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i ve been cutting 4 over a year but it helps me and i know its so dangerous and i need a way to releive stress besides cutting myself before i do some thing that would lead to suicide which i have tried and thought about before.i slit my wrists verticly but it didnt work becouse i missed and i need help.helllp!!!!!
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I don't know what problems are in your life, but why do you cut yourself? What is so STRESSFUL IN YOUR LIFE? Could you send me more details in my inbox or to my email? I really would like to help.
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and stop going to the computer, instead of running away from my problems to my comfort zone? i'm missing out on so much because it's so scary to put myself out there and get rejected for being different or do something and it not being good enough. but this is not the way to live. i'm 18 and i feel like most of my childhood from age 11-18 was a complete waste, except for the times I got to travel abroad. the rest of the time was mainly spent online cause i've never really been able to connect with most people offline, even when I try, and it's so frustrating
i also build walls because i'm afraid of getting hurt. it always seems like people are nice to me and wanna be friends and then suddenly turn on me, so i'm afraid of that happening if i tell others my deepest thoughts. i feel very regretful over not even telling a guy i liked him because i was afraid of rejection even though i really liked him a lot and i felt i gave him subtle hints but ugh.. it's not like i had any friends to discuss things with so idk what he thought of me at all. i just hate how in school i only had varying degrees of acquaintances, and never friends, not since elementary school
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I'm sorry that you feel this way, but you have to let people in your life. That's the only way we, as human beings, can experience the world. You say you're afraid of getting hurt, but getting hurt is a part of life and it helps us learn from our mistakes. I understand where you're coming from because I'm the same way. I don't like to do anything extra-curricular or any after school programs. But I know that's not the way to live life and I've been trying to change it. But you have to let people in your heart. To get friends and or boyfriends, you have to put yourself out there. You can't be afraid of life because you'll miss out on alot of opportunities. Open up and be yourself. And if it's not to late talk to that boy you like.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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I'm a 16 year old girl in New Jersey. I went to a private all-girls school for grade 9 and 10 , because I hate myself, my body, my lack of confidence and courage. My parents want to send me to public school next year for gr 11 for they can no longer afford private. I've been thinking about committing suicide and cry myself to sleep every night for about 2 years. I hate everything about me, but my skills and love in ICT. I lack confidence, courage, and am too scared to go out in public. I've kept a lot of secrets for friends and for myself from my family, and not helping out my parents in housework has made them weak. I have 3 younger sisters and a brother who's the youngest.
As much as I hate myself and intend to commit suicide for various reasons I cant explain, I want to watch my brother grow up too. I don't want that I commit suicide, and my mother gets ill from it, and the future of my siblings be shattered. I dont want my family to hold their heads in shame after my death. They've done nothing wrong raising me all this time- it's just that I'm a coward. I have migraines and other bodily problems, I dont want to have sex, I hate my body, I dont want to have children and get married, I dont want to step out in public, I dont want to go to college; I'm just too shy and nervous. The problem here is I cant visit or call any one without my family knowing, and I'm planning to get rid of myself before grade 11 starts. I want to die and rot in hell for the bastard and sins I am and have done, but I wanna see my family and sibligs and their future as well. I dont want my death to split the family apart; I'm a horrible rolemodel and my siblings arent that good as they should be either.
I honestly dont know what to do ; I'm too big of a coward for many reasons, but I'll miss living as well. Yeah, this is awkward, but I'm done with convincing myself I can do anything good. I'm lazy, emotional, and a little more than average in beauty. What should I do? (link)
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WELL DON'T KILL YOURSELF! You need to stop complaining about yourself and appreciate yourself! I can relate to EVERYTHING you're going through except suicide, because NO PROBLEM is worth your life. But I went to private school also up until the fifth grade cause my parents couldn't afford the tuition. I ended up in public school in the sixth grade. It was very different. I didn't have 1 friend. I talked to people but I felt like an outcast because everyone knew eachother from fourth grade and ended up in the same sixth grade class. Even their fourth grade teacher! So I kept to myself the whole year. Then seventh grade came around and I was starting to get used to public school and I made a few friends. But my worst classes were P.E. and Math. I'm not the most athletic and in-shape person. They only reason I didn't fail P.E. was because I did the homework and they mostly graded for effort. I could never get the hang of Pre-Algebra. PRE-ALGEBRA! So in eighth grade I ended up in Algebra readiness. I only passed that becuase we literally did nothing in the class. Ninth grade came around and I had all my friends from middle school with me along with some new ones. P.E. and Math were still my worst classes, and it had been tree years since I did something school related. I never went to any of my middle school dances and I never went to homecoming in high school. Freshmen year was starting to come to an end and my parents told me, your going to a new public school. I was upset becuase my friends were at my other school. My parents took me to the course selection meeting at the other school and I hated it. MY MOM HAD ME BUY THEIR SPIRIT WEAR! I was beyond upset at that point. And I would have to take the bus, to and from school! So my mom drops me off on the first day of school, and I'm in the front of the school by myself. Soon more kids are dropped off. Everybody is talking to everybody, except me because I knew NO ONE. But I knew I was going to be at this school for the rest of my high school life so why not make the best of it. Eventually I had a small amount of friends. I still didn't go to any dances because I'm still uncomfortable with my body. People tell me I would be good at football, but I'm shy and I'm not confident in myself. I have 3 brothers and 1 sister.
Even though I've had some hard times, I knew that this was not the end of the world. Some problems we have, we tend to make them BIGGER than they really are. I knew that I wanted to go to a good college so I got better at Math. I was the only one in my Algebra class with an "A". Even though I had taken Algebra three times previously. P.E. is still a tuff subject and I'm only passing on effort. But none of my problems were big enough to make me give up.
So I'm telling you, don't give up. I know it seems the easiest solution but it's not.
And STOP HATING YOURSELF! There is no reason for you to hate yourself. So what if you messed up in the past or you don't like the way you look. LEAVE THE PAST IN THE PAST! Get up and fix it. Start complimenting yourself, flaws and all. If you don't like your body, then start exercising. That's what I'm doing.
And your 16. You don't need to be worried about sex right now. You don't need to convince yourself to do things, you just need to DO IT! Don't second guess yourself about anything!
I'm sorry I put my life story on here, but I have every bit of hope that you can make a positive change in your life. And once you change your life, I believe that you'll be an inspiration to someone else's.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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I wanted to know why I feel so alone and always second best. I have a few obvious reasons. My mother and I have always had a rocky relationship. Ever since my body started to develop as well as my own personality she has made fun of me. She wouldn't allow me to wear certain things my younger sister was able to wear. She also favored her more. I don't know if it was because her dad was married to my mom and she pretends to not know where my dad is. I turned to a life of drugs and prostitution at the age 17 because I was homeless. Either she was kicking me out or I couldn't take it and ran away. I still communicate with her but she doesn't make since to me. Everything she says is :i tried my best" "i just want my kids to be happy" and then turns around and does nothing to accomplish a healthy mature relationship with me after everything we have been through. (link)
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I know you said that you talk to your mother, but I don't think you tell her everything on your mind. If you feel that she is being hypocritical then tell her that. I feel that you kept all of your feelings bottled up and that resorted in your turn to drugs and prostitution. Seek out therapy if you need to, but you need to fix you and your mom's relationship AND FAST. A life without family is NOTHING!
I hope this helps.
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I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months...One month of which was when he broke up with me in late March and we got back together in late April.
When I first met him, he said something along the lines of "Girls are LUCKY if they ever meet my friends and family." I didn't give much thought to it, because I thought, well, maybe he's just saying that.
When we broke up in March, he dumped me saying I had too many demands and he couldn't provide the love that I needed. When we got back together in late April, it turned out that he said he did a lot of thinking and couldn't let me go because he "saw me in his future." Still in love with him, I got back together with him.
Well, one day, I was cleaning his room (which I HAVE NEVER done for another man in my life ever before--I wanted to show him how special he is) and I noticed two hairpins on his end table that were not mine. I also noticed that the condoms he said "he ran out and bought because he was afraid of getting me pregnant while I started the birth control pills" were suddenly gone from the windowsill where they were a week ago.....I hate to say it, but 2 months into our relationship, we weren't using condoms, and we still aren't. (I got tested last week and am clear...but now I'm rethinking the non condom thing...stupid..I know).
So, my suspicions started. The next week, alone in his room (He lets me stay alone and sleep in in his apartment when we go out sun night, or a week night while he works--I have a weird not-too-typical schedule). So, I snooped. Yes. I did:( And, in a suitcase he uses as extra storage for his clothes, I found the clinic condoms that had been taken from the windowsill along with a box of Trojans (a ten count box) with only 4 condoms left. There was also an empty Trojan wrapper in with the rest of the condoms. Along with that, were my earrings and panties I had left a week before. Keep in mind, we have not used a condom since March, and before we got back together in April he moved from one apartment to a new one. Next, yes, snooped again:(, I checked his wallet (He didn't bring it to work with him--just cash in his pocket). In his wallet was a condom and a card to an escort in the area he lives.
The following week when he got up to use the bathroom, I looked back in the wallet, and I noticed an additional condom put into the wallet (one was missing from the pocket in the suitcase) and the escort card was gone. I confronted him about all the condoms, and the wrapper, but I never mentioned the escort card--I still don't know why I didn't.
His explanations were: "Those were old clinic condoms I put back in there that we were gonna use." Then he said the box was old and he just found it recently. When I pressed him about the condom wrapper, he said it was old. I said "Then why is the lube wet in it?" He finally said, in April, before we got back together, that he slept with a one night stand from a bar, and that must be the wrapper from the one night stand. He said silicone lube can stay wet if enclosed in a dark suitcase. True. I called the condom company, and they confirmed it can happen if its in a dark place:( yes, I know, already, sounds like I don't trust him. When I asked about the wallet, he said that he carries condoms in his wallet because his brother who suffers from schizophrenia (paranoid type) checks his wallet to see if he has condoms every time he visits him to make sure that he is protected during sex because if he doesn't he'll tell the mother and the mother will get angry because he already got a girl pregnant. (I also know about his son and his sons mom--he visits every Friday, sometimes fri and sat). I said, "well doesn't your brother know we do it at your place, and you're with me?" He said, "He doesn't believe things he cannot see."
Okay, so that's that part of it. Now, he won't introduce me to his family because he says that it has to be over a year until I meet them. he says he won't introduce me to his friends because, well, before we got back together in April, he said I needed "tweaking" I told him to accept me like I am or not, and then he stopped saying that when we got back together. Then he said his friends are busy all the time, and now he says I can't meet them, because his friends are "stupid." Okay, so we go on dates, but since we've been arguing about these issues, he rarely initiates calling me/texting me--unless I ask repeatedly. He says its because, everytime I have seen him in the past two months, we have had a disagreement.
When I have confronted him, he says he does this with every girlfriend he has been with--it takes a while to meet ppl he knows.
I feel confused. The not calling, texting, and the random circumstantial evidence in his room--is it cheating? Or is it just typical guy forgetfulness sloppiness and distance from fighting too much?
And not introducing....does he really do this with everyone, or is it just with me? because I'm embarrassing, or a dirty little secret on the side? Please help! My last long term relationship was highly physically abusive (he knows this) and I just want a loving fulfilled one. Although, I still have extreme anxiety--I'm not perfect at all, either. (link)
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I'm sorry you have to snoop around his room to make sure he's being truthful and faithful. And why did you call him out on condoms and not the escort card? And he won't introduce you to his family until after a year of dating? My family would not be happy if I hid a girl from them for a whole year. It's completely up to you whether you want to stay or not.
But if I was in this situation, I wouldn't want to wait a year to meet my girlfriends family and friends. I know you love him, but does he love you?
I think you both should start talking more and try to strengthen your relationship on an emotional level. If he has to be cut off from sex for a while, then CUT HIM OFF. This should help you see if the love is real and still there.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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k so i met this girl this year in 7th grade and she became my bestfriend and and she became so popular! were going onto 8th now and im always jealous of her , feel like she has a better life than me. the boys are always after her and it pisses me off sometimes. her picture on facebook gets atleast 60 likes all the time, she always gets attention, posts pictures saying im ugly ew and yet she admits shes pretty ! i just dont know . ugh im jealous, i know that im pretty too but when i compare myself to her i feel like shit. but her sister died last year so i cant argue with her that her lifes better. (link)
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STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO HER! You need to love and appreciate yourself more. So what if she gets 60 likes on her facebook? Everytime I post something I get 5 likes. When my friends post something, everybody likes it. But I don't care who likes my status and neither should you. Out of all those guys your friend talks to, how many of them do you think have good intentions? Don't be so jealous of someone else's life because you don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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my life is having lot of problems and these problems do not having solutions then can you give mobile no to share with some problems (link)
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I don't really know what your asking, but you can send a message to my inbox or you can find my email on my profile.
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which is the tablet to end my life so easily
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Had you posted a question, somebody could have helped you. I always tell everybody that SUICIDE DOES NOT MAKE THINGS BETTER BUT WORSE! If you killed yourself, your family would be beyond upset. And you wouldn't be in peace because you would have to live with the fact that you left your family in pain. DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE! What ever problems you have, you need to face them and deal with them. Why are you willing to kill yourself over something that's not worth your life? I don't know what else to say because you haven't given me much information to go on, but DON'T KILL YOURSELF! You can always talk to me on here or through my email on my profile.
Don't give up on life.
~Andrew~
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Is it possible to end up with someone if it started out with sex?
I know it's always better and relationships work out better when you take it slow. But what if it was the total opposite? Do you think it could still work? (link)
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A relationship like this is completely unpredictable because you could be feeling a connection and he could think that it was just sex. That's why you don't just have flings and one night stands. You have to meet on that emotinal level first, then you worry about the physical. When you worry about the physical part of the relationship, it tends to mislead us. But it's never to late to go back to step one. You to should go out on a date and see if you're compatible on an emotional level. Get to know him as a person and get a feel for his personality. And on your "first date", DON'T HAVE SEX! Have him drive you home and walk you up to your door. You had sex with him already which is why making him wait is so important so that way you know if he truly is a gentleman or if he just has one thing on his mind.
I hope you find what you're looking for.
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Thanks for your advice. I emailed my boss at the internship today telling him I'd like to take some time off. My only concern is that I wish I didn't have to do this at my parent's expense. I know they would have wanted me to finish the internship, even if it didn't result in a job. I feel bad but I'm going to take some time to figure out what it is I want to do with my life. I think, when I figure this out (if I ever do)--it will greatly reduce much of the anxiety and trepidation I feel about my life. I do enjoy movies, have no idea how one would go about becoming a movie critique, but it's definitely something I can research.
Thanks again; all your insight really helped. I appreciate you taking the time to respond to me :)
Out of curiosity, what career path have you chosen for yourself and how did you decide that was what you wanted to do for a living? (link)
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HAHAHA. I'll let you know when I graduate highschool in two years. I'm 16. But I really have three that I want to do: Creative Writing, Film Making or Video Production, and Music. I decided this because I just knew what I loved to do. I watched a movie about maybe seven years ago and it inspired me to write a story. Seven years later the story isn't finished, but it has developed drastically. As for music, I sang when I was younger and everybody wantedme to sing everywhere. People said I brought tears to their eyes but I was always so shy. I'm trying to out grow that shyness, get my voice in a little bit of training, and just go for it. Plus I'm very religious and I love to gospel music, so I think I could really help somebody. And last but not least, film production. I love movies just like you do. And I'm the kind of person who likes the behind the scene footage and bloopers. I just like seeing the actors and actresses in character, and then out of the blue they accidentally flub up a line or something embarassing happens. And everybody just laughs it off and has a good time. And I thought to myself, "I would really like to be a part of that 'good time'."
But those are all my career choices right now. I even once considered being a preacher. But it all boils down to what things you like. Oh I forgot. I decided to pursue my goals by taking video production 2 and creative writing as my electives. I'm hoping to start a gospel choir at my school this coming school year. But you have to remember to be open to things you haven't done before. I hate sports, but people continuously push me to try football because I have the build for it. Coaches have approached me and the players have told me I would make a great fit. Of course my shyness overpowered what they said, but I'm breaking down that wall. If you live in a comfort zone all of your life, then you'll probably end up having regrets. And we don't want regrets but satisfaction. Satisfied with our life and ourselves.
Well I am so glad that I helped you, and I wish you nothing but the best in whatever you pursue. And let me know when you find your calling.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Sorry that it would be long. But please have patience reading this. I am 25. I met this guy when I had my vacation in Europe last year. We fell in love with each other and spent 3 months almost together. When I went back to my homeland, I just found out that I am pregnant. When my stepfather learned about it, he was really mad and said really hurtful words towards me and my fiance. I accepted everything. Good thing my stepfather lives in different country, so we just talk thru email. He's mad that I got pregnant without having savings yet same with my fiance and because my fiance is a Moslim. He is really a good guy, responsible, loving and the sweetest guy Ive ever met. My stepfather hates Moslims, he's very judgemental and really strict. He paid for me since I was 11 until before I got pregnant. That's why he is really controlling towards me. I don't think that he really sees me as a daughter, I think more of an investment. There was a time too that he had bad intention towards me, he touched my breast few years back. It didn't happen again after I confronted him about it. But I just don't feel really comfortable everytime my stepfather is around.
I gave birth to a healthy cute baby girl and he's still mad. When my fiance and I decided to get married next year, my stepfather really disagrees. He is the most negative person on earth. Since I got pregnant, until now, he sends email to my mother about his negativity towards me and my fiance, it stresses my mum already. I understand that he wants me to marry a guy who has savings and an own house but my fiance is doing his best for me and our daughter. We are planning to bring me and our daughter in his country when everything is stable already. He talks like my fiance is a criminal or something, as if he knows him. But he just saw him one time. What really insulted me is when my stepfather asked me thru email "are you that cheap?" I never felt insulted my whole life. I told him I'm not gonna read his emails anymore. And that I don't feel like he sees me as a daughter. You wouldn't tell your daughter, are you that cheap? I respect the man but I have enough. He cant control me my whole life and I want to decide for myself. Im gonna choose on whom to marry, not him.
I just want how you guys think about this. At the end of the day, of course, I'll still stick on my decision. Thanks in advance. (link)
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I really applaud you for standing up for yourself and your family. You made the right decision. But it's going to be hard explaining to your daughter why she doesn't see grandma and grandpa. So you should just let your step-dad know that he is missing out on his step-granddaughter. And tell him life is too short to be a bitter and surly old man. But congrats on your husband and on your daughter.
~Andrew~
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I have been going out with my boyfriend since 4 . 20 . 2012 Our relationship hasnt been all that perfect the two things is were in a LDR & He's type boring . Plus , I dont even love him I just have a feeleing when I see this month for the first time all the feelings I dont have for him will bloom. My ex came over and spent the night because hes my brother friend and we end up making out . But no feelings are there for him at all . It was just something to do . He has an girlfriend and I have a boyfriend . (link)
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Let me be the first person to tell you that any feelings you don't have for your boyfriend will not bloom. If you don't love him, you don't love him. I mean you even called him boring and you cheated on him with your ex! What makes me upset is that you're holding him back! You think he is boring but there could be another woman out there who would love to have a man like that!
If you cheat becuase it's just something to do, then something is wrong. The both of you should break up.
I say this because you cheated on him, and you haven't gotten the chance to even like him on an emotional level. If you don't like his personality, than why would you stay for his looks?
Now if you do intend on staying in this relatinship, than you better intend on telling him the truth because what's done in the dark always comes to the light.And if you don't tell him and he finds out, than he'll never trust you. Relationships are built on TRUST and FAITHFULNESS.
Hopefully, you do the right thing.
~Andrew~
P.S. Tell your ex everything that I told you and maybe he'll learn to be faithful and truthful to his girlfriend.
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So, 13/f and I met this dude. 16/m and I haven't really met him offiicially or seen the guy. I just try to imagine him. Lets just say his name is Mike. When I think about his REAL name the thing that comes to mind is blonde hair blue eyes and let the rest fall in place. Well, we talked over the power of the internet and he sounds really nice and harmless. I don't know who he really is or what he looks like we met by chance on this really cool website and happened to hit him up about it. I think I like him, he sounds pretty harmless to me, but that's just the internet, he might be some homeboy trying to get a life. Who knows he might even a 50 perverted year old dude who is lonely and stupid. So, how do I get to bring up the subject of what we look like in a convo while chatting?? Is 3 years older than me way out of my league?? I mean, IDK if he's in a relationship wit someone, but I want to get some ideas. Can you guys give me some please?? Thanks so much. (link)
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Meeting people on the internet is very risky. All the more reason to meet people IN PERSON. This guy probably is a harmless 16 year old boy, but you don't know that for sure. Plus he is too old for you. Keep in mind he'll be 18 and legally an adult when you're 15. In society, that's a huge gap. It's okay to be friends with 16 year old boys that you KNOW. But not strangers.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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ok, i like this boy but i get way to nervous around him. i start sweating, stuttering, and i cant stop staring at him. i really dont know what to do and i cant avoid him because he comes over my house sometimes. someone please help me? (link)
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PLEASE TELL HIM THE TRUTH! If you like this guy go for it. That's the only way to get rid of your nervouseness. And this should be way easy for you because HE GOES TO YOUR HOUSE! All you got to do is tell him you like him. He might even feel the same way.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Ever since i was born, i was always the shy girl and quiet. I've been trying to changed and asked God to change my life. But i am still the same girl. I am 23 years old, im a women now. I have been hurt so much. I cried almost every night because my heart in pain. I graduated from high school in 2008 and have not have a good job. Beside now i am a housekeeper. which is my worst night mare job ever. my dream is to go to college but i cant passed testes to get in.I have been tried about 10 times to get into school. And i couldn't cuz of my dumness. I have no friends. No one likes me. I dont know why. all i ever do is being sweet nice and innocent. Every day im thinking about dying. I am really hurt. The longer i live the more hurt i get. The only people love me are my parents. My siblings are not even like me. They always ignored me. I have a phone but no one ever call me. I am hurt and lonely. So, what is the best way to die? What kind of pills should i take? Please tell me. (link)
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Well you came to the right place. Not for pills cause I won't help you kill yourself because nothing will get better if you do. Now you said that you tried 10 time to get into college. Well try again. WHAT KIND OF WORLD WOULD WE BE IN IF PEOPLE GAVE UP AFTER TRYING 10 TIMES? And I doubt that you are dumb because you had enough sense to ask for help before you ended up doing something you would have regretted. The key to passing a test is studying. Here's a website that might help with that:(MAKE SURE YOU TAKE NOTES!)
http://www.khanacademy.org/
Now how can you expect people to like you if you don't like yourself? Because your self-esteem has to be pretty low for you to want to commit suicide. Love yourself first and don't pay attention to what people say to you. I know it hurts when people constantly talk about you or don't even talk to you when you're in the room. BUT YOUR LIFE IS NOT WORTH ALL OF THAT PETTY GARBAGE! You have a dream, so DON'T GIVE UP ON IT! DON'T BE A QUITTER! It's time you stopped trying to please other people. Just focus on your life and your dream. NOBODY CAN KEEP YOU FROM GOING TO COLLEGE. And pray that NOTHING will ever bring you to this point of your life again.
I have all the faith in you.
~Andrew~
P.S. NEVER GIVE UP. Even if it takes you another year. You just keep praying and going after your goals.
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Hi,
I just wanted to thank you for responding to my question about the trouble I've been having coping with anxiety lately. In your response, you mentioned thinking about what I want and need out of life, and making a "course correction" if necessary. I think that is great advice; however, I have no idea what I want out of life. As I mentioned, I am not functioning as an independent adult, like most people my age. My parents are great people--and they truly want to see me succeed and find happiness in life. A major source of my anxiety has been the unpaid advertising internship where I'm currently working. I'm having trouble completing the assignments and generally feel like I have no clue what I'm doing while I'm there. I really want to quit, but if I quit--I don't know what to do. I'd be back to working dead-end jobs as a waiter or at a daycare like I was working before. I know it's important to preserve and keep your commitments, I don't dislike working at the internship, but I genuinely AM NOT good at it. I think it's unfair for me to intern there if I'm not capable of successfully producing the work they're looking for. What do you think--any insight, advice or feedback you can give me would be greatly appreciate! Thanks so much :) (link)
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There is no way to automatically make yourself an independant adult. I'm not a doctor or therapist but sometimes it may have to do with how we are brought up and what our childhood was like. A lot of 26 year olds don't live by themselves. I think you should do what I said in my first response and find out what makes you happy. YOU ARE NOT A MISERABLE PERSON. Something has to make you happy. If you love watching movies, then maybe you could become a film critic. If you love telling jokes, try stand-up comedy. Those are just examples. But if you have to take some time off from your internship to find your true calling, by all means go for it. If you want to go to college for a masters degree or doctorate, then DO IT. If you love food, go to a culinary school. You have to have a passion for something. Once you find it, let me know. Or if you didn't find it let me know.
Good Luck!
~Andrew~
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Lately, I've been really struggling to control my anxious thoughts and compulsive tendencies. I recently started working at an internship and have great difficulty forcing myself to go due to the anxiety I feel by the social obligation it requires. As a result, I am often absent during the week. I am always worried about what people think of me or if people are judging me. During times of great stress, I feel like running away. This is irrational and unrealistic seeing as my savings have been greatly reduced in order for me to finace working at this internship, which happens to be unpaid. I'm not currently on medication nor am I seeing a therapist because I don't have health insurance. Another factor that concerns me is my age. I am twenty-six years old and still living with my parents. I feel like I'm not advancing or progressing in life because of my anxiety. I often seriously think about running away but I know this is irrational, illogical and unrealistic given that I don't have enough money to support myself. I worry that I'll never fully be able to care for and support myself like everyone else does. Everything in life, especially social interaction, is very difficult and strenous for me. I currently have $250 in my savings account--I know most of the responses will try to dissuade me, but I would like to know if there are any options I can pursue in order to move forward with my life. I'm thinking about possibly going into the airforce; I know it would be a great challenge but they provide housing and a stipend every month for food. Plus, I'd be earning money and living independently. (link)
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I think you need to stop and think about your life. If you don't like the direction your life is going than you need to change course. Now why do you always think about what people are thinking about you? Their opinion about you DOESN"T MATTER. Maybe you should find a job that pays and suits your personality. You have to find what makes you HAPPY IN LIFE and GO FOR IT. Talk to your parents. I'm sure if they knew how you felt they would be glad to help in anyway they can. And also, don't go into the airforce if your heart isn't in it. You shouldn't do something you don't like just because it pays well.
Hopefully this helps.
~Andrew~
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So a girl I was friends with told me I was so ugly and that she looked better than me but I know that I am prettier than her and I want to post both our pictures on youtube for comparison and I want to know if I was sued would I actually be convicted of that being that I would take her picture from her public facebook page. (link)
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You said it yourself. If you make a video like that, then it is considered cyber bullying. If you are prettier than the other girl, why don't you just take joy in that and leave her alone. I don't know if you've noticed but the world is RUTHLESS. If you post that video asking random strangers who is prettier, I guarantee that you will get a slew of rude and sexual comments. Also your video could become hugely popular and people at school would see it and start making fun of the other girl or maybe even both of you. And when the school finds out, you'll get called into the office and probably suspended for posting the video. Mybe even expelled. All I'm saying is, don't be mean because it creates a whole mess of drama.
I hope you do the right thing.
~Andrew~
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These days i feel my boyfriend is avoiding me. Once i got a call from him and by accident i pressed the off button of the mobile,it was his call. After that he has changed,he doesnt call me,write me. I feel so sad. I actually told him about the accident. But he seems doesnt care anymore. I dont know what to do. (link)
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I agree with Braiden. If the love isn't there, than it's not there. Unless something else is bothering him. Just be very supportive and let him know that he can tell you anything. If you told him that you were sorry and it was an accident and he still seems distant, then something else is bothering him or he is just very sensitive or childish.
I hope things get better for you and him.
~Andrew~
P.S. Maybe you can ask him what his call was about.
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Hi, I'm 14/f
I've had a huge, and I mean HUGE crush on this older guy for years now. We're talking I forget my own name around him! Now he has a girlfriend and he really likes her. They're long distance, so he calls her every night & he always has this huge cheesy smile every time he's on the phone with her. I am, surprisingly, not jealous of her at all. It's normal to be at least a little jealous when I think about something like that, right? But all I can think of when I think about him with her is happiness for him & I'm glad that he's happy with her. That's all I seem to care about. I don't like being so calm about all of it. I don't want to cause problems either, but it drives me insane that I'm not at least a little jealous!
So my question is: Is it possible to make yourself jealous? If so, please share! I don't want to give up on any chance I might have to be with him & by being so calm it seems like i AM giving up! Someone, anyone, please help me. Anything will be appreciated.
Thanks for reading & answering in advance! (link)
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WHAT'S WRONG WITH BEING CALM? More girls should be like that instead of fighting over guys all the time. The thing is you like this guy so much that you just want him to be happy. There's also nothing wrong with you telling him that you like him even though he has a girlfriend. Trust me when I say jealousy never wins. All I can say is just be a great friend to him.
Hopefully this helps.
~Andrew~
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