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boyfriend is straight edge...i'm not.
My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a week or two. We're pretty good friends, though. He's straight edge. I, however, am not; I drink casually and smoke from time to time. He doesn't know this. I'm pretty sure he'd be mad at me if he ever knew I had tried it. I really enjoy his company and talking to him, so I don't want to break up over something like this, but I don't want to start off our relationships with secrets. What should I do?
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It'd be best to tell your boyfriend about the truth. Keeping your secrets silent from the person you care about will hurt you more because you would start feeling a little bit guilty for not saying anything. But when you tell him the truth, he'll come to love you more because you were honest to him and you trusted him. When you're together with someone, you both should be able to trust one another no matter what.
It's hard to pour it out, but think of how it'd be a relief to say it. =3
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Your life choices shouldn't be a secret. Whether he agrees with them or not, if he loves you he'll respect your choices. Don't start secrets early. Trust is one of the biggest parts of a good relationship.
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well since he dosnt kno that you smoke and drink, then you mite as well make ur lie become the truth. stop smoking and drinking. try and quit. then you dont have anything to hide. besides, smoking and drinking are bad for you anyway.
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hey just tell him about it. if he really likes you then he will understand. tell him you dont want to keep any secrets in your relationship so he understands. =]sal
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well, if he didn't know before, you probably should have mentioned it. especially if he doesn't drink or smoke.
you should definitely tell him the truth, though.
here's my personal experience:
i'm "straight edge," as you call it. i don't drink, don't smoke, and don't like it when people do around me (then again, i am 16. . . ). anywho, i know of many people my age who get totally sloshed all the time, and i think it's stupid. a kid from my class had to go to rehab this year for alcohol. no joke.
i understand why you're worried about it, because i know that people who are "straight edge," myself included, don't really approve of drinking and such.
just tell him. if you don't, what could very well happen is that he'll find out the hard way, and then he won't be so open to talking to you about it. if you talk about it now, you've got a much better chance of keeping him around longer.
-collin
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Tell him. Starting a relationship with lies is wrong.
By not telling him, you're hiding a part of yourself from him, and that is wrong. He's seeing only the parts of yourself that you want him to see.
Yes, he may not like it, but at least he'll know. Maybe he can help you quit if you wanted to? ;]
--Jack
(16/m)
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I would just be flat out honest with him. You should not lead him on to think you are straight edge-if he assumes you are.
Just be honest with him and tell him.
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He should love you no matter what, but you probably should have told him from the beginning that you weren't straight edge.
Just sit him down when he is relaxed and not stressed out about anything.
Tell him that you didn't intend on keeping this a secret from him and that you really don't want to lose him, but just tell him. Tell him you won't pressure him or do it around him.
He should be okay with it. If he isn't, he isn't that good of a boyfriend then.
hope i helped. let me know.
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