire that had started on my hair. So more than 10cm were poof, gone, burnt. I happened so fast.

My hair was as long as ... halfway through my back, cut in Asian style with many layers. Now, the left side is long like that, but the right side, the burnt side, barely reaches my shoulder. I basically look like a clown and I don't really like it... I have an appointment with this really skilled hairdresser dude (he claims to be so, whatever) on Tuesday. Now my question is:

(1) Should I tell him "Surprise me!" when he asks what I want the haircut to look like

OR

(2) Tell him I want a specific style. (You have to help me here as well ... I have a very round face, I'm tall [if that matters] and I'm 18).

Thanks so much.

Oooo, I'd say get a "shag" its a bit of a shorter hair cut, like around your shoulders, but its still layers. A shorter layered haircut could give you more curl, it can be straightened quickly, and you can still pull it back. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!!

-Brina

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out of these two beds, which do you like better for young teenage girL?? i am probably going to paint my walls light green...

http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html/ref=br_1_1/602-1619430-3919847?ie=UTF8&frombrowse=1&asin=B000JEODSM




http://www.laurenslinens.com/sebe.html




okay i know this is an easy question, but i will still rate!!


Hmm, well, i think a light green would go with both bed sets. I think the second one is quite lovely. Its a bit safisticated, and the first one is very fun. I vote the blue one. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!

-Brina

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So, I am trying to decide if I am skinny enough or not to wear a bikini yet. I really want to because i have lost 20 pounds sice last summer but I am still 153ish. Im 5'5' and my BMI is a 25.5. So I am still overweight. I am not very tone on my stomache yet and I am scared that people will make fun of me because most the people at the pool I go to go to my school. I am worried that the guys will be like OMG she is way to fat to wear a bikini. Do people really judge you on what you look like in one? So should I do it or not? Sorry it is kinda long

You should just wear something that makes YOU feel comfortable in. If your having so much thought about wearing a bikini, try looking into a really cute 1 peice, or a tankini. Unfortunately, theirs always going to be people out their to "judge/make fun of others" and usually they just do it because their not comfortable with themselves. If you'd like any store websites with different bathing suits, let me know.Hope I helped! Happy Summer.

-Brina

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I've been going out with my boyfriend for over a year [1yr3m] and face it, it's not the same. I love him as a friend, but I really don't think I feel anything relationship-wise with him. I really don't want to go out anymore because I feel like I'm just putting on an act, and he can tell that it's not the same anymore because I'm not as touchy anymore and I don't show much emotion at all. My friends know that I can't really stand him as a boyfriend anymore. It's just that everything he does annoys me, and it's not his fault, it's mine. I just want to move on and just be friends. But I can't find the nerve to do it, because it's so tough because we've been going out for so long and he's probably one of the few people that I can tell almost anything to and I feel myself around. First question: How can I build up the courage to actually do it? Tips please?

Second Question: We went on a break around Christmas (I enforced it) I was like' I don't want to go out anymore' and he thought it was just a break. Throughout the whole break he kept asking what he did wrong. He didn't do ANYTHING!, it's just not the same anymore. He just keeps saying 'there has to be a reason, things don't just change like that ..how can you just all of a sudden stop liking me' It's things like that that I don't know what to say to. I hate how I have to explain everything, but I guess he deserves it. How can I answer all these questions? It's not like he did anything, it was just the relationship lost it's spark. If I said that, he just DOESN'T GET IT! He keeps asking what happened, even if there wasn't a specific event. How can I get it through his mind that he didn't do anything wrong, and what can I say without sounded like a complete bitch (even though dumping somebody is bitchy).

It's not like I want to, (even though I do) but it's more like I need to, because I'm not happy, and I'm not acting happy around him which doesn't make him happy.

Any relationship advice, personal experiences would help me so much.


How can you build up the courage to actually do it? Well, its deffinitly tough to let someone that loves you that your not feeling the same way anymore. Just let him know that theres honestly no way to tell him, he just has to respect what you want. He seems like a good guy to keep around as a friend, so let him know that. If he doesnt get it, you dont have to explain it to him. I say sit him down, and let him know your dont want to be wih him anymore. Hope I helped! Good Luck, I'm sure it will be fine.

-Brina

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I really need as much answers as possible.

To start off, I'm 16 Female and I have HIV. It got transmitted to me from my mom at birth, so it wasnt my fault what so ever!! So I've been dating this guy for a while now and I told him i have this HUGE secret, which i will tell him when im ready and in the beginning of our relationship, I tested the waters to see How he would handle the HIV situation. So I asked him, "what would you do if I had HIV?" and He replied "I'd still love you, and i would still have sex with you." So, I was SO relieved to hear that, I was happy that he would accept me and we'd still have a relationship without worry! And that was about 2 months ago!! Then last night I asked him Again what he'd do, and he replied "well, if we were getting married then yeah I would have sex with you, but if we werent getting married, then no i wouldnt have sex with you " SO i was SO upset! and said how low that was, because his answer was completetly different before, and i also told him that
"if he wouldnt accept me if i had HIV then he wouldnt accept my "secret" " because IT IS my Secret! but he doesnt know what my secret is. so then he said "well if it was some girl i didnt know and didnt love then no i wouldnt have sex with her but if it was you then I would." so I DONT KNOW WHAT I DO! should I tell him now and get it over with??!! Tell me answers!! HELP! and please dont say that i shouldnt have sex!! BECAUSE I DONT NEED THAT ANSWER!! I've made up my mind that i do want to have sex with him.

I really hope this makes sense!

HIV is not something you can get rid of as you know. Your 16, and already planning on having sex with your boyfriend. You need to let him know that you have it, if you do decide to have sex, which I suggest not to, because your endangering him in getting HIV. He doesnt seem to think HIV is a big deal, but it is. Figure out what you two can do if you do decide to have sex, to make sure he's protected. Your 16, theirs no rush to having sex. And, just because he's protected doesnt mean taht there isnt a chance he can get it.

-Brina

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I like this guy that goes to my school and it is pretty obvious he likes me to. We flirt all the time like MAJORLY flirting so much my teachers can even tell. The problem is he has a girlfriend. But he calls me more then he calls her! The other day when we were on the phone he said that someday me and him will go out. I dont know what to do because I like him alot and its obvious he likes me and I want him to break up with his girlfriend but i dont see that happening anytime soon. What should i do?

I rate well!

Well, he deffinitly seems to like you. You need to tell him he needs to sort stuff out with his current girlfriend. Evidently, he's going to break up with her soon if hehas such great feelings for you. If he doesnt break up with her soon, he might be playing you. Ask him when is someday, and why not now. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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i want really white teeth? are there any tricks or ways i could get whiter teeth besides using whitening strips?

Snag some crest whitening toothpaste. Make sure you brush for 2 minutes in the morning, and at night, and on weekends, if you want you could brush during the afternoon. Use listerine mouthwash after you brush. Then floss. Floss gets rid of decay that you might have missed. My uncle's a dentist, if you need any more help let me know. Hope I helped! Happy Spring.

-Brina

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15/f

My best friend since the beginning of High School is a really cool guy. He's sweet, he's cute but I do NOT like him like that. Now he's a really "touchy" person, like he likes to drape his arms around your shoulders or give you a hug. Well today out of nowhere his girlfriend and her little groupies told me off for letting him hug me. How do I get the girlfriend off my back and keep my best friend before I get clobbered? p.s- he's had this g/f for about 4 months.

-very ticked off

Let them know that you two are just best friends. If they continue to bug you about it, let your boyfriend know that he needs to set them straight, that you two are just friends. Hope I helped!Happy Spring!

-Brina

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Okay, So I've missed out on The-N's "Instant Star" I'm totally lost in the newer episodes because of it:

How did Jude's friend (the black girl) die?

How was Tommy's girlfriend Angie killed?

Why is Hunter out to get Tommy?

haha, thanks.

I dont recall Judes friend that died being black...you might be confused, Patsy died, jamie's girlfriend. Tommys girlfriend Angie was killed, because she left his house very upset after he told her that she was interfering with his career, and she left and got into a car accident. Hunter is out to get tommy, because hunter thinks it was Tommy's fault that his sister died. Hunter is in jail now though. They have all the episodes at www.the-n.com you dont have to be a member to watch. But being a member is wicked fun. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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Male 19 and female 18
Me and my girlfriend have been together for two years. Well lately she's been using all types of excuses for us not to hang out...like today we were supposed to hang out but she said she wanted to go home and shower first which would leave us with half an hour to hang out. Well then she calls me back five minutes later and says her dad says she can't...the samething happened with this coming weekend. Her friend is having a party we were invited to and told me she didnt want to go...well a couple days later I asked if we could hang out this weekend she said maybe at the party even though she had already said we weren't going...its been going on for a couple of weeks
...and also we rarely talk on the phone anymore...we use to talk on the phone like 30 minutes before we went to bed and 30 minutes in the morning as well and various times through out the day...now its more like 2 minutes maximum a day...I dont know if this means she wants out of the relationship and it's her way of breaking it off...I need Advice

I think the best decision for you is to talk to her. Ask her if theres something going on, and why she hasnt been "communicating" with you a lot lately. Maybe somethings bothering her, and she doesnt know how to cope with it, which is no excuse to not treat you reguraly, but still, it might affect how she treats others. Hope I helped!Happy Spring!

-Brina

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I really like my best guy friend who only likes me as a friend. what do i do? im 13/f

Its perfectly fine that you like him. Evidently you have a great bond with him because he is your best friend. You probably like the qualities in him, and his personality. If he's told you he only likes you as a friend, theres not much you can do. He might possibly just be saying that and actually may like you, but that might only be possibly. He might in the future have the same feelings as you do, but at this point in time, to push it too much. Theres many other guys out there like him. Hope I helped! Happy SPring!

-Brina

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Hey ima 13/f and i these dreams at night ware ima lezbian and dont get me wrong or judge me okay. But i dont think its just my dreams i think its accualy getting to me i think im a lezbian and like for some odd reason i have the erdge to touch other women and i have tolled my friends well kind cuz im afraid that if i tell them that they wont wanna hang out with me anymore but please help me
Love,
think ima you know....:(

Sometimes girls have dreams about other females, its normal. Do you have feelings for other girls, would you want to be intimate with them {kissing}, are you attracted to them. You might just possibly be confused, since your so young, so dont jump to tell your friends so soon. If your friends dont support you in your decision if you are actually a lesian, then they arent good friends. Here are some sites to help you out even more. Hope I helped! Happy spring!

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/lesbianhealth.html

http://www.avert.org/lesbian1.htm


-Brina


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Theres this guy, and he told my friend that hes gonna ask me out tomorrow. How do I accept? Thanks!

Say "Of Course" or, an Awww and then deffinitly. Just be chill about it. Dont be like OMG YES YES YES! Thats just, a bit over dramatic. I'm sure you'll accept fine. Hope I helped! Happy Spring almost summer!

-Brina

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I have this best friend. We have been together since we were in day care (before we were in school) Recently she has been really mean. She tells me to shut up constantly. I'm not the smartest person (common sense wise) and I think she gets annoyed with how dumb I am. I really can't help it. I'm not one of those girls who is really dumb because they make themselves be dumb. I don't get things but I don't say I don't get them it's just that she has known me so long she knows when I don't get things. Anywho...she bosses me around all the time. She tells me I'm dumb. She corrects everything I say. When I try to talk to her you can tell she is annoyed if I even say hi. I'm not soooo dumb all the time. I really am book smart. I have all A's and I'm sitting 4th in my class of 561. What do you think it is? How can I talk to her?

Let her know how you feel. A friend should never treat you like that. Dont be scared to let her know how you feel, this situation will only continue if it doesnt stop. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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Okay, I'm sixteen and there's this guy that's somewhere around 21 or 22 that lives across from my grandmother. Everytime I'm over there and he's outside he stares at me and when I see him out somewhere he does the same thing. My mom told me that she thinks he likes me but the thing is he never actually smiles when he looks at me but he doesn't look away when I look back. So my question is this: does he like me or not because he's never actually talked to me at all or even waved. I don't actually know anything about him except where he works and that he loves eighties grunge rock (known from his t shirts). What should I do exactly to get him to talk to me or even acknowledge me beside the usual staring contest?

He's probably simply interested in you. Wave hello one day, then increase your greetings from there, like a how are you. He could be extremely shy. Iniciate conversation. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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what happens if i use my friend's ID in a club in toronto??, i mean if they notice it is not me??...like hre where i live its only like yea wathever as long as you have any ID

They'll probably just not let you into the club and make you go away or something. Hopefully you look like your friend, or else that would be a big obvious if you didnt. Remember the birthday and everything on it. Hope I helped! Happy Spring!

-Brina

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Ok I just broke up with my boyfriend and he hates me. Should I back of and let him chill or should I keep trying to talk to him?

He probably doesnt hate you, he just needs time to himself. I say back off for a bit and let him calm down. Evidently he's probably upset that he just got dumped, so just let it be. He'll talk to you when he's ready. You didnt expect him to be your best friend after breaking up with him, now did you? :-p. Hope I helped! Happy Spring.

-Brina

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when Ashley Tisdale is on punk'd and the mom asks her to sing for the boy in the coma, why does it beep out the whole song? i mean there aren't any bad words, she's singing the song Kiss the Girl.

I was thinking the same thing. Most likely their not alowed to do that, because she wasnt being paid for this, and had no knowledge of the show. Usually when people sing on television they get paid a lot. Or, she might have a hideous voice and they might make her lip sing or something like that. Hope I helped! Happy Spring.

-Brina

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I straighten my hair like everyday..and i know that is VERY damaging on my hair...but it doesnt look good any other way besides a messy bun. i use a cream on my hair before i straighten it but its really for use when blowdrying your hair. I just apply it when wet, let my hair dry overnight, then straigthen it and leave it for 2-3 days. it seems to be working okay, but idk. Anyway i'm looking for great styling products for when straightening my hair and the prices. Also, any tips from anyone on how to keep my hair healthyy!!

I know of a few products that are in a reasonable price range, and how to keep your hair healthy! Deffinitly check out some herbal esscence products. Theirs stuff to make sure your hair doesnt get all staticky...oy, i think i spelt that wrong, you know, hair static...and, deffinitly get some Fructis Hydrating Shampoo, to keep your hair hydrated and not all dry. Hope I helped! You can probably find this at a walmart. Happy Spring!

-Brina

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