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Who do I like?
I have a bad probelem. Ok. so I have been datting this boy for almost 9 months. And three days ago I have started talking to this new guy. he used to be really mean in school but now he is all sweet. and he told me that my hair is beautiful and he give's out a lot of complements. and he is so sweet and told me changed. and we talked on the phone last night tell 4:00 in the morning. and talked about people in our school who we would make out with. and I aksed him this girl and me and he said me. so.. I like this guy a lot but yet I love my boyfriend.I just kinda want a change beucase I have been with this kid for 9 months! and I dont know what to do. Im scared if me and the new guy go out and then he will dump me and I will miss my old boyfriend. I just really dont know what to do. Please help me !
Thankks a lot
xoxoxox
Fe-male 13
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Stay with your boy! You love him! Thers obviously a reason why your with him in the first place! And this guy who your starting to like,use to be mean DONT DO IT GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Your situation is pretty common! It happens to just about everyone, and it will probably happen to you again many times throughout your life.
As you said, you love your boyfriend. But the fact is, even when you really love someone, it's possible to be attracted to someone else... especially if they're attracted to you. It doesn't mean you love your boyfriend any less; it's just a normal thing that sometimes happens. It can even happen when you're happily married! Being in a relationship doesn't stop you from noticing other guys or enjoying their attention. And it always makes you feel good to know that you're attractive to someone!
When you find yourself in that situation -- when you're in a relationship but have a chance to be with someone else -- you basically have three choices:
1) If you think you'll be happier with the other person, you can break up with the guy you're with and give the new guy a try. You may be happier, and you may not. It's always a risk. Only you can decide whether it's a chance worth taking, based on your feelings for your current boyfriend.
2) You can stay with your boyfriend and secretly see the other guy while you make up your mind who you like better. Obviously, that would be cheating, and that's never a good choice!
3) If you're really happy with the guy you're with, and don't want to risk losing him, then you need to learn how to handle this kind of situation. You'll need to tell yourself, "It feels good to know that I could be with this other guy, but I'm not going to act on it." You may have to force yourself to stop thinking about him, and make an effort to avoid him for a while. You may even want to tell him how you feel: that you find him attractive, and you're flattered by his attention, but that you're happy with your boyfriend and don't want to risk losing him.
Number 3 can be pretty hard to do, but it's an important thing to learn. Some people never learn it; they go through life jumping from one relationship to another, always looking for excitement, but never being truly happy.
Of course, you're a teenager right now, and this is a time when it's normal to date different guys. That's how you learn what type of person you want to be with in the long run. But that doesn't mean you should give up your boyfriend if you really do love him. There will be lots of cute, nice guys who will want to make out with you, but finding one who really loves you and will stick with you isn't so easy. It would be better to end your relationship because you're just not happy anymore, rather than just because you have a chance with another guy.
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well, this may not be what you want to hear,
but TRUST ME. if you are even considering
dumping your "9 month guy", you should.
i was in a similair situtation,
and i didnt break up wit hmy boyfriend (for other reasons), and it just seemed to drag on and onnnn.
and your only 13.
so look at the bright side.
if you do take a chance
by following your heart,
and it DOESNT work out with the other guy,
you still have your whole life to live.
just do what you think is right.
what have you got to loose?
you havent even lived a 3rd
of your life yet. just try to have fun
dont stay in a relationship if it is forced
and uncomfortable. (:
i hope i helpeddd.
<3 xoxo
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If you really loved your boyfriend then you wouldn't be tired of him and "looking for a change". If you really want to be with this other guy and give a relationship a shot then go ahead, but think things over first. Think about your relationship with your boyfriend and your true feelings for him.
If you really think you'll miss him then maybe you shouldn't break up with him. Is what you have for this other guy only a crush? (Is he worth jeopardizing your relationship with your boyfriend?) If that's the case then I wouldn't suggest breaking up with your boyfriend. Think about who you want to be with more, and follow your heart.
::Jasmine::
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