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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




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i really cant do it no more.. the other day i looked at myspace and found that i wasnt on her friends list anymore.. she said she didnt do it and told me that she must have left it on at someones house and hoped that they didnt change her password.. i told her id check if shed give me her password and she gave me one but it didnt work.. anyways.. im pretty sure she was lieing cuz when i looked that day she had one picture of herself.. and then today.. a brand new picture that she didnt have.. the pic was taken in her room by her so she had to of changed it last night when she didnt have access to her profile.. anyways it took me a long time but after searchin for awhile i got the guy i have been thinkin shes cheatin on me with profile of one of her friends myspace profiles.. and there at the top in big print was I LOVE YOU.. from my girlfriend =/shes gonna tell me that she says that to all her friends but i cant deal with her no more.. i wish she knew how i felt though.. ;how shes been makein me feel.. anyways.. just thought id let u know i was takeing your advice.. im gonna leave her then.. well i dont really know what then =/ later.. Matt

awww babe i am so sorry. trust me once you leave her you will be stress free =) dont worry i still got love for you =)

yea it sound like she is lieing to you. i wanna tell you what i think about cheaters.

if soemone is a cheater there are pussys that dont want to tell the truth about anything they to scared to tell someone that they dont love them anymore so what they do is cheat on them hoping they dont get cought. i hate cheaters. i learned the hard way which is Once a cheater always a cheater.


OMG i just thought of something that will prove to you that she cheats and etc. make a new MYSPACE and dont tell her about add her and talk to her. get a picture off of google and upload as a picture and disguess yourself. i hope ur getting me. like make up a fake name and etc. and ask her if she has a bf and etc. tell what happens.

if you need anything else let me know. =)

can i ask a lil question that is a lil on the brighter side of things. i want to know a guys point of you on this.

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Can the pill cause you to lose appetite or gain weight?? thanks!

it all depends on the pill you take. the older pills will make you gain5-10 lbs and the new ones make you gain less it also helps with a whole bunch of other things to.
♥ Steph

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good advice.. i dont know about how many girls there r out there though.. in a strictly non - bragging way.. im not that bad to look at and i do think i can treat a girl pretty good. i have one problem though.. girls my age never seem to know exactly what they want.. and maybe because of my upbringing or for some other reason i do.. i want a serious relationship.. and not just to say im in one.. no offense but i find the majority of highschool girls to want one for just that =/.. anyways then most older girls wont give me a chance for alot of reasons.. the judge to quick and think im to immature or just have a problem dateing someone whos younger.. so see im at a kinda standoff there.. btw you dont really have to give advice on any of that =).. ive never had too much trouble finding a date and i think i told you all that more for conversational purposes.. =) i kinda like chattin with ya.. sorry anyways the only thing i see wrong with what your tellin me.. and maybe its because i didnt tell you everything, sorry i have a bad memory and these things are so limited on how much they want let you type.. =/ anyways i dont think shes just cheating.. im really convinced that shes actually got another boyfriend.. one whom she goes out with frequently and all that other stuff id rather not think about.. so if im right then shes lieing to me anyways and when i take a break.. she will continue doin whats shes doin and when i come back she can just say shes been waiting for me.. how can i really know the truth.. i suspect shes lieing now.. how can i know the truth.. maybe all this will be easier if i come out and ask what i think has been my question all along.. i have strong opinions i guess you could say about what shes doin.. and it makes me think about it alot witch is really heartbreaking.. sitting here wondering if the person i love the most is in someone elses arms right now.. but, i really have no proof.. so the question is.. how do i find out.. if i can prove beyond a doubt to were she has no way to deny whats shes done.. or come up with nothing what so ever and set my troubles to rest i might actually find some peace.. before you answer that.. none of my friends over there are her friends.. we have about no one from the same circle so that wont work.. also i cant hire any kind of an investigator hah.. i dont have the money.. though if i did i might i dont know.. anyways so those to ideas are out.. as i said before i dont know any of her passwords to anything so.. thats out to.. you may just answer this message by tellin me you have no ideas =/ well.. i cant really think of anything else at the moment... thanks for sayin im a good guy though.. it was sweet of you and thanks for dealing with me =).. i know you will say different but i know i can get tireing.. hope to hear from ya.. Matt

hun trust me you are no problem. honestly. if you want to talk to me some more and cant finish it here i got AIM so we can chat. or yahoo which ever you perfer. if you want you can change yuor password and if she ass say she 4got it and had to change or better yet

you know tom makes you change your password every 6 months for privacy reasons?

i actually got an idea. plan a visit to wear she lives some time soon but here is the catch dont tell her.
a couple days be4 ur trip ask her if she is doing something that day. if she says yea ask ehr wear she is going and etc. but whatever you do DONT TELLL HER YOU WILL BE THERE. then you go wear she is at and surprise. if she is ding what said she doing you will know she is tell you the truth if not that you know what kind of person she is and how much she cares about you.

♥ Steph

p.s my aim is Sointoyoux0x x3

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hey well i'm trying to take pictures and make it into a movie type thing with sound and everything is there a program i can download so i can do this? thank you =]

yea there is a program called windows movie maker you can go to download.com and search for it. hope this helps.
♥ Steph

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OKAY, here it goes...! K, i fell down the stairs at my school last week, on Monday. I dont think i really broke or sprained anything, but i hit my head really hard on the tile floor, and the stairs( i was at the top and fell to the bottom). Now, almost a week later, i feel lightheaded, and dizzy... is it from the fall? should i consult my doctor?!

i would talk to a dictor asap. you dont know if you damaged your bryan or what not. i am sorry about your fall.
♥ Steph

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ic what you mean.. and not to keeo coming up with ways to make your advice useless ( i really dont mean it that way ) but.... a few things.. on leaving her or letting her go.. ive really tried.. and i mean hard.. but i cant make myself hang up on her or not answer the phone when she calls.. i dont do that to anybody at all except my boss =) and after she gets on the phone with me its only a matter of time before my resolve is all but depleted.. about her friend... you said you let your friend go.. but your not friends with her really anymore.. thats about what i would expect.. my gf and her friend r goin on like nothin between them ever happened.. it just makes me have doubts on how important i am is all.. like i said.. anyone who tried to get in the way of me and her ( before things got this bad between us ) would have had hell to deal with on my part.. on the last part i cant ask her friend for anything.. when i went to my gf with the suspicions i had myself and the accusations of her best friend.. well her friend hates me rather acidly now.. oh almost forgot.. i cant sit and look her in the eyes to often.. we now live in 2 different states.. usually when we see each other theres nothin but passion.. witch makes commin back to the reality that our relationship is on the brink of failur after we seperate again, almost a crushing blow.. to me anyways.. i really dont know how she feels about anything anymore.. so i guess in short.. i cant really sit down and talk with her face to face.. not soon enough to help anyway.. i cant get any help from her friend.. and i just dont seem strong enough to leave her.. its really rather pathetic whedn i look at it like that.. especially considering how i use to be.. ive never let anyone push me around before.. at all.. most of my friends ( my good ones that know me well ) hate her because they see whats happening.. i almost feel like less of a man nowadays.. =/ now that ive written this out like this im beggining to feel like theres not much hope in this situation and im waisting your time..i just wiush i could make things go back to the way they were when we first told each other we loved one another.. just a little over a year now.. back then everything between us was really great and i could litterally feel the love coming out of her when we were together.. thats why im trying so hard to save this i think.. i may not be an expert but the way she looked at me seems hard to fake and im positive that at least in one point in time she loved me nearly as much as i love her..i do really love her.. well i thonk i might have worn you out with this one but just for the sake of the cause.. one last time.. send any help you possibly can... whatever it is i promise to do my best to see it done and make it work.. sincerily Matt

it is completely ok. i swear i dont mind. your a greta guy you dont need a gril to make you feel down. i am sorry about the long distance thing. i am going through that know. it sucks. people say they dont really work but if you guys rerally do love eahc other it will work out..
i have a boyfriend that everyone says has changed me. i cant leave him because of love. so i understand were you are coming. form he cant treat me like shit at times and others like a princeess.no matter what i cant stop loving him so i am not leaving. if you feel that the love between you and your gf has been diein then i suggest to leave it alone.it is very difficult to love someone who doesnt love you back.

it is difficult to trust someone that lives so far from espacailly since you dont know what happens all the time.

the only thing i cant hink of that will solve your problem is to take a break. tell her to like that. tell her your lil stresed ot and need a break. see if she will wait for you. if she does then you will know that she does really care about you. if not dont waste your time i mean tehre are many girls that will love having you around.=)
&herats; Steph

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Hey I was wondering if you knew anything about the different kinds of Nexopia fonts other than Arial, Times, Courier, Impact, Geneva or Optima
thanks

actualy i dont but there are ways to downlaod fonts and see if you like them. but first you need to a winzip to unzip the files. if this is what you want tell me andi will explain to you the prosseces=)

♥ steph

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I have... confronted her i mean... all she does is deny it and gets mad.. acts hurt a little.. but thats doesnt help at all.. little things i pick up on that could or could not be somethin like the fact that she acts hurt because i think shes cheating but never does anything.. i would be beyond mad if she accused me of that.. any other girl i would probably dump.. also one time her friend told me she was cheatin with a certain friend of theres.. i did break up with her over it because her friend had very convincing arguments.. my gf was mad at her friend for about half a day and then slowly started to forgive her.. by about the third day all was forgiven.. now i know girls relationships and thier friends differ from guys.. BUT.. she says she loves me more than anything and before things got so bads we were making plans to move in together and get married in the next year or so.. im 20 btw, shes 18.. point is she says her friend is completly full of shit.. and after she started to cry i came back to her like normal.. but if she really was faithful and her friend split us up like that with the fact at how much shes supposed to love me... would you still have that same friend?? i might have murdered somone under those circumstances.. im sorry i know ive written quit a bit for one message.. real question r i guess is.. everytime ive ever tried to talk to her about anything she gets all indignant and mad and i dont get anywhere.. she thinks that if i loved her as much as i say i do.. i wouldnt ask these questions and if i had to id be happy with a simple yes or no answer.. and beyond thats just thin ice.. how am i supposed to go about fixing anything under those circumstances?

yes or no question i wouldnt like anything but the whole stroy(the truth about it) in that situation i ca relate to. i have and still am going through this with my bf. he accuses me cheating and thinks i would stuff like that when it isnt even like that. you need to sit her down adn explain to her everything and how you feel about it all.i mean if you keep going like this there is no point of a realtionship. why waste your time if she doenst want to listen to you and understand anything you say you know..you can keep going in a realtionship that is making you unhappy. that isnt healthy. if nothing changes you have to leave. it isnt a good idea to stay it will be bad for you and her.like the say to noe if somone really loves you let them go and if they come back then it is true love.

look her in her eyes and talk to her from the bottom of your heart if she cant do the same thent there is something wrong.

about the friend.

i had a friend that actually broke me and my bf up because of the fact that he found out that she hates me adn she was my best friend and knew everythin about it but we got back and didnt worry about but now. i dont talk to her. only hi bye and thats it.a true friend respects any desecion you make good or bad, they should support you and help you out. mine didnt so i let her go. ever since i did that my life has been stress less. i wanted to kill my friend(just like you said) but i didnt instead i let her go. it is possible that her friend was telling the truth or it could be a lie. the only way for you to know is if you see it with your own eyes. next time something like that happens tell her friend to prove it to and to show the evidence and not just tell you.

sorry it is long but i had so much to say that i could hel;p myslef.=)
♥ Steph

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Me (16/f) and my boyfriend (20/m) have recently started fooling around n stuff and the other day when he was figering my and i gave him a hand job and we were doing that n he just all of a sudden pulled "it" away and put "it" back in his pants. i dont know why though...any thoughts as to why he would do this?????

if he didnt cum then maybe he was about to and didnt want to. i mean you never know until you ask. i can only think of why he can do soemthign like that but they only way for you to find the truth is to ask. so ask him and he will tell you. one of the most important thing in a realtionship is communication so talk to him about it.
♥ steph

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You recently gave advice to me about my girlfriend whom i think could be cheatin on me.. thanks and io see your point about the password.. ( you said she just wants her privacy and may not be hiding anything ) i could see it that way except she asked for my password to just about everything i have one for.. insisted in fact.. and i gave them,.. but she still keeps hers to herself.. and i know she goes through stuff.. i just have nothin to hide.. but apparently she does
thanks for the time and anything else you might want to say.. you gave the best advice so i kinda turned to you.. before i go any further i guess i should let you tell me wether or not you want me pesterin ya = ) .. thanks, matt

no problem if you need anything else let me know i am here to help you.


about your girl i dont know if i told you this but maybe try talking to her and explainning to her about your sistuation and mayb she can open up a lil. if you have been with her a while explain to her how you dont want to through all of this away because of this.. in a realtionship the most important thing you need is TRUST and COMMUNICATION.

hope this helps. if u need anything else drop it in my inbox and i will help you out no matter what

or if you want my myspace is

http://www.myspace.com/sointoyoux0x

so hit me up if you need anything.
♥ Steph

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Tomorrow I'm going to SixFlags with my friend. For weeks she's been talking about the new big roller coaster, and I really wanna ride it with her, but I'm really afraid of heights. Help?

i am afraid of Hights but i LOVE rollercoster. but not to scare you but the one she is talking about is where you are laying on your stomach and it is like your flyin in the air.and you see everything on the floor. it is total cool. i loved it.it is possible that you like roller costers but not hights so relax and enjoy the ride;)

♥ Steph

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My friend thinks she's pregnant.
She wants an abortion.
She had sex a week and a half after her period. Its been quite a while since she got her last period.
Is there any way to get an abortion for someone 15? Where they dont have to tell their parents?

there is this thing/place called Planned ParentHood.

were you go in and let her get a pregnace test and if she wants an abortion she can get one without her parents knowing.

♥ Steph

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yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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hun as bad as you dont want to do this you have to leave him no matter what happens. you need a guy to love you for you and not to cheat on you. if he loves and respects you enough not to cheat on you then you know that he cares.

leave him ASAP.. he isnt worth your time or effort. it will tkaae time to get over him but do it. dont sit there and let him ruin your life. think about all the other guys you are missing out on.=)

♥ Steph

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Sorry this is long. This guy Mike and I have been going out for 3 months and I feel like it might be time to end it. He won't go any farther with me since he really respects me, but I've told him to and had my guy friends talk to him about it. (We've been to first and some of 2nd .. but never under the shirt) It's making me feel like there's something wrong with me. Yesterday he said "I love you" to me which he's only said online before. He's starting to be the more romantic person in our relationship and I'm the one that wants something physical lol. There's also the problem of how often I see him. He's at his dads a lot during the week & has to go down the shore with his mom during the weekends sometimes. I really do like him, don't get me wrong & I feel horrible because I want to end it with him. I know that if I do end it, I'll want to get back with him. What should I do? - Thanks

i am kinda in the same situation that you are in my advice to us is dont end something you want.

its like wanting to give a way your first Shirt and not knowing if you will ever get it back again. you get me?

talk to him about it more. wait it out.

it is like that now wit me and my bf i want all the physical and he doesnt as much and i have been with him for a year so yea. i understand where you are coming from but think about him..

he knows there are pervs out there that want to sex a girl and leave her. he just doesnt want to be like that, he loves you and doesnt want to hurt you..

****possiblity****
it can be that he hasnt done it be4 and is nerves about it which can cause him not to want to do it.

♥ Steph

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i hav a bf and hes rly sweet and nice, but i like neva get to see him cuz he lives in another town. wenever i go someplace and see a cute guy i always wanna flirt. is that bad since i already hav a bf? and since i wanna flirt wit otha ppl, does that mean i dont really like my bf as much as i thought?

i think your are perfectly fine. as long as you dont started kiss, or gettin sexual witht these guys then you got nothing to worry about.

if you just started going out witht his guy(2-3months) it is normal. your just trying to figure out if you really like him or not.

♥ Steph

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I just stopped taking birth control 5 days ago. I was only a few pills into the pack. About 4 days ago, I got my period (which is weird because I just got it a week ago). My period is also really heavy now which it never has been. Did I get my period because I stopped taking it and when will my period end?

yup your perfectly normal.=) i have been through that. i stopped but i was on ther last week of it and i got my peeriod and it was havy and horrible.

***this period will last longer and be havier then usual***

this is caused because your body started to get used to the pill which controled your period and your hermones and so your body has to get its self back on track and it does that by making your period longer and havier.

&herats; STeph

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alright well...me and my ex broke up about two months ago ...but we still kind of have feelings for each other! He has a new girlfriend. Last week i ran into them together and didnt really know what to say..so i didnt say anything. This next week we will proboly run into each other again...so what do i say {if anything} when i run into my ex and his girlfriend?

be your normal self. it mostly means he is over you or he is trying to get over you with her so i wouldnt worry about.

smile and say hey thats all you gotta do.
♥ STeph

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How do I burn my songs from limewire onto a CD?

ok everything everyone side under me is right but i got an easier way for you.(that is if you have windows media player) if not go to download.com and get it.

go on you limewire

click library

click explore

then a box that says sharded folder should pop up

find the songs you want on the CD

then RIGHT click on it

then click ADD TO BURN LIST

then windows media player pops up with your song

when your done insert cd and click burn

=)

♥ STeph

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why do thongs go up girls butts?
please answer
thank you

thongs are certain times of underwear that can be woren for dfferent reason.

1) so ur underwear line doesn show on tight pants

2) they can be more comfrontable

3) some guys like it bc it shows a girls ass without tthem having to take off a lot of clothing

to answer u question

it is just the way they are. a piece of string going up a girl.

♥ Steph

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I cuss a lot, and I want to stop. How can I stop cussing so much?

stop doing it is soemthin hard to do. something you can do is try to get so mad which can be a reason that you curse. think of different ways to say things that you usual say but without the cursing in it. hope this helps.


p.s

this will take time and pratice.

♥ Steph

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