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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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I didn't want to go to school today in the 1st place bc I have too much on my mind (that they don't even anyways) and I was really tired bc of all the thinking, but I got ready and I got out late so I missed the bus, bc my mom was yelling at me bc my parents got into a fight bc I didn't want to get up in the 1st place and go to school. My dad had woken me up @ 6 and I have to be out by 6:25 and I missed the buss bc someone decided to move the soap and toothpaste and I had to run across the house and get it and ect. Now my mom wouldn't drive me to school and my dad already left for work..it's 7:50 AM and I am bored out of my mind till everyone comes home @ 2 PM...any suggestions?

throw a party

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I have no clue what to get my boyfriend for his birthday, he likes sports, and xbox games, I dont know if he would like jewelry. Can anyone please help me?

make him a nice romantic dinner for two, that way you don't spend that much money but you can still do something nice for him. and to make the night better rent some of his favorite movies to watch together

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okay theres this girl named alex.. she's the "popular miss" at my school...all of the guys like her...all of the girls like her. shes so incredibly mean she has gone after every single one of my ex and even current boyfriends...we used to be best friends...way back when..she was nice...i feel locked down like i have to be her friend and i'm afraid to tell her how i feel....she's not the kind to really take bull shit from other people..she's slapped me across the face before and i'm 100% sure she wont hesitate to do it again...she's pretty much a bitch...me and my friend brooke used to be pretty close with a girl named kaylen(kk) ..the other night kk had a party..she invited alex .. for some reason alex thought she needed more attention than what she was getting i mean you should have seen what she wore..she looked ridiculous tanktop tight jeans thong hangin out and high heals yea you get the picture .. so anyways her and kaylen started makin out.. now there good friends and kaylen cuts herself. i don't like what she does to herslef and my friends but i just can't get myself to stick up for them .. i'm not that kinda person.. but nobody else will say anything what should i do
please please help me

you're going to have to bite the bullet and tell her to piss off, if she hits you then take a stand hit her back. don't take shit from anyone. that's why she is the way she is, because no one has stood up to her. so do it!

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I have just came back to school after my 2 weeks off and these girls are pushing me around and calling me names, they only ever stop when my friends are there im not fat nd spotty im just small is there a crime in being small?? caz i feel lke dere iz... and soon my m8s are all going on a holiday to france wiv the skool and we didnt have enought money as my mam and dad have just split up, plz help me i am down and depressed :(!

it's got nothing to do with you being small, unless of course they are all fat, then they are just jealous, there's really nothing you can do other than take it, in school there will always be someone who's going to pick on you, and that'll never change

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I'm growing my hair out to past my boobs but now its like 4 inches longer than shoulder length and i have sideswept bangs that are to about my upper lip...it's kinda at an awkward stage. It's medium brown and pretty straight with a tiny bit of a wave to it. Any suggestions on cute styles I can do?

flip through some of your favorite magazines, find a style you like, and try it out. make sure that you get a second opinion first though. you don't want something that's totally not you

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This is REALLY stupid I know, but I feel like I dont have a big enough butt. Is there anyway to get your butt plumper looking?

you could get butt implants

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Hi.. I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 8 months now. His birthdays coming up and i have no clue what to get him. Mine just past and he got my soo much nice stuff. Hes into skateboarding and stuff like that but im really having trouble on deciding what to buy. If you have any ideas.. Please let me know!! THANKS!

buy him his favorite cologne, and if you don't know what that is, try this, for my boyfriends birthday that just past, i took him to the local park (which overlooks the city we live in) we had a cook out (where i did all the cooking) i had a cake made just for the two of us and then after he figured out that i got trick candles we cleaned up and went to the top part of the hill we were on and watched the sunset. and just cuddled. he said that it was his most favorite present out of all the ones that he got

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I'm 14 and I already lost my virginity... Is that normal?

honestly, i don't think that it is, i find it hard to believe that someone your age is ready for sex and believe me it's a HUGE thing. a lot of people will say that it's not right for someone to have sex before they are married. well i'm sorry but that's bullshit because with all the sex that we have in society it's hard to wait that long. but i also believe that a person should wait until they know everything about sex including the negatives to sex before having it. if you are fully educated on the subject then i don't see why it would be a big deal if not and you're not using protection then you should not be having sex at all. and if you haven't told your mom, and you still can't because you're afraid of what she'll say, then you are most certainly not ready

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ok so um me and my friend (we are both girls)have sleep overs all the time and when we do she always puts her leg on me and so i would like rub on her leg and she would rub my boob and when i am in the bed i feel good about it but then when i am out of the bed i hate myself for even thinking of stuff like that and during the day i mean i LOVE guys and then when she sleeps over its a whole different story.......so anyways can u help me i dont understand what is wrong with me!

there's a good chance that you're bi-sexual, and there's nothing wrong with that. it's up to you to decide if you want to be with guys or if you wantto be with girls

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i am a 16 yr. old male. i am 6 ft. so i am thinking i dont have much more growing to do. my body is well developed. but anyways...i have developed a hard bump in my left nipple. some people have told me that its from peuberty and they all had it in like middle school. but i find that hard to believe b/c i wasnt a late bloomer or anything. and im just now getting it? is this normal?

talk to a doctor, he/she would have the best answer for you

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lately, i've felt really sad, and i've felt all alone. i'm 8th grade/f, and i feel like a guy could fill up a space :( what can i do??
-all alone-

i doubt that a guy could do anything for you, but you could try talking to your mom, a lot of teenage girls go through a point in their lives where they experience some mild to major depression, i'm sad to say that it's common, talk to you're mom though i'm sure that she can help

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My bestfriend(15) , this guy(15), and I(14) all go to that same church. Now my bestfriend and this guy are going out and their parents dont know about itand are completely against them being friends. There hole relation ship is based on rebelion and she realizes it but says she doesnt care at least not right now. He has hurt her a couple of times and she still refuses to see it. She won't listen to any of her friends including me. What the heck am i supposed to do, just sit back and watch???

that's all you can do, she'll be blind to it and he'll hurt her some more and there's nothing that anyone can do about it, and it's not because she can't see what he's doing, it's because she doesn't want to see it. women can be very blind when it comes to the guy she's dating

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ok sry this is long but i really need help. ok im in 7th grade and this year i met my best friend ever hes likt the best person you will ever meet. his name is james and he is in 8th grade. we have been so close since the begining of the year and like we would call eachother evry day and talk for like an hour. and liek he is a realy hott guy so yeah he has had gf's like only 3 this year so far bc they r long relationships but recently he asked out one of my friends and like now if they get in a fight they blame it on me and all this other junk and like now he hardly calls me nemore liek maybe once a week if even that and liek if they r together then he like barley talks to me he ignores me and he never did that with any of his other gf's and like i dont noe wat to do bc im losing my best friend and i honeslty can live without him. so pls help me what do i do. thnks

first of all, don't use the word "like" so much please! and second i've been in this situation with a friend of mine, his girlfriend obviously sees you as a threat to their relationship. it's not a big deal, she'll get over it. he on the other hand you need to tell him that if he can't talk to you when she's around then how good is your friendship really?

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Theres this guy at my school,im totally crushing on,and we've talked alot.But i cant seem to get him to like me.How do i get him to notice me more,and come up to me and start talking instead of me going up to him?

you can't. men are very stubborn if he wants to talk to you then you'll have to wait for him to decide that

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ok so i was being really stupid but i was talking on the phone and trying to straighten my hair at the same time when i accidentally burnt myself right below my chin!! it looks so bad, so does anyone know how to cover it up or get it not to scar!! please help!

don't pick at it, and put a bandaid and some anti-bacterial stuff on it

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lately, ive been thinking a lot about my first love. thes this other boy and we're pretty into eachother, but i havnt been able to stop thinking about my first love lately. its gonna be a year now that met and we fell in love over the summer. is this normal? is it just cuz he was my first love? or do i still have feelings 4 him? i really like this new guy. its just that i've been thinking about the first one. maybe, its b/c he represents a happy time in my life or hes very special to me or something. i dunno. do i still like him in a way?

you will never forget your first love. that's a fact you'll always have a place for him in your heart but as long as you can stay friends with him you'll be fine. the prospect of having another guy in your life is what's bringing about these feelings. in your mind you're thinking "is this guy going to be like the first" and "am i going to fall in love with him" my mom always told me about love, that love is like eating hot soup, no matter how many times you blow on it, you're bound to get your tounge burnt once. you'll be fine

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This might take awhile...but my ex boyfriend and I are talking again about going back out. Our past relationships...were good but then it wasn't. We broke up a couple of times. The thing is, he's a smoker...weed! Awhile ago...he use to do it constantly, then every other day. Then once a week, thne now once a month. I know he's trying, but not hard enough. The other day, I asked him..."What's more important? Your weed..or me?" He replied "Your more important then anything" So I was happy. But still I'm in confusion. We want to go out, but then again, rumors will start up and bets will be place on how long we would last. He's Qb of our Varsity football team(which is huge), and I'm well known for who i hang with, and the sports i played. In other ppls eyes, We look like high school sweethearts. Its just how do i tell him i wnat to be with him, and i like him so much, not the hundred other guys who ask for my number or gives me theres! They don't mean anything to me...just friends. But like what can we do to have a better relationship? how do i know if he's sincere about his feelings for me? How do i know it'll be different? Sorry it's so long, but thanx so much if your able to help me!

if you really are the most important thing to him, then tell him this. "if you can give up weed for good, then we can give it ONE LAST try" and don't pretend to mean it you have to honestly mean it. because if you don't then he'll keep doing it and you'll be unhappy about your decision

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Hey I'm 14/f and lately one of my best guy friends has been asking me out, i really care about him but right now i am dealing with other things in my life. such as trying to get into a good highschool, and my other hobbies that are really imortant to me. yet on the other hand, i really like him. my question is what should i do? i mean why should i risk a relationship when we are just going to break up sooner or later? what is the point in a young relationship right now? besides "having fun" because i know that loving someone is a lot more than "having fun" please answer, ill rate fives as long as you try to help

if you don't think that you're ready for a relationship then you need to tell him that, tell him that you like him but for now you've got other stuff to do that doesn't involve having a boyfriend.

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my mom is overweight, and i am not, however i want to tone my muscles an be in all around better physical condition. I wanted us to join a pilates class together, but she is afraid that's too strong of program to begin with, as we currently are not doing any sort of athletic activities. We were going to do yoga instead, and then move to pilates perhaps later...but my boyfriend said that yoga stretches your muscles and elongates them, but doesn't give you much exercise in the way we were hoping. Is this true? What should we do? all suggestions are appreciated! thanks!

they are both hard, go to the gym and get a personal trainer, that way he/she can set up a workout plan that is perfect for you both

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If it matters, I'm seventeen, and a girl.
Okay, so I've been really close with this friend of mine for about two years. Then all of a sudden, she decided she was too good for me. She dwells in every issue she has until she makes herself depressed. She's getting all "emo", for another thing, and pushing EVERYONE away, except our mutual friend, who happens to be a guy.
Now, she even admitted to him that she had a crush on him for awhile, but she "got over it". Somehow, I don't think she did. We're in a choral group and she always manages to position herself next to him, which bothers me - not because I like him - because I'm used to hearing his part in my ear. I'm used to listening to him. We always used to practice together for concerts, we sit next to each other in choir because we blend, and all that.
Anyway, so the main issue I have is, what do I say to her, if anything? She suddenly decided she was too good for everyone except one guy - oh, and her "college friends" which are her only "real" friends. Most of my friends are in college, and I still don't act like that.
I almost want to confront her about her pompous attitude, and about her supposed crush on our friend, but it would make everything awkward, I know.
What would you all do in this situation? I'm just curious.
I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. =)
Thank ya for your opinions.

you can be engaged to someone and still have feelings for someone else, not the point though, if she's acting all high and mighty like her s**t don't stink then you need to confront her. tell her to stop being such a drama queen and let go of whatever issues she's got because it's clear that she's got some. as for the mutual friend thing, you can't control that just let nature run it's course. and if that doesn't work the help him find a girlfriend who isn't in your choir that way you can still stand near him and she'll back off

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