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how do u know?
ive just started dating this guy. he says he loves me and i feel i love him. im not one to throw the word love around. ive only used it twise in my life.lately we've been thinking about sex. how long is appropriate to wait?
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JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT SEX DOSENT MEAN YOU HAVE TO DO IT ,I DONT KNOW IF ITS YOUR FIRST TIME BUT IF IT IS TRY AND LET IT BE WITH SOME ONE WHO YOU KNOW YOU LOVE AND NOT WHO YOU THINK YOU LOVE ,YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT ,I REMEMBER MY FIRST TIME AND IM 34 NOW SO PLEASE THINK ABOUT WHAT YOUR DOINGBEFORE YOU DO IT GOOD LUCK
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I THINK YOU SHOULD WAITE UNTIL YOU GET TO KNOW HIM A LITTLE BETTER.AND BE CAREFUL BECAUSE HE MIGHT JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU THEN HE'S GONE HE MIGHT BE JUST PLAYING THAT NICE GUY ROLE.
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Sometimes they throw the word around to get you into bed and then leave you.
How long have you've been dating him? if its been at least 1 and a half years or more, then ok...but if your 0-17 years old, wait. it's creepy watching my peers think about sex sex sex. it's gross as well.
so, i believe you can have sex when your old enough (18+) and youv'e known the man long enough.
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Alright. Let's review facts: You just started dating him. How long is "just?" I'm not one to say "if you haven't been dating long, you can't use the word 'love'" because that's not true. BUT, you need to make sure he's not using the word "love" to get you to have sex with him. Guys are known to do that. It happened to me, and he broke it off because I wouldn't go as far as he wanted me to. If you feel really ready and you've talked everything over, I'd say wait a while longer. Wait until trust has been tested, maybe. If the relationship stands, think about it a little more. Just make sure you're not rushing into anything potentially harmful.
-Siren
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Wait until you two know enough about eachother and talked about what you you are going to do with your lives
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Well, you should definately be sure that you feel totally comfortable with the idea of sex, and that you really do like each other. NEVER feel pressurised into having sex if you aren't ready for it. It shouldn't have to be planned like "Oh, next Thursday we should have sex!". When the moment's right, you'll know it, and if you love each other, it'll be perfect. Good luck :)
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First of all, how old are you? If you are in high school or younger, I would seriously advise you to wait. Really get to know this person, and see if he respects you enough to stick it out. Any guy worth having respects that. Spend time doing non-sexual things that you both enjoy, and go in public places where you won't be tempted. Some ideas: Movies, bowling, miniture golf, amusement parks, whatever. Tell him you want to have a relationship based on mutual respect and friendship. That is very important. Sex before you really know each other will not be as special as it can be with someone you feel really "connected " to in other ways. Make sure he really cares about your thoughts and feelings. There is no set time 5-6 months or longer, but whenever you do, make sure you are comfortable and don't feel pressured by him, friends, or anyone else. And BE SAFE. USE PROTECTION EVERY TIME! I can't stress this enough. If he respects you, this shouldn't be a problem, either. Take Care.
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