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Hello :) First of all, i'm so sorry if my question bothers you though. You see, i was viewing your advice column and i read the sentence saying you're hoping to get into a PhD programme in Biology, so i'm guesiing you're an excellent student in Science subjects.
I'm a secondary school student with the age of 17 and my career goal is to become a Cardiologist, and truthfully i'm not getting expected grades in my yearly examinations and this year'll be my final and only year to succeed. So, i do need a little help with my studies. In my opinion, it would be very helpful if you could share with me some tips or methods when studying the tough subjects.
I would be very delighted with your help Miss Annie, thank you and have a good day :)

Urg, I'm so awful at studying. I'm serious. I'm not very good at it and I have gotten horrible grades before. But, basically I've learned a few things going through college. One is making a plan. When I have an exam coming up I plan out what i'll study each day to finish in time. It helps me because I'm less prone to the freak out knowing I have 6 more chapters to study the night before. Another is noting all my due dates. I like using the tasks on gmail. I use gmail a lot and before the start of a term I write down everything I have due for a class. This way even if I happen to forget, I'll be reminded on the to do list. The main thing is not to be surprised with an assignment. You don't want to lose points on anything you could've done. Also it's good to ask for help when you really need it. There are some subjects you can figure out given time but other times it might just be faster asking for help.

I hope that helps :)

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18/F
My sister is having a baby shower and instead of a card we're supposed to bring our favorite children's book with an inscription (to the baby I'm assuming, right?)
Anyway, I need ideas. I'm not asking at all for someone to type out an inscription for me. Just simple, vague ideas on what I could write. Things that I could stem ideas off of and make them my own.

I'm not somebody that can pop out some profound, creative, and meaningful message even if it's just a few sentences. That's just not me, I'm not like that, my home made cards have always been garbage and because of that I've been stressing about this way more than normal or even necessary but I can't help it. It's been almost a month and I haven't come up with anything at all and the baby shower is only a few days away now.
Also I'm one of the aunts, I can't just write something simple and generic.

I asked my mom (her step mom) for ideas but before I could even finish my question my mom put her hand in my face and loudly said "oh no I'm not telling you what to write don't even think about it NOPE" so that's out, seeing as she doesn't understand the seriously unnecessary anxiety this is giving me. Seriously. It's so unnecessary. So please somebody give me ideas.

One idea is to build off the kind of book you will give the baby.
For example, if you gave the baby the Dr. Seuss book titled "Oh the places you'll go" you can write in it something like "Dear baby [name], you life has just begun and from this moment onward you will be doing so many things. You can do anything you put your heart to and you will succeed. No matter where you choose to go in life, I hope for the best. Love [your name]"
Or even something silly. Say you gave the baby the book "If you give a mouse a cookie" you can write "I hope that if I ever give you a cookie, you'll just eat it..."

Another idea is to simply write what you love about the book you're giving. It will be your favorite after all and should bring back happy memories. Translate those feelings. For example "My mom used to read me this book if I ever got scared. I hope this book helps you in your times of fear. Love, [your name]"

The most important thing is to go with your heart. Any message is wonderful if it comes from the heart.

I hope this helps!

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I have hit rock bottom, I hate myself to the point where sometmes I just look in the mirror and cry, I can't figure out why my boyfriend loves me and I dont even love myself, I'm 5'6 , 110lbs and skinny..its hard being a tall skinny teen girl.. especialy when a "real" woman has curves..how to I learn to love myself?

A real woman is a woman with confidence whether you're short of tall, skinny or curvy. All you need is confidence.

I have to tell you, I know exactly how you feel. From early childhood to about four years ago I thought I was ugly and didn't think I was that great. I was always told about features that were odd about me even when they weren't. And if you hear it enough you start to believe it. I would cry almost every night. It wasn't until I met this guy that I started to think I was actually pretty. It took me a long time, but eventually with the help of my boyfriend I started to realize I wasn't ugly at all. And I started to be more confident.

You know why your boyfriend loves you? Because he sees the real you. You are an attractive wonderful person and he can see that. You have to try to see it too. Ask him what he loves the most about you and know that he wouldn't lie to you about it. Understand that what he's saying is right.

I'm not going to lie, it's hard and it is going to take time. It took me a long time to believe the things my bf would say about me. He was always telling me I was beautiful. I guess he said it so much that I started to believe it. Of course I also made changes to make myself feel better as well. Like I started working out because it made me feel more healthy which made me feel good about myself. I found clothes that really suited my figure which let me feel good in what I wore. I started taking better care of my hair because if my hair looked nice, I felt better. I don't really wear make up and I don't plan on it, but if putting a little up of lipstick will help you then go for it. I'm not saying you have to do what I did. But for me, those small changes helped me realize that I really was beautiful. They helped me see that I was wrong about my self image. I wasn't changing anything about me, but I was taking actions that helped me SEE what was right in front of me.

Basically, what I'm saying is, think about what you don't like about yourself and what you can do to accept it and love it. You are a great height and believe me there are so many girls that would do anything to have your frame. Teenage years are always awkward for everyone. Trust me when I say that you'll realize that you are beautiful and there is nothing wrong with what you look like or who you are.

It will take time, but you have to want it. And when you get to the end of your journey, you will feel so amazing. It's really worth it.

:)

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Okay so im in highschool (10th grade) & i hang out with a group of people. At first i really liked them all. but for the past 3 weeks i can't stand ANY of them. Everything they do annoys me. I get to school in the best mood but when i see them it just goes down. I don't want to be with them anymore. It really sucks because i don't even know what the hell is wrong with me? Did i just kind of outgrow them or something? im not happy anymore with them & im thinking of leaving them for another group . How do i tell them? or i don't tell them & just leave? Like honestly they are so BORING. Like i want to have fun & go to parties, go to amusement parks etc. but they just want to do all the boring bs. like watch movies & stuff like that. What should i do? time for new friends?

Maybe instead of outright leaving them, you should continue to be friends with them and get to know more people. There isn't a limit to how many friends one can have. If you happen to find friends you really connect with then there is nothing that says you can't hang out with the new friends. And if you need a quite evening watching movies then you'll have your old friends for that too. In addition, you can always try getting your current friends to do more exciting stuff (not sure if you have tried this or not). If not, then hang out with other people and remember to invite them. Maybe someday they'll want to join you and they might actually enjoy themselves. Sometimes we just need to do something out of the ordinary. But doing things out of the ordinary can get old an tiring too. Keep your old friends and make new ones.

Hope that helps!

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ok so here it goe, theres a guy that i really like he gives me butterflies and all i cannot get him out of my head, i always got the impression from him that he wanted me like he asked to come over to my house, he tried to kiss me he was always giving me hugs, he kissed me on the neck twice, he tried to get me on my own a few times, ok so the fact is that he is married with kids, i dont know why i have feelings for him, i stupidly told him the other week and all he said was i dont know what to say to you and i told him to go and he left since then we have barely spoke partly due to me been distanced with him, i still feel for him and dont know what to do i dont think i want an affair and he obviuosly doesnt or he wouldnt of walked away would he so any advice sorry if it doesnt make any sense

This might sound harsh and I apologize for that, but you have to move past him. I know that's what you want to do, but what I mean is you have to give up the chance that anything will happen. An affair is tricky business and it can ruin an entire family. I think that it is a good idea to distance yourself from him. Even the fact that he did all those things with you already was wrong of him. You have to give yourself time. You also need to stop wondering if he might've liked you or not, because it just won't happen. You will be wasting time and energy on thoughts like that. So take a deep breath and give yourself time. If you find yourself thinking about him, shrug and tell yourself it doesn't matter because it won't happen. I'm sorry you are feeling this way and I don't mean for you to be hurt. But I feel like you and other people will get hurt if you allow your thoughts to become action.

Best of luck.

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One of my best friends is having a really tough time right now. Her boyfriend dumped her, her best friend is moving,and she's having an overall rough time. Now, I have a girlfriend who I deeply care about, but this matter with my other friend is deeply upsetting. She cannot see how I see her. I think she is amazing, and beautiful and just all around great. She trusts me so much and she has told me quite recently the story of her life. She cuts, she is starving herself, and she told me her darkest secret. She had been raped as a child. She refers to herself as a damaged, broken, useless whore. I love my girlfriend, but... I need to show my friend that she is important to me too. I cannot hurt either one of them. But I think I'm begining to fall for my other friend as well. I am so confused on what to do. Any help would be great. :)

You should tell your girlfriend about what is going on with your best friend an let your gf know that you need to help her during this time. This way your girlfriend will support you and might even be able to show support in her own way. The best way to help your best friend is to be there for her. Let her know you're there if she needs to talk. Also you should distract her. Get her some of her favorite movies and watch them. If you can help her smile or make her laugh even for a moment then you're doing the best you can for her. Let her know she's a wonderful person.

Also I would like to point out, this is just my opinion, that you should not worry about if you're falling for her or not. She just broke up with her boyfriend and the last thing she probably needs is to be with someone else. I feel like right now she needs a friend to help her get through this and you should be that friend.

I hope that helps. :)

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Alright, this is not my first child, but my first pregnancy went strangely, and I don't really remember much of anything about it. My first child was born at 23 weeks, and I was knocked out for an emergency cesarean, so I don't remember anything about it. This is my second pregnancy, *nearly 9 years later* and I've gone full term so far. *only a few more weeks to go* and I'm honestly terrified. I'm not sure what to expect or whatever... Everything is going well for my pregnancy, me and the baby are perfectly healthy as the doctors are always telling me. I don't know why though, but as the time gets closer and closer, I seem to feel more and more scared. Is this a normal response? Like I said, my first pregnancy was not a normal one.. This is my third as I lost the second one... Is being scared normal?

I think it's perfectly normal to be scared. For one, it's a new experience for you and not knowing is scary as is. You also have had a couple of difficult experiences adding to your nerves.

Check this link out to get more informed. (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/signs-of-labor/PR00083 & http://pregnancy.familyeducation.com/delivery/stages-of-delivery/57542.html & http://www.babycenter.com/0_a-childbirth-cheat-sheet-for-dads-to-be_8244.bc)

However I must say that the best thing is to be calm and take it as it comes. I would suggest talking to your doctor. They will give you the most relevant information and the options you have when giving labor. You can then take steps to make labor much better. I think once you become more informed your fear will reduce significantly. It won't go away mind you and that's ok.

Best of luck with you and your future baby!!

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My best friend has an iPhone 4 and I have an iPod Touch 5. We both text each other, but we want to use iMessage. It's on both of our devices.

But here's the problem; We can't get it to work. Everytime I try to send her a text, it says she isn't registered with iMessage. I checked on my Settings, and it says it's enabled and it says that on hers too. She said she always texts me on iMessage, but that'd make no sense. What's the problem?

Sometimes when someone isn't connected to wifi it doesn't send the text as an iMessage. See if your freidn is connected to a wifi or if she has wifi turned off or her internet connection is bad.

Hope that helps.

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why do only Muslim women want me?

You know, if you ask a question like that you're going to have to provide more information to get a good answer. Not to mention, it's not a bad thing if certain type of people like you. Be happy with it and accept it.

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I'm planning to take my iPod Touch 5 to school to make some pics of me and my friends in class, but... There's a sound it makes when you take a picture! How do I turn that off?

The best way is to simply turn your sound off or lower the volume because there is no specific sound setting for this. They made that feature like that on purpose so that people would know when a picture is being taken.

This site has another suggestion if you are willing to try.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5101268_turn-off-camera-noise-iphone.html

Hope that helps.

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I want to shave my legs but last time I asked my mom she said no (two years ago). I really want to hav shaved legs in the spring but I'm scared my mom will say no. Plzzz help!!!!

Well it depends on how old you are. When I was younger my mom told me not to as well. I would suggest asking again since the last time you did ask was a long time ago.

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I was wondering how many women and girls actually experience this with a button down top. I'm not considered busty by any measure (36B or 34C) but those type of shirts have started to fit very weirdly on me.

My technical top size is a medium, like a size eight, but I normally will wear a extra large because of my own personal preference. I don't look overweight or anything in a medium and often get compliments on how small I really am when I do wear a medium.

I had tried to borrow a medium button up from a friend of mine. I tried it on, and the buttons gaped like no tomorrow. It was disgustingly tacky because it looked really ill-fitting there, even though it fit normally everywhere else. My friend commented, saying how my boobs were too big for the shirt.

Later, I put on one of my XL button up tops, and saw very noticeable gaping between the first four buttons, to the point that one could easily see my bra from a slight angle. It wasn't as bad as the medium top, but boy was I surprised! The shirt used to fit just how I preferred it!

So my question is that is this a common occurrence with these types of shirts? Or did I suddnely gain something in my bra size? I haven't gained (or lost) any weight recentally, or since I've brought the XL top. Would it have something to do with me being 5 feet, thus being petite? I've heard that petite women have fit issues because they're five inches shorter than the clothes are designed.

A lot of shirts are make as if women are flat chested for some reason. I have some tops I tried on that do that too and had to stop wearing them. However they do make some that have more fabric around the bust area. The only challenge is finding them. I always have issues with how clothes fit on me (I'm petite) especially pants. I always have to fold them from the bottom. It's an additional challenge fining clothes, but that is the curse of being a woman. It just takes forever.

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and I decided that I'd buy them today and I did, only I saw later that the jeans really didn't match anything I own, and I really want to wear them to school on Monday, but with what? My sister said that a purple/violet or teal shirt might go with it, but I'm not sure. Would black, white, or grey? What colors might go with it and what kinds of tops. And if it helps, I consider myself tomboyish, so no anything too girly or frilly or whatever. Thankx!

Here are some images I found online of outfits with the yellow skinny jeans that might inspire you. Some are rather girly, but I'm hoping that you can rather see how different colors look paired with the jeans.

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-BBpUv-vYMHE/T2wb-tiOA6I/AAAAAAAAEPI/Wsy2rr5fs3o/s1600/yellow+skinny+jeans+green+striped+tank+white+jacket.jpg

http://www.denimblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/people-magzine-denim-trends-yellow-jeans-heidi-montag-victoria-beckham.jpg

http://heathabe.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/000_1451.jpg

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_4fO6C-5PSKk/SiaBco18WWI/AAAAAAAAAI8/_4oSK5-za4E/s400/l_1caa56a95b74f1fdd91fd631ed29fb3a.jpg

http://i00.i.aliimg.com/img/pb/381/228/509/509228381_866.jpg

http://images2.chictopia.com/photos/lanton/7493972774/yellow-yellow-skinny-urban-planet-jeans.jpg

There are so many more if you google the pants on google images. In short I think that any black, grey or white top will work great with the yellow jeans. In addition other bright colors might look nice too and make you stand out. If I had them, I would pair most of my tshirts with them. Hope that helps!

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Does it damage it? Is it like a perm?

I found a few sites that give great information:
http://madamenoire.com/42948/a-few-things-to-know-about-texturizers/

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-the-difference-between-a-texturizer-and-relaxer.htm


Hope that helps!

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So today there was this girl that i like and was in a bad mood, but i tried to make her feel better, but i dont think anything happened, so my question is: if a girl is sad, angry, crying or something like that, what do you tell her and how do you tell her like this she feels much better?

One of the best way to help someone who doesn't feel like sharing their problem is to distract them. make her laugh. Watch a show or movie with her. Show her funny links or youtube videos. Tell her about something funny that happened to you. Sometimes when people just need to be distracted and to smile. Also let her know she can talk to you. No need to insist on her saying anything. But it's nice letting her know she can talk to you. I think this is the best way to help someone out. And when she does tell you, remember to listen and show support.

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I hate myself and have wanted to die for many many years now, can anyone help me accomplish this? do NOT lecture me or try to scare me or talk me out of it. PLEASE I only want help, suggestions, know success, etc. so I can proceed now. The sooner the better, ive put this off for way too long. I have made attempts and have obviously failed. Please help me to finally successfully end my useless life. I am an organ donor and would prefer to help anyone I can with what I have, I do not need it. I only need 1 thing, and that is death, this life means nothing. I do not help anyone or anything, I am lost, lonely, confused, yet absolutely DONE. Being here could be hell.

I'm sorry to say dear user that unfortunately no one on this site will tell you how to commit suicide. Even though the users on this site might not have any personal connection to you, they do not want to see you end yourself. You see...you are a stranger to me and still I feel sad knowing that you feel this way. I really wouldn't feel good knowing that I helped you die... I've known many different people and they have had difficulties in life. In fact, I truly believe that everyone has their own set of problems that test them to the limit. I've known people who have been abused both verbally and physically. I have known people who have had so little self esteem and confidence. In fact, it was not to long when I was battling my own terrors and still am. Life is tough. There is no way to say that in a better way. It's hard and it will always be hard. But, the trick is to find one thing that you can change or one thing that will keep you going. You said that you hate yourself, why? Is it due to a physical attribute? Or have you been unable to accomplish a goal? You have to look at yourself and know you're a valuable person despite mistakes you have made. you have to see that even though you are going through tough times, you have the power to make things better. I'm sorry I can't answer your question and I'm sorry I can't give you the answer you're looking for. But, I truly hope that you realize you're important and you're worth it. And most importantly that you're worth living. Don't give up. Never give up.

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My mum recently said we need to get me a bra. This is very awkward for me and was just looking for some general advice on how to survive the fitting! Thx

It's perfectly normal to feel nervous or awkward. The best thing I can say is to not to think too much of it. I mean the person that does the fitting has done many, many fittings and she's just doing her job. You don't need to feel self conscious at all because her job is simply to help you and not to judge you. Also your first bra will feel uncomfortable. There is no way around it really. You just have to get used to it. I would suggest not starting with a bra that has an under-wire tho unless you need it (those are quite uncomfortable at first). Best of luck.

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How can I tell if the guy I like likes me back?

I've liked him for about 4 months now. He's sorta acting like he likes me, but i'm not sure. I've noticed he seems to be looking at me more at school. We don't talk as much now it seems because we don't sit as close to each other as we once did. We have every class together except for our 2 connections.

How can I tell if he likes me?

There are many ways to tell.
This website gives a great answer: http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

In addition, the best way would be ask to hang out with him. If you're hanging out it will give you a much better idea on if he's interested or not especially if it's just the two of you.

Good luck!

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I have been friends with this boy since 7th grade or 8th grade. I'm in 9th now. I've been in love before. So, I know what it feels like. This time, I think I am. I just dont wanna admit it. We have been close since day 1 (the day I started to like him). Our brothers are best friends (they are older). Which is how we met. We flirted, alot actually. I asked him out (I am a girl). I hate doing that, but thats the only way I could tell him I liked him. He rejected me. He said he did'nt wanna ruin our friendship. Which didnt make sense to me because he dated my best friend 3 times and they still are good friends. & now...we barely talk to each other. I ruined it. This isnt the 1st time I've asked a boy out before (3rd time). But I care about him more then anyone else. I just know its because of my looks. There really isnt an question in this..I just needed someone that would listen to me. If anyone would like to help me..my kik is saracrouse1 thankyou.

I think he might also be concerned about the friendship between him and your brother. Maybe he thinks that it would be weird for him to date you while being friends with your brother. Not to mention he might've thought of you as a little sister. Also, since you mentioned he is older, he might be interested in girls closer to his age. You can try to become friends with him again by being very chill about things are just slowly hanging out with him again. Best of luck!

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What are the signs a guy is flirting with you? Cause this boy I'm just going to call him "Bob" calls me over and we talk a lot sometimes we even end up walking each other to class but he has been asked if he likes me and said that I was a little sister to him what are the signs what do I look for

Here is a site I found out that puts it in better ways than I can:

http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/dating-game/flirting-signs-between-a-guy-and-girl

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