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Hi.
Well, my friends have all fallen out and I'm finding it really difficult to not take sides. Friend A said something nasty about friend B and friend C took friend B's side. This means that A is mad at C because she didn't take her side.
However, the nasty thing that A said was, in my opinion justified...
No-one is A's friend and I try and stick up for her because I don't think it's fair that B and C just slag her off behind her back all the time, but that makes them hate me. I want to take A's side even more when they do that. Plus friend B is SO annoying and is always doing weird stuff like humping us (seriously...everyone thinks we're lesbians or something) and messing up our hair and all this crap. So I should take friend A's side, right? Wrong. Friend A has said some really mean stuff over the years, none directed at me but I can't deny that it makes me wonder what she's thinking about ME. All their arguing is driving me crazy and I have to do something, and I don't want to take sides but it feels like I'm being forced to - B and C are horrible to me every time I talk to A. What can I do?
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you sit them all down and you say listen.I like you all.If you want to hate each other fine.I want to be friends with all of you. So, I will be your friend but I do not want to hear one bad word said to me about any of the others.I am neutral.Fight among yourselves and leave me out of it.Then stay out of it.Talk to whom you want.If the others have a problem with it then the heck with them.
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Beat them. Wear a belt with a some metal stuff on it, then when they get mad. BEAT EM IN TO THE FLOOR. And them hump their dead bodies. Or knock them out. And hump their KO'd bodies.
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wow ive been here alot, but anyway, you should take friend A's side. she'll really be happy that someone is on here side. now she probably feels terrible cause her two x-friends are ganging up on her. the odds r better, u & A vs. B & C, rather than A vs. B & C. lots of luck!!!!!
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If they were your true friends, then they would <b>never</b> put you in a situation that would make you uncomfortable as forcing you to choose sides. If you still want to remain nuetral and keep your insanity intact, then you need to let <b>both</b> sides know that you <b>will not</b> choose sides, and that they shouldn't try to persuade you to do so either. Let <b>both</b> of them know that it makes you uncomfortable when they talk about the other to you because you still remain friends with both and if they could just keep their negative comments to themselves. If friend A has said mean stuff <b>over a period of years</b>, then maybe you should take a look at friend's A character. There are ways to say things, even if they are truthful but can be hurtful, with tact. If they still insist that you choose sides, maybe you should opt on expanding your social circle until this thing dies down. I have seen this oh so many times: You, being friend D, has decided to choose a side. Eventually, both sides decide to become friends again, and you will end up being disliked by the one whose side you did not choose.
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If at all possible try not to take sides, but i know how friends can be sometimes, if they tell you that you have to chose sides or they'll be mad at you ask them why they are making you chose between your friends and put them on the spot tell them real friends wouldn't make you chose
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you could try 2 make all your friends together again. all of u should sit down and talk bout all da negative things about each other that ya dont like and work it out. but if you dont really like what they are doing tell them an d tell if they dont stop fghting your not gonna be friends with them no more.i hope i helped!
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If they keep on forcing you about these stuff, and forcing you to take sides, then don't take the crap from them, and yell about their bull-headiness. I agree with you, it's really annoying when problems about these arises. Tell them the HARD,BLUNT TRUTH! if they don't listen to you (especially A, if she started this then you have to tell her) then screw them. It's not your problem, YOU shouldn't worry about it.
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