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My period is really weird. My first one was in October of last year. And my mom said it should come every 28 days or so but mine comes like every 33 or 34 days. And I was supposed to get it like the 5th or 6th of this month and it still isnt here and it doesnt feel like its coming. Everyone says that it takes a year to become normal but if I tell my mom she will freak out about it. Oh and theres no way I could be pregnant or anything. Am I normal?

You are perfectly fine, it actually can take up to three years for your period to regulate, so you're normal. You have nothing to worry about.


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I feel stupid saying this, but i get so nervous when im about to kiss a boy, ive only kissed 2 guys in my life, this 8th grade year.

Early in the winter, i made out with my boyfriend for about, 5 mins, we made out about 6 times that night, but that was my first kiss!

and a few months after we broke up, i kissed a guy for the heck of it, we were all over eachother, like sitting on eachothers lap, hugging, holding hands, then my friends dared me to kiss him, infront of everyone, and i did..


for some reason, i get so nervous! and i cant kiss infront of people, i hate the feeling that everyone is watching me.. i mean im outgoing and everything, self conscious, but i cant kiss for my life!

You may be nervous at first when your kissing people, or your boyfriend, but after a while you'll be more comfortable around them and kissing won't be a problem.

And some people don't like public displays of affection, [PDA] so it's okay if you don't like kissing in front of other people. If you're not comforable with it then don't do it. You'll be fine.


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Okay!!!
i'm sick of it!!
i mean... no offense BUT what's up with all these 14 and 15 year old girls thinking they are so old enough to have sex, like it's a casual thing.
I'm going to be 15 next week, and sex NEVER came in my mind to me, and I would never have it before i turned at least 20
yea... i know call me a holy person or crap... but seriously!! why are people doing it SO young...
They are still kids
I was reading all these questions about sex... and they are from like 14 and 15 year olds
THAT'S RIDICULOUS
i'm not trying to lecture or anything now here's my serious question....

I am getting to know guys now, and gonna be dating them....... now i'm kind of afraid that they'll all want sex and pressure me into it..
I'm not like that... i'm saving it
And the one thing i'm worried about is that if i don't give it... he'll take it from me

I mean, i don't care if i have to break up or lose them just bc they want sex... i just don't want to be taken advantaged of... y'know?

Help?

Thx for reading.... sorry it's sooo long

You're right, some girls don't understand that sex is actually a big deal, they don't stop to think about what they're really doing or how they'll feel about it in a year. Sex isn't and shouldn't be a casual thing, and I doubt any 14 or 15 year old is emotionally ready even if they might be physically so. Most of these girls will find someone they love someday and regret just giving away their virginity to a guy they thought they loved.

In high school you need to focus on school, not chance getting pregnant. School is hard enough and sex will just make it harder. You're right to wait, and if a guy pushes you to have sex when you've told him you aren't ready, then you don't need him. If you want a boyfriend then find someone who'll respect you and your choices.

As long as you don't hang out with the wrong crowd and don't stay in a relationship with a guy who pressures you into having sex, then you won't get taken advantage of. And wait until you're older and in love to have sex, these girls think they're in love after going out for a week. Then two weeks later they break up with their boyfriend.

You can't just take back your virginity.

I'm proud of you.

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well my brother has this friend and his name is josh. i really like him like that and i think he likes me back because my mom can tell when he comes over he always looks at me,taks to me,sits with me,and we have lots of fun together but my brother wont let us date and he wont ask me out because he is afraid of what my brother will do but my mom says go for it.and i really want to but ther is this other guy that i like named eric and he moved away but we will go to high school togeather in like two years should i wait for eric or go for josh now?


im 15 and female help me,

chira

Two years is a long time to wait for someone, your feelings for Eric can change in two years and most likely will.

I would go for Josh, make the first move and let him know you're interested. Honestly, what could your brother do about it? If you really like him then go for it, your brother will get over it eventually.

Maybe you could sit down and talk to him about it, and tell him how you feel about his friend... and even if he doesn't like you two dating, you don't need his permission. He just might feel better if you actually talk to him about it and don't just start dating his friend.

Josh might be reluctant about dating you because of your brother, but if he really like you then he won't listen to him. Let him know that he won't have to chose between you two, and don't let it come down to that.

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on this site, whats that thing called "C2" mean and whats the whole deal about it? i dont get it..

A C2 is a archive where you put however many stories you want under a name.

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Do you think i have a singing talent?

http://s161.photobucket.com/albums/t202/SRH6306/?action=view¤t=945c57e3.flv

Honestly...considering sound quality, you're okay. It sounds like you're singing through your nose at times, and at the end you were flat. Practice makes perfect though, singing lessons would also help.

EDIT: You know people on this sight are going to give you constructive criticism, and tell you the truth. If you want to hear how great and how talented you are when you're obviously not, then go someplace else.


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heyyy.... i am going on holidayy sooon and i am pretty sure that i am going to be on my period then and we where planning on just chilling out in the swimming poool and that is where the problem occurs i havent tried wearing a tampon before and dont realii won't to, is there anyway i cann
goinng in the swimmin gpool without where an tampon.please reply asap as im going on holiday soon ad reliying on you thank you

You really don't have to wear a tampon or anything else while your in the water. Your period will pretty much stop because of the water pressure on your body. Then, when you get out of the water, usually it starts back up almost a few minutes or so after. So when you get out make sure to put on a pad as soon as you can and you'll be fine.

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After being told you're a bad kisser, do you ever get over it and get the courage to kiss again?

That's only one persons opinion, believe me, you'll get over it.

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Can someone just reassure me that getting over true love is possible because right now I'm not so sure..

Is it possible? Have you done it?

I don't mean to be a cynic, but in my opinion, if you truly love someone, then you'll always love them...no matter what.

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My best friend is my ex's sister. He broke up with me and I went out with his best friend. I liked his best friend before I liked him. His best friend interduced me to him. We talked and I went out with him. Then when he broke up with me like 10 months later. and like I said I went out with his best friend. My ex's sister and I were the best of friends. Then she thought I used her brother to get to his best friend. and I didn't. She called me a skank and all kinds of shit. We got in a fight for a while. Then we made up. She wants to start hanging out agian. Should I start hanging out with her again?

Yah, if you want to. You shouldn't let your past relationships interfere with your friendships.

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alright so theres these two guys lets just say guy A and guy B, well guy A is my boyfriend right now and i love him, the only problem is he flirts a lot and it drives me crazy he commented my own cousin saying she has an amazing body i dont know if its just me? but i dont think he should be doing that stuff and, guy B is guy A's "old" friend now there not friends because guy B came to my house yesterday but just to hang out and tell me some stuff about my boyfriend and how he always flirts with girls when im not with him and guy B even thought we were broken up because thats how


much he flirts and guy B also stated yesterday that he likes me a lot and, i hate keeping secrets from my boyfriend so i told him that guy B came to my house and he flipped out like really bad and was saying all this stuff how i mine as weel just go off and be with guy B and everything and that he doesnt see anything wrong with what he said to my cousin and he just went way out of control i mean its not like me and guy B did anything there was even another girl here as a witness, and so now my boyfriend wants to like kick the shit out of guy B for comming to my house and trying to get me to brake up with him...

so my question is what should i do? i mean i like guy a alot, i love him but his flirting is like to bad and guy B works a lot as a producer so im not sure what i should do? i keep thinking if i brake up with guy A for guy B i will regrett braking up with him but im not sure. and guy B is really sweet and good looking and has a lot of money ;) but that part doesnt mater to me. im just lost on what i should do and if i stay with guy A he told me that he never wants me to talk to guy B ever again.. and i told him that he couldnt talk to my cousin then but he was like well.. we never did anything and were just really good friends so its diffrent, but its really not because thats how me and guy B are..



so what should i do??
im so confused and i need help


thanks in advance.

Next time just make up names. That single letter crap drives me crazy.

Anyway... It's not just you, if my boyfriend flirted with a lot of different girls like that it would upset me, and you have a right to be upset. So talk to your boyfriend, don't just bring it up in a conversation. Sit him down and talk to him about it. Tell him how his flirting with girls makes you feel, if he really cares about then he'll make an effort to stop. If he doesn't stop then maybe it is time to go out with someone else. It sounds like what he does causes problems in your relationship.

It sounds like this other guy is really sweet, and if your boyfriend doesn't stop then you should really give him a chance. You might miss your boyfriend a little, but that's normal. Your boyfriend sounds really controlling and it doesn't sound like he respects you or trusts you at all. That is not a healthy relationship. I honestly think if you were to stay with him you would regret it. I think you should break up with your boyfriend and give this other guy a chance. He seems like a really good guy, and I think you would be a lot happier with him.


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He walked into the band room yesterday for our freshman band thing and i thought Holy Shi* he go hot over the summer. He used to be pudgey and short now hes like tall and toned. OMG he is really hot and i actually get butterflies around him. I know i like him and he likes me as a friend.
Is there a way that dosen't involve asking him straight out if he likes me? and if he does and we go out then we break up will it change our friend ship?

It's not hard to see if a guy likes you, it's actually pretty obvious. Flirt with him, see how he reacts. And if you do out with him and then break up, chances are it will affect your friendship. I've tried staying friends with guys I've dated and it's just not the same as it was before. So if you had to choose between staying friends with him and going out with him what would you choose?

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**I'm gonna to try to keep
this as short as possible**

I have been dating this guy for 11 months and he has done a lot of bad things to me in the relationship but I have learned to forgive him. Right now as it stands our relationship is okay. I recently been having dreams of having sex with his cousin. I think his cousin is really hot and I want to have sex with him. If i did there would be no relationship @ all because his cousin is 1/2 black and my dad doesn't allow me to date black people [when im 18 ill do whatever the hell i want.] Don't call me a whore I don't care what you think I just need some help on deciding what to do. It's like one of those things you really want to do and you feel the need to do but there is certain things holding you back.


What do you think I should do?


P.S. my boyfriend knows i've had sex dreams about him.

Well if you do plan on doing something with this guy, then you should break up with your boyfriend first. Otherwise you would be cheating on him. If he's not worth breaking up with your boyfriend over, then you shouldn't sleep with him at all.

This has nothing to do with your situation at all, but I think you should break up with your boyfriend anyway, it doesn't sound like he respects you at all. You shouldn't just have to just forgive him everytime he does something bad to you.

And if you want to date this other guy, and have an actual relationship with him then you should, even if your dad says you're not aloud to date black people...because that's racist. And you should tell him that too. Just because he's half black doesn't mean he's not a good guy. But seriously, if you really want to hook up with him, then break up with your boyfriend.

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im a female and 18 years of age

i lived with my mom from the time i was born until i was 13. then i went to live with my adopted dad because was a physically and emotionally abusive person. well, when i was 17 (i am 18 right now) i went to visit her and her husband, which is my step dad, because i thought maybe she had changed. what happened was she abused me again, and cut me with a knife. also, she let my step dad try to rape me while she helped. even though all this happened, i still have feelings for her and i feel bad getting her in trouble. is that wrong? should i go through with the court and press charges?? some good, honest advice would be really helpful.

She's your mom, sweetheart, of course you still love her. Even after everything she's done it's okay to love her, but you need to press charges. What she did was wrong and she needs to know that her actions have consequences. You didn't deserve what she did to you, and your mother needs help. So yes, it may be hard, but you need to go through with this. You may feel like you're betraying her, but it's for the best.

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I've just started seeing this guy and on the first day of officially being together we had sex, im 17 and hes 18 and im scared that our relationship will be nothing but sex now and that theres nothing to look forward too. It wasnt awkward after but now i feel hes having second thoughts about us, but i may just be paranoid? i really dont know what to do or say, if anything. Hopefully i am seeing him tomorro and spending tomorro night with him so i might suggest for us to take things slow? or shall i not say anything at all and not make things easily happen?
Im sure he wants to be with me as hes not the type to sleep around but i dont know why things happened to quickly

You should suggest that you take things slow. Go a week without sleeping together. If your relationship is boring without sex, then it was just physical. If it's not then you'll be fine. You should have talked first and waited until you guys had been together a while longer or were more serious and not just jumped straight to sex, but talk to him and see how he feels about all of this. Take it from there.

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my boyfriend asked me to marry him but i thought i was under age so i said i cant then he asked to get engaged to me and i dont know what to say
im 15 and hes 16 is it ok or not?

You can get married at 16, but you need parent consent. If not you would have to wait until you were 18. I would turn him down, sweetheart. You're much to young to get married or even engaged. If you guys really want to be together, then you should wait a few years at least until you're both over 18. Marrige is a big commitment, and you shouldn't take it lightly. There are tons of things to consider before you get married. You don't want to get married and divorce three years later.

http://www.cignabehavioral.com/web/basicsite/bulletinBoard/beforeYouGetMarried.jsp

I suppose if you truly wanted to be engaged for three years then it's up to you. But I advise you don't. Just because you're not married or engaged doesn't mean you can't be together. Maybe you could just get promise rings or something. It's just like saying 'I want to marry you' without the commitment and pressure... I suppose pressure isn't the right word, but it's the only one I can think of right now. You're still young and you have years to get married. When you do make sure you're 100% sure about it, ready for the commitment and in love.

http://honeymoons.about.com/od/onlineshopping/f/promise_rings.htm

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My boyfriend keeps having dreams of me cheating on him and I haven't and I told him I never will and I won't
but I heard dreams can be the opposite of what they are
I just want to know why hes having these cause its confusing
He gets them like a whole lot
one time he had it 5 times in a row.

According to Gustavus Hindman Miller, dream expert extraordinaire to dream of your significant other being unfaithful signifies a happy marrige (and probably relationship in your case). So yah it actually means the opposite.

The dreams are probably just freaking your boyfriend out. Even though the dream means exactly the opposite, I would probably be a bit paranoid too. I don't know why he's dreaming about this all of a sudden, but maybe once he stops worrying about it the dreams will stop too.

Good luck with your relationship and marriage! (Just kidding)

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I have a bad probelem. Ok. so I have been datting this boy for almost 9 months. And three days ago I have started talking to this new guy. he used to be really mean in school but now he is all sweet. and he told me that my hair is beautiful and he give's out a lot of complements. and he is so sweet and told me changed. and we talked on the phone last night tell 4:00 in the morning. and talked about people in our school who we would make out with. and I aksed him this girl and me and he said me. so.. I like this guy a lot but yet I love my boyfriend.I just kinda want a change beucase I have been with this kid for 9 months! and I dont know what to do. Im scared if me and the new guy go out and then he will dump me and I will miss my old boyfriend. I just really dont know what to do. Please help me !

Thankks a lot
xoxoxox
Fe-male 13

If you really loved your boyfriend then you wouldn't be tired of him and "looking for a change". If you really want to be with this other guy and give a relationship a shot then go ahead, but think things over first. Think about your relationship with your boyfriend and your true feelings for him.

If you really think you'll miss him then maybe you shouldn't break up with him. Is what you have for this other guy only a crush? (Is he worth jeopardizing your relationship with your boyfriend?) If that's the case then I wouldn't suggest breaking up with your boyfriend. Think about who you want to be with more, and follow your heart.

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well theres this girl that likes me, but i dont like her. she the cousin of my freind. he doesnt come to the same school as me but the girl does. my freind was thinking that u go out with this girl, but then, SORT of break her heart. like whenever we go out on a date, i bring along my 2 idiot freinds, and stupid things like that. then i break up with her, or make her break up with me. what do you lot think? evil, or just a plain laugh?

It might be funny for you but that is seriously mean and would be very hurtful and humiliating to her if she really likes you and found out what you are doing. What if someone you really liked did that to you? Don't be a jackass. If you don't like her, then don't lead her on and just leave her the hell alone. So...evil. Wouldn't be funny at all.

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how long would it take for a cheap $5 bottle of wine become really good and aged? or atleast rise in value. thanks

Depends on how much you want for it. $80-$100, probably 25 years or longer.

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