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Boyfriend's judgemental parents.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, but we were friends for years before that. I've never loved a guy this much, and our relationship is pretty serious. He lives with me, but he has a room outside of his parent's house that he pays rent for (it's in like a shop thing on his parent's property). My family is fine with us living together, but his parents are huge Christians. We live with my grandparents, but sometimes we like to stay over at his place just to have a little more privacy. His mom doesn't say anything, but his dad says that no girls are allowed to say overnight with him on his property. I respect his dad's religious beliefs and go out of my way to please him. He doesn't allow women on his property to wear anything that he considers indecent, so no matter how hot it is, I wear jeans and conservative shirts when I come around, but it's a little ridiculous. He doesn't say anything about us living together at my house, but he does not allow us to say the night together in my boyfriend's room. My boyfriend has paid rent for it, but he says it's his property so it's his decision.
Is there anything I can do about this? I know it may not seem like much, but I always feel like he's judging my every move and it drives me crazy, since it's not very christian-ly to judge, anyway. Should we talk to him about this or just let it go and do what he says?
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Thats hilarious. My friend Lacy has been with her boyfriend 9 months. She lives with her own grandparents (he lives with her) and he has a room with his parents (don't know what arrangements). His parents are christian and them being together and living together bothers them, and she's not allowed to spend the night. His parents hate her, they've had several screaming arguments. Her family couldn't care less about them dating.
I'm not even fucking kidding about this. I read your post and did a double take.
Small world, eh?
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Let it go.
The only thing you're going to do is make it worse. You and his father do not think the same way, and trying to convince a devout christian that pre-marital sex is good, ok, normal,or anything like it is about the most hopeless task you could ever set yourself.
Because thats what he sees. Devil woman corrupted his son with sex. He doesn't sound so imbalanced that he actually thinks it in those terms, but he definitely sees you in that light.
Don't push him on it, don't bring it up, just silently respect his right and think about getting an apartment together.
Random sidenote, is your name Lacy?
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I think you need to let it go. While your boyfriend is a grown man, he still has to respect his father, even while living under his roof. Whether they live in the same house, or your boyfriend is paying rent for something his dad owns, then you gotta respect it. What his dad says goes.
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no i mean its his parents so just respect thier wishes
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