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Okay,
I know this is easy but I get confused.
I normally take my bc pill at 1;00pm
but because we moved the time forward
should I take my pill at 2:00pm instead?
or should i just keep taking it at 1?
what is the best idea?
I am sexually active, I don't want to take
chances thats why I'm trying to figure this out..
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If you like to take it at 2 PM because of the time change, that will be just fine, and it will also be fine if you keep it at 1 PM. As long as you are 1 hour before or 1 hour after, you are totally fine with medicine.
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why cant i have a gurlfriend (link)
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This is a very vague questions, however, I will give you some advice that you may find helpful.
I am guessing that your parents will not let you date, or the girl you like does not share the same feelings as you. If it's your parents, then you should talk it over with them (if you're at least 14-15) and explain to them, as well as show them, how responsible you are and that you are trustworthy.
If it's a girl you like who doesn't share the same feelings for you, then remember, there are so many other girls out there that will want to date you. These things take time and most generally, if they do take time, they are worth the time. It's the ones you rush that seem to fade away.
Incase its neither and it seems that you just cannot get a girlfriend in general, every boy, as well as girl, usually goes through this stage. It seems like no one "likes" you, when in actuality, they do and they just do not know how to show it or sometimes you miss the signals as they are not always clear.
Either way, best of luck to you friend. You will get that girlfriend soon, I'm sure.
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Im getting my hair dyed professionally and its going to cost me about $50. Assuming the hairdresser does a good job, how much should I tip? Thanks. (link)
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I would say about 15%, that's how much I tip. In your case, that would come to $7.50, you may want to add some to it and make it $10-12, if she does a real good job.
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I really want to be popular. Not popular as in "hello, im stuck up and im better than everybody." I wanna be popular as in BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE! i dont know how to start a conversation with strangers. any suggestions on how i can achieve this? (link)
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I wrote this advice especially for people in your situation, best of luck, I can tell you'll be friends with everyone in no time. :)
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=521125
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do you always bleed when you lose your virginity? can you feel your cherry with your fingers? can you pop it that way? or does it NEED to be intercorse? (link)
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Most generally, you will spot. However, not every girl does, and it is nothing to fear as far as that goes -- however, be sure not have sex until you are fully ready for it. You can't really feel it with your fingers, and it is most generally broken (as the "cherry" you are referring to is your hymen) by sex, however, many girls break their hymen by the simplest things such as inserting a tampon, doing sports, etc. However, don't try to break your hymen, that isn't a good idea and it's perfectly normal to spot the first time, so no need to be afraid about that.
Again, please be sure you are ready to have sex when you choose to have it, and when you are ready, do not fear the spotting if you may have any -- nothing to be worried about.
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Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good? (link)
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I use pads and recommend Poise. However, when I do use tampons, I use Tampax Pearl.
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I'm 15 years old.. a freshman.. and i like his sophmore guy. lets call him D. my friend is R. well anyways my R has liked D for about a month. but ive liked D for like.. around 5-6 months.. she has NO idea what i feel about him.. in fact i told her that i didnt like him cause i couldnt trust her with my secret.. D told me that he dislikes R. R doesnt even TALK to D.. only on msn for liek.. 2 min once a week!
WHAT DO I DO (link)
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I don't recommend telling your friend you like "D" because it sounds like she will tell him before you do. So my advice is to talk to "D," let him know how you feel if he doesn't already know, and see if he feels the same way. If so, talk to your friend and she should understand -- if not, she's not being much of a friend to you. You have liked him for a much longer period of time and you two actually talk, and communication is key in any relationship.
So talk to "D" and tell him how you feel, if things work out, talk to your friend and she will understand if she's a good friend. If she doesn't, do not worry about it, you don't have anything to feel bad about and she will most likely come around anyhow.
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sorry if this is in the wrong category, i didnt really know which category to put it in. :/
so basically i am really, really clumsy. i trip and fall over things constantly. any way i could become more graceful?
also, i do not have much athletic ability. im tired of embarassing myself in gym class and i want to be a good athlete. im not overweight, im actually very slim but i dont have much muscle. any beginner workout tips?
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I recommend walking or jogging. Walking is such a great thing for your heart, your body in general, and it helps you gain muscle -- it's the perfect training. :) Jogging or running is good also, but you get more wore out when you run, and walking is actually healthier for you, also.
Good luck!
P.S. Remember to pace yourself. Start out at 1/2 or 1 mile, then up to 2 miles, and so on. Your legs will bother you a bit if you are not used to walking (I have been there), but as you continue to walk daily, it will not continue to bother you.
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Ok so there's this guy I like. He knows I like him and 50% of the time he acts like I'm not in the room. And the other 50% he acts like he wants STUFF for me. I'm head over heels for him and I don't know what to do. Please help me. (link)
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This guy is a jerk, I am sorry to say it, but it is true. If a guy really likes you, he'll want you in the room with him and he'll introduce you to everyone he sees and so on, he won't act like you aren't there. That's the type of guy who only wants that 50% for things that he does not deserve nor should you give him, you shouldn't even give him the time of day. He is so not worth it. I understand you are really liking him at the moment, but honey, he's just not good for you or for any girl for that matter. Find someone else who will treat you right, treat you as you deserve, and want to be with you in any room with any person around -- those are the good guys.
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Yesterday I've started noticing a mini red bump near my clitoris, and today I felt another to the right of my vagina.
I've only had one sexual partner, and the last time I had sex was 3 weeks ago. Is it possible that I have herpes?
Please help :(
Rachel/Female/16/Australia (link)
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It is possible, however, it could also be something very minor and easy to take care of. To be sure, contact your doctor and have it checked out just to be sure. Good luck friend, everything will be okay. :)
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So, there is this guys that really likes me..like alot. and i think he is really cute, but not my type really. now there is this other guy who is pretty much every girls dream guy, except for one thing! he is so cocky and kinda rude! i have kissed him before and i miss him alot. i want to be with him. but i dont want to hurt the guy who likes me alot.. ahh.. what do i do??
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Well friend, as an advice columnist, I cannot tell you to go back to that rude guy. Listen, I know he may look like a cool drink of water (Carrie Underwood's words), but he's not a nice guy. You don't want to be with a guy who's cocky and rude, he will treat your badly. It may not seem like it now, but he will if you get together with him. These guys are only good for hurting girls, so I can't recommend him.
However, since you don't like the guy who really likes you, I think you should just be honest with him and let him know that he is very sweet and you are flattered, however, you do not share the same feelings as he does -- but you're love to be great friends.
Best of luck girl, I know you'll do the right thing. :)
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can you have sex when you are on your period? (link)
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Yes, you certainly can, however, I've heard it's a little painful.
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this boy in my class wich im good friends with found out the other day that i like him as more than a friend, he never said much about it but were not really talking to each other much now and i find it hard to look him in the eye with out it feeling awkawrd. what shall i do ? (link)
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The best thing to do it to let it go and go on as normally. You see, these things unfortunately happen -- they definitely are not fun, however, they are avoidable by putting yourself in the mindset that you are going to let it go. In fact, the more you act like it never happened, the most you show this guy it doesn't bother you. :)
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in few words, im absouluty in love with this girl. i know she loves me as well. but we split up about 3 months ago. she is now with this other guy. she said she love me and this guy is holding her back. i desprately want to be with her. and she is torn between us two. her current Bf stole her from me. he drew her in by his willingness to rush into a physical relationship. i was a bit hesitant because i wanted it to be specail when it actualy happend. so thats realy it. that wasnt nearly as short as i wanted it to be. (link)
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Talk to her and let her know that she needs to make a choice because you can't just be stringed along, no matter how much love you have for her (which I can tell that you, which is very sweet). Explain to her how much you love her, want to be with her, and why you wanted to wait longer (which I think she should admire, most guys do the whole rushing thing and it never works out). Best of luck my friend, and remember, if she doesn't leave this guy, just know you are a great guy and you'll find a girl who will treat you just as good, someday.
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hiw do u stretch to make your toe touches higher? (link)
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I recommend stretching at least 15-25 minutes daily, also, walking will help tone and strengthen your legs (which definitely help make your tow touches higher).
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Well, I just moved to a new school and I am really upset about it because well, in my old school there was this guy and he used to live in my building and we were in the same class and were really good friends. We liked the same things and so on but i guess I started likeing him but he didn't like me back, now I am in a new school and I don't know if I should move on or wait because i really really liked him! (link)
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Unfortunately, he does not share the same feelings as you do, in which is totally his loss (but at least you still have a good friend - you could still talk on the phone, just with no expectations). This means you should move on and you are in a new school, which means a school full of new guys to meet. Go out there and have fun, show off your personality and let yourself shine. :)
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Well I love my boyfriend of 3 yrs next week with all of my heart im 13 and want to do something more than hold hands. I want a more sexual feeling. I get turned on when ever I am with him. BTW I am gonna be at a club meeting and I would like to do it in the van I have 3 questions
1. Would it be odd if I put my hand on his jeans where his dick is?
2.Any ideas as to what I should do
3.Should I kiss him (link)
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Well deary, I do not doubt that you love your boyfriend of three years (and congratulations for being together so long, much longer than most couples your age), however, you are only thirteen. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but believe me, it is what you need to hear. You have so much time for this and a lot of complications can come from trying to get that "sexual feeling" when you're too young or its too soon. The true test to a relationship is waiting, see if your relationship lasts another 3 years and then start thinking about a sexual relationship because you will understand more at that time.
However, I don't think there is anything wrong with kissing or holding each other and those sweet little things you can do to show your love, I just do not recommend anything other than that until you get older.
1. I wouldn't call it odd, but extremely inappropriate at your age. Wait until you get older, this can bring a lot of complications and you both could rush things even more and that's really not a good idea, friend.
2. Assuming this is in general, as I mentioned before -- kissing, holding each other, etc. Those things are really nice to do and are appropriate.
3. Well, you should kiss if him if you like to and I think that's okay for your age. :)
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is the barcode the mark of the beast fake or real a lot of people are saying it's all lies and some are saying it's real and it's honestly getting to me and scaring me ?
and is the world even gonna end in 2012 ? (link)
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1. The world is not going to end in 2012. The Bible says we will not know the day that the world will end, therefore, there is no way that these people claiming the world will end in 2012 would even know.
2. By the mark of the beast I assume you mean "666," that is real. The people who say that it is lies are those who do not believe in the Bible, which is every person's choice, but it holds the truth regardless. But yes, "666" is the true mark of the beast, that can be read in Revelations, if you would like to know more about it
P.S. Please don't be scared sweetie, no need to be afraid because it will not end in 2012.
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so there are the seasons episodes.. and there are something called character video diaries too? what are those for? do we watch them in order or anything? can anyone clarify this? thanks (link)
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Video diaries are just to give you more information on each character -- just fun little tid-bits of information. And no, there is no need to watch them in any particular order.
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heyy you may not know the answer to this..like for vacation we're going to the yucatan penisula, the riviera maya and im sorta freaked out are we gonna get killed in the drug war? (link)
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I cannot say that I know much about these places, however, I am sure that it is safe as these tourist attractions go out of their way for safety reasons and I'm sure you will be just fine. :)
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