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My boyfriend likes to rub his penis on my vagina. Is there any chance that I could get pregnant? my bf can go on for hrs. we dont have sex. i am a virgin, he has came on me while i was on him. he has rubbed his penis on my vagina by the ****... he has pre *** on my vagina many time for hrs straight at a time.... can i get prego for doing this? please help me!!!!

Chances are smaller, but it could happen. If it enters you in any way, there's always that chance. Pre cum can contain sperm, too.

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Hey, I have this boyfriend he is 18 and so am I. Well today we were sitting down in my porch and my cusin went outside to tell me to do her hair. She sat down in the staira and when my boyfriend was going to kiss me he looked at her, when he hugged me he looked at her and he was dancing and kinda starred at her. She is 20, but this are things that make me mad. Im not.gonna tell him nothing because im sure he knows why im like this.,what will you do if you were in this.position or what do.you suggest for me.to do??

Thanks for inboxing.
Honestly though, I think you're reading a little too deeply into it at the moment. It doesn't have to mean he likes her, maybe he's just looking about in general and every time he happens to glimpse at her, you notice?
Plus, think of it this way - if he did fancy her, he would be a little bit funny with dancing, kissing and hugging you in front of her. Surely that's a sign he's interested in you and not her!
If it does continue, bring it up - you should be able to tell a boyfriend anything that bothers you. You don't have to be mean about it, just ask why he always seems to be watching her.
Try not to let it get you down in the mean time, it could be completely innocent and you're just being a worry wart. :)
Let me know how it goes in feedback.

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Last year I guy this candle from Kohls.
It burned really weird, and now the wax is all chunky, blocky, and cut up.
Also because I tried cutting the wax out of it.

Anyway, the candle jar is REALLY beautiful and I would love to keep it as a decoration/to hold things in but I'm unsure of how to get all the wax out completely.

Burning the candle won't work because the wick is burn as low as possible.

Any ideas?

You're going to have to melt it/scrape it/freeze it.

Try these:

http://www.ehow.com/how_8005044_melted-candles-out-glass-holder.html

http://www.ehow.com/how_5777397_candle-off-glass-candle-holders.html

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Im not ready for sex, but my partner is giving signals and signs that they are. Do I do it to keep them with me or do I let them know im not ready ?

You simply tell them you're not ready.
and if they still pressure you, you dump them. :)
It's as simple as that. If anyone doesn't respect your wishes, get shot of them.
You've got all the time in the world for sex and should only ever do it when you 100% know all the risks, when you're of legal age, when you love and trust your partner completely, when you're ready emotionally (which you obviously aren't right now) and when you've got protection.
Virginity is a wonderful thing to keep for that incredibly special someone. Not a playground boyfriend when you're in your young teens.
You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders - let's keep it that way. :)

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Whenever I get fingered by someone, I have a dark almost like a discharge thing. I really like to get fingered and stuff like that, but I think it's gross that I have discharge. What is it ?

What do you mean by "dark"...? Is it blood? This could mean you're doing it a little too hard.
It's good to be wet down there when engaging in sexual activities... it's your natural lubricant and means you're excited. There's not a lot you can do about it either than keep some tissues handy for when you're done.

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I had a message from a friend on Facebook because she is getting mail sent to an old email address at work from me! I checked my list of contacts and I only have the new mail address and according to hotmail I have no mailed anything to her. I have checked my yahoo contacts and Ashe does not exist at all on that contact list. What can she do?? Or myself even.

You may have clicked on an infected link at some point. It could be as simple as changing your password. A lot of friends have had spam email sent out of their inboxes and after a password change, things were fine. Give it a try.
If that doesn't work, I suggest scanning your computer with an anti virus program - if you don't have one, download AVG. It's the best free one out there.

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Last night me my older cousin and his wife went out for her birthday. First we went dancing and I watched them dance and hug and kiss and I felt sad and lonely. When we got to the skating rink I started feeling worse so I had my cousin bring me home his wife stayed there. His friend drove us home and me and my cousin were sitting in the back and I started crying my eyes out and he held me and comfort me. I didn't feel good so I went to bed as soon as we got home. What's wrong with me ? I've never felt this way before. I'm 18.

I'm sensing a little jealousy, even if you don't want to admit it.
You long for a relationship like your cousin has. You want to be close to someone like that and have someone there for you, companionship, to love, to hold, someone to have that happy ending with..
It's nothing to be embarrassed about. I'm sure most people have felt like this at some point. I know when I was younger, I did. but I realized my time will come and I have to make the most of being single - there's always friends and family for when you're feeling down.
Your time will come. Embrace the fact your cousin has a decent lady. Don't let their relationship throw you off hanging out with them. Let it set an example to you.

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Hello.
I'm considering removing my pubic hair to surprise my boyfriend. I was wondering if shaving or waxing was better. Also are there any tips i should know. I'm kind of nervous about waxing so if there are any tips on shaving they would be much appreciated. Thanks
xx :)

Waxing lasts longer, so if you're looking to be smoother for longer, wax.
Shaving however, is painless (unless you cut yourself!) Just make sure you go slow and you use a decent razor. Always do it when you're in the bath or shower and be careful with which direction you go. Going against the hair growth will get you a closer shave, but can cause skin irritation. There's nothing more to it. It's just like shaving your legs. :)

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I have a crush on this boy. But every time I sit beside him, he doesn't talk to me. He talks to the person beside him, the one behind him, the one in front of him, anyone except me. The only thing that makes me feel like I exist is when I saw him look at me.

Don't take it personally, but maybe he doesn't know you well enough to just strike up conversation? Is he a little shy?
Anyway, it shouldn't always be left up to the boy. Why don't you initiate it? I don't mean like the usual "hi" because that might not lead anywhere, give him something to answer to, such as, "that's nice, where did you get it?" If you ask about him, he will answer. People like talking about themselves.

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a cute nickname for my boy friend

Nicknames are more personal than "hun", "bub", "baby", etc. Think of an inside joke, or something that relates to him and no other boy. Perhaps even play on his name (think of cute rhyming words, change a few lettes, etc)
Good luck!

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Ok well normally I dont bother with really saying stuff like this but well this is really bugging me. It all started maybe three weeks ago I suddenley really wanted to read ghost love stories,(I know thats normal)but anyway in my bathroom when I'm in the shower I get this strange feeling someone is watching me, then that went on for acouple of days then it started getting worse I would hear footsteps in my bathroom and btw I'm the only one in the house wheh i'm in the shower because my parents are at work, but I hear footsteps, and the bathroom door open then footsteps then it will creek close then footsteps. After that it will be maybe 3 seconds later and it will all start happening again over and over, and the feeling will get stronger that someone is in the room with me. I remember two days ago it was happening and I was in the shower, then I heard my mom home and she yelled to me she was starting dinner and I said ok well I started to get that feeling and it scared me so bad I started talking to "it" I just kept saying please stop please stop, and then it freaked me out so I yelled mom, and she came in and I said nevermind. Well those things keep happening to me and its starting to be more than just when I'm in my shower. Now for another thing, my dad decided to get a ghost detector on his phone for some reason cuz he was bored one day and he was messing around with it and I never told him about anything that was happenening and no lie he came out that night to show me that it said there was a ghost in the bathroom! Like the radar started beeping and going off. So that reallllly freaked me out. Now back to the ghost love story thing. I finaly got one on my Ipad, and I just chose one I never heard about it or anything I just like bought it. Well, After I started reading it, it got to the guys name which is james, and I sware my Ipad highlited the word James (the ghost boy around 15) in that book and when it highlighted it, it started shaking the page ! now just about everytime in that book it sayes james for some reason it will highlight his name and start shaking! So see this is really freaking me out what do you think it is I need your opinions! P.s. Also when I'm asleep I'll wake up everynight around 12 midnight out of the corner of my eye I'll see something and when I look its gone and then I freak out adn can't go back to sleep, thats starting to happen in the day too, like out of the corner of my eye I'll see like what looks like a boy and when I look it will be gone. Wel thanks for your time sorry if it was too long please help this is really scaring me, do you think this is a ghost, do you think you know what it wants? Thanks!!(:

You're going to get mixed responses, as people have different views on the matter.
Personally though, I think you're just freaking yourself out.
I remember when I was 13, I went through a "ghost phase" and started reading stories, watching videos, trying to work ouija boards with my friends.. and needless to say, some freaky things started happening after that. Was it because I was paying more attention to the slightest thing around me, as I was feeling paranoid, or were there ghosts lurking? Looking back now, it was most certainly paranoia!
Now, I'm not saying I don't believe in ghosts, I just reckon further evidence is needed in this case.
I hear footsteps all the time - many people do. It's probably not even footsteps.. some houses are creaky and appliances make noises.
The deal with your ipad - a couple of friends have them and sometimes, certain apps have a few minor glitches on them - this could be the case with yours. Same thing happens on my iphone, too.
and the ghost app your dad has? it's just meant to be a bit of fun and coincidentally, told you your bathroom is haunted.
I'm not trying to blow the whole thing off - like I said, I'm not a none believer, I'm just thinking of rational answers. :)
My advice to you is don't be scared. If freaky things start happening again, try not to panic. Make a diary of the events. Also, try to get someone else to witness it as well.

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In the past I went threw this stage where I thought the only way I could get guy's to like me was to send nude pictures of myself, and I'm over that now.
I made a mistake of doing that and now my boyfriend's grandmother has my photo's with her.. so in case I screw up, she'd have them.

I don't want the past ones showing up later on in my life, I want to become a lawyer some day and I've matured. I still have low self esteem but I won't ever do anything like that again.

I just don't want my life ruined down the road ;/

Any advice? I know what I did was wrong, I don't need a lecture..

Why does she still have them? A grandma surely can't keep these things for blackmail!?
Talk to her. A serious discussion is needed. How old were you? If you were a minor, she has child pornography.. Let this be known and tell her to delete them. If she doesn't, you could take it further if you really wanted to. It's wrong of her to keep them "in case you screw up"
Let me know what happens.

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hello i went to swimming yeaterday.
when i got out from the swimming pool and walked towards life guards to pass the key,

there were two life guard one is girl and the other one was boy.
they were sitting together and when i passed the key to the girl life guards. boy life guard was really looking at me fo rlong time with smile on his face and the girl life guard finally passed the key to the boy.
i just wondered wheather the boy life guard liked me though i know its a silly thing to ask but im just bit curious.

Noone here will know, hun.
People smile to be polite, so it could just be that.
Instead of jumping to conclusions, just talk to him and see where that lands you. Signs will get clearer if you communicate. :)

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I feel like such a slut. I've never had sex with anybody and have only kissed anyone about two times. But, I have sent naked photos of myself to two much older men online who I believed love me at the time. The first was when I was 13. The second when I was 15. I am currently 16. Help? I feel terrible.

You are not a slut. You were just very, very naive. but it's good you have learnt your lesson.
On a more serious note, did these "men" know you were underage? I'm guessing so.. which I'm sure you know is classed as child pornography.
To be honest with you, I'm not sure if there is anything you can do about it now, considering it's years later.. but now you've grown up, your best bet is to just realise what you did was foolish and carry on with your life.
Stop beating yourself up over the past. Young people do stupid things. Be thankful you're a lot more wiser and have saved yourself physically.. (not had sex) until you have found the right person.

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I've been getting migraines a lot i had stopped for a while but they came back , followed by dizzyness im afraid ill faint and no one will know. Point is i need advice on what to do advil or aspirins etc arent working please help(: thank you.

Migraines are awful, awful things.
What's really important though.. have you actually been diagnosed by your doctor? If not, don't assume.
Plenty things can trigger a migraine, including certain foods, stress, etc.
If you have already seen a doctor, go again - I received different pills than your every day painkillers and they worked a charm. Tell him/her how bad they are and they might be able to give you stronger medication. Also, you could find out the reason why you are getting them.
Either way, make an appointment asap. You don't have to suffer with them!

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any ideas for crazy hair

Biiiiiiiiiiiiiiig, back combed hair! Spray in some glitter and colour.
You won't need to do anything drastic and it'll all easily wash out. :)
Google "back combed hair" for some pics and how to do it if you're not sure.
Don't forget to fix it with lots of hair spray!

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is a tampon or a pad better. and which brand of each is the best.

There's no right or wrong answer, it's whatever you prefer.
Try both out and see which you feel most comfortable wearing.
People differ depending on how heavy they are and what they are doing, for example, sleeping in a pad and wearing a tampon when doing sporting activities.
Personally, out of most people I know, I seem to be the only one who isn't the greatest fan of tampons.. although I will wear them if I know it'll be better with whatever activity I'm doing.
Don't forget, tampons run the risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome.. and you wouldn't want that.

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i got home oe day to find blood on my sheets and blood stained panties that arent mine. i asked my boyfriend if he had sex with another girl and he told me no. should i believe him or not.

If the pants aren't yours, they're obviously someone elses.
Now, I'm all for innocent until proven guilty.. but this scenario has guilty written all over it.
Ask him again.. and if he's still denying it without giving another VALID reason, you're going to have to reconsider the relationship. Lying and cheating.. it just can't work.. and you deserve better.

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Help!! what should I do if my ex-bf says were going out but were really not??? but he thinks were together though. but I told him that were not and he still doesnt get it. what do i do???

Simply STOP talking to him. and DO NOT see him.
If he rings you, don't answer.
If he txts you, don't reply.
.. as it will just lead him on and cling on to false hope.
Sometimes it's hard for people to let go, but you can't force someone to be in a relationship.
You've already told him you aren't together, now stop worrying about what he's saying and get on with your life.
He will have no choice but to just accept it.

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what should i do if my mum calls me stupid should i run away from home?

Why is she calling you stupid?
I don't think your mum realises it's actually getting to you. You need to tell her that being called stupid hurts your feelings.
Running away from home isn't going to solve the issue, it's going to make her more angry and seeing as she isn't great with words, call you stupid more.
Just talk to her about it and she should stop.
Running away is a bad idea that won't help in any way.

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