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I really want to be popular. Not popular as in "hello, im stuck up and im better than everybody." I wanna be popular as in BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE! i dont know how to start a conversation with strangers. any suggestions on how i can achieve this?
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my advice is just be your self i know it doesnt seem right but trust me it is nothing like having friends you can be around.
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Yea, being popular is pretty hard to randomly just "Achieve" i guess... it's kinda something that you have to BE, live, breath... you know? but it CAN be achieved. so yea, u should start by getting more into "society's mold", and when i say that, i mean, you should kinda know whats going on, like, what celebrities did a REALLY embarrassing thing, what songs are clearing the top hits, the TOP HEADLINES that are really popular, and basically what's in and out. so when your starting a conversation with someone, you can just talk about something really common, something people like talking about. usually has to do with celebrities!! :P
and I'm not saying be pretty and hot and all, just try not to make yourself look firkin disgusting, so that no one would be caught dead 20 meters near u!!! so yep, good hygiene definitely, and yea, have a sense of humor! and also don't be shy, and NEVER think that the person doesn't wanna talk, cause trust me, 98 % of the time, the person is either too shy to start the conversation, or uncomfortable. so ease up, laugh a bit, crack a joke or two. but make sure you're NOT ANNOYING, cause you can tell when someone tries WAY TOO HARD!! so yea, good luck! :)
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I wrote this advice especially for people in your situation, best of luck, I can tell you'll be friends with everyone in no time. :)
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Start off by giving someone a compliment. It will make them feel better about themself and they will unconsciously like you more. But don't be fake about it (if you are, it'll backfire on you)! Compliment them on something you truly like about them, like a cool shirt or pretty eyes.
Also, people love a good listener way more than someone who only talks about herself. Don't overwhelm the person with stories about yourself; instead, ask them questions and just listen to what they have to say. Don't ask them really personal questions or push them if they don't want to answer, just little things like, "What kind of music are you into?" or "What do you like to do in your spare time?" Not many people have the patience to just listen to another person, but people really appreciate it when you do.
More importantly, remember what people tell you! Listening to someone doesn't mean anything if you forget all of what they said. Pretending to listen can get you in real trouble later. For example, if they tell you something really significant like how their dog died yesterday, and you don't remember and then start talking about how cute puppies are and ask them if they have a dog, things will get very awkward.
The big thing, which connects to all my other tips is: show them you care! Even the tiniest thing, like telling them that you hope they have a good day, will make a big difference. Good luck!
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If you work in groups in school pick different people to be in your group. Just strike up everyday conversations about the weather and what-not and go from there.
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Popularity is over-rated.
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Okay, if you wanna be one of the people that everybody likes to be around you have to be nice! Always smile and be friendly. If you want to start a conversation with someone at school just walk up to them introduce yourself and then ask what their name is. Its not wierd at all. Popularity isn't just about what you wear, or who your friends with. To be popular is to be liked by people..so as long as you have your friends, are nice to every one, and have a good attitude you'll be popular..even if its not the snotty preppy type.
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just don't be afraid to be yourself. remember, if you are nice to them, start the convo. with something great like "hey, i love your shirt! where'd you get it?" then they wont be afrais of acting like <themselves] to you~!
hope i helped
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(TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE ANSWERING THIS QUESTION!!)1:(If you go to school) My advice is to meet the people who are around you in your class and through them you might get to know a lot more people. It's easier to make friends with people who are often around you, and once you start to hangout with them, you can talk to the people that hangs out with them. My advice on the additional info situation is just to pick the people carefully, because some people are snobby, and some people are friendly. *When you see people who are sitting alone, go up to them and say hi, because it's easier to become friends with them rather than in a group*
2:Okelie-Dokelie! 1st off, it's absolutely IMPOSSIBLE to be friends with everyone. Believe me...I've tried. 2nd, all you have to do is to try to be nice to people. Oh, and be yourself (...duh...) *unless you SERIOUSLY need an attitude adjustment*. Don't ever just follow the crowd and agree with everyone just to be liked. People can tell and it's REALLY ANNOYING!!! People like opinions, even if they're different than others (if they don't, then they don't deserve friends). 3rd, (for the additional info thingy) I almost always go up to people and say, HI I'M K#####, WHAT'S YOUR NAME?!" it usually works, and if it doesn't, I try again another day, but mellower.) And 4th, wear a shirt with your astrology sign on it, it's a great conversation starter. I've met like, 10 people that are virgos also, and a-gagillion who aren't! Okay, I hope we answered your questions!! WE LOVE YOU!!!!!!! BUH-BYE!!!!!!! ASK AGAIN!!!!!!!! BYE!!!!!! ^.^
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no i do that all the time.
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For me it is easier to go up to someone and talk about things you have in common with them, or complament them. Be like - wow your shoes are so cute... It alwayse breaks the ice and people won't think you are crazy
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Be nice to EVERYONE. Even the people you can't stand. Offer things to people, and show them that you're welcoming. Like if someone says "oh shit I forgot my pencil!" be like, "Here, I have an extra one. Keep it!"... do things like that, but not to the extent where people will take advantage of you. everyone likes people who are nice!
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if sum1 asked me wats my name and stuff i wouldnt think they were weird i think they are kool cuz yeah...umm join sports or clubs...and try complementing people be lyk cute shirt i have one just lyk it or sumtin and you can feed off of that convo! i hope i help!
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Just be open, dont be closed minded, dont stick to just ONE kind of group, and no i wouldnt think they were weird just really friendly :-)
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That is so awesome that you wanna be friends with everyone not just one goup of people.I am like that too!But by the looks of your question im getting the feeling that you a shy type of girl and thats ok but thats the first step that you have to take.Get over that phobia.The worst thing that could happen by talking to someone new is that they are not nice to you and dont wanna be your friend.So what if they are like that you probly didnt wanna be their friend anyway and im sure they are missing out!So just kind of study people first.See how they dress,see whats on their binder stuff like that.You might find something that you have in common and just talk about that.Also if you find someone that you really wanna be friends with just walk up to them be happy,yourself,and words will come to you!But have something in mind!
Hope I helped
*Lacey
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I'd say to just be fRiendly. Don't be afRaid to speak out in class - that's a gReat way to get eveRyone to notice you! And when you see fellow classmates in the hallway, smile and say hello. OR if you get to school a bit eaRly in the moRning, and you see one oR two of them togetheR, walk oveR to 'em and say "Hey.. how's it goin'?" I know it may seem a bit cheesey, but think about it.. hasn't anyone eveR done that to you? And most of the time it makes you feel good, doesn't it? So why not make somoene else feel good! And anotheR good way to meet people is to tRy joining clubs, spoRts, band, etc. Most of the time, to get noticed you Really have to put youRself out theRe! Just neveR be afRaid of what someone else will think of you.. just go foR it and have a good time!! I wish you the best of luck!! Hope I helped!! =D
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well... if it really is a stranger, you start a conversation by sticking out your hand and saying.. "hello i'm.." , nice to meet you... then the basics.. so what grade are you... blahity. someone who is truly friends with everyone has to be a friend to everyone. so... if youre up to the challenge... what you reallly need to do is be as nice as you can be, to everyone all the time. and outgoing. but dont be friends with people you dont like, or that treat you badly. good luck
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You can try and compliment people to start off a conversation. Say somthing like "Hey I love your shit, I was going to get that, did you get it from AE?" Then you'll start talking about it and get into more of a convertsation. Hope that helped. -Jenny
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join a team or some after school clubs and meet some people.
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