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How do I stop being so afraid to experience the world outside the internet?
and stop going to the computer, instead of running away from my problems to my comfort zone? i'm missing out on so much because it's so scary to put myself out there and get rejected for being different or do something and it not being good enough. but this is not the way to live. i'm 18 and i feel like most of my childhood from age 11-18 was a complete waste, except for the times I got to travel abroad. the rest of the time was mainly spent online cause i've never really been able to connect with most people offline, even when I try, and it's so frustrating
i also build walls because i'm afraid of getting hurt. it always seems like people are nice to me and wanna be friends and then suddenly turn on me, so i'm afraid of that happening if i tell others my deepest thoughts. i feel very regretful over not even telling a guy i liked him because i was afraid of rejection even though i really liked him a lot and i felt i gave him subtle hints but ugh.. it's not like i had any friends to discuss things with so idk what he thought of me at all. i just hate how in school i only had varying degrees of acquaintances, and never friends, not since elementary school
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Maybe, and not to make you seem crazy, but maybe you should talk to an acutal person about this. I know the internet has people your age to help you out, nonetheless, but I feel like if you actively discuss this with someone face to face, it might be a lot easier for you to pick up visual cues on how to interact with people in a conversation. But honestly, to make a friend is to be a friend as well. Try helping someone in need. Try putting yourself in situation where you need to interact with people, such as a school club. With forced interaction, you're bound to talk to all sorts of people and see how it goes from there. It does get easier once you're accustomed to talking to anyone. After a while, an anyone can become a someone.
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I'm sorry that you feel this way, but you have to let people in your life. That's the only way we, as human beings, can experience the world. You say you're afraid of getting hurt, but getting hurt is a part of life and it helps us learn from our mistakes. I understand where you're coming from because I'm the same way. I don't like to do anything extra-curricular or any after school programs. But I know that's not the way to live life and I've been trying to change it. But you have to let people in your heart. To get friends and or boyfriends, you have to put yourself out there. You can't be afraid of life because you'll miss out on alot of opportunities. Open up and be yourself. And if it's not to late talk to that boy you like.
I hope this helped.
~Andrew~
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