Erm, if you're into bestiality. I don't think it's healthy for either of you, though, so I recommend you find a human.
-Siren

Every day might be a bit excessive. But yes, masturbation is normal. (Why does EVERYONE misspell it? Gah!) I would not use another person's vibrator, though. That's extremely unhealthy, even if it is your mom. Just a word of caution. =)
-Siren

Well, I honestly think you should let her make her own decision. I'm in shape, I'm sixteen, but I'm not athletic or a girly girl. I wouldn't want to enlist. It's just not my thing. I wouldn't press her to enlist if you're not desperately in need of financial aid. My ex went into the ROTC. I think it might matter a little if she's out of shape. From what I heard from him, they go through some rough training. He has a lot of stamina and it exhausted him, so...I generally wouldn't reccomend it. Besides, what does that have to do with being a school teacher? Nada, really. I strongly suggest you let her decide.
-Siren

Whoa. Alright, honey, breathe.
I think you have a problem. You may be addicted to this guy, if you haven't thought about that already. Listen. Hurting yourself can not bring him back to you. I don't usually say things like this, but in this case, it's probably fate. Move on. Find another guy who won't leave you. Don't get too attached to guys. Guys are unreliable. It's like being addicted to cigarettes. You go crazy if you go cold turkey. This situation has forced you to be just cut off, and no one's good at handling that. Just breathe and move on. You'll find someone else, I can guarantee it. =)
-Siren

Alright. Let's review facts: You just started dating him. How long is "just?" I'm not one to say "if you haven't been dating long, you can't use the word 'love'" because that's not true. BUT, you need to make sure he's not using the word "love" to get you to have sex with him. Guys are known to do that. It happened to me, and he broke it off because I wouldn't go as far as he wanted me to. If you feel really ready and you've talked everything over, I'd say wait a while longer. Wait until trust has been tested, maybe. If the relationship stands, think about it a little more. Just make sure you're not rushing into anything potentially harmful.
-Siren

Ah, I feel your pain. It doesn't sound like he really betrayed you, though. Are you so sure he still loves you? Chances are, if he's with someone else, his feelings have faded. As hard as it may be to admit, he's an ex. Give it time. You'll get over him. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be.
-Siren

No, I'm sorry to say I have no idea where your sanity went. Could it be in the third drawer from the bottom on the left of the sugar packets?

Hmm. I say once you break up, you should never go back. It might be hard, but it's harder to move backwards in life, which getting back together after a breakup probably does. So move on. If you really like the kid in your bio class, go for him. You're gonna have to follow your gut instincts on this one. Good luck!
-Siren

Hi again. That's fine if you don't want to have a boyfriend right now. Maybe it's just not the right time for you. Let's see. You could get him to hate you...
Mostly kidding about that last thing. You can't really MAKE someone break up with you. Chances are you're gonna have to suck it up and do it yourself. Who cares if they say "I told you so"? If you live your life caring more about what other people say than what you think and say, you're going to be rather unhappy. Just be honest with him. Tell him you've been thinking and it's just not the right time in your life to have a boyfriend. Best of luck!
-Siren

I believe you can, but don't hold me to it. According to most doctors/scientists/people in that general field, semen anywhere near your vaginal opening can impregnate you. (That's why they all tell us teenagers to be really careful.) I hope it works out!
-Siren

Well age is really no object. I don't reccomend a difference of any more than two or three years, though. I dated an 18 year old when I was 14. BIIIIG mistake.
It's possible you could be seeing things, but unlikely. Chances are he does like you if everyone says he's asking about you. However, it's also hard to tell when a guy likes you. (Believe me, I have issues with this myself)The only way to tell if he likes you is to hear it from him. Good luck!
-Siren

Hey, my first kiss sucked. I mean, some of them still suck. The other day my boyfriend and I were trying to walk and kiss, but he hit my teeth, lol. If you don't want to break up with him, don't. However, relationships should be private. Just keep the little details to yourself and have fun with the relationship. ^_^
-Siren

Yep, been there, done that. I liked this guy, Brian, after he asked me out (then dumped me) for, like, 2 years. It took me forever to get over him, but I did it by getting a crush on someone else. I mean, it's possible to go without liking a guy. I did it for eighteen months! Do everything. Make a list of everything to dislike about him. Write poetry. The trick is to convince your subconscious that he's not worth liking. It's hard, but you'll eventually have to do it. I have a notebook filled with bad poetry asking "why does he torment me?" and crap like that. I can look at it now and laugh my @$$ off, but it helped me get over him. Oh, and don't worry about it being good poetry. ALL of mine sucks. ^_^
-Siren

I'm glad you have that mindset. Too many people look for just looks these days...
Anyway, I very seriously doubt you're in love if you're not in a relationship. It's possible, though. When you're in love, you'll know. Trust me on this. I'm in it right now and it's amazing.
-Siren =)

Two words - oy vey. He's being an ass. No offense meant, but he is. Yes it does hurt when you get no affection. Have you tried talking to him? There's only so much advice we can give you. Maybe there's a reason, like something bad happened in his family, or something. He sounds a bit paranoid, actually. But again, you'll never know unless you talk to him. Miscommunication is a good way to kill a lot of potentially good relationships. Speak up, chica. Let him know what's bothering you.
-Siren

Love is an impossible emotion to explain. You just know when you're in love. There's no way to tell. I'm in love with my boyfriend. To me that means I want to be with him forever. I can't picture me with another guy, or him with another girl. Technically, I think love is a mix of hormones and emotions that there's no way to describe, so we picked a word and called it that, but I like to talk about the more psychological/emotional aspect of it than the physical, though the physical aspect of love, at least for me is actually amusing. For instance, I still lose my balance when he kisses me. I've actually had to hold onto something to avoid falling over. You'll be able to describe it (though maybe not in words) when you experience it first hand. I hope you get the chance. =)
-Siren

Well the class issue shouldn't be one. An issue, I mean. and Do they know your father's an alcoholic? If not, they don't have to.
If you really feel like it could go better if reattempted (is that even a word?), then do try it again. His mother might have been having a bad day. It happens.
Did they actually say they want nothing to do with you? If they didn't you may be making assumptions, which is never good.
Maybe you should try going there without your parents once, and see if the situation improves.
This has never happened to me, so I'm not sure if this was helpful at all. I tried! Good luck with the whole thing. I hope it works out.
-Siren

LOL. That's all I have to say...

Okay, I can answer this. I've been there. If you wanna ask a guy out, and you're too shy to ask him out on a date, just suggest going to see a movie or something. Or maybe ask him if he wants to come along with you and your friends and hang out. My first date with my boyfriend wasn't supposed to be a date. Yours doesn't have to be either. Besides, the worst thing that can happen is he'll say "I'd rather not." most guys are not gonna say "EW, NO!" and run away. That's very improbable and very immature. So don't worry too much about it. =)
-Siren

Omg! A question I can really answer! Okay, I'm 16 and I sing opera. (If you really need help and you have AIM, IM me at SirenCytherea. Or e-mail me at DemonIre1024@hotmail.com . I teach voice.)
Lessee...
Well, first off, you may not be old enough to have a really loud voice. I didn't get my volume until I was...fourteen. But then, I have an overdeveloped voice. Anyway, you know how you feel when you're about to yawn, that open feeling in your throat?
When you inhale to sing, yawn in your air. Breathe like you're about to yawn, but sing instead. (If you're doing this right, you may actually yawn. This happened to me a few times. If that happens, relax a little.)
DON'T sing from your diaphragm.
Do me a favor - push your shoulders forward, then inhale as you pull them up, push them back, and then down. Your ribcage should have expanded. Lock in that feeling - your ribcage should never move in/your chest should never collapse.
When you get this feeling right, work on relaxing your throat. Never use any of your throat muscles when you sing. Your air should come from waaaaaaaaaaay down in your stomach, and you're going to need a lot of it if you're going to sing loud. I'm a coloratura and/or first soprano, and I'm always running out of air. You always need, like, 3 million times more air than you think you do.
Don't think about retaining air because then you'll sound weak. Think of pushing it all out.
Do an octave slide. Pick a lowish note (like the A below middle C) and slide up an octave to the next A, then back down. As you sing higher, push more and more air, and think of reaching the bottom note, not the top one.
Also, never feel like you're yelling when you sing. That's a good way to kill your voice fast.
The method above takes awhile to get right (it took me a month, and I'm still working on it.) but once you get it right, you'll have sooooo much volume. I was in my voice lesson with the window closed on the top floor of the building. My mom was in the car in the parking lot and she heard me. It's amazing and really cool. I was afraid to sing out at first, but when you get it, it sounds GOOD. So these are just the basics. For more help, e-mail or IM me. This is what I do.
Some songs to practice with are anything that have a lot of dynamics. Not choral pieces - those won't do you any good. hope this was helpful! -Siren

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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