There is no way that you can convince these people to think that there was a tie in the fight. Unfortunately, you have the marks on your face and she doesn't. So however unfair that may seem, your looks insinuates that you lost the fight, even though you know that is not how it happened. People will talk, so just let them. Something else will happen in a week or so, and your fight will be forgotten amongst the new drama. I suggest that you don't say anything to them at all, because it could just lead to another disagreement and result in another fight. Just stick with your true friends, and ride the waves on out.

Your friend is immature and needs to grow up. Her brain is in her panties, and that is the only think she is thinking about right now, herself. It is not your fault that she obbsesses and oogles over every guy that looks good. If that was the case, and you had to avoid anyone she liked, then you would be without a boyfriend for as long as she was your friend. I always believe in the quote that 'guys come and go, but friends are forever', but in this case, your friend is being selfish. If she can't be happy for you that a guy likes you, then what kind of friendship material does she possess? You need to tell her that she is being selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings, and that if she was a true friend, then she would be happy for you.

Wrong. Your friend is still in trouble until she admits that she has a problem and is willing to get help. Your parents, even though they may be concerned, can't make this girl get help. It is ultimately up to her parents to check her into a place that will help her with her problem. Mental disorders play a big part in any disorder, and your friend will need psycological help to get through this. She can't do this alone, and you can't help her either. It is better for you to get your friend help, then for your friend to suffer from long term health problems, or possibly even death. It is a shame that her parents can't take a more active role in her life and help her before it is too late. Try talking to a counselor at your school, because neither of her parents are willing to step up 100% to the plate.

The easiest thing for you to do is add your LiveJournal username to all of your icons, pictures and graphics. It makes the person who takes your graphic look really stupid when your username is written on it. Also, if you post personal pictures of yourself/friend/family members, and you have a graphics program like PS or PSP, then try adding a watermark to your pictures. It doesn't take away from the picture, but it does display an almost invisble word or words on the picture.

Tell him that the way he talks about sexual things bothers you, and it would make you more comfortable if he didn't talk like that around you. True, the average seventeen year old boy is horny, but that doesn't give him a right to be perverse with you. Alot of his bad habits seem cute at first, but after a while of redundancy, they can become very annying. A year is a long time (in teenage years) to be with someone, and if you want the relationship to last, then you should talk openly about problems between ya'll as soon as they happen. If he can't understand why you don't like the way he talks, then tell him what has happened in your past that has made you that way. Give him a little understanding, because I am sure that he will be confused about your sudden dislike of his bad habit.

It is always good to talk about it. In this situation, I think it would be easier just to talk to her about her feelings. Ask her how she feels about you and a potential relationship with you. Let her know that you aren't trying to pressure her into anything, but that you are tired of wondering and would just rather know for sure. Let her know that whatever she decides to do regarding you all, you will accept and remain her friend no matter what. It already sounds as if she has a lot of pressure from her parents and then the added pressure of her religion, she doesn't need anymore. You need to be her comfort zone. Listen to the way she talks. If she says more positive things about wanting to be with you, then you can express your feelings for her. But if she is more confused, then you should back down and let her think it through. It seems like your friend is very confused about her sexuality, and that there is too much conflict going on in her head. Just remember not to pressure her and be her open ear.

No one online can tell you if he will come back to you, you have to ask him that for yourself. If he leaves you because you cuss at him too much, then don't you think it is time for you to get yoru mouth into check? Seriously. If you love your fiance, then you should be willing to change the negative habits about yourself that affect your marriage. You also need to tell your fiance that he can't keep running away from you all's problems. He needs to be mature about your relationship and sit down with you and talk about what it is that is keeping you all from staying together. His leaving is pointless because he always comes back. So instead of him leaving, maybe you all need to try communicating, talking about and working through ya'lls problems.

I think you should finish getting your nursing degree and then work on your dermatology degree after that. While you are going to school to be a dermatologist, you can also be working as a nurse for extra income. It is nothing wrong with having two careers, and if you find out that you don't like dermatology in the end, then at least you will have another degree to fall back on.

You just answered your own question sweetie. You tell him exactly what you just put here. Let him know that you are willing to remain friends with him, but that is all. If he doesn't want to take that, then you should cut your friendship with him loose. He doesn't respect you at all because he cheated on you, regardless if he was drunk or not, you know when you are going to have sex with someone. Maybe you should spend less time talking to your ex and spend that time with your current boyfriend. It is so hard to find a diamond in the middle of thousands of pebbles.

I think it really depends on the individual. I think a person who is ready to have sex should have a deep understanding of herself and why she wants to have sex. A person's mental and emotional stability has a lot to do with how he/she handles the after affects of sex. If you are not well upstairs, then you shouldn't engage in sex. If you are not ready to be a mother/father, then you shouldn't have sex. If you don't enough information about STD's, then you shouldn't have sex. If you are only trying to have sex to keep your partner interested, then you shouldn't have sex. Sex is an act in any relationship that is very emotional and bonding. If you can't handle the emotions that you already have that come without sex, then you aren't ready to add on any more emotions.

The only thing that I can reiterate over and over again is that you have to talk to him. There is nothing that you can really do by yourself that will make your marriage get better. Your husband sounds very selfish, and is only taking his feelings into accountability, and that is wrong. In the end, you are placing most, if not all, of your marital problems on yourself. If he doesn't want to change and talk to you, then your marriage will never work out. Talk to him. Find out why he acts the way he does. You shouldn't have to keep your feelings bottled up on the inside. Let him know how he makes you feel and how you see your marriage. Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. That is all you can do. Stop putting all of the blame on yourself though. You did not make him selfish. You did not make him talk to you the way you did. You did not make him hard headed. You did not make him say awful things to you. He has recognize his faults and take responsibilty for him, and that is something you cannot make him do. If he can't talk to you like and adult, then you should re-evalute you relationship with him.

If they were your true friends, then they would never put you in a situation that would make you uncomfortable as forcing you to choose sides. If you still want to remain nuetral and keep your insanity intact, then you need to let both sides know that you will not choose sides, and that they shouldn't try to persuade you to do so either. Let both of them know that it makes you uncomfortable when they talk about the other to you because you still remain friends with both and if they could just keep their negative comments to themselves. If friend A has said mean stuff over a period of years, then maybe you should take a look at friend's A character. There are ways to say things, even if they are truthful but can be hurtful, with tact. If they still insist that you choose sides, maybe you should opt on expanding your social circle until this thing dies down. I have seen this oh so many times: You, being friend D, has decided to choose a side. Eventually, both sides decide to become friends again, and you will end up being disliked by the one whose side you did not choose.

NEVER keep your feelings bottled up inside. This will only make you a very bitter and sad person in the end. Now, I am getting a better understanding of your situation. I noticed that you said 'how can I get through to someone that I've hurt so bad..' If you have done the hurting to him, have you really and truly apologized to him? How long ago has this hurt happened? It takes time after someone has been to hurt to regain the trust/feelings/emotions that they had before. And even then, all of it cannot be regained. The only thing that I can think of is that you are trying to talk to him at the wrong time, without both of you willing to talk, but only when you want to talk to him, and that just wont work. When he is in a fould mood, let him vent and calm down on his own before trying to approach him. When he comes to you and ask you what is wrong, and you are calmed down, then that is when you all need to talk. Here is something that I got off of DrPhil.com that might be useful to you:

If you respond to stress or conflict with an ingrained pattern that includes avoidance, anger, denial, etc., it can get in the way of effective communication, distancing you even further from your partner. Dr. Phil suggests using the steps below in order to communicate with emotional integrity.

Give or receive input.
Be open to receiving input from your partner. You have to be willing to test and be tested. You don't have to say everything you're thinking, but everything you do say has to be accurate. If your partner asks you if you're upset, and you are, you have to be willing to say, "Yes." It's important that both partners know they are going to be told the truth.

Reflect content and feelings.
After receiving input from your partner, verify that what you are hearing is what your partner is actually saying. You've got to say, "What I hear from you content-wise is..." Then, to make sure you understand what he/she is feeling, you can say something like, "The feeling I'm getting from you is resentment/anger/hurt, etc."

Accept Feedback and Respond.
If you are the person who is giving the input, you have to clarify things if your partner isn't hearing what you are honestly trying to say. If you are the person receiving the input, you can respond once you know what you are responding to. Now that you are clear on what your partner is really saying, you can accept the feedback.

Stay in the moment.
Stay with the issues at hand. Do not discuss past history at any time during this process.

Do not leave.
Do not leave the discussion until it is completed. To keep it from dragging on, you can negotiate a time limit beforehand so that both of you know how long the conversation will last.

You will have to move your fonts one at a time to your Font folder. Here is what you need to do:

01. Right click on the first font.
02. After you right click, a little sub-menu will come up. Click on cut.
03. Next, go to start and then My Computer.
04. Double click on Local Disc {C:}.
05. Then double click on Windows.
06. You will see a lot of folders. Double click on the one that says Fonts.
07. After you do that, a list (or small squares) of all of your fonts will come up.
08.Right click in the white space, (NOT on a font) and you will see that sub-menu again.
09. This time, click paste.

That is it, you are all done.!

I can really relate to your problem (besides the boyfriend sharing). No one should be here to judge you, and the first thing I thought of when reading this was not that you are a slut. Every relationship is different, and yours just happens to include more people. (Here is a LiveJournal.com group that might interest you: www.livejournal.com/community/polyamory. It is a community full of people that are going through the same relationship situation as you.) If you are attracted to her, then you should talk to her and see if the feelings are mutual between the two of you. I would hold off on any move making until you find out how she feels about you first. I know of a lot of relationships like yours (with the three of you) that work out very well. Some couple-groups have been together for years. I hope everything turns out good for you in the end.

It sounds like this guy took what you said to him all wrong. He may have misinterpreted what you said to him, and what you wanted him to do. Many times with communicating, what you say is not always what they hear. The only way to fix this is to talk to him again. I always support talking to someone in person, but if you are better at expressing your emotions/feelings in writing, then try IM'ing him first. Don't beat around the bush, tell him straightforward how you are feeling and ask him what he thought you meant by saying that he was coming on too strongly. Guy's egos are very fragile, and it could be that he took your statement as a form of rejection, instead of you wanting to be comfortable with him first before spending too much time with him. Obviously he likes you a lot because he wrote about you in his journal. And how many guys do you know keeps a journal, let alone talks about the one they like in it? I still think that this can be repaired, but talk to him as soon as possible.

It looks as if your friend needs to stay out of your relationship with your boyfriend, but if you want her to do that then you need to stop talking about your boyfriend so much around her. Yes, it is good every once-in-awhile to express how much you care for him or talk about the way his eyes sparkle, but not excessively. It could be that your friend is jealous of your boyfriend and the amount of time you spend on him, and just doesn't know how to tell you this. And to set the record straight, as well as your friend, to be boy crazy you have to be infatuated with more then one boy at a time, not with just one boy. It just seems like you are in a really good relationship that makes you happy. When you are with your friend, try keeping the chatter about him down to a minimum or not at all if she gets offended so easily. My favorite quote in any relationship is: Boys will come and go, but friends last forever.

The first thing that stood out in your question is the phrase: Am I in love? If it is true love, then you shouldn't have to question yourself about it, you should know it by the way you feel for him, and from what I get from your small paragraph is that you have a strong like for him. If you really want to get back with your ex, then you need to talk to him. Apologize to him and tell him why you did what you did and how you feel about it now. You have to humble yourself in this situation because you were in the wrong. If he has the same feelings for you that you do for him, then he will be willing to take you back. But don't count your chickens before they hatch. He might be really hurt by this and not willing to put his emotions through that again.

No, it is not stupid to want to impress a guy by dressing nicely and doing your hair nice for him. But he should also be impressed by what you can offer him intellectually as well. I don't know so much about trying to impress him. You shouldn't have to try to make a guy like you, he should like you for the qualities that you already possess. Never mold yourself into something you think a guy would like, but be yourself. Because in the end, the charade will fade and he will eventually see the real you.

You asked for advice, and I am going to give it to whether or not it is what you want to hear or not. The only way to solve this problem with him is to talk to him about it. Point blank. He will never know how upset he is making you unless you tell him. And if you have been friends with someone for seven years, then there shouldn't be a problem with you telling him exactly how you feel. A true friend gives your feelings the upmost respect. And a true friend would want to know when he/she is hurting another friends feelings. If he isn't the kind of person to get mad at you for expressing your feelings, then you should have no fear in talking to him. If you just can't talk to him about your problem, then what are you saying about your friendship? That it isn't important enough to save? Talk to him, and see where it goes from there.

I am a 22 year old mother of two that has had to grow up a lot faster then her years. I have been married for four years, but now am seperated from my significant other due to lack of his being able to handle a mature relationship. I can relate to almost anyone, and have been sought out, both online and off, for my advice. I answer all questions truthfully and honestly. If I don't know an answer to a question or I think other resources would be helpful, then I go into researh mode until I find an answer or the proper resource. I aspire to be a life coach in the future, because I like helping people make decisions to make their life better for their future. I am here not only to answer advice questions on this site, but to also chat with you if you feel like you need a more indepth one-on-one help.

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