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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

advice

My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a week or two. We're pretty good friends, though. He's straight edge. I, however, am not; I drink casually and smoke from time to time. He doesn't know this. I'm pretty sure he'd be mad at me if he ever knew I had tried it. I really enjoy his company and talking to him, so I don't want to break up over something like this, but I don't want to start off our relationships with secrets. What should I do?

Tell him. Starting a relationship with lies is wrong.

By not telling him, you're hiding a part of yourself from him, and that is wrong. He's seeing only the parts of yourself that you want him to see.

Yes, he may not like it, but at least he'll know. Maybe he can help you quit if you wanted to? ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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How can i stop masterbrating?????

http://www.geocities.com/paul_ervine/stop-masturbating.html

From there:

# NEVER touch the private parts of your body except when going to the toilet or when washing them! Your genitals are dirty, nasty, evil, filthy parts of your body.

# Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company. If the good company seems hesitant to have you along with them, be persistent. Just hang around with them no matter what. They will get use to you sooner or later.

# If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, YOU MUST BREAK OFF THEIR FRIENDSHIP. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never will.



There are a lot of good tips from there =]

--Jack
(16/m)

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I don't know what to ask. What do i do?

Are you bored?

Here's how to solve that:

www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html


Those are a lot of fun.

Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.

Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours =D



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--Jack
(16/m)

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ok if you are doing anal and the boy cums in your bum can you get pregnant ?

The chances are VERY slim. Use protection just in case.

--Jack
(16/m)

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do you think it would be better if all men died out and only their sperm was saved so the female population would die out? We could eat the men and also reduce world hunger. Just think, Bush and Cheney would be gone along with all those other assholes. We could keep the gay, sensitive ones for the sperm, right?

what a perfect world it would be.

what do you think?

Obviously, being a guy, I disagree with this. God intended two sexes for a reason.

Yes, you could save our sperm, but eventually it would run out. Oh, and you might have a hard time controlling the sexes of the babies, with or without technology.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I have a friend that is a guy and im a girl but we're not aloud to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship so i don't want to become his girlfriend but i do want a stronger friendship between us what do i do?

Definitely hang out a lot more. Find things you're both interested in, and do them, or talk about them.

If one-on-one is too awkward, go with a group of friends.

Go to school activities together. Basically all I can tell you is hang out and talk more. That's all there is to it.

--Jack
(16/m)

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why does barbie have boobs but ken doesnt have a penius???

Because everyone has boobs, even men, though men's are less prominent.

Barbie dolls don't have vaginas, and so Ken dolls don't have penises. The company would also be sued if they had the genitalia on the dolls.

--Jack
(16/m)

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im dating a 15 year old guy im 19 i know bad choice hes really mature for his age though any way i want him to get checked for any typ of std if i go in the clinic do u think that they will call the cops? and i will get sent to jail?

Hmm I'm not sure if they would do that, but I would say if you want to have sex with him- wait until he's legal, because that's statutory rape, and it's very very very illegal.

You probably wouldn't be arrested for taking him to get him tested, but you might turn some heads. Like I said, your best option is to wait until he's legal.

--Jack
(16/m)

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my gf just broke up with me and she wants to be really close friends.

my Q is, how do i prove to her that i can be a great boyfriend instead of just a friend

Unfortunately since she broke up with you, she probably isn't looking to get back together with you.

Maybe the only way to do what you're asking is to tell her that you're a good boyfriend, that is, if you believe it. If she doesn't listen, whatever. There are plenty of girls in the sea ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

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Reader,
Well my friend (female) she hates this guy that just asked me to go steady with him. I accepted but then I remembered that my friend and him had been going out 3 years ago and they've hated each other ever since they broke up. She keeps telling me to break up quickly but I really like him. On the other hand I really don't want to lose my friend. What should I do?

Signed,
Confused

Your friend cannot and should not control your relationships. If she were really your friend, she wouldn't tell you to dump him just because SHE doesn't like him. You're the one dating him, not her.

--Jack
(16/m)

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"Luckily, there's a very simple and easy way to unblock all of the people who were blocked: Once you are logged into your Myspace account, click on "Account Settings." You should see and click on "Blocked Users." On the right of each blocked user there is an "Unblock User" option, click it. And there you go. :)"

I tried to do that and there's no Blocked Users thing under Account Settings. Is there any other way? I use MySpace Australia, is that any different?

http://profileedit.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=accountSettings.privacy

Try that link. If that's not it, I'm not sure.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm moving to Georgia and i really don't want to go. I do anything to stay in my hometown where everything was brighting up in my miserable life. And i belive i'm finally with 'the One' i can't just leave! what should i do??? I'm about to be torn between the west coast and the east coast!!!

If you absolutely can't convince your parents to not move, then really, all you can do is accept it.

You can still stay in contact with "The One" through email, phone, IM, and a number of other things. If he really is "The One", moving away shouldn't matter. It's only a few more years until you're an adult and can move back. Then again, rarely ever do people find "The One" at such a young age, though it's possible. If it's really meant to be, it will be.

Maybe you can ask your parents to arrange that you live with relatives that live nearby?

I wish you the best of luck, I know how hard moving is.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I'm 13-17 and I love my boyfriend/girlfriend. Should I have sex with them?

Legally, you shouldn't have sex until you've passed the age of consent in your state/country.

Morally, you shouldn't have sex until you're married, or based on when you feel you're morally ready.

Emotionally, you shouldn't have sex until ready to face the consequences of sexual relationships. That is, possible pregnancy, having a child, etc.

Financially, you shouldn't have sex until you're old enough and have enough money to support a possible child.



To me, you shouldn't have sex until you're married, though obviously not everyone lives up to that standard. But definitely DON'T have sex until you're ready, and I mean absolutely ready to face the consequences.

I think if you wait until you're married or at least with the person you will marry and will be with your entire life, it will mean something really special, rather than something to just throw around.

--Jack
(16/m)

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okay im 13 and i will be 14 in 2 months and im thinking about having sex w/ my boyfrien tell me what i should do

If you feel 100% that you're ready, then maybe you are.


Legally, you shouldn't have sex until you've passed the age of consent in your state/country.

Morally, you shouldn't have sex until you're married, or based on when you feel you're morally ready.

Emotionally, you shouldn't have sex until ready to face the consequences of sexual relationships. That is, possible pregnancy, having a child, etc.

Financially, you shouldn't have sex until you're old enough and have enough money to support a possible child.



To me, you shouldn't have sex until you're married, though obviously not everyone lives up to that standard. But definitely DON'T have sex until you're ready, and I mean absolutely ready to face the consequences.

I think if you wait until you're married or at least with the person you will marry and will be with your entire life, it will mean something really special, rather than something to just throw around.

--Jack
(16/m)

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Is it normal to bleed after having sex the second time?

I would say yes, but I don't really have experience with that.

only search advicenators.com


--Jack
(16/m)

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Okay, so I've been a little depressed lately. Pretty much all of my friends have boyfriends or guys like them, and it seems like I'm the only one who doesn't .. and the thing I can't figure out is why no guys like me. Guys always seem to be interested in my friends and act like I'm invisible. I mean, I'm really nice(maybe overly nice at times) and I'm not selfish, unlike half the girls at my school, and alot of people tell me I'm really pretty. But, the thing is, I think I'm too mature for my own good and I'm not into drama or being all ditzy and loud to get a guy to like me .. but it seems like the loud conceited girls have guys. I feel like there's something wrong with me. I don't know, I just feel like no one really notices me and no matter how hard I try, every single guy I like always says, "Sorry, we're just friends." Ugh, should I just give up and not try so hard to find someone, or do something different for some guy to like me? Because it seems like I'm never good enough for anyone. Any advice? Thanks.

You sound like me, except I'm a guy.

Honestly, relationships aren't all they're cracked up to be. They end stupid, and there's a good chance your teenage relationships will end horribly and the two of you won't be friends.

So what I say is, be patient. Yes, I realize having a boyfriend seems like the most important thing, but since you're still in high school, it's alright that you haven't dated anyone like all your other friends.

There's nothing wrong with waiting for the right person, and that's really what I think you should do. Dating just for the sake of dating is useless. Once you find someone who appreciates you for you, you'll be happier than if you just dated people because your friends were doing it.

Nothing is wrong with you.

--Jack
(16/m)

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At my old school everybody was really mean to me, so I left. So now, I am at my new school, but I have only made 3 new friends =[. I get really shy around people that I don't know and I never know what to talk about when I'm around people. I really do want to make friends, but I feel like it's just not possible. How can I break out of my shell?

www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

1. Always start off with something that others don't use often. Example: You see a girl in a bar and she's sitting with some friends. You walk up to her and say, "I would like to sit with you, but before I sit down, what are you drinking?" "Bud Light (insert drink)? Good choice. I'll be back with 2 Bud Lights (insert drink) and I'll hope that this seat isn't taken when I get back."
2. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
3. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
4. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
5. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
6. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
7. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
8. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!


Tips

* Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
* Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
* It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world.
* If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
* Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
* Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about.
* If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
* Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
* Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about


Warnings

* Don't be overly invasive with questions.
* Don't use tons of fillers like "umm" or "soo". It might make the person you're talking to feel awkward or obligated to say something. Instead talk slowly and pause. This will create a little tension and make your newly found friend more invested in your conversation.
* Don't desperately ask personal questions.
* Keep eye-contact
* Don't ever comment negatively on the person or someone's looks... you never know if they have a personal attachment to it or if they are friends with the person you are criticizing




--Jack
(16/m)

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how do you delete your myspace????

Go to, on the home page, "Account Settings".

Then, scroll down a bit, and there's the "Cancel Account" option.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I am 19 years old and i have been having protected sex for 3 years now. i have been on birth control for about 3 years now too. i have always remembered to take my pill on time and on the right days. but last month in June i forgot for 3 days. i was really stressed out and forgot. so i got my period the next day and i have had it for the past two months. i have been taking my birth control and it wont go away. but the other day i had sex with my boyfriend and we didnt use a condom ( we weren't thinking) and he went inside me. and that was only two days ago. could i be pregnant? and why is my period 2 months long?

ANY time, and I mean ANY time you have sex, whether you are using a condom, he pulls out, or any other tricks, you RISK becoming pregnant. Yes, condoms work very well, but there's been a lot of people who have become pregnant despite the fact that a condom was used. Birth control can be very effective as well, but there are no 100% guarantees.


Periods are hardly regular when you're a teenager.

Wait about a week and take a pregnancy test. Then, if you still aren't sure, see your doctor and have a professional test done.

I know NOTHING about UTIs.

--Jack
(16/m)

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I am a 17/f what are some good songs for a boyfriend and girlfriend?

I won't be able to give you enough to fill a CD, but I'll give you some that are definitely worth it ;].

"So Much Love" -The Rocket Summer
"I Need You" -Relient K
"Must Have Done Something Right" -Relient K
"Run To You" -The Rocket Summer
"The Best Thing" -Relient K
"I'm Taking You With Me" -Relient K
"My Girl's Ex-Boyfriend" -Relient K
"Getting Into You" -Relient K
"You'll Always Be My Best Friend" -Relient K
"At Least We Made It This Far" -Relient K
"Nothing Without You" -Relient K
"Who I Am Hates Who I've Been" -Relient K

And basically anything by Maroon 5. Those are all love songs. =]


Yes, I realize this is only from three bands, but they are the most amazing ever. I promise you'll love them =]. These are soft rock, generally.


--Jack
(16/m)

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