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Well,So this weekend I saw my boyfriend and I haven't talked to him in awhile because my phone was broken. Well we have been dating for awhile and it has always been awkward when we see each other, we are both 14 anyway my friend I know was like you used to date him? and I didn't know what he was even talking about. I don't know if we are dating are not but I really like him but it seems like we are not even dating at all.But it makes me sad and I am dumb enough not to even ask him about it when I had the chance and I don't get to see him for a while later and it kills me. ): please help me. (link)
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Well this is confusing. If he is your boyfriend, how do you not know if you guys are dating?
A boyfriend is a label used to describe a romantic relationship. But only if he asked you to be his girlfriend. Showing that you guys are exclusive and you guys can't see other people.
Dating can go into that definition. But JUST dating is different. Dating is going on dates. There can be exclusive dating or just casual dating to see if you're interested in them.
So since you're really young, I can actually understand a little why you're confused. When I was 14, this guy who I really liked asked me to be his girlfriend. We hardly talked and only saw each other twice a week. We would sit by each other and talk and that was it. That was all a 14 year old could really have. So it wasn't a real relationship.
If you want to know where you stand with him, ask him. So the next time you see him, ask him and see what he says. Just explain that you don't know where you stand with him since you guys hardly talk and don't really act like you're dating. See what he says. Don't be nervous, you need to know this.
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I work in rows on my scarred skin
My razor my spade my drug allowing me to feel again
People chant Yolo and live in the now
But when I catch my reflection in the mirror all I see is a fat sow
When I look down my future is in binds
Scars and fat is all I find
I cant even breath
Ive bloodied my sleeve
I always have people say theyre always there
But I feel as if no one really cares
As the pain and vomit urges me to bid good bye
The pain and blood will sing me their sorrowful lulliby.
Please help me.im 13 a girl and am hopeless.I cant stop.
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Well firstly I'm going to say that you are great with words and you should keep writing.
I also want to say that you're not alone. There are plenty of young girls and boys who feel the way you do and do the same things you do because they think it will make them feel better or make them feel like they deserve it. I'm sure you know that this isn't good for you, which is why you asked for help.
No one deserves to feel this way.
If people bully you or make fun of you, you shouldn't listen to them. Although it's easier said than done. But if you work at it and find the true beauty in yourself, you'll start believing that you truly are a beautiful person.
Cutting is one of the hardest things to get past. I cut for 6 years and I wish I had gotten help sooner. Because it will affect your life and make you ten times miserable.
So go look for help. Go to a hospital, go to a counselor, go to your parents. As long as you get the help you need. They will show you how to cope with the problems of life and deal with your problems better.
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My boyfriend went to prison last year . We were together 1 year before he went to jail. I met his mother and was around her only tow times. The house he lived in before he left I'm here now holding it down until he comes home. I pay some of his bills and mine and were still a couple. I'm faithful and we email each other every day. Oh I met his sister once I don't see her anymore. But I'm starting to feel that I'm just here to watch his house for him cause his family don't come around me at all. If he's my boyfriend I should have contact with his mother at least right? His dad call to check on me but his mom no. Should I ask him why his mother don't come around ? And he said we gone get married and I'm his everything but its just weird cause his family don't come around me and I live a this house. Please help (link)
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It's really hard to answer these types of questions since we don't know the people involved.
So there could be plenty of reasons why his mom doesn't come around. Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable around you, or maybe she's not very close to her son. Maybe there is some other random reason.
If you're really curious, then ask him. If you don't trust him, then rethink your relationship.
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(I'm 13 and my sister is 15)
This morning, me and my sister were in our living room and we were arguing over some random thing and she threw a pillow at me. I said "Yeah, because a pillow hurts me" and she said "You were lucky it was a pillow and not something else. I could've slapped you." Then she said she wanted to kill me.
Will she try to kill me? She's done things to me in my sleep in the past before (That water cup prank, putting stuff on my face, etc.) so now I'm terrified that she'll try something. What should I do? (link)
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When I was younger, me and my brother used to fight all the time. We would throw things at each other and scream and yell tons of mean things.
We never took what we said to each other seriously though. I just wished we never fought when we were your age though.
So I think you should talk to her when she's not angry and ask if she meant it. If she says yes, she has some problems and you need to talk to your parents. If she says no, and you believe her, then ok.
I don't know her. I don't know what kind of dangerous things she could be capable of. So you could talk to your parents and see what they say.
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i want fuck my cousin sister we talk sex things ligtly iwant to increase to chat these things (link)
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She's your cousins sister. That's incest even if you guys aren't blood related. It's illegal.
You should start talking to girls who aren't related to you. It's a little creepy and it's wrong.
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My best friend (who is a guy) I really like him and all my friends say we would make a great couple, I want to know if he likes me...and its its not that since I'm a girl I don't want to ask him out, it's just, I'm scared he won't like me back the same way, then our friendship would be ruined! What should I do? (link)
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Maybe try to see how he acts around you. If he acts flirty and compliments you quite a bit, then it shows he's interested.
So maybe instead of asking him to be your boyfriend, just ask him to hang out. Ask him if he wants to go bowling or see a movie and see what he says to that. Maybe have a movie in mind and be like, "I've been dying to see this movie, do wanna go with me?" or something along those lines. Keep it casual but fun and see if he's cool with that.
Eventually you can find out if he likes you as more than a friend.
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14/f
I havent seen my best guy friend in over 5 months...
and last week i saw him for the first time again. I came to visit our old school(i trnsfered)
he literally ran to me and screamed my name. He ran so fast that when he hugged me we both fell on the floor. Then we got up.
"Omg i missed you so much. Howve you been? You look different."
Then we gave me a better hug when we got up and it was ssoooooo tight and big and it lasted for 10seconds.
anyways. He started playing with my hand. And he an di had the biggest smile we had ever seen on each others faces.He asked me if i made a new guy friend at my new school and i saw yes. Suddnely when i said that his smile disappeared and said "oh ive been replaced...."
And dropped my hand and walked away to his class.
What happened? Whats wrong? Was it something that i said?
Maybe he was jealous but why?
And i have to admit...
He has gotten very attractive.
But back to the point.... why did he just walk away?
I mean we havent seen or heard from each other in a while so why walk away like that.... :\
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Well that's extremely weird and kinda immature of him. Anyways, if you want to know the real reason why he did that, you'll have to hear it from him. We can all make guesses but you'll never know what's going on.
Maybe he had a crush on you and got jealous that you found a new guy friend. If he was jealous over you getting a new friend..that's kinda weird even if he had a crush on you.
Maybe he seriously thought he was replaced and thought he was the only guy friend in your life.
Anyways, just talk to him and ask him why and see what he says.
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there is way I can convince my sister to report to jail or to calm her? (link)
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I don't know her. I don't know if anything will work but you'll have to make your best assumptions since she's your sister.
I think the best bet is to tell her how much more trouble she'll end up in if she doesn't go. One year is much better than how many more she'll get if she doesn't go. Remind her of that and if you still suspect that she'll run, then tell your parents or the police.
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hi, im 16 male.. and i want to ask question.. me and mu girlfriend (17) were trying to do stuff but she is still a virgin and I've put my penis inside her without condom just only about a 1 cm maybe even less .. i couldn't of gone further because it hurt her so much.. my question can she get pregnant from that ?
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There is such thing as precum and most guys don't feel it like they do when they actually ejaculate.
So yes, possibly.
Next time use protection, you don't want these situations to happen again.
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i am 9 years old. can some 9 year old boy have sex with me? (link)
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I didn't even think about sex when I was 12 years old.
You're not even old enough to be on this site.
You're growing up, your body isn't ready for sex. It will hurt like crazy.
You could end up pregnant, contracting STD's or STI's, and then possibly suffer emotionally because you weren't prepared. No 9 year old is prepared for sex.
It's also illegal.
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I asked a question earlier about how I didn't know if I should get engaged before my sister got married. By the way, I should have made it clear that I don't want to get engaged for the attention. I was saying that I ideally would like to wait so that she can have her own attention and so can I, but I don't know if that can work out. I came up with an idea a short while ago that I hope will help the situation. My sister just got engaged and is getting married in June of 2014, so what if I waited until February or so until I got engaged. Actually I don't know when my boyfriend will propose to me, but I guess I could talk to him about this and see how he feels. If we did that, then my sister could be in the spotlight by herself for almost a year and we would only be engaged together for a very short time. I'd still like to wait so that we can each have our own spotlight spotlighting the time we got engaged until the time we got married, but I don't see how that can give me enough time to plan a wedding by the time we are needing to get married. (link)
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When do you need to get married? Is your boyfriend leaving in the military or something that you have a certain amount of time to get married?
Honestly, just let the whole attention thing go. It seems like you're over thinking the whole attention spotlight thing.
I think you should just wait until your boyfriend proposes and go from there. If he happens to propose then, then that's fine and you can start planning your wedding. If he does it sooner, that's fine too because being engaged isn't the spotlight, it's the wedding. Unless you or your sister have jealousy problems that you have to plan everything, even when you get engaged.
Just let it happen when it happens.
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So I found out my boyfriend cheated on me after about a year and a half of us dating and I immediately broke up with him and took my space. Over the next few months he had done a lot to show his remorse and I really felt as though he understood the severity of what he had done and I loved him enough to try and work things out. We got back together and were together for another 8 months when I found out that he had cheated AGAIN with a different girl. Because of what he has done to me it makes it easy to walk away from someone so cruel but I am really struggling with how to move past the pain it has caused me. Does anyone have any advice on how to get through this? I obviously have left him but I am now left with so much pain because of all the deception and the lies that I thought were true and genuine. How can someone tell you to your face that he could never put you through the same pain again and never cheat again when its all lies? He sent me messages the day after I left him telling me how we are meant to be together and how I am the love of his life. Is this just blatant manipulation or do you think he really believes the words he says? (link)
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In my opinion, I'm really not sure if it's manipulation because I don't know him. I don't think he believes what he says. If he believed them, he obviously wouldn't have cheated twice. But maybe not full blown manipulation, maybe he thinks that if he says the same things again, you'll give him another chance.
So as to get through the pain, well that's tough and it will take a long time. I've never personally gone through the experience but I've known plenty who have. Even being cheated on once hurts but twice, you take it hard because you feel like you should have known.
So firstly, don't take it so hard on yourself. A lot of people start being angry with themselves because they trusted. And that will end up leading to never trusting anyone again because of a mistake with the wrong guy.
Forgive yourself and forget him.
I think what really helps, is grieving and then preoccupying yourself. Go out with friends, find new activities or hobbies, try new things. This is the best time to find time for you and do things to make you and only you happy without worrying about a guy.
Also, lose all contact with him. He'll definitely realize what a huge mistake he made when he sees that you deleted him from Facebook and delete his number. It's good for you too, it will make it easier for you to move on.
Girls will hang on to their ex and wait for their text or look at their profile and they become one of the girls who never move on.
This will obviously take time, you cared about him and gave him your heart. Let time go by and eventually you'll move on and the pain won't kill you every time you think about it.
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my boyfriend and I recently went through a rough patch, we made up by talking talking about it, then just dealing with it, then making out. he initiated the kissing, he was mostly having a problem with me, but i was annoyed with him for being distant. he leaves for college in a little over a month. we made up about five days ago, and on the fifth day, we got a lot closer. he fingered me for the first time. we were so close, and then his best friend was hanging out with us that night, ans he acted weird. he only acts differently when he is around that one guy friebd of his. he seems uncomfortable around me, and doesn't touch me.other than that, he is great, we talk, kiss, and have a great time now. but even when he is out with him and i try to talk to him, unaware he is out, he acts weird. is this normal? should i ask him about it? am i clingy? was it wrong of us to get closer? (link)
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I don't think you're clingy unless you were constantly texting him or calling him or always wanting to hang out with him.
I think you should sit down and talk to him about it. It's obviously making you feel a little awkward when he's a little awkward so ask him if he could explain why. He probably won't even want to tell you but you could at least try.
I don't think there is another way to find out why he acts that way unless he tells you. Don't nag him about it or anything, just be calm and nice. Don't let it turn it into a fight.
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well i just got out of a 9year relationship and I was wanting to know if any one could help me out with some fun thangs I could do to get my mind off of him and find ways that wont make me if bad for doing them (link)
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This is one of the best times to start doing new things and improving yourself to make you feel better.
There are so many things this world has to offer so try them out.
Definitely start working out, because that will make you feel so much better. You can take classes like yoga or anything really. You could also try martial arts or dancing.
You could try speed dating, learn to snowboard, start cooking and finding new recipes.
Just look up activities or hobbies and there'll be lots of things to do that will preoccupy yourself.
But definitely take time to cry over him and get that out of your system. If you hold back and you end up seeing him again, it will hurt ten times worse. Don't obsess for more than 10 min though, then go make yourself feel better. And make sure you have no contact with him.
So just do things that you think will be fun or exciting. At the very least, go party with your friends.
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I have this coworker, and he and I have become pretty good friends. I think I'm falling for him, and it appears to be mutual, I can just sense it. Before, about a year ago, we were acquaintances and kind of joked around. Then our friendship started growing, and we became pretty good friends, to the point where we have a 6 hour long conversations on Facebook about serious stuff, funny stuff, the whole sha-bang. Now it's sort of taken an awkward turn. When we're scheduled on the same shifts, at first we are sooooooo awkward. Then as the shift goes on, we're close again. He's even started playfully teasing, and we've got some witty banter going on. Great development, right? Awesome news, eh? WRONG.
See, there's an important factor I think we both like to forget... I'm a hardcore Christian, and he's an Atheist. It says on his Facebook he's a "Proud Atheist", and not that Facebook has the overall say in life, but if he took the time to write that and become part of a FB group with that same title, then I'm thinking he's pretty sure about it. I'm very serious about dating/relationships. I'm 18, and I've never dated anyone. I didn't want to date in high school because 9/10 times they fail, and are just drama-infested wastes of time. So, I date with purpose, I don't mess around. I can't date anyone who I couldn't see myself marrying. Not that I have to know RIGHT AWAY, or even in the first year. But if I knew I'd never marry that person right from get-go, I can't date them. Whether addicted to meth, never want to have kids, that sort of thing. I graduated in 2012, and since then I've just been waiting to meet the right dude to date. And... I think he takes the cake. He's intelligent, yet sensitive. Hilarious, caring, understanding, supportive, confident not big-headed, musically inclined, and he's witty, yet mature in the important ways. He's a nerd, like me. He's perfect in every way except one! HE'S AN ATHEIST. Whyyyyyyyy me?
I know there's no way I'm ever going to marry an atheist. My future husband will at least be aware of the fact that Jesus is our Lord and Savior. I probably sound snobby, but think about it. How would we raise our kids? Our mindsets in life would be so different. I'd be living for the Lord, alone. But... I like this guy a lot. I'm crushed. I think about him when I fall asleep and when I wake up. And I'll think "Why don't we date- oh yeah. Crap." and my heart sinks. I'm trying to cling on to some hope. I suppose my question is, do atheists convert often?
I wouldn't want him to make that change for me. Not at all. I'd want him to do it because HE wanted to. I want him to know the love of God, feel the powerful emotion the Holy Spirit can bring you, see life with God's Goggles, if you will, haha. So, what would you suggest I do? Do you have any advice/suggestions? Or should I just suck it up and move on? Thank you for reading. (link)
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This kind of thing is different with each person.
My current boyfriend is a great guy, he is everything I ever wanted. I'm a Christian though and I realized how hard it could be sometimes to have different beliefs, especially when I felt so strongly about them. He was an atheist. I really liked him, so I went for it. We had talked about it beforehand because I know a lot of relationships that failed because of different beliefs. We obviously didn't push each other to believe what we believed. We were accepting. He also would go to church with me every once in awhile. Eventually, without me even talking to him, he converted.
That doesn't always happen. A lot of atheists would not even be open minded like he was.
Another example is my dad. He's from India and didn't believe anything because he believed religion is a lie.
My mom and I are Christians and my mom didn't push her beliefs on him either. After years and years he came to church but only because he liked what they taught. He just didn't believe in God until last year.
I believe that it could work but only if you aren't pushy and you accept him. It is so much harder to do that as a Christian because the things we believe like dying and going to hell, ect and we don't want that happening to our loved ones so it ruins the relationship because they don't believe it.
So this choice is up to you. If you believe that you can be with this guy and not try to convert him, then try. If you don't want to marry an athiest for sure, then don't date him. I mean I'm positive he's not the only great guy in this world.
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So i really feel uncomfortable putting what happened during my past... but i like this girl and we are having an awkward relationship... So i want to just try make a huge step and hold her hand... how will i o it? Just slide my hand slower and slower towards her hand? (link)
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Well if you're ready to take that step, then yes just move your hand closer to hers and just hold it. It's simple.
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okay so i am 15/f. sorry my story is LONG.
my bf and i had a very long fight 4 about 5 months. at first he stopped talking to me completely . he used to look at me in school. but whenever he had eye contact he used to pull his eyes away from me . i tried to talk but he kept away all the time. when i used to ask his friends where he is they always came up with an answer that he was in his football or basketball or he was just simply busy.
So that evening it was quite late , around 9 p.m. when i was returning home from my coaching. and i spotted him with MY CLASSMATE in the park in the shadow of a tree, quite close. i stopped to look and he suddenly saw me but , he didnot move away from her. i ran back home crying.
i was so depressed . i feel ill. when he could not spot me in school he came over to my house. i was unconscious and i woke up with his kiss on my lips.he said he was sorry and he wanted me back. i was so happy that i didnot want to bring that evening up and spoil the happiness.
so we got back to normal and, he made love to me. he even licked and fingered me and made me orgasm. we became tooo close and he said he loved me all the time.
but yesterday when he was making love to me, that girl came over to his home . so when he was busy talking to her in the hall i checked his cell. there were some texts like..."when can we meet?"...i am waiting...i want you so close ....are you busy tonight etc.
i dont want to think he is cheating me because he has made love to me and ... somehow i am connected to him from my body and soul. can any one tell me what is up with him?he has never brought up her name in front of me. am i overthinking? (link)
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Well since he had those texts on his phone, he definitely could be cheating.
Why would she say, "I'm waiting, I want you so close" to a guy who is just her friend?
He's not being honest with you. I mean she could just be the one coming on to him but if he's still talking to her in the hall, he likes it.
Guys have hormones and most teenage guys don't view sex the same as girls do. They'll say anything to get laid, the common thing is "I love you"
But when you love someone, you don't talk to girls like that.
You're not over thinking it, he's a liar and a cheater so just move on.
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My friends parents keep tagging along whenever we hang out somewhere, my mom trusts me to hang out with people by myself. But I have never had this experience because my friends parents are ALWAYS there. So, what should I do? (link)
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There is really nothing you could do.
There could be tons of reasons why they tag along but if your friend has a problem with it too, then they should talk to their parents.
Every parent is different. I had a friend I hung out with when I was younger and her parents came with us everywhere too. I never really had a problem with it though.
I don't know how old you are. If you are in your early teens or pre-teens, it's a little more understandable they are with you guys when you hang out. But if you're like 16 or 17, then maybe it can be a little awkward with them being their all the time.
Well, just talk to your friend. Other than that, there's really nothing you can do.
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my 21 year old sister has to go to jail for a year for a hit and run while driving under influence. She has to go next week. She told me she is going to run away so she doesn't have to go. This seems silly to me because I don't know where she will go but it looks like she might be serious. What can I say to talk her out of it, also should I tell someone? I am close to her and don't want to betray her you know. If I tell them what could they do?
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The only way she could even possibly get away with it is going to another country. So it'd just be pointless and her life would suck from then on.
So if you want to try to talk her out of it, then tell her that. Plus she only needs to spend one year and it's better than spending years out of the country and running from the cops. Because once they get her, it will be much much worse.
If you are convinced she will run, you should tell your parents because you care about her and it's better than her life getting worse.
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I like this girl at school but I am shy
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Then you overcome your shyness first. Start working on being more outgoing and once you get past that, you can get the courage to go get the girl you like.
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