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First bra awkwardness
My mum recently said we need to get me a bra. This is very awkward for me and was just looking for some general advice on how to survive the fitting! Thx
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I remember when I got my first one-it is kinda awkward because I guess you're now seen by your mum as being something which could be of desire to a boy, so a bra is nessessary...
I'm guessing your english because you said mum not mom-I suggest going to Marks and Spencer-I did.
its very private, as its in the back corner of the shop, usually upstairs.
One thing to remember is that the woman (it will be a woman) who fits you will NOT be able to see your breats, as they can measure you up without actually seeing them.
Also, what I did was got one as soon as I needed to-because then you can be sure the smaller sizes fit, so in this case a fitting may not be nessessary.
Buy a non wired one because they're more comfortable-it'll feel strange at first but you do get used to it.
Just remember, you're jsut another customer for the person who measures you up-no big deal. And your mum will have been there herself one day, and could well be glad you're at this stage now.
It'll be fine!
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While NOT a female I did want to offer some advice that may help you. Try to picture in your mind your mother at age 12. She was going through all the changes you are about to experience and was trust me (ask her this) scared as hell too.
She has been in your shoes and knows what it's like to feel embarrassed about anything related to puberty and growing up. But you know what? Mom's your best friend here and has got this covered so you feel the least awkward.
It's okay and probably the best thing to tell her you know you need one but feel scared. It will turn out fine. It's fundamental she is there to ensure the right fit. If at any time something feels weird when trying stuff on tell her. She knows exactly what you need.
Also, store employees who may help to get the right measurements know girls your age and even older can feel insecure about this. They're there to help.
Just remember they may be mom's themselves and all have stood where you do now. They will try to make you secure as that above all is the most important part of their job. They couldn't sell anything without compassion.
Talk to your mom privately about her experiences as a kid and maybe that will help you see that all will be okay and try to find the humor in it or about it.
You may find in the end that it's a memorable milestone but for positive reasons rather than negative this way. If you have same-sex siblings who have gone through puberty and this experience ask them to come or to share notes so to speak about it so that you see it's alright.
Really when it comes down to it they can put you at ease and offer a lot of guidance.
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It's perfectly normal to feel nervous or awkward. The best thing I can say is to not to think too much of it. I mean the person that does the fitting has done many, many fittings and she's just doing her job. You don't need to feel self conscious at all because her job is simply to help you and not to judge you. Also your first bra will feel uncomfortable. There is no way around it really. You just have to get used to it. I would suggest not starting with a bra that has an under-wire tho unless you need it (those are quite uncomfortable at first). Best of luck.
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