|
Mind games (how to)
Okay first of all a quick bg of the story is that my friend is datin this guy that makes her feel like s**t!! she nos hes not right for her and she nos that I feel the same, but he recently told her that if he ever were to hurt her it would be through mind games and not physically!!
What I would like to know is how she could get him back via mind games as he has now made her question herself in all aspects like is she pretty enough, is he 2 good for her etc!! she is a wreck and needs to get him back at his own game!!
So any one who knows how to do mind games please help!! she needs to get back her sparkle which has been lost because of him!!
Also not 2 b cheeky but please dont write to tell me not to meddle in her lovelife or nt 2 play mind games I have heard this before!! Thx in advance and all HELP is appreciated!!
yours
Lxxxx
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
First, to give you a detailed response, I'll need the ages of both people involved (and yours, just for my own reference), and more specifics. What exactly is he saying to her to make her question herself? How does she respond to it?
I unfortunately consider myself a bit of a pro as far as mind games are concerned - That is to say, I understand people and I understand relationships. I'm going into relationship counseling as soon as I can afford another degree...
That being said, relationship games (particularly in young relationships) are push-pull games. A relationship can start out beautifully. Then, a guy pushes a girl away, and she tries to pull him closer because she's looking for validation. When the only response he gives her is negative, she starts to question herself, wonder if she's good enough. She figures she must not be attractive enough if he's being so negative, etc. Instead of becoming disinterested and running away, it becomes a cycle. If she starts to act disinterested, he'll come running and coddle her and love her and make her feel good, and then push her away again. She wonders why he's not being as loving as before - it must be her. Her self-esteem goes down. She seeks more validation. She begins to hate herself, etc.
It's a horrible cycle, but it can be broken.
This is why I need the specifics of what's going on between them - I could help you both understand when to push and when to pull, when to give him space, when to allow him to feel the chase, when to chase him, etc.
Is this a revenge tactic? Because if it is, she needs to be strong and break up with him to get out of the horrible cycle. If she knows he's wrong for her, why is she still with him? If he treats her well sometimes and she "loves" him, I can understand, and my advice will fit. If not, please send my inbox more specifics and I'll try to give you a better answer.
Good luck,
Siren
]
That guy sounds like a prick. He's not good enough for any girl he treats that way. Tell her to tell him to fuck off.
]
More Questions: |