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faithfulness
Lately my boyfriend is being very cold to me. He doesn't want to hug or hold me, he barelly calls. I try to be very affectionate with him but it hurts when you get no affection back. He constantly thinks that I am either lying or cheating on him, which I am doing neither. I love him very much and I want things to work out between us but I don't know what else to do to show him I am good to him. What should I do?
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It seems that your boyfriend is unhappy. Maybe you need to tell him that you need to talk. Set him down tell him how you feel. If it still dosent work out you probably need to take a break.
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Two words - oy vey. He's being an ass. No offense meant, but he is. Yes it does hurt when you get no affection. Have you tried talking to him? There's only so much advice we can give you. Maybe there's a reason, like something bad happened in his family, or something. He sounds a bit paranoid, actually. But again, you'll never know unless you talk to him. Miscommunication is a good way to kill a lot of potentially good relationships. Speak up, chica. Let him know what's bothering you.
-Siren
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Try talking to him, find out if he has a good reason for being a little off, explain that you're not up to anything... If he continues to be cold and suspicious, dump him like the waterlogged ballast he is.
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Confront him about his coldness. Ask him why he's being so paranoid about you "cheating." Try to work things out, and listen to his viewpoints. If he still doubts you, and is still cold, then I think it would be best to give him the heave-ho. I know you love him, but why be with someone that doesn't trust you?
Love,
FG
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Talk to him. Actually sit down and have a chat with him. Don't get affectionate, just talk. Sometimes (and I don't want to be mean.) if someone asks you if your cheating or lying, it's probably because they're the one cheating and/or lying. So he might be being cold because of somebody else.
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Usually, a person will "see" actions in others that they would take themselves. If I think you're cheating or lying, then it's probably because I saw you do something that I would do if I was lying or cheating. I'm not saying 100% that HE is cheating, but I'd bet a good amount of money on it. Couple that with the fact that he is being very distant and cold towards you, I'd say that not only is he cheating, but you're quickly becoming a last minute deal. Be fair, tell him how you feel, and what you would like to see from him. If things don't change, then you'll have to move on.
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I hate to tell you this, but I've known that he has no reason to believe you're cheating on him unless he's unfaithful himself. Watch for that. He could also have been told by one of his friends, so don't just jump in and blame him. Ask innocent questions and watch for suspicious reactions. I've tested this technique, and it really does work, believe it or not. Just distance yourself somewhat.
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I think you should talk to him. Tell him that you love him and that you promise you are not cheating or lying to him. Talk to him about it...he should come around and get the idea that you love him! :)
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I know this is a tricky situation. If I were in your place I would have no idea what to do either. I know you probably don't want to do this but just ask him what's wrong. Maybe if your friends with one of his friends you can ask them what its all about. If he really isn't responding at all maybe he isn't the right guy.
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I think he may be getting ready to break up with you. To save your self esteem I would try to prepare for this, and start looking for ways to occupy yourself away from him. Try to spend time with other friends and people you like being around.
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Remind him that you care for him, reassure him your are there for him and that you want to be with no one else but him. But it seems as if something is wrong with him something is on his mind talk with him about it let him know if he wants to talk about it you are willing to listen. It may take sometime but he will come around. Just remind him your there. but don't force him or he will pull back further.
Cspinoza1
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Either he comeing up with dumb excuses to get rid of you or he really does beleive that you are cheating on him. All you can do is try to let him know that you really arent cheating on him. Try talking to him about it and ask him who he thinks you are cheating to be with.
lots of love,
shay
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