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Friends with Benefits
My best friend and I are working on the whole friends with benefits thing. Except he's never kissed someone before. I've only made out once so I don't really know much? And he's really nervous and intimidated I guess you could say. So basically, what I wanna know is what would be the least intimidating way to go in for the kiss and how could I make him less nervous?
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yeah, um, friends with benefits thing is really risky. you usually get a bad reputation and someone usually gets hurt in the long run..
but anyway, if you want to kiss him lean in when the moment is right, he'll hopefully get the point.
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Well, I know this isn't what you asked, but I just thought I should warn you to be really, really careful about the whole friends with benefits thing.
It sounds really simple... you mess around and have fun, without being tied down or having any emotional attachment. But unfortunately, it's not always that simple. Most of the time, one of the "friends" ends up becoming more attached and wanting something more serious. If both people end up feeling that way, great... you end up being a happy couple. But usually, it's just one person who feels that way... and that person ends up getting hurt and feeling used. And there goes the friendship. :(
Besides that, hooking up with someone who's not your boyfriend can get you a bad reputation. But that's another issue.
Before you get too deep into this, you might want to have a serious talk with your friend and make sure you both have the same goals in mind. If one of you is thinking "this is just for fun" but the other is thinking "this could lead to a bofriend/girlfriend relationship", then it might be better to let your friend get his experience with an actual girlfriend. Sorry, I just felt like I ought to say that. =]
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Casual conversation, start it! Just make things as normal as possible, talk about life and joke around about inside jokes and such. In the midst of laughing or when its dying down, look him in the eyes and lean in to kiss him. It just takes guts. You can make the first move, I do it all the time and guys have told me they love it.
From there on out he should be comfortable with making the moves.
Good luck <3
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