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Just something I tought of...
I was just thinknig today, and this came across my train of thought...
How well do you think that you could get to know somebody without ever actually meeting them face to face?
Do you think you could get to know somebody well enough to form a real friendship?
A relationship?
Or nothing at all.
I just want some other opinions :)
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there's no harm in being friends with them.
just try not to pull them too close or spill your guts out to them
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I don't think you can really *know* a person you have never met face to face.
You can certianly be friends, but a truly deep friendship? A relationship? No way.
Here is why:
The internet, and to some extent phones as well, are tools we use to tailor and control our communication. We use them as shields and filters for our feelings and comments. Real interaction between two people always includes physical interaction.
They say that 55% to 70% of 'communication' is read through body language, and 38% to 45% in tone of voice and inflection. That leaves a measly 7% to 10% of communication being the words we choose.
How can we ever really know a person if we only recieve 7% to 10% of the messages they are sending!
I'm not saying you can't still be friends, you certainly could choose to be, but a rational person has to realize that the friendship is fuctioning on a very different level then a friendship with a person who is standing beside you fuctions.
At thier jobs, people discover this all the time! As many e-mails as we may send back and forth, sooner or later you just have to get up and go talk to the person, or else everyone gets confused and wrapped up in the words.
Friends you have never really met certainly have a place in your life, just make sure it's a realistic place.
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Yeah, I definitely think you can become friends with someone without ever meeting them. I have a ton of people I've met online who I consider friends, and I feel like I know some of them pretty well. In fact, I've actually gone on to meet some of them in person.
Of course, when you're talking to someone you haven't met in person, there's always a chance that they aren't being completely honest about themselves. And I'm not just talking about weirdo stalker guys posing as teenagers. What I mean is, some people might fib about themselves a bit - about their looks, their accomplishments, their personal situtations - because they think it will make them sound better. (Of course, even people you meet in person can do that!) So I guess you can never be 100% certain that you truly *know* someone you haven't met in person. But if you enjoy your conversations, and talking to them adds something good to your life, then I think you can definitely consider them a friend.
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i definetly think so. you know how they say looks arent everything, well it comes to play here because you just get to know their personality.
i used to have a pen pal in france. and my mom has a bunch of friends she calls up that shes never seen.
i think its quite possible
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I actually have a couple fairly good friends that I have never met. I went on an exchange with a friend of mine to Argentina. In the end, we were placed in two completely different cities. She gave me the MSN of her host brother and sister. I talk to them on a regular basis and genuinely like the people.
That being said, I don't think it's possible to have really great friends that you have never met. The fact is that conversation can make people friends, but it's the experiences that they have shared that make them true friends.
The short answer, you can make friends without ever seeing them, just not really good ones.
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