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Is a guy who has a girlfriend completely off limits? Why do you think that way?
Yes, a guy who has a girlfriend is off limits. He belongs to someone else. And just because you may want him, doesn't make it okay to try and take him. Think about it... if you liked someone else's purse, or ipod, or cell phone, would you try to steal it from them if you had the chance? I hope not. Trying to take someone's boyfriend is the same thing. It's just wrong. There's even a commandment against it: "You shall not covet your neighbor's wife... or anything that belongs to them." Coveting means wanting something that belongs to someone else, and that applies to boyfriends, too.
Ok, I have this best friend, I'll call her Sierra. Now, Sierra is great and everything, but she's a little... well, to be honost, she's a complete poser. But instead of posing as a certain stereotype [skater, prep, emo, etc.] She copies me! She ALWAYS does what I do! Don't get me wrong, I am flattered, but it's annoying, especially when people actally believe her about things she says she does. Like art, for example. I've had a huge passion for drawing since Pre-K. My dad's side of the family were artists, so I kind of grew up around the environment. I have a sketchbook that I take to school, to doodle when I get bored in class. Ok, a few weeks ago, I had my sketchbook out in study hall and was doodling, when she comes up and asks me what i'm doing. I answered and then she goes off about how she "loves to draw too!" and "what a coincidance!". I have never, I mean NEVER, heard or saw any of this sudden artistic surge before, from her. She went on and on about how she was a "deep thinker artisticly inclined" [her exact words] person, and said she would bring her sketchbook so we could "study each other's artistic skills". Well, she goes out that night and buys her self one of those little kid's diaries, with lined, pink pages, and about the size of a regular chapter book. It was brand new, and I knew this for a fact, because it had a price tag on it.
That's just one example. Another;
My dad and I absolutely LOVE the Beatles. My dad has almost all of their cd's and some records and I've got most downloaded on my ipod. I've loved them for a while, and all my friends knew it, but until Sierra came along, no one really cared. She came along and decided she suddenly "loved the beatles" also. She only knows one song by them, but she acts like she knows all about them.
There are many other circumstances too. It has gotten to the point where she has even begun to dress like me! She wears the same shirt I do every day in gym. Don't get me wrong, it's flattering, but it's gotten to the point where it's a little infuriting. However, we happen to be best friends. I don't know how that worked out though, but we are best friends, since I DO like her as a person. It's just annoying as hell for someone to copy every move you make or thing you say. How do I let her know how much it annoys me, without actually saying it to her face? She's a tad Bipolar and gets set off very easily. I just don't want to ruin our friendship. Thanks.
Well, you're right. She's copying you because she admires you and wants to be like you. She may also think that it will strengthen your friendship; the more you have in common, the closer you'll be. So she does all she can to show you how much "alike" you are.
But yeah, it's definitely annoying when someone copies you! I've had it happen to me, and I always wondered why it bothered me so much. We should be flattered, right? So why is it so irritating? I think the reason is...
We all have certain traits that make us unique, make us who we are. Like your drawing, and love of the Beatles. When someone else copies that, it's not unique to us anymore; it's like they've stolen some of our individuality. Suddenly your sketchbook doesn't make you special anymore, because your friend does it, too.
But the truth is, you're a lot more than just your style and talents and interests. It's the combination of all those things that makes you unique. And no matter how hard she tries, she will never be able to duplicate ALL those things. Even if she succeeds in imitating some things, there's no way she can ever BE you. And everyone else knows that. It's obvious to everyone that YOU'RE the artist, and that she's copying YOU.
What your friend probably needs is a little confidence boost, so she can feel good about her own unique qualities. It might help for you to pick a few of her good traits and really make a big deal about them. Let her know that you really like some of the things that make her DIFFERENT from you. Then she might not need to copy you so much.
Hope this helps, and good luck! =]
okay..lets say..im a girl..and my dad's brother's son (my cousin) has a son..
would that son be my cousin or my nephew..?
He's your first cousin once removed.
The "removed" thing means that you're cousins, but one generation apart from each other.
When you have a kid, he and your cousin's kid will be second cousins to each other.
how did the renaissance cause the reformation? i just dont understand..any help DETAILED help is appreciated. thank you.
The renaissance was a time of renewed interest in learning. Education became very important, and more and more people began learning to read, and write, and think for themselves. Naturally, this included reading the bible and interpreting it for themselves, rather than relying on the Roman Catholic church to tell them what it said and meant, as they'd done in the past. People began to question some of the Church's practices, which is what the reformation was all about.
Ok, I absolutely HATE my nose!!! I have a bump nose, and it's terrible! I would get plastic surgery, but i'm only 14 :[ is there any way to change it without plastic surgery? I live in Arkansas so I don't know if there is somewhere to go or anything. And please don't preach to me about how getting plastic surgery is "wrong". I don't care, it would make my self confidence a HELL of a lot better! THANKS!
Unfortunately, there's no way to change your nose without cosmetic surgery. Trust me, I've looked, because I hate my nose, too! And most people probably WILL tell you to accept it, that it makes you who you are, that you're beautiful the way you are, etc. But I think if you really hate your nose, and it's a major issue for you, then there's nothing wrong with getting it fixed. If it will make you feel better about yourself, then why not do it?
Of course, you'll probably have to wait a while. Most plastic surgeons won't work on you until you're 16-18, to make sure your nose and face have stopped growing. And if you're underage, you'll need your parent's permission... not to mention the $6000-8000 it costs for a nose job. But when you reach the point when you're old enough, and can afford it... if it's still bothering you, then there's nothing wrong with looking into it.
In the meantime... try to keep in mind that your nose bothers YOU a lot more than it bothers anyone else. You might imagine that people are always looking at you and thinking "Ugh, look at her nose!"... but honestly, they really aren't!! They don't give it a second thought. Think about it... when you look at your friends, do you focus on their flaws? Do you think, "Wow, her boobs are small!" or "Ugh, her ears stick out!" Of course not. You just see THEM, your friends. And that's how people see you, too... as the person you are and all the wonderful qualities they love about you.
So, until you actually have the chance to get your nose fixed (if you ever decide to do it), try not to dwell on it. Focus on the things you like about yourself, and others will focus on those things, too. =]
I was just thinknig today, and this came across my train of thought...
How well do you think that you could get to know somebody without ever actually meeting them face to face?
Do you think you could get to know somebody well enough to form a real friendship?
A relationship?
Or nothing at all.
I just want some other opinions :)
Yeah, I definitely think you can become friends with someone without ever meeting them. I have a ton of people I've met online who I consider friends, and I feel like I know some of them pretty well. In fact, I've actually gone on to meet some of them in person.
Of course, when you're talking to someone you haven't met in person, there's always a chance that they aren't being completely honest about themselves. And I'm not just talking about weirdo stalker guys posing as teenagers. What I mean is, some people might fib about themselves a bit - about their looks, their accomplishments, their personal situtations - because they think it will make them sound better. (Of course, even people you meet in person can do that!) So I guess you can never be 100% certain that you truly *know* someone you haven't met in person. But if you enjoy your conversations, and talking to them adds something good to your life, then I think you can definitely consider them a friend.
i wanted to get back into reading again, its just really hard for me to find a book that keeps me interested enough to want to read the whole thing threw
my absolute favorite book was The Uglies,
so if anyone can give me the name of a few titles thatd be cool
Go to Amazon.com and search for The Uglies and other books you've enjoyed. When it comes up, you'll see a part that says something like "People who bought this book also bought..." That will give you a list of books similar to the ones you like. Good luck! =]
Ok so this girl (use to be my friend but she just ended up being a boy crazed jerk) told me this boy, Erin, liked me. She asked me if I liked him and I said no (I'm not really into boys yet). And like her jerky self she went and told Erin that I didnt like him. It broke his heart. I would never tell a boy I dont like him I would say somthing like "I like you alot too but not like that I just want to stay friends for now". But my jerky friend would say somthing like "There is no way she would ever like you". What should I do, my jerkey friend really broke his heart and the blame is on me. All advice apreciated.
Have one of your other friends talk to Erin. She can tell him, "What that other girl told you wasn't exactly true. She DOES like you a lot as a friend, but she just doesn't want a boyfriend right now." Or, if you have the guts, you could tell him that yourself. Good luck! =]
We just started volleyball and I already have these huge bruises all over my arms and there's like these little red dots everywhere on them.
It doesn't hurt but it just looks really painful and gross. I just want to know, can bruises scar? Like if my arms are liek this constantly, it'll look like that forever? (Like how they say if you got acne and don't do anything, it'll scar)
No, your arms won't look like that forever. Once you've stopped playing volleyball, the bruises will heal and you'll be back to normal. In the meantime... try taking some extra vitamin C. That helps prevent bruising. You might also want to ask your coach if she has any suggestions for you. I'm sure you're not the only volleyball player to have this problem, and your coach might know of some way to prevent it or make it not so bad.
how do u get rid of a war on a hand
does it even go away
I've had warts before and tried everything. The only thing that worked for me was having the doctor freeze it off. It's really easy; he just sprays this real cold stuff on it, and it falls off in about a week.
Oh, there IS another thing you could try. The lady who does my nails is like a gypsy lady from Romania, and she told me: take a kernal of corn and rub it on your wart; go to the very back of your back yard first thing in the morning and throw the corn over your shoulder, and leave it there for the birds to eat. She swears it works! Ha ha! I never tried it, but ya never know! lol
Ok so I do love my girlfriend, I know it will sound weird given the title of my question, but I do love her. She's my best friend and we've been together 15 months, I see her almost everyday and when I don't see her I miss her. We do loads together, we have dinner together almost every evening, go out socialising and have a really good time. However, since my 18th birthday I've found myself more and ore attracted to one of her friends. To be honest I've fancied her since before I even first met my girlfriend and recently we've been spending more time together, hanging out, going to pubs etc. and now we work together. I feel horrible for liking her the way I do. I have a massive thing against cheating in relationships and yet whenever I'm with her I never even think about my girlfriend. My girlfriend have had troubles in the past, she cheated on me and there's always been a worry she could do it again. I know she wouldn't and trust her, but I have an over active imagination. Anyway i'm really starting to like this other girl. She's cute (really hot), she's funny and we get on. She split up from her bf recently and she's talking about getting back with him which kinda pisses me off. Basically I don't know what to do. I love my gf but find that we're starting to grow a litte bit apart and i feel awful for liking another girl. anyone help Thanks.
Well, the situation you're in is acutally quite common. It happens to just about everyone. And while this may be the first time you've found yourself in this dilemma, it's probably not going to be the last.
As you said, you love your girlfriend. But the fact is, even when you really love someone, it's possible to be attracted to someone else. It doesn't mean you love your girlfriend any less; it's just a normal thing that sometimes happens. It can even happen when you're happily married! Being in a relationship doesn't stop you from noticing other girls and enjoying their attention. Especially if you really hit it off. It always makes you feel good to know that a pretty girl is attracted to you!
When you find yourself in that situation -- when you're in a relationship but have a chance to be with someone else -- you basically have three choices:
1) If you really think you'll be happier with this other girl, you can break up with your girlfriend and give the new girl a try. You may be happier... and you may not. It's always a risk. Only you can decide whether it's a chance worth taking, based on your feelings for your current girlfriend. But keep in mind that the part of you that wants to be with this other girl is going to be looking for reasons to dump your girlfriend. Problems that you'd normally overlook or try to work out will be magnified and seem worse than they are. So when you're weighing the pros and cons, be sure to ask yourself, "If this other girl wasn't in the picture, would this problem really bother me that much?"
2) You can stay with your girlfriend and secretly see her friend while you make up your mind who you like better. Obviously, that would be cheating, and that's never a good choice!
3) If you're really happy with the girl you're with, and don't want to risk losing her, then you need to learn how to handle this kind of situation. You'll need to tell yourself, "It feels good to know that I could be with this other girl, but I'm not going to act on it." You may have to force yourself to stop thinking about her, and make an effort to avoid her for a while. You may even want to tell her how you feel: that you find her attractive, and you enjoy being with her, but that you're happy with your girlfriend and don't want to risk losing her.
Number 3 can be pretty hard to do, but it's an important thing to learn. Some people never learn it; they go through life jumping from one relationship to another, always looking for excitement and greener pastures, but never being truly happy.
Of course, you're still young, and it's prefectly normal to want to date different people. That's how you learn what type of person you want to be with in the long run. But on the other hand, if you've found someone you really love, there's not much need to keep shopping around. There will always be lots of cute, nice girls you'll have a chance of being with, but finding one who really loves you and will stick with you though thick and thin isn't so easy.
It would be better to end your relationship because you're just not happy anymore, rather than just because you have a chance with another girl. So just give some serious thought to how you really feel about your relationship with your girlfriend.
well, i have this ex boyfriend that i had for three years, so obviously we still talk, we broke up about a month ago. and i am going to try to start dating again, it's going to be hard, but i want to do it.
well there's this boy that i have feelings for, he wants to start dating soon . but the thing is : if me and this boy do start dating , do i tell my ex boyfriend? i mean wouldn't it be best if he found out from me so that he didn't get upset , or should i let him find out himself?
13/f
I think you're right... you should definitely tell your ex. Just say, "Hey, I just wanted to let you know I'm dating ____ now." If he asks why you're telling him, just tell him you thought it'd be better if you tell him, rather than him hearing it from someone else. Even if he acts like he doesn't care, inside he'll appreciate it.
My family is letting me open a snow cone shop. I have been looking online and I found a website called hawaiianshavedice.com. It is really good, but that is like the only one I have found that I like. Do you know any other websites that sell snow cone flavors? I live in a rural part of the state (3 hours away from any city over a population of 40,000) so I can't really be making trips to get these things. That's why I need them mailed to me. I found a great ice shaver machine. Now what I really need is to figure out what I'm getting myself into. Any ideas of what I am doing? Lol. I'm looking a lot up, but I really need people's opinions on ideas for my first day. I need ideas for attracting people to the snow cone shop. Also I really need to what kind of theme should I make it. Like should it be a beach theme, a rainbow theme, or two solid colors. I have no idea what theme it should be. Please help!
Yaaay! I love snowcones!! There's a snowcone stand in my town and I'm there like every day! I don't know much about running a snowcone business, but here's an suggestion from a customer's standpoint: Our shop offers Small, Medium and Large. But I've always wished they'd offer a "Kiddie" size, because even the small is way too much for little kids. And sometimes even the grownups would like just a little taste. =]
Have fun and good luck!
Me and a friend that I had been best friends with since third grade were in a huge fight for a year, & just yesterday we apologized to each other. We're friends again, but something doesn't feel right. I still feel guilty/nervous about something, but I can't figure out what it is. It's like I want to be her friend, but I'm scared to? I don't know. How can I stop feeling like this?
I think it's really natural that you feel that way. You were in a fight for a year... that's a long time! And even though you're both wanting to be friends again, things probably feel a little different. And they are! For one thing, you've both probably changed some during the last year. You've been hanging out with different people and experiencing different things without each other. In a way, it's kinda like you're both different people now. For a while, it will almost be like you're getting to know each other from scratch again.
But that's okay. If you're both willing to put the fight behind you and move on, then there's no reason you can't be great friends, even best friends, once again. Just don't expect your friendship to be exactly the same as it was before. It will be a little different... but that's not a bad thing. It might be even better than it was before! Just give it some time. =]
Ok, so my mom said I could get another dog when I train my other dog to be COMPLETELY potty-trained. My dog is 3 years old (in human years) and I have no clue how to train her. We used to let her have her own room downstairs, and my dad built a doggy door into the wall so she could go out side to go to the bathroom, but my mom wants her to be able to go upstairs and be a regular house dog instead of a downstairs room one :]
1. How do I train her, so she'll learn to go to the bathroom outside, as quick as possible? She's a 3/F Westie, if that matters :]
And here's the other half of my question. I'm planning on getting a shih-tzu/maltese mix, but:
2. Are they pretty easy to take care of? As in expense in shots/food/etc.?
3. Can their fur coats be black? I've tried looking it up but I have yet to see a black shih-tzu/maltese puppy.
Thanks for the help guys! If you have any additional info., you can tell me that as well!
Well, in order to teach her NOT to go potty inside, she'll have to actually BE inside. So whenever you're home, keep her inside and be with her at all times. Every hour or so, say "Do you have to go potty outside?" and take her out. When she goes potty, praise her. Tell her "Good girl, go potty outside!" Then bring her back in with you. Don't let her out of your sight. If you see her start to go in the house, say "NO!" and then take her outside right away and tell her to go potty outside.
From everything I've read, scolding or punishing a dog AFTER they've gone in the house doesn't work. You have to actually catch them in the act and say NO right then, so they know what they're doing is wrong... and then take them right outside and let them finish the job there, where you can praise them for doing it in the right place.
The key is to be consistent and work at it really hard, all the time, until she catches on.
Good luck! =]
ok so my one friend is the kind of person who is always happy,totally random, is ALWAYS smiling, can make ANYONE laugh...just happy in general. well one day someone told me that they saw her walking down the hall ccrying. i was shocked cause i didnt think that i would ever see her cry. so when i saw her 2 periods later i asked if she was ok. she said she was and not to worry.well i couldnt help but worry cause she is the happiest person i know. so after that class was over...i went to wildcat.i was sitting therre trying to convince myself that everything was ok. i couldnt. i just got htis feeling that something was seriously wrong. then one of my other friends walked in and said that she was in the bathroom crying. im worried that first of all something is horribly wrong. and second of all that our friendship isnt as good as i thought it was. i am really worried about her. i dont want to ask her about it cause she obviously doesnt want me to know.
WHAT CAN I DO FOR HER/OUR FRIENDSHIP?
You're really sweet for being concerned about your friend. But try not to let it bother you so much. Just because she hasn't told you what was wrong, doesn't mean she doesn't feel close to you or doesn't trust you. Some people just don't like to talk about their problems.
And honestly, it's not always necessary to talk about our problems. It might sound strange to say that, because we're always told, "Don't keep things inside; talk about it!" That can be true sometimes, but not every time. Sometimes making a big deal about something can actually make it worse. Sometimes you can just have a good cry, work things over in your mind, and move on, without worrying your friends or blowing things out of proportion.
Sure, your friend could have a serious, ongoing problem; and if she does, I'm sure she'll let you know if she feels the need to talk about it. But it could've been something minor that she's already handled and forgotten about. Which reminds me of something that happened to me, which I'll tell you about because it's so silly!
I NEVER cried at school, except this once. At lunch one day, my friend Katie told me she was sorry that she couldn't invite me to her birthday party, 'cause she could only invite 5 people. She and I weren't really close, so it didn't hurt my feelings.. I actually thought how sweet it was for her to explain that. Well, then I overheard someone at another table say something mean about my boyfriend... and for some reason it really got to me and I kinda teared up. And then I noticed that Katie was looking at me, and I thought "Oh no! She thinks I'm crying because of her b-day party! And she probably feels really bad 'cause she thinks she hurt my feelings!" And THAT made me REALLY sad, that I was making her feel bad, so I started bawling like an idiot! And everyone was like "Omg what's wrong?" but I felt so stupid I couldn't tell anyone! And I never did. Pshh... it was so silly!
But anyway... you just never know why someome might be crying. But if it's really important, I'm sure your friend will let you know.
What rhymes with jewels?
Pools
Rules
Tools
Schools
Fuels
Duels
Mules
Stools
Spools
Gruels
Ghouls
Cruels
Haha - thats all I can think of!
My best friend and I are working on the whole friends with benefits thing. Except he's never kissed someone before. I've only made out once so I don't really know much? And he's really nervous and intimidated I guess you could say. So basically, what I wanna know is what would be the least intimidating way to go in for the kiss and how could I make him less nervous?
Well, I know this isn't what you asked, but I just thought I should warn you to be really, really careful about the whole friends with benefits thing.
It sounds really simple... you mess around and have fun, without being tied down or having any emotional attachment. But unfortunately, it's not always that simple. Most of the time, one of the "friends" ends up becoming more attached and wanting something more serious. If both people end up feeling that way, great... you end up being a happy couple. But usually, it's just one person who feels that way... and that person ends up getting hurt and feeling used. And there goes the friendship. :(
Besides that, hooking up with someone who's not your boyfriend can get you a bad reputation. But that's another issue.
Before you get too deep into this, you might want to have a serious talk with your friend and make sure you both have the same goals in mind. If one of you is thinking "this is just for fun" but the other is thinking "this could lead to a bofriend/girlfriend relationship", then it might be better to let your friend get his experience with an actual girlfriend. Sorry, I just felt like I ought to say that. =]
ok i do not smoke but I was wondering what you guys thought about the smoking bans. Not in bars or restaurants but the ones that affect the outside of buildings such as colleges and universities.
Well, first let me say that while I think smoking is gross and bad for you (duh), I respect people's right to do it if they want to.
However, every smoker knows that the smell of smoke, and the health risks of second-hand smoke, is something that bothers a lot of people. And, knowing that, smokers should have the courtesy to refrain from smoking in public places. Unfortunately, not all smokers show that courtesy. Their attitude is, "I have a right to smoke, and I don't care if it hurts or bothers anyone else." Since they won't restrain themselves out of common courtesy, it's become necessary to impose bans to force them to do it.
My town doesn't have a ban, but I wish it did. Whenever I go into Target and some other stores, I have to walk through a cloud of smoke made by employees taking their cigarette breaks right in front of the entrance. It's nasty. Not to mention, it's a pretty poor image for the business. In cities where there's no ban, I think the businesses should prohibit employees from smoking in front of the stores. They should provide their employees with a smoking area in the back of the building, or someplace away from the customers and non-smoking employees. Customers who smoke and can't wait till they get home or to their car could use those smoking areas, too. That would make everyone happy.
16/f..i broke up with my boyfriend a week ago..and i got over him, he's a jerk and all he wanted was sex..
now he's trying to make me jealous by listing all the possible girls and "omg so many girls asked me out/hooked up with me"
If you really want him to feel that you don't care, then go ahead and act happy for him. Not like overly happy (which would seem weird), but just give him the same reaction as if he told you he got an A on a test, or got a new cell phone. When he mentions his latest hookup or all the girls who are after him, just say, "Oh, cool" or "Wow, that's neat." And then change the subject. That will show him that it doesn't affect you in the least. =]