about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

what better
uggs
denim chip & pepper mini
cami and pastel tie front cardigan

or:

true relgion jeans
bcbg metallic wedges
grey silk tunic
brown leather belt

I disagree with everybody whose answered.


1.Ugss are never ou of style. I see people wearing them all the time.
2.Wearing a skirt and cami doesn't always make you a slut. You're wearing a cardigan over it anyways!
3. You should wear what YOU want to wear and not what complete strangers think is "in and cool" =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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hey^_^
how do hoodia diet pills work exactly?Im 17 and half yearz old my height is 1''70 which is like 5 foot 6 and my weight is 167 pounds and i reaaaaly wana reach 140!!is it possible i take hoodia deit pills im desperate to lose weight!!

Most diet pills DO NOT work.
They actually make you gain weight, so that you have to buy even more of the product. So smart, right? So basically, I wouldn't try them. You'll only be wasting time and money =/

-Laura. (16-f)

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How do i drive off a needy boy without being a bitch????


~tu mitad mejor!

Just be honest with him. Don't be mean about it or anything, but let him know how you feel. Tell him that you're not interested in him, and that he's kind of bothering you. That's all you have to do!


-Laura. (16-f)

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Is there a way to tell if you have PMS without going to see a doctor?? I always get angry about the stupidest things right before my period. Someone could go buy me something I've always wanted and I'll get really mad. I'm not sure if it's PMS or if I just get angry because I know my period is coming... since I know my cycle now... please help me!!

You're probably PMSing.


Emotional and behavioral symptoms:

- Tension or anxiety
- Depressed mood
- Crying spells
- Mood swings and irritability or anger
- Appetite changes and food cravings
- Trouble falling asleep (insomnia)
- Social withdrawal
- Poor concentration


Physical signs and symptoms:

- Joint or muscle pain
- Headache
- Fatigue
- Weight gain from fluid retention
- Abdominal bloating
- Breast tenderness
- Acne flare-ups
- Constipation or diarrhea


And you really don't have to go to the doctor for it, unless it gets out of control and you're so angry you start throwing books across the room or something ;]


-Laura. (16-f)

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I have a boyfriend and I love him so much. We've been going out for like 2-3 months now and I was just wondering...what is a nice present to get him. Please don't say candy or a stuffed animal....that's not what I want to give him. It has to be special. Any suggestion are welcome!

Here are some links to past questions that will help you out:


http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543429
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543275
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543313



-Laura. (16-f)

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me and my boyfriend have been dating 6 and a half months and i want to do something romantic for him for no reason . any ideas?

You already asked this question =]

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=543429



-Laura. (16-f)

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I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago and now hes with somebody else and they are really in love and kissing each other and cuddling each other all the tim and when i see them i remeber that it used to be me that he did that to.
He was the only boyfriend that i ever really loved
i just want him back.
what should i do?

Thanks x

You should move on.


Every girl feels like this after a break up,and the first one is always the hardest. Yeah, it's goingto hurt, and it's really going to suck, but you move on. Break ups are part of life.


Just don't look at your ex boyfriend and his new girlfriend. Just leave them alone, and do something else.


Try finding somebody new to spend your time with. It doesn't neccessarily have to be a guy yet, find a guy when you're ready. You can spend time with friends instead. Go get a manicure with your best girl friend, go shopping, do things that make you happy.


Hope this helps and feel better! =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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so recently i've been training for xc by running.
and i ran 2 days ago for a mile and yesterday for a mile. but after yesterday i must have rolled or twisted my ankle. now when i try to run its hurts so much. i forced myself to jog but it still hurt!
how can i get the pain to go away?!
thanks for the help.

STOP forcing yourself to run. You're only going to make it WORSE.


That's the first [and best] step to take in making it better. I'd suggest staying off it as much as possible, so that it heals as fast as possible. Try putting ice on it [20 minutes on, 20 minutes off]. If it's hurting really bad even after that, take a pain reliever of some sort.


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I've seen a bunch of other writers ask questions on here so I figured I'd give it a shot. I need a muse. I would said I'm a pretty observant and open-minded, but when it comes to the characters in my story I can't find anyone to base it on because technically my characters don't exist. I can't base them off myself because I'm just not that complex of a person. And finding someone who I like to base my characters looks off of doesn't fit the attitude. Who can I talk to about this? How do I find my characters? And why do people have to be different? it's aggrivating! (that last one was sarcasm)... anyway does anyone know a way to help me find the character's for my story? Besides walking up to total strangers and asking if they'll be my muse because I think I'll just scare people that way.

-17/f/infrontofawornoutlaptop

Like the columnist below, when I write stories, I also base characters off of people I know. It could be based off one of my best friends, one of my brothers, or even a stranger I saw that day that interested me. You can try this, or try combining people. Say, you take your best friend's sense of humor and combine it with your cousin's shy personality or something. I don't know, just use your imagaination!


You can also base them [loosely] off of sombody famous? Not that we know much about famous people other than what thw tabloids report, but they can be a good starting point for a character.


Also, don't think of it as your characters not existing. This is going to sound SO cheesy, but they exist in your story and in your head, and in your imagination. Haha =]


Good Luck!


-Laura. (16-f)

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me and my boyfriend have been dating 6 and a half months and i want to do something romantic for him for no reason . any ideas?

Go on a picnic!
Make him a mix cd.
Watch the stars at night.
Make him a scrapbook of the 2 of you.


only search advicenators.com



-Laura. (16-f)

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i heard this song today and i dont know what it is called and i couldn't find it on goole by typing in the lyrics...

all i remember it saying was grace is amazing... and its a slower guitar song it almost sounds like john mayer but i dont think it is

its NOT AMAZING GRACE! thanks.

Was it "Amazing Because It Is" by The Almost?
Gosh, that's a wonderful song.

-Laura. (16-f)

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This is school related.
Sorry if it's the wrong category :P

Which one is right?
I learnt how to speak Spanish.
I learned how to speak Spanish.

I am so fucking confused.
Both seem right!?

I'm pretty sure "I learned Spanish." is correct, because [I'm assuming] you're talking about the past tense, which is the suffix -ed.


-Laura. (16-f)

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15/f

ok well when i go out with my friends for some reason i feel like a lot of different guys will look at me and think i look good and stuff, its just that when i actually hang out with them i feel like i cant just relax and have fun and i feel like ive never had a boyfriend or a first kiss because i have like no personality and stuff and idk maybe i just focus on what i look like too much and i know guys like girls with personalities but i just dont know how to become more interesting..

Thanks for inboxing!


First of all, it's perfectly ok to be 15 and not have had a first kiss or a boyfriend yet. You have your whole life ahead of you for that!


Second, if you're worried that you focus too much on how you look, simply stop. Don't wear so much make up or spend as much time perfecting that hair style. Just make yourself FEEL good, not LOOK good. Know what I mean? If you feel gorgeous, chances are, you'll look a whole lot better to anybody.


So, the rest of your question is about how to become more interesting? Well, I can't tell you exactly how to become more "interesting", but I can tell you that you should work on your confidence. Confidence is so attractive in the opposite sex.


Also, my friend, Jack, answered a question on what guys like in a girl and I think it really might help you out:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=505520


From there:
"Anyway- the best way to attract a guy is to be yourself. If you try to change yourself just to get a boyfriend [especially at your age]- you'll just end up with someone who only likes you for what you've become- not who you are. If you be yourself- and don't change- you'll attract more guys who actually care about your personality rather than just your looks."



I hope this helps! =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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I want to buy an ipod nano. but if i do do i have to buy the songs off of itunes or can i do it through lime wire like the older versions?

You can still use Limewire like the older versions. You actually do everything the exact same, you don't have to change anything.

When you get a new iPod, you don't get a new music library, you just hook the new iPod up and sync it to the one you currently have.


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Hi, ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and a few days ago his friend got on the phone calling me nasty names.

and i figured out my boyfriend got wasted and madeout with another girl.


i love him but i dont trust him.

i am misrable without him. should i give him another chance?

We really can't make your decision for you. You have to decide on your own if you think he deserves another chance. There are both positives and negatives.


Positive: He was honest about it...or at least, it seems like he was from how you worded your question.
Negative: He cheated [duh?].
Positive: He only madeout, I know it's horrible, but at least he didn't go all the way.
Negative: He did it at all...thoguh he was "wasted". I am by no means siding with your boyfriend here, but it would've been worse if he were sober.


You should talk to him about it, and see if he wants another chance. If he does, take some time to think about it. You'll figure out what you need to do =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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i have a serious boyfriend. hes 28 but hes like a big kid sometimes. i like to make him stuff. i have drawn things for him, made boxes that i had decorated with kisses and weird fancy stuff and sends him hand made cards in the mail and made him magnets of pictures of us and speical videos and stuff.. but were getting a little bit more serious.. but i still want to do little things like that for him sometimes.. but sadly im running out of ideas. SO PLEASE ANYTHING I COULD MAKE!!! i love to make stuff.. what else can i do??


he likes to read fiction books. play video games. very geeky and into science. loves outdoors. lots animals. and is REALLY skinny... so maybe that helps a little bit for ideas?? anything would be great thanks ahead of time

Have you made him a mix cd? Like of all the songs that remind you of him or of all his favorite songs? Those are always cute gifts =]

You can make him a picture frame, and put a picture of the 2 of you inside.

Or, you can go to Build-a-Bear and make him a cute little bear [or whatever animal]. I think that's a really cute idea, too.

Another idea, since he likes science, is to buy him one of those "My First Chemistry" or whatever kits, and the 2 of you can spend the afternoon being scientists! ;]

You can make him a big collage with pictures of the two of you and the video games he likes and pictures of animals and stuff.


Have fun and I hope this helps!


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i really wanna put some blue in my hair. not the whole head, just like, underneath so it'll show when its up in a ponytail and when i straighten my hair. but my parents INSIST that i cant. how can i convince them to let me due my hairr???
HEELPP!

You have to be mature about it. Don't whine and cry and act like you're 6.


Then, sit them down and explain to them WHY you want to put color in your hair. Also, have you told them you want it underneath your hair? I'd emphasize that, and tell them you don't want to do your whole head.


If they still say no, CALMLY [remember, act mature] ask them why they don't want you to.


I also like LM's idea about maybe settling for a different color. See if they will let you do that, and if not, jsut respect their decision.


-Laura. (16-f)

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15/f
okay well my bf birthday is coming up. i dont know what to get him.we have been together for a more than a month going on two. he is a very chill guy like rock music. Any ideas?

- A band shirt or 2, for his favorite band!
- A mix cd with all of his favorite songs on it, or all of the songs that remind you of him.
- Take him to a local show. Do you have a place [like a coffeehouse] where bands play? If so, take him to a show!


-Laura. (16-f)

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well so i met this guy and i just moved to a new place and im going to a new high school and everything. im gonna be a sophmore. i used to live here so i still have some friends from when i was younger. anyway my friend introduced me to this guy and a few of us went to the movies and he kissed me. now since we barely knew each other we are getting to kno each other and stuff. the problem is i dont think i actually like HIM i just like the guy attention. a few months ago my bf and i broke up and now ive moved on but now that im single i really want guy attention. the guy acts like he likes me and we do flirt but i dont think i actually like him. i really dont think i like him i think i just like the attention. he says hes been thinking about me a lot and has even brought up us dating in the future but i dont kno what to do. if he only had a casual relationship would it be ok that i dont like him a lot? cause lots of people date people casually that they arent in serious like with. but i also dont think its a good idea to date someone before i even go to the school because i dont want people already making assumptions of me. the guy seems nice and genuine but im still not sure if he is. i have a hard time trusting guys. anyway thanks for your input!! :)

"cause lots of people date people casually that they arent in serious like with."

I don't know anybody who does that. To me, honestly, it's stupid and pointless. Why date somebody you don't even really like? What would happen when someone that you DO like comes along? You just dump the poor guy without ever looking back? =O


Look at it this way:
Put yourself in his shoes. What is it was YOU who really really liked this guy, but he only went out with you for the attention. Then, he found a girl he really did like and he dumped you without even saying he's sorry. How terrible would you feel? It's so not worth it.


My advice:
Don't date this guy. Just tell him the truth, that you don't really find yourself liking him like you thought you would. Let him know that you would rather just stay friends with him, and that you're in a new place, so you don't want people making assumptions. Basically, tell him msot of what you told us and you'll be fine.


Good Luck!


-Laura. (16-f)

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My boyfriend from last year broke up with me for his ex girlfriend. We were only going out for about a month, but now him and his ex just broke up again and now he wants to go back out with me. I'm not sure yet, I mean i really do like him but when he broke up with me i just felt like dying, i didn't know what to do with myself. i kind of want to go back out with him just to get back at him, but i know i'll end up falling for him again.

"If you think somebody deserves a second chance, they probably do. But it doesn't matter what your heart says, it's what you do about it that counts. If somebody deserves a second chance, give them one."


If you want to go back out with him, do it.
If you're only going to "fall for him again", why not try it again? Maybe he realized he made a mistake by breaking up with you, and that's why he wants a second chance now. I'm speaking from personal experience here, people mess up, and sometimes all they need is a second chance.


Just explain to him how much it hurt when he broke up with you before, and let him know if he does it again, that's it and he's done.


-Laura. (16-f)

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