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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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17/male

ok so basicly heres the short version. i was goin out with this girl for goin on 2 months or so. we had previously dated before. her 2 standards in a guy is he has a job. and be in school.(still in high school)so i fullfilled those till i got kicked out of school for skipping. i was only kicked out for 5 days. so basicly, she breaks up with me. then starts goin out with my best friend. 3 days later or so. and my best friend KNEW i still loved her. and i was STILL goin try to get back with her when i got back. so now its been 2 friggin weeks, they're now having sex, and oral sex. best friend tells me all this. i mean i still love her, and can't realy get over the fact that she did that to me. and can't get over the fact he did that to me too. so how do i get over this whole thing? and move on? cause me and her, that aint happenin again

Your ex girlfriend's a slut. Let's just get that straight. No girl dates you, and then dumps you because of school and then dates your best friend. It's bitchy, and gross.

And no best friend fucks the girl you love. Ditch them both. She's bad news, and he's no friend. You deserve better.

Im just wondering, how girls masterbate.
lmao

"lalalaBAM" WTF does that even mean?

It doesn't mean anything. Kids create new phrases everyday and nobody knows what the hell it means except them.

Be thankful you're not one of those kids.

My friend is twelve and she wants to have sex without a condum .She does not have her period and is a virgin.Can she still get pregnant?

Yes. Just because she hasn't gotten her period doesn't mean she isn't capable of reproducing.

And being a virgin has nothing to do with it either. You can get pregnant the first time you have sex.

Your friend is 12. She shouldn't even be having sex to begin with, or even thinking about it for that matter. Let alone unprotected.

I'm seriously shaking my head in disgust for what kids these days are contemplating.

So my boyfriend brought up an interesting topic last night and i just wanted to know some oppinions. If you commit suicide and youre a good person do you really go to hell? and why?

I grew up Christian but never really spent my time reading the Bible though that is what I heard as well. Suicide is considered a sin, so ultimately when you commit a sin, you go to hell.

However, you can usually ask for forgiveness. But, when you're dead, you can't ask for it. See how that works?

Basically, no one really knows. I would read the Bible or ask a priest or someone you know who is highly religious. Maybe a grandparent or something.

i'm not really asking too much for advice, but more of an opinion and what you think. so heres my story (17f&17m):

i dated this guy for 8 months and we broke up the last week of april...he said he doesn't have the same feelings for me. however, we went to prom together and i was laying on this guy cause i wasn't feeling good and he was off doing his own thing...and he got upset at me for that...we both decided that itd be best for us not to talk until summer starts (which is in like a month from now) then he wants to start hanging out again as friends and he said "if its meant to be, it'll be". we started going out during the summer of last year and i was thinking of doing something cute when we hang out to realize why he fell for me last summer. i really love this kid and he treats me right. so what do you think i should do with this whole situation..is there anything that can boost our chances of getting back together?

oh and should i text him first when school ends? and how long should i wait? or should i let him text me?

I'm gonna give you advice anyways.

I would let him text you. Give it about 2 weeks after school ends. If you get nothing, text him.

I'm not sure if there's anything that can boost your chances of getting back with him. The best I'd say is just to play it cool. Trying to get someone to see why they fell for you can backfire and totally blow up in your face. So, I would just play it cool.

If he feels a spark, you guys can work from there.

I just stopped by to say that "No. Unless his cum is Jesus, you cannot get pregnant." is a genius line.

Hahaha, thank you!

Where can I watch Family Guy online for free?

http://www.familyguyx.net/

I hope I spelled it right .My girl friend is going through this and I want to know what I can do as her boyfriend to help her keep things at ease and first of all I need to educate myself as to what is really happening to her.

There's a big difference. Please educate yourself.

I gave my boyfriend a hand job in my bed and he cummed. Can I get pregnant from sleeping on my bed where he cummed?

No. Unless his cum is Jesus, you cannot get pregnant.

What it do! Ma boyfriend lives in Texas and I live in Louisiana. I'm trippin' cause he still talk about his ex-girlfriend. he not cheatin' on me though cause she live down in the n.o. too. can you cheat ova the phone?

There is such a thing as phone sex, so it's possible that some people would consider that cheating.

study of earth and space is called what?

Google.

my friend thinks she is fat and guys always make comments about her being fat also. what do you think?

http://i159.photobucket.com/albums/t146/aliraelovesyou/1234456.jpg

I don't think she's fat at all. I'm sure a lot of girls would love to have her body. Whoever is calling her fat is either blind, stupid or both.

Like shes this really big b*tch. Just 5 minutes ago, i heard her talking to my dad (I know that she wanted me to over hear) and she said, "Shes not my daughter shes yours". I was like okay.. rude much? Didn't say this but really! Last night she was screaming at me to empty the dishwasher, so while i was emptying it, I had a stack of bowls, and one fell off the top, hit me in the head and fell on the ground and broke. I started to clean it up, and the vacum wouldn't work. She started getting even more pissed at me thinkin i dropped the bowl on purpose, so i said "Yeah, cuz thats smart, drop it so then I have to clean it up." She like freaked out about this, and started threating me that should could beat my a$$. Then I was going up to my room and she threw me agianst the door grabbingt my arms so hard that they left her read hand prints on my arms. And screaming at me that I need to give her respect. Personally, I will never respect her, shes a b*tch, and I hate her. Anyway, then I was in the hallway on my way to my room, and she grabbed me agian saying that she'd throw me threw the wall behind me and all this sh*t. Ohh, and just like 5 minutes ago, she was sayint that if i didn't load the dishwasher she'd grab me by the hair and shove my head in the sink. shes ruining my life, and I need to get away from her.
Please don't say that I should stay with relitves/friends for a week or so, because I would stay with my grandma, my moms mom, but all she does is take my moms side. I understand that she is her daughter, but when is she going to wake up and realize that her daughter is a monster. I am 14 and a freshamn in highschool, so i'm stuck here for 3years. I don't think anyone in my family understands, that I want absolotly nothing to do with them once i'm gone.
I have an older brother, who died when he was 55days old. I don't think that my mom understands that shes lost one kid, and now after today and last night, shes lost another one, my older sister is on the verge, and she still has my younger brother, but only because hes the baby and the only boy.
She plays favorites WAYY to much, and its not fair. LIke she honestly hates me, and at this point I don't care. Shes a terrible mother and person.

So I guess what I am trying to ask, is what do I do. I need to get away from here, but I have no where to go. How do I put up with her. Even if I'm not doing anything she picks fights, like if I say one thing she starts screaming at me. I can't even keep my distence, because she like comes after me when she decides to. I'm sick of it, and I don't know what to do. If I could afford to live on my own, I'd divorce her as my parents. What do I do!

**This isn't the first time shes gone this over the top.

Your mother is abusive, and irrational. Either call CPS, or talk to your father. What your mother is doing to you is not right. The next time she puts her hands on you, or threatens you, record it. Record it so that you have proof to show of the abuse she's putting you through.

If you gather enough and show it to CPS, a lot can be done. If they see that the situation is harmful (which it is), they'll probably put you into foster care.

Your mother sounds like a disgusting human being. I'm really sorry you have to deal with that sweetie, but CPS is there when you need them.

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, but we were friends for years before that. I've never loved a guy this much, and our relationship is pretty serious. He lives with me, but he has a room outside of his parent's house that he pays rent for (it's in like a shop thing on his parent's property). My family is fine with us living together, but his parents are huge Christians. We live with my grandparents, but sometimes we like to stay over at his place just to have a little more privacy. His mom doesn't say anything, but his dad says that no girls are allowed to say overnight with him on his property. I respect his dad's religious beliefs and go out of my way to please him. He doesn't allow women on his property to wear anything that he considers indecent, so no matter how hot it is, I wear jeans and conservative shirts when I come around, but it's a little ridiculous. He doesn't say anything about us living together at my house, but he does not allow us to say the night together in my boyfriend's room. My boyfriend has paid rent for it, but he says it's his property so it's his decision.

Is there anything I can do about this? I know it may not seem like much, but I always feel like he's judging my every move and it drives me crazy, since it's not very christian-ly to judge, anyway. Should we talk to him about this or just let it go and do what he says?

I think you need to let it go. While your boyfriend is a grown man, he still has to respect his father, even while living under his roof. Whether they live in the same house, or your boyfriend is paying rent for something his dad owns, then you gotta respect it. What his dad says goes.

Warning! I'm an awful speller.

I took my last final as a junior in highschool yesterday. My boyfriend, of almost a year, takes his last final as a senior June 4th. In mid-august he ships out for the navy.

Being 17 year old girl, and lacking in the category of life experiences, I believe myself to be as deeply in love as I possibly can be at this stage in my life. Paul is no where close to perfect, but he's perfect for me. He pisses me off by working to much, disappoints me by missing my performances due to work etc. etc....but the fact that he can make me so intensly mad and I can still feel love for him unconditionally only shows me how much I truely do care for him. I've never even yelled at him, because the stupid stuff he does doesn't matter in the long run.

Heres the whole point of this, him leaving for the navy others me mainly for three different reasons:
A) He didn't ask me first. He just registered. I would never stand in his way, but the fact that he didn't even ask my opinion...it hurt. It really hurt. He's the one always saying he wants to be with me for as long as he possibly can be. I didn't force those words out of him. How can you say that, and then make a life altering decision without consulting the other person its going to effect?
B) He'll be gone for up to 8 months at a time, and we'll be able to communicate maybe monce a week. I love him anto d I want to make this work. But is one email or phone call a week enough to fuel a relationship?
C) During the next four years so much could happen to our country, what if he actually had to go to battle? I don't know what I'd do if something happened to him.

Any words of advice?

I understand how you feel. I dated a guy in the military once, but I dated him long after he joined. I know that you're upset that he didn't ask your opinion, but he doesn't really need your opinion on it. His heart was set on the joining the military. He is a man, and he does not need your permission nor your approval to do so. And for you to think that he does is silly. You are not his parents, and you are not him. He can do as he chooses. The only permission he needs is from his parents. They gave him permission, therefore your approval and opinion were not needed. This is his decision, not yours.

It may not be enough to fuel the relationship, but that is something you both determine. If you really love your boyfriend, this relationship can still work while he is away. You just both need to work at it. You also need to understand that even though you want to talk with him, it cannot always be done because his attention needs to be focused elsewhere. If you can understand that and come to terms with it, your relationship should be okay. However, if you want to be the center of attention always, and get mad when you are not, then the relationship cannot and will not continue. You need to think a lot about this. What are you willing to sacrifice? And what are you willing to contribute? If you don't know the answers to those questions, the relationship will not work out & will fizzle.

If he does have to go to battle (it is a possibility, and very much out of his control), you need to accept it. He cannot back out of being deployed. If they need his services, he must provide them. Turning against them and breaking free of the military will cause severe consequences such as a life sentence in prison, and probably never being able to live a normal life again. You cannot control if something happens to him, but the best you can do is support him. Be there for him when he needs you.

You guys really need to sit down and have a talk about this. Talk about where your relationship will go and what will become of it if a certain situation pops up. If there are things you don't know the answers to, I would re-evaluate everything.

For now though, support him. At this point, there is nothing you can do.

15/ Female

I'm curious if I can well have sex... Or kids... I wanna try so bad... But I haven't even dated anyone yet... My only real goal is to have a family... Lately, it's been bugging me that I might not get the chance... I've had my period for 3 years- since Feb. I thats happened is spotting... I know it hasn't exsactly regulated, but does that mean something? It's been harder than normal to get have my own babies/kids outta my head. I've been getting strange dreams/nightmares involving such- I get pregnant lose the baby basiclly... Am I just getting worked up over nothing? I'm at a lost here, any suggestions? Help would be greatly appreeshated.
-Kaori

You are 15 years old. You're not old enough to have sex, or start a family.

Get your education, and a career first, and then worry about having a family. For the time being, you surely are not ready. Let's grow up first.

Has anyone tried to do these sruveys where you get paid to do them. I live in a small town now and it is a little combersome to get a new job that is close to home. I would enjoy working from home and I have all day to be on the computer so I wouldn't mind doing the surveys. Has anyone successfully done it and gotten a check? Do you know a good company?
Thank you

Those surveys are a scam. All they do is have you send in your information, and then they spam the hell out of your e-mail. You fill out some questions on a product or a sample or whatever, and then they spam your e-mail and you never even get anything but an inbox full of junk mail.

Don't fall into it. It doesn't do anything good.

My friends and I broke out in an extreamly verbal fight yesterday. My best friend, Alexis heard I was telling everyone she likes this boy, Ben, whom I happen to like. The truth is when people asked me if she liked him, I always told them I really didn't know! I mean, she's my best friend, I wouldn't do that to her. Anywho, at lunch that day, she confronted me and said "WHY ARE YOU TELLING EVERYONE I LIKE BEN?!" and I told her what really happened and what I said. Her reaction was "I don't believe you because you've been acting fake lately, and really weird." I said Okay, and walked away. After lunch, we were on the way to our next block class. In the hall way, two of the popular, mean girls I thought I was friends with came up SCREAMING at me, when non of this was any of their buisness. Of course I yelled back, and when the teacher pushed us apart from each other, I began to cry because I was frusturated and upset and angry that I didn't hit her while I had the chance. The teacher emailed my principle and they called me down and to talk. They called the three girls, including Alexis down, too. Ever since then, they got on myspace and started talking about me so that I could see it. THey're telling everyone to not be my friend. It's seriously killing me. And today I didn't even go to school because I don't want to get beat up. I dont know what to do.. I want my best friend back. I want this to be over. PLEASE HELP!?!

I honestly don't even think you should be friends with them.

You did the right thing. Someone asked you something, you said you didn't know because you didn't wanna spread around false information that you knew nothing about, and when she asked you, you told her the truth.

No one told her she had to believe you. Nobody has to believe you. As long as you know you were telling the truth, there shouldn't be a problem. This is all petty middle school drama. I'm not sure if you're in highschool or what, but either way, this is ridiculous. Your "friends" need to grow up.

Only immature kids have to post bulletins on MySpace to turn everyone against someone because they're believing what they want to believe. If they were really your friend, they would've listened to you when you told them what happened. They chose not to, therefore they are in the wrong, not you.

If you begin to actually lose friends over this, then so be it. Ignore everyone. They obviously weren't your friend anyways. Delete those girls off of your friends list. Don't even try to make up with them.

I know you think that they're your friends, but they're not. If you delete them, you won't have to deal with stupidity on the internet. And don't skip school. Skipping school only shows them that they're getting to you. You need to keep showing up and continue on with your life to show them that they can't hurt you. Don't let some stupid girl and her obnoxious little friends scare you out of your education.

If they approach you, tell them to grow up and walk away. You're too mature to deal with children. And remember, if they can quickly turn their back on you like this, they can do it to anyone. So truth is sweetheart, THEY are the fake ones, NOT you.

okay heres the problem i give presents to my friend yeah we talk but every time when this girl carolina come she just ditches me and its like when carolinas there im invisible but i really like my best friend what do i do?

She sure doesn't sound like a friend.

If someone comes around and she keeps ditching you when it happens, then she isn't a friend. Real friends can pay attention to more than one person at a time, and wouldn't ditch their friend for someone else.

No, she isn't your friend. Get yourself a new one.

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