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My Best Friend is confused!!
My best friend and I are both girls and I'm 14 and she's 13. We have experimented 3 times and we've liked it each time(nothing below the belt). On one day she says she wants a boyfriend really bad,then other days she says that she wishes she could be with me and life would be so much easier and i'm the only one who listens to her seriously and cares and truly understands.I feels she very insecure about her liking for me because she feels God won't love us becuase she's sinning and that her parents will not except her anymore. Her parents barely except her now and they really don't take her seriously and they really don't trust her with the simpliest things. I wonder if she really wants to be with me because she would believe that our love for each other can't stop God from loving us and our love can conquer over her parents. Also on some days she made a strong statement that she wants to find her partner in life thats a man. She would only go for woman if they were the last human species on earth. I thought that was harsh and cold blooded because every time we experimented we never thought about any males while we were being affectionate to each other. I know for sure i'm bisexual and i'm comfortable with that, but the way my best friend talks it seems like she's confused big time about herself. I'm wondering if i should talk to her about it or she just needs to figure it out on her own. I'm ready to talk to her about it, but i want a second option on what I should do.
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well she is your bestfriend so i understand why you might like each other in that way.you are very young to know if you are in love and it seems like she is confused big time maybe shes not into girls but wants to try it out becuase shes young and foolish. who knows the best thing to do is let her deal with it on her own. Becuase to be honest with you i dont even think she knows what she wants yet.
just give her time
hope i helped
love always maria
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It is always good to talk about it. In this situation, I think it would be easier just to talk to her about her feelings. Ask her how she feels about you and a potential relationship with you. Let her know that you aren't trying to pressure her into anything, but that you are tired of wondering and would just rather know for sure. Let her know that whatever she decides to do regarding you all, you will accept and remain her friend no matter what. It already sounds as if she has a lot of pressure from her parents and then the added pressure of her religion, she doesn't need anymore. You need to be her comfort zone. Listen to the way she talks. If she says more positive things about wanting to be with you, then you can express your feelings for her. But if she is more confused, then you should back down and let her think it through. It seems like your friend is very confused about her sexuality, and that there is too much conflict going on in her head. Just remember <b>not</b> to pressure her and be her open ear.
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Give her some space and time she will come round and find that she needs you as much as you need her. If her parents are like that then they should be able to understand but i guess they might find it a bit hard to because of the way they are. God loves everyone no matter if you sin or who you fall for its not your fault you have these feelings.
luv roxie
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i think you should give her time and respect what ever her feelings are. im also a christian and know thats a sin so if it were me i would just want some time to think thourgh. good luck hope i helped
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You are a girl who doesent care what the world thinks about u, but some people are different.I think you should talk to her about it. And ask her if she feels uncomfortable.
I hope i helped.
Lu, Tor
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Okay. TOuch her below the waist. Then talk about it.
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