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What's a girl to do?
15/ Female
I'm curious if I can well have sex... Or kids... I wanna try so bad... But I haven't even dated anyone yet... My only real goal is to have a family... Lately, it's been bugging me that I might not get the chance... I've had my period for 3 years- since Feb. I thats happened is spotting... I know it hasn't exsactly regulated, but does that mean something? It's been harder than normal to get have my own babies/kids outta my head. I've been getting strange dreams/nightmares involving such- I get pregnant lose the baby basiclly... Am I just getting worked up over nothing? I'm at a lost here, any suggestions? Help would be greatly appreeshated.
-Kaori
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You are 15 years old. You're not old enough to have sex, or start a family.
Get your education, and a career first, and then worry about having a family. For the time being, you surely are not ready. Let's grow up first.
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Wow, I'd like to ask if you've been on any strong medications lately? What kind of 15 year old girl wants to have a baby unless you're trying to milk the welfare system? Honestly, think about what you're saying. You can't drive yet. You can't legally own a house or even adopt a dog. Just because you're body is mature enough to have a child doesn't mean this is the right stage in your life to do so. You have plenty of time to grow up, get an education, find a job, and a man who'll stick around and be a father. People have babies in their early 40s! Wait until you have the means to give a child the life they deserve, not one of moving from crappy apartment to crappy apartment never knowing if you can afford food and clothing, while always regretting having a child before you finished highschool.
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bad bad bad bad bad bad bad BAD idea. What the heck makes you think you "might not get the chance" to have kids? you are FIFTEEEENNN!! babies can stay in your head but do NOT act upon it until you are married and have a JOB to support the child, yourself, your husband and the household. That being said, do NOT rush into marriage just to have babies. Stupid idea.
So yes, you are worked up over ABSOLUTELY nothing!
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the problem to why you havnt gotten a boyfriend to get the baby is because thats on your mind no 15 and up boy wants to have a baby right now they might say they do but im sure its a lie to bang you in other words sex. its natural for girls to feel they need a baby we all do i dont want one but at times i think that i do but i really dont.your not ready you still have years to go so put a break on wanting one right now i think i would talk to someone about that. tricking a guy to get one would be cruel btw. and spotting when your not having sex well theres a chancne its beacuse your period is still irregular. ive had my period scence i was 11 and im almost 17 now and they are still messed up. so im sure and positive if you havnt been around a real penis that has cummen anywhere around you that you are in fact not pregnant im sorry. take a chill pill on this. im sorry it this mght be to harsh but the honost truth is better then candy cotting it for someone who wants a beby at 15 if you feel you want one then you should be able to take this message here with great maturity.
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A lot of girls your age want to have babies and children, but this is a bad idea. It will be so much better for you and your kids if you wait until you are older. Enjoy having no responsibilities while you're this young.
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Don't think that just because you're fifteen and haven't been in a relationship yet, you won't get an opportunity to have kids. At the age of fifteen most people haven't been in serious relationships. You shouldn't get yourself worked up over not having the chance to have kids right now. Don't try to have sex or have kids just to prove to yourself that you can.
It's great that your goal is to have a family, but don't rush it. I'm guessing your ideal family includes a family, a decent house, and well-fed, healthy, happy children. At your age, you can't afford a baby. You can't move out on your own because there is no way for you to sign a lease on an apartment or house. Also, you don't have a boyfriend, let alone a serious, committed boyfriend. Give yourself some time. Things as important as family and kids can't be rushed.
Your period should be fairly regular by now. Just because you're spotting doesn't mean you're going to have a miscarriage when you do get pregnant though. It just means that you need to talk to your family doctor or a gynecologist to see what can be done to regulate it. I think you are getting yourself too worked up. You're going to have plenty of opportunities to get in serious relationships and have kids. Just do it when you're older, have a job, have money, and have a committed relationship.
Darby(:
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